Anyone struggling to get baby number 2??

[Button#]

My b complex vitamins have turned up today. Just trying to work out if I start taking them straight away or wait until after OV.

 

[slg76]

Munchkin: Charlotte sounds adorable. Are you potty training? EMily is 3 1/2 and isn't potty trained. She has trouble with her bowels and our Dr. said she won't successfully potty train until that is sorted out. She goes on the toilet sometimes but has to be in diapers still.

You are in a tough spot about trying or not trying. I would ask your doctor/midwife WHY you have to wait a specific amount of time. Is it for your cervix to strengthen or your uterus to build up a lining???? I'm totally making those up by the way but you get the idea. I feel like sometimes Dr. just throw out a random "rule" but there's no real reason behind it. If they can't tell you what your body needs to be doing to heal in these coming weeks then I would just go ahead and try.

I am CD15 today. Yesterday I had tons of EWCM and today I haven't seen any. That would tell me that I O'd last night. BUT, my OPK was neg. last night and pos. this morning which would tell me I will O today or tomorrow. Hmmmmm. thoughts?? We will continue to BD of course. I just like it when all signs point to the same thing.

I planned on getting several errands done today but as of now I'm still in my pajamas with a cup of coffee. I really love doing nothing

 

[Munchkin30]

Yay mrs w that sounds fun ! My oh is working tomorrow and staying overnight so it's just me and charlotte. We'll probably go and see my gran and give her a good slap if she makes any annoying comments!! Might make it to the gym again too if I'm feeling good on Sunday we're going to ohs sisters house for tea. They can't come here because of her husbands cat allergy. They've been coming here for 3 1/2 years and it's not been a problem but whatever!!

 

[Munchkin30]

Button I'd take them straight away, they're for the whole month. What cd are you on ?

Sig potty training is a sore point! Everyone keeps telling me she's ready , she tells me all about what it's for, puts her dolls on the potty, knows when she's seeing a pooing etc but we've tried over and over again and nothing!! The last try ended last night and I've vowed to just let her do it now. I'll wait til she potty trains herself. I give up.
My sisters dd has mild Spina bifuda and they don't know how she'll get on and if she'll ever be potty trained but she's so gorgeous and it doesn't matter. She's only 16 weeks so they're not sure what'll happen.

I never trust cm as a fertility sign, I always get ewcm but it could be 5 days before ov and come and go. I never get it after ov but I often won't notice it every day til ov. I'd go by the opk! You're nearly in the 2ww. Yay!

I might email the bereavement midwives, I don't trust drs to know what they're talking about.

 

[slg76]

my dd is SO smart, verbal, and has been "ready" to potty train for over a year. Yet, she still wants to wear diapers. I know it is not a fight I can win. I encourage her to use the toilet but it will have to be her decision to give up her diapers. I've cleaned the carpet too many times and argued with her too much to keep insisting on potty training.

16 weeks is so young to guess at what your niece will be able to do. Sometimes things seem worse than they turn out to be.

I will buy more OPKs today and keep BDing until hubby leaves for a work trip on Sunday.

Button: I would say go ahead with the vitamins

Hi MrsW. Hope you are enjoying your day!

 

[Mrs W 11]

Hi slg! I've always been a believer that although we can do training and things to guide our Los they ultimately decide when they sleep through the night, whether they like baby wearing or pram, finger food or purée weaning, when they potty train etc! I agree your dd will do it when she's ready xx

X

 

[Button#]

Button I'd take them straight away, they're for the whole month. What cd are you on ?

Sig potty training is a sore point! Everyone keeps telling me she's ready , she tells me all about what it's for, puts her dolls on the potty, knows when she's seeing a pooing etc but we've tried over and over again and nothing!! The last try ended last night and I've vowed to just let her do it now. I'll wait til she potty trains herself. I give up.
My sisters dd has mild Spina bifuda and they don't know how she'll get on and if she'll ever be potty trained but she's so gorgeous and it doesn't matter. She's only 16 weeks so they're not sure what'll happen.

I never trust cm as a fertility sign, I always get ewcm but it could be 5 days before ov and come and go. I never get it after ov but I often won't notice it every day til ov. I'd go by the opk! You're nearly in the 2ww. Yay!

I might email the bereavement midwives, I don't trust drs to know what they're talking about.

If I go by when I passed the sac I'm CD13. I'd normally OV on CD17 but expecting it to be later because I still got a very very faint line on the hpt yesterday.

I agree with the others about potty training. You can only do so much and if she's not there yet it'll just stress both of you out. Not looking forward to potty training Ashley, I've heard boys are later than girls and he's so stubborn!

 

[celine]

Hi slg! I've always been a believer that although we can do training and things to guide our Los they ultimately decide when they sleep through the night, whether they like baby wearing or pram, finger food or purée weaning, when they potty train etc! I agree your dd will do it when she's ready xx

X

Mrs w thats the best attitude to have! There are far too many "humblebraggers" who go on about their little ones sleeping/potty/eating etc on facebook to make you feel like you are doing everything wrong, but the reality is its just easier when we allow ourselves to listen to the child and not the world

 

[Mrs W 11]

Oh I totally agree celine. Having a little one is hard work, I only pick the battles that are absolutely necessary haha! The rest of the time my priority is her having fun. I want her to have a magical childhood filled with dens, camps, running in fields, riding bikes, drawing, painting snd stickers, messy play, collecting shells on the beach, catching little fish in a net ...... I could go on hehe!

I feel sorry for the children of those boasty mums who think it matters when they achieve stuff. Don't get me wrong I'm so proud of Freya when she learns new things but I never force her to.

 

[Mrs W 11]

I think af might be here spotting bright red now. No temp drop today so maybe tomorrow. I was hoping at least for a normal 14 day lp. I'm so gutted. I had more riding on this cycle than I realised. X

 

[Munchkin30]

Oh mrs w I'm so sorry if this is AF how many cycles is it since your mc? What have the previous ones been like? What were your cycles like before? If I were you I'd go to the drs to get the ball rolling in case you need extra help, hopefully the AC and vit b will sort it out first though. Drs often don't do anything til you've seem them a few times for the same thing x the chances are your body is just taking a bit longer to sort itself out and it'll all be fine but I really understand how gutted you must be

Your picture of your dd's childhood is beautiful though, I think we should all be aiming for that! I've totally given up potty training now, she can do it herself when she's ready! My dd does things in her own time in her own way. She was climbing stairs before she rolled, we tried desperately to teach her to crawl but she bottom shuffled! She took ages eating regularly, didn't sleep through til after 1 and she just stopped asking for feeds, and she gave up Breastfeeding in her own time when she was 2.

 

[Munchkin30]

AFM my opk this morning was lovely and pale so I know if I get a positive now it's def a positive! Still undecided about trying this month, I rads a leaflet this morning from the mc association and it said it's generally advised to wait til one period to try to make sure your body is back to normal and to date the pregnancy, but that there's no increased chance of mc and if you don't want to get pregnant straight away you should use contraception. To me that's a green light to try again!! I emailed the bereavement midwife yesterday so I'll see what she says xx

 

[Munchkin30]

Oh and I'm on day 2 of the royal jelly. I'm expecting magic things to happen! By my reckoning I should produce about a million eggs this month my only worry is that the queen bees are about 3 times the size of normal bees after eating the royal jelly. I'd better not be the size of a house!!

 

[celine]

Munckin you sound like you are ready to try
Its good to know there is no increased risk of mc if you do catch straight away, i think if you had caught straight away the kast time you might feel that it had something to do with ut.

 

[Munchkin30]

Well celine you're one that knows. You've tried twice straight after mc and got pregnant both times and had a mc. Did u blame the second mc on getting pregnant too soon? If anything had happened this time would you have blamed it on that? Have you been more nervous this time because of that?
I honestly wouldn't have blamed what happened this time on it if I'd got my bfp first cycle, but maybe if I had a very early spontaneous loss or a chemical I would probably wonder. If the egg and sperm join wonkily or you have chromosomal problems I really don't think that could be to do with getting bfp too early but if your body wasn't ready it might reject the fertilised egg or have a hormonal issue that could cause early spontaneous mc. I'm so not a dr but that's my theory!!

 

[Munchkin30]

I've just got in touch with an acupuncture clinic. Heard some good things about it. Any of you lady's had any experience?

 

[celine]

I have heard many good things about ttc and accupuncture

I did ask my mw after the second mc and they assured me it had nothong to do with it and was "bad luck" so funny enough i didnt think of it that way but if something had happened this time then yes id definatly have thought it had to do with it. Now i joke and say i only grow summer babies.
The fear never leaves of course, im still checking for blood, checking for movement. My one friend had a baby die at 30 weeks in utero so i know even though the odds are in my favour, im too scared to think about it.

 

[Munchkin30]

Thanks celine x what really helped me last time was deciding to enjoy the pregnancy however long it went on for. I am now so pleased that other than a few normal wobbles I really did enjoy the 21 weeks I had with Rowan and I now don't see a pregnancy loss as a 'failure' or the birth being 'success', I see it as being a real baby from day one and how important it is to enjoy your babies however long you have them be it a couple of weeks or 40 years xx

 

[loribelle]

Hello ladies. Hope everyone is having a good weekend. I've had a lovely weekend so far. I went out for breakfast with dh and ds who behaved like an angel and are almost his own bodyweight in food. Then we took him to soft play area to burn off some energy.
I started spotting today which came as a real blow. I've decided to go back to my doctor. We've been trying for 10 months now. We did have the mc half way through that though. It's just so depressing trying to pick yourself up month after month. People at work are getting pregnant left right and centre and we're still trying.
Do you ladies think I should ask for clomid? I've no idea if it would help I just want something to stack the odds slightly more in our favour!
L x

 

[Munchkin30]

Hi loribelle. Glad you've had such a lovely day xx what are your cycles like generally? Have they changed a lot since the mc? When was the mc? Xx