anyone over 35 going for fertility treatments this year? IUI, IVF etc

[ChocolateC]

It's my first time on this thread and Sarah's news just made my day. I'm hoping the same thing will happen to me eventually, though I have 2 frozen embryos waiting to go if this baby doesn't stick or if I can't get pg naturally. I've heard of this before: women try and try and try to get one BFP by any means necessary, then after their baby is born, they suddenly conceive naturally. What a miracle!

 

[sarahincanada]

thanks everyone! being hopeful but cautious as its such a shock, my betas were good....920 and 2170 so am probably about 5-6 weeks now. Have an ultrasound April 25 so see if theres a heartbeat, yikes!

 

[Hopefulmom12]

omg everyone I just did a pregnancy test and i got 2 lines
I am in complete shock. I did ovulation sticks this month as i wanted to know roughly when my cycle will start for my FET and we BD'd about around then but honestly after 2 years of infertility, 3 failed IUIs and 1 failed IVF never in a million years did I think it would happen naturally. Im in complete shock. Im worried like what if its not a good embryo or its implanted near my c section incision etc. I got 2 very strong lines on the frer. My period was supposed to be coming around friday and so for fun I peed on the internet cheapy as I didnt feel pre period like and you should have seen my face when I saw a faint 2nd line!! what an amazing feeling. yikes please let it be sticky I guess you can be quite fertile after a baby but also I do wonder if the no stress thing plays a big part? ive been doing acupuncture 2 times a week as was preparing for my FET. oh wow what do I do now, better call see if I need progesterone etc.

Congratulations! I am so super thrilled for you.

I have heard that you can be very fertile after having a baby. That is wonderful news. I am thinking sticky thoughts for you.

 

[Hopefulmom12]

Sarah - I just saw that I missed a comment from you probably from a few weeks ago.

You and I are quite similar. I ended up having a c-section as I had placenta previa. I have to say that in the end everything was so smooth and planned and I wasn't all tired as I didn't go into labour. Not the natural birth my doctor had hoped for but it was best for my baby and I was ok with that. His first skin to skin contact was with his father and he never left either of us while we were in hospital.

My specialist said to wait 8 months if I was ok with having a second c-section. I am over 40 so I don't want to wait any longer than necessary. I am just going to accept the chaos that comes with two under two. If I am fortuante enough to have two.

As a matter of fact I had my FET done on Sunday. They defrosted three and grew them to blasts. I had two put in a BB and a BC. Now I am in the waiting period. The first time they put in 3, two took but only one had a heartbeat.

Fingers crossed for you. I do my test the day before your ultrasound. So exciting!

 

[crystal443]

Sarah, those a great betas please let us know how you get on with the u/s. Everything crossed for you

 

[LLbean]

Oh Sarah that does sound great! So happy for you!

 

[DaisyQ]

Great betas Sarah!! Fx for you. Sticky vibes....

 

[sarahincanada]

thanks LL, any news with you?

daisy not long for you, are you prepared?

hopeful omg good luck thats so exciting!! so you wont test with frers? I got my bfp 4 days after transfer I think it was.

 

[Hopefulmom12]

Sarah - it didn't even dawn on me. But now you have me all wondering. Alas I have no tests in the house, just ovulation tests which are no longer needed. Guess I am off to the store.

 

[LLbean]

nope, no good news here...didn't work...so NTNP now and who knows

 

[calm]

New to this thread! I am 36, and should be doing IVF in the next months. Our problem is not so much age, as that I have blocked tubes and my husband has severe male factor. Baby dust for everyone! XXXX

 

[blessedlife]

Hi all, I'd like to join too. I'm struggling to keep going and just don't get how so many negatives will become a positive.

My first IVF was a year ago. I hyperstimmed and so all nine embryos were frozen on day 3. my first FET a few months later, I got a BFP but my betas failed to rise enough and I mc'd in week 5. Two months later, FET #2: we got a call on the day of transfer telling us not to come in, the remaining embryos didn't survive the thawing.

Doc blamed my age (38 then, 39 now) and the hyperestrinism for the poor egg quality that didn't tolerate the freezing. New plan, bcp before IVF to shut down my ovaries beforehand & low doses of follistim for longer time to get more eggs and keep my estrogen level lower. This was done in Jan and the cycle was cancelled due to poor response. So the bcps were scrapped and we did another cycle with the idea of a fresh day 5 transfer. We got 19 eggs, 16 fertilized, 8 made it to "perfect/beautiful" blasts. They transferred two and today I found out...BFN.

Now we have 6 frozen blasts and I just don't see how the results are going to be different for an FET. My doc has been talking about a possible endometrial biopsy to see if that's in order...Just very tired. I see ladies on here that have multiple failures before a healthy pregnancy, I guess tonight I'm just having a hard time hoping that'll be us. Sorry to be so blue on my first post, just so sad.

 

[sarahincanada]

blessedlife I know how you are feeling even though you went through a lot more than me. I had 2 years of TTC plus 3 IUIs so when I went to do IVF I was so sure it would work. I had 20 eggs and got 10 blasts, we transfered 2 blasts and froze 8, and I got a BFN. It was really hard. However I got pregnant 2 months later on my first FET. If I were you I would be much more hopeful....this last cycle you did sooooo much better than on the previous cycles so I wouldnt even compare them. 19 eggs - 8 blasts is amazing. I would hope that you will get pregnant from one of the 6 frosties, as theres a good chance to have some good ones in there.

also I do know that a lot of clinics are not doing fresh transfers anymore, as they feel our hormones are out of wack after all the drugs. I always wondered if the 2 fresh blasts I had put in were good but my body couldnt handle it. so that could be the case with you too, and a FET will work like it did with me. my doctor also said she would try a biopsy if I wasnt pregnant after a couple of FETs, but it worked first time. She had said to me at the time that she would be very surprised if I didnt get pregnant from one of the 10 blasts.

i know its hard to be hopeful and think 'I just don't see how the results are going to be different for an FET.' when my fresh cycle failed I did wonder if all the blasts were bad, but I got my BFP 2 months later so I have hope for others. ive said this same thing to quite a few people going for FET on here and most got their bfps. Please let us know when your FET is

LL Im sorry to hear that well as we know anything can happen so FXd still. do you do acupuncture at all? I just ask as I was going 2 x a week to get ready for my FET and so that might have helped my bfp. Who knows if it will go all the way but I got pregnant so I think the acu helped with the blood flow to the uterus.

 

[LLbean]

I tried that before my last IVF and nothing...not a fan lol and hubby wont pay for more

 

[blessedlife]

Sarah, thank you so much for your wonderful response. I think you are spot on with hormones being out of whack. My RE actually wanted to freeze all of them and not even try a fresh transfer b/c I hyperstimmed again and was at risk of OHSS but since my first batch didn't do well with freezing I didn't go along with it. It's too late now to change anything, hopefully one of the remaining 6 blasts will be the one. I also hope that the fact these were frozen on day 5 instead of three will give them a better chance of surviving but I have no idea.

I was actually going through IVF when you became pg, your son is beautiful, congratulations. How wonderful and exciting to get a natural bfp now!! How are you feeling?

I was wondering how long you did acupuncture before your FET?

 

[ByAnyMeans]

AF came last night, so the Menopur and Clomid didn't work this time.

Seeing the doctor tomorrow, he said he has another trick up his sleeve (my words not his) about yet another kind of medication.

Will let you ladies know what that is.

3 months until I'm 43.......

 

[sarahincanada]

Sarah, thank you so much for your wonderful response. I think you are spot on with hormones being out of whack. My RE actually wanted to freeze all of them and not even try a fresh transfer b/c I hyperstimmed again and was at risk of OHSS but since my first batch didn't do well with freezing I didn't go along with it. It's too late now to change anything, hopefully one of the remaining 6 blasts will be the one. I also hope that the fact these were frozen on day 5 instead of three will give them a better chance of surviving but I have no idea.

I was actually going through IVF when you became pg, your son is beautiful, congratulations. How wonderful and exciting to get a natural bfp now!! How are you feeling?

I was wondering how long you did acupuncture before your FET?

thank you! I think he is gorgeous and he is such a flirt with the ladies. I feel ok, not sick like I was with Cieran so Im wondering if this is a good pregnancy or not. I know each can be different, I just felt more confident when I felt sick as I felt something was happening. All I can do is wait and see if I get through first tri. It is different this time as I have Cieran, before its all I would think about.

This time I did acu for a month before my FET, 2x a week. With Cieran it was about 3 weeks.

Im sure you body was all out of wack and couldnt have made implantation challenging. Even though your previous didnt do well with the freeze I think this time its very different due to the better response and that they are blasts.....blasts are said to be much stronger as Ive read they have had to turn on their own 'dna', where day 3 embryos are still using the dna from the egg. thats why so many people lose so many before blast. when will you start? I had one month off between my fresh and FET.

ByAnyMeans sorry for your BFN and hope you can get going on a new protocol and get a bfp

 

[blessedlife]

Thanks for the acu info! I'm not sure when we'll start. We have to wait a month before we can start. However, we're taking a two week vacay in 8 weeks so we may have to wait until we come back.

Did you do a medicated or natural FET?

I also really appreciate the pep-talk on our blasts. I'd forgotten the DNA difference between day 3 embies and day 5. That definitely makes me feel more hopeful.

I adore it when little guys are flirts! Does he give a great big grin? Maybe the difference in this pregnancy is you've got a little girl in there! Have you had an US yet?

Hi ByAnyMeans, hope your doc has some really good ideas for you.

 

[ragae32]

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[vkj73]

i'm new to this thread.

i just had my first iui today, and i'm 40 on tuesday.

big week.

i didn't imagine a year ago that i would be going in for an iui.

now onto the tww...