anyone over 35 going for fertility treatments this year? IUI, IVF etc

[dachsundmom]

My DH is in the same place you are; which is funny, bc I'm the Catholic.

The only way we could agree would be to head straight for ICSI and only use two eggs and pray.

Doing this, means our odds are shit, to be blunt.

Not doing it, makes our odds even worse.

 

[Indigo77]

Good Lord! It won't mean a thing in 100 years...

 

[dachsundmom]

IDK how to deal with it.

 

[Indigo77]

More than half of all fertilized eggs either fail to implant or are otherwise lost in natural pregnancy. What's the difference? Embryos are not fetuses.

 

[Indigo77]

Does he mourn the death of each potential embryo every cycle?

 

[Indigo77]

What about freezing the embryos? Does he take issue with that?

 

[dachsundmom]

More than half of all fertilized eggs either fail to implant or are otherwise lost in natural pregnancy. What's the difference? Embryos are not fetuses.

For N, it is the actual human destruction vs. my barren uterus doing the job for him.

 

[dachsundmom]

What about freezing the embryos? Does he take issue with that?

As long as our wills are set up to pay storage in perpetuity, it's fine.

 

[LLbean]

Ready, does your infertility policy cover one round of IVF? If so, I say go for it.

I get 15K lifetime.

I do have some issues that I would want to decide prior to starting.

Care to share? My DH and I have some differing opinions on IVF that could make it tough for us to come to an agreement.

It wouldn't necessarily keep me from doing it, but I would have to decide prior to going into it. . . .

1- If femara and clomid gave me cysts, the IVF injectable meds would probably make my ovary explode. Okay, that's dramatic, but it's something I have to consider.

2- What to do with leftover embryos. This is my biggest issue. There may not be any leftover, but I have to consider it.

The only option I am 100% comfortable with is to use them all ourselves until they are gone. If that means we have 10 kids, 4 sets of twins, and 5 IVFs, so be it.
My husband would destroy them.
Neither of us would embryo share with another couple.

So, that's it in a nutshell. I might not do it b/c I'm concerned about the welfare of potential embryos.

well as you know (or may not know) I had 18 follicles...out of those 13 eggs were mature enough to fertilize (ICSI)...out of those 8 were doing well...out of the 8 they did PGD (Preimplantation genetic diagnosis) and only ONE was a good one...so if you are anyway like me I think you will be just fine ;-) I was hoping for at least two and was going to have 2 put back in btw... but one it is

 

[Indigo77]

What about freezing the embryos? Does he take issue with that?

As long as our wills are set up to pay storage in perpetuity, it's fine.

He's going to let his babies' souls remain frozen forever....yeah...that makes sense, now...

 

[dachsundmom]

What about freezing the embryos? Does he take issue with that?

As long as our wills are set up to pay storage in perpetuity, it's fine.

He's going to let his babies' souls remain frozen forever....yeah...that makes sense, now...

I know, but this is one issue I will not force. Even though I do not agree with him at all, I would never ask him to do anything against his conscience.

 

[Indigo77]

What about freezing the embryos? Does he take issue with that?

As long as our wills are set up to pay storage in perpetuity, it's fine.

He's going to let his babies' souls remain frozen forever....yeah...that makes sense, now...

I know, but this is one issue I will not force. Even though I do not agree with him at all, I would never ask him to do anything against his conscience.

 

[dachsundmom]

He'll give into me; I'm not worried about it at all.

I just need him to see my reality on his own, so I don't get any resentment from him.

 

[crystal443]

Hi girls- if this helps at all we had this discussion on Mon with our FS...2 out of 3 eggs will fertilize and half of those will mature. Those are the statistics, that drastically reduces you number automatically and if you continued on to a 5 day transfer, you'll lose more simply because some embies do no like the dish and will just not go any further then 2 or 3 days. They could be healthy embies and grow well inside but yeah you will lose more to a 5 day. The 5 day however will give you strong embies but if you don't go the extra step like LL there's no point because you still don't know which are healthy. We were told until we're 40 then its a 3day transfer, unless there is a reason to do a 5 day or PGD which they do not recommend to ladies in their 30's, simply because you could be losing embies that are perfectly healthy.

Dmom and ready- we had a councelling session because we had to sign agreements and had to come to an agreement on what would happen if we got divorced and we had embies, or if he died or I died..they go over every case scenerio. I definatley recommend it, ours was mandatory but when we left we had some things to talk about and I'm glad we figured everything out.

 

[dachsundmom]

Hmmmm; if I do drop dead, there is something satisfying about the next Mr. Dmom having to pay child support on my frozen embryos!

 

[crystal443]

What about freezing the embryos? Does he take issue with that?

As long as our wills are set up to pay storage in perpetuity, it's fine.

He's going to let his babies' souls remain frozen forever....yeah...that makes sense, now...

I know, but this is one issue I will not force. Even though I do not agree with him at all, I would never ask him to do anything against his conscience.

Here's a wierd case scenerio..we were told a growing number of couples are leaving they're embies on ice in case their kids have fertility problems and need them. Or if DH and I died in an accident then they'd be able to be used by our kids to produce a brother or sister.

 

[crystal443]

Hmmmm; if I do drop dead, there is something satisfying about the next Mr. Dmom having to pay child support on my frozen embryos!

I keep the embies in divorce or his death and if I die they get donated or destroyed..that's what we decided.

 

[Indigo77]

Can you opt to have them thrown into the sea?

 

[crystal443]

You could if you wanted IVF just brings up so many questions and what ifs...its not just a 1 cycle and that's it, if there's any left then its so many things to consider that being said you want some to freeze

 

[dachsundmom]

Can you opt to have them thrown into the sea?

Bon voyage!