anyone over 35 going for fertility treatments this year? IUI, IVF etc

[onmymind17]

Not much! I did that an hour ago and it wasnt much help. I feel like there should be something more 'precise'. Funny word to use when dealing with science.....

Anyway, i guess i am a bit depressed hearing that there is a 5% chance for a successful IUI with women over 40. I am 41, but my egg quality and quantity is excellent and OH is perfect. The numbers seems misleading and I am officially in a shit mood.

Sadie, dont believe the numbers, they say that IUI's wont work for women over 40 well i did 5 IUI's and 3 of the 5 worked, unfortunatly we m/c all of them, but they did work. For me for some stupid reason we cannot get pg on our own, we only did it once in nov 08, almost 3 years ago, only the IUI's worked, so please dont give up hope, this can work for you!!

 

[hockey24]

Hey Sarah - what day is your FS appt this week?

Crystal - good to hear that you have great quality eggs! I will be anxious to hear what further information they give you later today. Keep us posted!

 

[readyformore]

Crystal, sounds like you made a good choice! Sorry it got cancelled, but it will be nice to have some frosties left-over as well.

Googly, feb is my month. I actually joked around that I didn't conceive last february b/c I couldn't get my exact line up of conceive in feb and deliver in nov combination. I would have had feb conception with october birth, or march conception with november birth. Everyone tells me I HAVE to do IUI through February. Hell NO! That's way too many cycles of that crap.

Sadie, here's my advice of IUI stats. . . . just don't look. It's honestly way too depressing.

Sarah, hope your cycle is going well.

Here's where I'm at. I actually ran into my primary ob/gyn at work this weekend. (Odd coincidence, considering she is only on call every 6th weekend). Anyway, she's the one the personally knows my history, and she removed my ovary. I told her about my cyst and that I was freaking out. I asked her if it was a necessary worry, or if I was freaking out over nothing. She said, "You're freaking out over nothing. What happened to your other ovary was a complete fluke. It's not going to happen again. You're fine to take the meds this cycle." That made me feel much better.
I was really liking the idea of a break though. I hate femara, and I've been putting things up my vag for over 2 weeks now (progesterone suppositories then tampons). I wanted a break.
At first DH said he just wanted to go straight through. He didn't want my 4 IUI cycles to turn into 8 months. He wants to get it done and over with. I can completely understand that.
I called and told him what the doc said. Then I said that he had to make the decision for this month. I've been making too many lately.

He actually decided to take this month off. I was relieved.
But, if a cyst forms with the next cycle as well, then we will completely be done with IUI.
So, I have mixed feelings about that. It'll be 2 cycles short of my goal. I think it's unrealistic to expect a pregnancy after only 2 IUIs.

 

[Desperado167]

Just wanted to pop by and send u all loads and loads of hugs ,:

 

[sarahincanada]

Hey Sarah - what day is your FS appt this week?

Crystal - good to hear that you have great quality eggs! I will be anxious to hear what further information they give you later today. Keep us posted!

on wednesday! I mainly want to ask about IVF....Ive had 3 IUI's now and not too enthused about them anymore. Ive only had 1 with injectables and will see the outcome at the end of this week, but Im not too excited as I only had 1 follicle.

crystal443 sorry to hear that, but its just a temporary setback will you have to wait for your period to start again? when you say 'all tests results point to great quality eggs' what tests are those, I wasnt aware of any tests for quality or do you just mean all tests are good so they assume great quality eggs. Its frustrating to not be going ahead, but 2 weeks will go quickly

sadie I think the IUI stats are so bad because a lot of people having treatments are having problems, and many of them will never get pregnant. im sure the IUI rate for unexplained is a lot higher

isnt it funny how so many people are unexplained infertility....shows how little they know about it.

ready glad you make a decision and feel a little relieved I might skip the next one and just wait for IVF. Im a little tired after 4 cycles of treatments and I might not have $1000 to start the injectables next week anyway....got some larges bills due and my clients are taking time to pay! one client sent a cheque from the other side of canada 3 weeks ago and I dont have it yet! I think they are telling the truth, but I dont know whether to ask them to send another or wait. Last month I had a cheque take 3 weeks
do you have to go on bcp for the month?
sorry I must have missed the february thing....what do you mean by that?

 

[readyformore]

The February thing is that I have only ever conceived in February. Regardless of length of time ttc.
All 3 of my children have birthday's in November.

While ttc #3, it only took 7 months, but I remember saying to my husband, "It doesn't matter what we do this month, it's February and you'll get me pregnant." Yep.

I'm not at all superstitious, but let's just say that this February was a difficult AF for me (although maybe not as bad as this last one, yikes).

Man, that stinks that it takes so long to get paid for your work.
I have a friend that has his own business and he said sometimes it takes 2-3 months to get paid for a job.
Crazy!!

 

[sarahincanada]

The February thing is that I have only ever conceived in February. Regardless of length of time ttc.
All 3 of my children have birthday's in November.

While ttc #3, it only took 7 months, but I remember saying to my husband, "It doesn't matter what we do this month, it's February and you'll get me pregnant." Yep.

I'm not at all superstitious, but let's just say that this February was a difficult AF for me (although maybe not as bad as this last one, yikes).

Man, that stinks that it takes so long to get paid for your work.
I have a friend that has his own business and he said sometimes it takes 2-3 months to get paid for a job.
Crazy!!

yes 2-3 months is the norm! so Im waiting for the mail every day this week and that will determine if I do injectables this month or not!! if I cant afford it I could go back to clomid as its cheaper but I would probably just skip the month.

and wow thats crazy about the feb thing...well you can do a couple more IUIs until then and then do natural if Feb and see what happens!

 

[Desperado167]

Sarah ,Good luck for Wednesday ,

 

[crystal443]

Hey Sarah - what day is your FS appt this week?

Crystal - good to hear that you have great quality eggs! I will be anxious to hear what further information they give you later today. Keep us posted!

on wednesday! I mainly want to ask about IVF....Ive had 3 IUI's now and not too enthused about them anymore. Ive only had 1 with injectables and will see the outcome at the end of this week, but Im not too excited as I only had 1 follicle.

crystal443 sorry to hear that, but its just a temporary setback will you have to wait for your period to start again? when you say 'all tests results point to great quality eggs' what tests are those, I wasnt aware of any tests for quality or do you just mean all tests are good so they assume great quality eggs. Its frustrating to not be going ahead, but 2 weeks will go quickly

sadie I think the IUI stats are so bad because a lot of people having treatments are having problems, and many of them will never get pregnant. im sure the IUI rate for unexplained is a lot higher

isnt it funny how so many people are unexplained infertility....shows how little they know about it.

ready glad you make a decision and feel a little relieved I might skip the next one and just wait for IVF. Im a little tired after 4 cycles of treatments and I might not have $1000 to start the injectables next week anyway....got some larges bills due and my clients are taking time to pay! one client sent a cheque from the other side of canada 3 weeks ago and I dont have it yet! I think they are telling the truth, but I dont know whether to ask them to send another or wait. Last month I had a cheque take 3 weeks
do you have to go on bcp for the month?
sorry I must have missed the february thing....what do you mean by that?

Hi Sarah ...Our FS said she can can make an educated guess on egg quality and it won't be a 100% for sure there are factors that will point to good egg quality right down to poor. She says we're really fertile quality wise because everything for fertility testing scans, bloods, HSG etc has all come back well within normal, I also have two previous pregnancies both live births and no previous history of a miscarriage or miscarriages, I've also just turned 37 a few weeks ago so age isn't really a factor yet for egg quality or so she says. My problem is I've not had a positive pregnancy test since DS who is now 13 so our problem lies in the egg being fertilized. I guess when everything is taken into account and with experience they can kinda make a call on egg quality. I didn't ask anything on egg quality because I was happy with the answer,lol...didn't want to rock the boat Cheques are our biggest issue with the websites..they take forever to pay and we get..its in the mail, we had one come yesterday that was sent " two weeks ago" its funny because its dated for this Fridfay gone by, and these are schools. I would def contact them again..I used to be reserved about it but I've learned different ways of being a bit more aggresive but in a tactful way, lol

ready- our month off was so nice, maybe that's all your DH needs to get himself together for your next cycle. sometimes going with your gut is the best desicion you can make

Hi everyone else, hope your all well!!

 

[sarahincanada]

Cheques are our biggest issue with the websites..they take forever to pay and we get..its in the mail, we had one come yesterday that was sent " two weeks ago" its funny because its dated for this Fridfay gone by, and these are schools. I would def contact them again..I used to be reserved about it but I've learned different ways of being a bit more aggresive but in a tactful way, lol

oh thats the worst! when the date is just recent you know they were lying! I would be suspicious about them but last month I did have a cheque that was dated August 8 arrive right at the end of August! I did contact them and asked if there was anyway they could send a new one Xpresspost so I can receive

the thing I like about IVF is that they can see exactly whats happening....for example your problem could be your egg is hard to penetrate (due to age) but everything else is fine so at least you can fix that. looking forward to you getting started!

 

[sadie]

Sarah, i might have missed it.... When are u going to test or will you poas??? Good luck girl!

 

[sarahincanada]

Sarah, i might have missed it.... When are u going to test or will you poas??? Good luck girl!

I am not poas this month, just going for my beta on friday night. I also stopped temping.... last month my LP was longer and my temps were high so I thought we might have done it, and then got my period, so decided not to do any of that anymore!!! much less stressful!

will you poas??

 

[sadie]

I will definitely poas starting on day 10 bc i finally found dollar store cheapies! They want me to go in for a blood test on the 5th. I might hold off on that. We'll see.

It must feel great to not have to worrying about temping... I am obsessed with what my body is up to.

When do they normally check your follicle size? They did mine on a monday, my trigger was on tuesday and the iui on thursday. Just curious. Thanks!

 

[sarahincanada]

When do they normally check your follicle size? They did mine on a monday, my trigger was on tuesday and the iui on thursday. Just curious. Thanks!

they checked my follicle size on the thursday, I took my HCG shot that night, and IUI was Saturday.

 

[LLbean]

Sarah I hope Friday you get great news!

 

[JanetPlanet]

Hi All. I'm having a rough time emotionally the past several days so I've been trying to stay away from here so I don't irritate or bum everyone out.

Good Luck ladies! I've been thinking good thoughts for you Sarah!

 

[readyformore]

Hi All. I'm having a rough time emotionally the past several days so I've been trying to stay away from here so I don't irritate or bum everyone out.

Good Luck ladies! I've been thinking good thoughts for you Sarah!

Janet.
I was in the same place last week. It rather felt like my world was spinning out of control. I was afraid if I started crying, I wouldn't stop.
I recall feeling this way from IUI with my first son. I'm not sure if it's the meds, or the bfn after all of the extra effort, or a combination of both. But, it's brutal either way.

If you're feeling too negative, feel free to post on the Misery loves company, the thread of negativity. I feel like I belong there most of the time.

My mood is better now that I'm at a different part in my cycle. Better, but not gone.
Hopefully your spirits will lift with cycle changes as well.

 

[onmymind17]

Hi All. I'm having a rough time emotionally the past several days so I've been trying to stay away from here so I don't irritate or bum everyone out.

Good Luck ladies! I've been thinking good thoughts for you Sarah!

Honey you wont irritate or bum any of us out, we are here to support you, so dont you worry, you just come to us and we will all give you hugs and make you feel better!!!

 

[onmymind17]

Sarah and Sadie, my fingers are crossed for you ladies!!!! We sooooo need some bfp's to pop up in here soon!!!

 

[sarahincanada]

Sarah I hope Friday you get great news!

thanks LL! great news about your beta numbers, are you feeling more confident?

Im going for the blood test friday night, and they wont phone with the results till saturday. however saturday is my birthday and we will probably be in niagara. I told my hubby to phone and check the messages, as if I were pregnant what an amazing gift that would be. If he doesnt say anything on saturday I will be gently let down and know the results on sunday.

Im in a little dilemma about next cycle...as mentioned my clients are being really late with payments and I have a $5000 bill to pay plus my usual bills that come out on the 1st, so not sure if I will have $1000 spare for injectables next week I would be starting them tuesday-ish depending on my LP length. so it all depends on this week and what cheques I get. I dont mind a month off. Then its still a scramble for IVF money in November, still not sure if I can find that some of me thinks its just easier to start that in january then stress myself out about $$$. being self employed is so hard!