anyone over 35 going for fertility treatments this year? IUI, IVF etc

[sarahincanada]

Sarah- I really hope things work out for you regarding money, we have our own business as well that I do from home (website designer) which gives us a pretty good amount of disposable money and then DH works in a school and makes our steady income. His salary supports us and we can then use the business money to pay for IVF, the only problem with our business is that its not always "steady" money. I know what your saying about having the money there but you may need it to put back in the business. There's freedom in owning a business but more worries too

thats so funny, Im also a graphic designer and do some web work but we also own a spa and thats what sucks our money. we arw often busy, but can have random weeks where its super slow and I have to move over money to make payroll. plus supplies can cost a lot and they always run out at the worst times!

how are you feeling?

 

[readyformore]

I had problems with cysts starting at the age of 18.

I hope it's like yours and goes away even with treatment.

I think we have just decided to do it anyway, but I'm still nervous about it. I'm not sure it's the best idea, but I am completely lacking common sense right now.

 

[Milty]

I have to admit I have been stalking this thread for about a week. I haven’t read all of it but I have seen about half and I feel like you ladies are the best ones to ask this question to. I probably should have made a new thread and will if you guys want me to.

Ok here goes.

I would like your opinions on what type of fertility test I should possible get done. I really do not like medical tests and hate having to go to the doctor for anything so this is really hard for me. Also, my hubby lost his job three months ago and is just doing contract work so $$ isn't like it used to be. So between the two I really don't want to do anything I don't have to.

OK short and not so sweet background. I'm 38 DH is 42 we have 1 son who is 8. I was on the pill for about 12 yrs with 3 one yr breaks growing up and in my twenties. Starting around 26 we were TTC our first for over 3 years. I charted for 2 with nothing unusual and O'd every month but 1. Lutal was 12 days same as now. DH did a SA back then everything was good but I don't remember the numbers. As we were unexplained and young we decided to take time off and in a few years when $ was better we would possibly get some type of treatment. About 1 year later I found I was PG and had my son. My OBGYN said at the time it would be easy for me to get PG now so we prevented for 2 years.

Current: We started NTNP again since it worked the last time about 6 yrs ago. We did this for 2 years and stopped as my son had some medical problems. We took about 2 years off and then began NTNP for another 2 years. It obviously wasn't working so we began to actively TTC 6 months ago.

I have cramping when I O so I thought I might have cyst and had an ultrasound done to check. At that time I had 3 major follicles about the same size and 1 smaller one. I don't remember the sizes because I pretty much block everything out when I'm getting something done. I know they checked my lining but I don't remember what it was. I will ask my OBGYN when I go see her. She is really great and is willing to do anything she can for me if I ask. She is not a FS but she is really good and I have gone to her for about 20 yrs. Also my insurance will pay a % of most everything she does but will pay zero for anything a FS does.

Sorry for typing so much but I'm starting to feel desperate and like my time is running out. I have always wanted a lot of kids.

 

[dachsundmom]

Milty, did your doc say your lining was fine or nothing to you at all about it?

 

[readyformore]

Hi Milty!

Sorry to hear you've had such lengthly struggles, twice now. That just doesn't seem fair.

Honestly, I don't know what to tell you that you haven't already done.

Unexplained infertility, is just that, unexplained. It sounds like everything 'should' be fine, yet no baby.

I'm currently doing IUI for secondary unexplained infertility. I also had primary, like you. I'm not sure if IUI will work, but all of my docs seem to be hopeful. Plus, it's how I conceived my first. So, it's worth a shot. It doesn't have a very high success rate, but I feel like I'm doing something productive instead of essentially wasting time by having sex and hoping it worked.

Sounds like you've got a great doc that's willing to work with you.
Will she do in office IUI? I know some ob/gyns will do it. It is stressful to do fertility treatments, but I felt I needed to at least try all of my options. Maybe you could give it a try. Or ask her and see what she says.

Best of luck to you.

 

[dachsundmom]

I had problems with cysts starting at the age of 18.

I hope it's like yours and goes away even with treatment.

I think we have just decided to do it anyway, but I'm still nervous about it. I'm not sure it's the best idea, but I am completely lacking common sense right now.

Ready, what does your gut tell you about your cyst? You know your body best and you have to use some common sense here...

 

[Milty]

Milty, did your doc say your lining was fine or nothing to you at all about it?

My doc said nothing but I remember the lady saying something about it. I was trying to pay attention because I knew it could be a problem. Oh and I didn't have any cysts.

 

[Milty]

She is willing to do an IUI but only if I get monitered. Which to be honest I don't really understand why I have to do that but I will if that is what she wants.

 

[readyformore]

I had problems with cysts starting at the age of 18.

I hope it's like yours and goes away even with treatment.

I think we have just decided to do it anyway, but I'm still nervous about it. I'm not sure it's the best idea, but I am completely lacking common sense right now.

Ready, what does your gut tell you about your cyst? You know your body best and you have to use some common sense here...

I'm getting mixed signals from myself, lol.

-I am so hyped up right now, that EVERYTHING seems blown out of porportion. So, it is possible, that it's just like the nurse said. It's not a big deal and it's safe to go ahead. I can't imagine that they would tell me to do it if it went against their protocol. They did draw my blood afterall and appear to be knowledgeable.

On the other hand. . . .

-In my experience, cysts are BAAADDDD! My clomid and IUI cycle with my son, I got a cyst, and it ruptured. I had no problems (this was after having issues with cysts on that side for oh, about, 7 years). I had 3 natural cycles after his birth. I got pregnant, had a cyst, it never went away. It got enormous, filled with mucous, engulfed and basically disabled my ovary. I had it removed b/c I wanted to have my dd and didn't want to listen to my docs tell me to have it removed while pregnant. I was surprised that it had taken over my ovary in a span of 4 years.

I feel that I will not get pregnant with sex. That's what I feel in my gut.
So, do I go ahead with a few more medicated cycles for a 15% chance of a bfp?

I feel that it's all or nothing. I either do this, or give up completely on ttc.

Again, it's really melodramatic, and I know it. I can't even really trust myself to make decisions right now b/c I can't trust my own emotions. They are out of control.
Fertility treatments did this to me last time too. I'm not sure if it's the meds, or the emotional involvement. Either way, now is not the time to make major life decisions. I will not be trying to sell my house and move anytime soon, lol.

 

[dachsundmom]

Since you asked for thoughts earlier, Ready...

You gave yourself 4 IUI cycles; you have 3 left. Most likely your cyst is not an issue, but I'm not sure taking the risk and blowing all of the cycles you have left is the wisest choice.

Trust me, seriously, I get how much it sucks to have TTC drag on for eons, but one cycle off to make sure you are cyst free and have little to no risk of losing your remaining ovary, is worth it.

Give your DH the cycle to regain his confidence and give yourselves one less thing to worry about; just my opinion.

 

[googly]

Totes agree with DMom, makes total sense when you think about the combination of the two issues. Understand the need to want to get on with it.... but.....

As I said, I feel your best shot is Feb anyway given your history must be something in the water that time of year

 

[crystal443]

Milty...FS are expensive, maybe talk to your obgyn and try to decide what your next steps are, I'm unexplained and IVF is our best option while Ready is unexplained as well and they'll do IVF for her. Good luck !!!

Ready..taking our month off before IVF was the best thing we could have done...I feel great and so does DH ,we relaxed and just made sure we were both on the same page.I can't tell you enough how good it was

Dmom..how are you doing?

Sarah...hope your well..I'll be back later to write more

Just on my way to have scan to see if there's any eggs growing...please let there be some,lol. Will post when I get home

 

[sarahincanada]

Just on my way to have scan to see if there's any eggs growing...please let there be some,lol. Will post when I get home

I was like HUH its sunday night! forgot you were in australia! good luck, hope you are responding well

janetplanet how are you doing....I think you are the closest to the end of your cycle of our group???

afm its going to be a looonnnggggg week

 

[sadie]

Hey ladies. Does anyone know where i can fd stats on IUI, that relate to each individual situation (for example:male low sperm count with a woman with high XXX)?

Im 3dpiui and ridiculously enough, I am starting to feel as if the entire thing is almost useless.....

 

[dachsundmom]

Hey ladies. Does anyone know where i can fd stats on IUI, that relate to each individual situation (for example:male low sperm count with a woman with high XXX)?

Im 3dpiui and ridiculously enough, I am starting to feel as if the entire thing is almost useless.....

What happens if you type that info straight into Google?

 

[sadie]

Not much! I did that an hour ago and it wasnt much help. I feel like there should be something more 'precise'. Funny word to use when dealing with science.....

Anyway, i guess i am a bit depressed hearing that there is a 5% chance for a successful IUI with women over 40. I am 41, but my egg quality and quantity is excellent and OH is perfect. The numbers seems misleading and I am officially in a shit mood.

 

[dachsundmom]

5% sounds very low to me; my doctor gave stats of 10-15% for a woman my age, 38...I cannot imagine that the 2 or 3 years decreases the chances that much.

 

[sadie]

I agree. Thx. Time will tell.... Oh, the dreaded wait.

 

[dachsundmom]

 

[crystal443]

Hi girls...just got home with bad news, well not that bad I guess. Firstly, I am not responding well to the current treatment. FS thinks it could be for a number of reasons, however all tests results point to great quality eggs,it was just a poor response. There were 3 follies and we could have taken our chances and continued or wait 2 weeks and start a better treatment that'll work better for us, as she said it's not just this cycle but there's also hope to get some frozen as well. She's calling a bit later with what treatment will be. I'm fine with it, it was our choice to cancel and I feel like we've made the right choice