Anyone struggling to get baby number 2??

[loribelle]

Hi munchkin. I generally have shortish cycles. I usually spot for anything between 2 and 5 days before af. My cycles are always like this. The mc was last November. The only difference is that from when I was pregnant right through the mc till now I've had weird pains a bit like cramps which are occurring randomly through out my cycle. I saw my gp who gave antibiotics in case it was an infection. I just feel like time is running out for me!
L x

 

[Munchkin30]

Oh loribelle that's rubbish I'd push it with your dr. I don't know what causes spotting before periods, is it a deficiency of some sort? If the gp doesn't come up with anything I'd look at alternative therapies, reading about acupuncture and herbs it sounds like that could help with imbalances xx

 

[Mrs W 11]

Oh mrs w I'm so sorry if this is AF how many cycles is it since your mc? What have the previous ones been like? What were your cycles like before? If I were you I'd go to the drs to get the ball rolling in case you need extra help, hopefully the AC and vit b will sort it out first though. Drs often don't do anything til you've seem them a few times for the same thing x the chances are your body is just taking a bit longer to sort itself out and it'll all be fine but I really understand how gutted you must be

Your picture of your dd's childhood is beautiful though, I think we should all be aiming for that! I've totally given up potty training now, she can do it herself when she's ready! My dd does things in her own time in her own way. She was climbing stairs before she rolled, we tried desperately to teach her to crawl but she bottom shuffled! She took ages eating regularly, didn't sleep through til after 1 and she just stopped asking for feeds, and she gave up Breastfeeding in her own time when she was 2.

Thanks Hun. I'm pretty sure it is af. Feeling pretty gutted. This was my third cycle after the mmc so onto cycle 4 now. Before the mc my cycles were like clockwork, light 5 day af, ov on cd19 and a 14 day lp. First cycle after mc I didn't track but roughly normal. Second cycle was a mess, loads of mid cycle bleeding, spotting on 5dpo and af on 9dpo. I had really hoped my hormones were better this cycle as no mid cycle spotting, nothing until yesterday. I guess I must have a progesterone issue?

Thanks for listening anyway munchkin well done for keeping up bf until she chose to wean at 2. I gave up at 14 months because I wasn't having periods and I wanted ttc. Kinda wish I hadn't now but I know you can't think like that.

 

[Munchkin30]

Bless you. It's rubbish isn't it? Stupid miscarriages messing up our systems maybe we should all try acupuncture?!?

I had a bizarre thought today. My NCT friend who had a baby when my first mmc would've been due put a pic of her baby up and he looks so grown up! He was born in December and I suddenly realised that if I hadn't lost that baby it would be 4 months old and all my newborn days would be behind me forever but I've still got all that in front of me, all the joys of pregnancy and kicks and maternity clothes and labour and Breastfeeding and having a newborn xx Rowan was just setting some decent kicks when I lost her and I cling onto that feeling knowing how amazing it will be when it happens. And it will for you too and because of a these difficulties you will savour every precious glorious moment xx

 

[Mrs W 11]

Munchkin - that's good news about your opk! Are you going to keep checking them now until you ov? Also what does the royal jelly do? I'm up for trying anything, where did you buy it? Ill be keeping my fingers, toes and anything else crossed for you, you really deserve it.

I am having acupuncture. I had heard it was good for rebalancing the menstrual cycle hormones and so after all the spotting last cycle I decided to try it. I have had 3 sessions now. It's hard to say if its helped, this cycle was certainly better than last but obviously I didn't get pregnant. Although I know they say I can take up to 3 cycles to start working. I think it's well worth a try, I've enjoyed just doing something for me and focusing on actually being able to do something positive.

Loribelle - sorry your spotting has come too Hun. Seems like we are in a similar boat. I started ttc in October so this marks 7 months now although I did have mmc at 12 weeks in January. I do understand how you feel each cycle, I feel the same. It's pretty hard, we can try and all keep each other positive though it will happen for all of us.

 

[Munchkin30]

Thanks mrs w. Yes I'll keep testing now using fmu until it gets darker, then 2-3 times a day, although I know I might not even ov and that's ok so long as AF hurrys up!! I found a load of cheapie hpts today having a clear out though so I'll probably do another one tomorrow
The royal jelly is for general health, great for immune system and energy rtc but also good off egg quality, hormones, sperm quality etc. We took it in capsule form last time we tried but this time I'm taking it fresh. I got it from here https://www.apitherapywellbeing.co.uk I hope the acupuncture helps xx

 

[Mrs W 11]

Heavy bleeding now so I'm classing myself as cd1. I guess the short lp at least makes my cycle a bit shorter. Every cloud and all that. Plus a baby this month would've been due at Christmas and we have no friends and family close so a vbac would have been tricky. If I get pregnant this cycle, ill be due in January so I could sit around and be waited on all Christmas as ill be heavily pregnant!!

Ok so this cycle I think I might try the royal jelly, ill take this conversion as a sign! Which one did you order? I'm going to get the same. Does your hubby take it too?

Also your thought above is lovely and I totally agree. I'm still hoping to have 3 children so hopefully my next wont be my last but you never know. However I was so envious of people ahead of me in pregnancy last time but once their babies were born I loved that I still had it all to look forward to! And I loved having a younger baby! It's a good way to look at it. We have our bfps, first scans, kicks, buying maternity clothes and growing our bumps, giving birth and hearing if its a girl or boy and gazing into those newborn eyes and feeling the tears and love well up.... We have all that to come

And now I'm off to paint my nails I'm so glad I found this thread xx

 

[Munchkin30]

Lovely. Thanks mrs w xx I ordered this one https://www.apitherapywellbeing.co....elly-wellbeing/product/pure-fresh-royal-jelly the pure royal jelly. Arrived next day but you have to be in to sign for it and get it in the fridge ASAP. I struggled to order online but I phoned the lady and she was lovely, would definitely order from them again. You're meant to take a quarter teaspoon a day in fruit juice or yoghurt. It's not horrid but it's a bit of a wierd taste to take it neat. I'm having it in my milk smoothies and oh in his fruit smoothie. He doesn't know but I give him so many pills every day he'll take anything! I've just ordered some aromatherapy oils too. Let's throw everything at this!! X

 

[slg76]

sorry about AF, MrsW I know that some months that hits me harder than I expected it would. So disappointing. I'm glad you are getting your nails done. Important to do something nice for yourself.

Munchkin, I can't say enough about how much I love acupuncture!!!! My cancer medications stopped my cycles. AFter I stopped my meds my periods still hadn't returned 7 months later. I started acupuncture and the following month my periods returned!! My period also sort of stopped after my mc. That cycle was 111 days. Toward the end of that 111 days I went back to my acupuncturist. The next day I started getting cramps and the next week I got a period. I've been going ever since and every month my period is getting closer to a typical schedule/length/flow. I also find acupuncture very relaxing and just good for me overall. I really suggest you give it a try.

I'm off to do some errands with the family. After that I promised EMily I would take her to a restaurant to get a piece of pie. She's so excited! I love how little things seem so big to little kids

 

[Munchkin30]

Thanks sig. That's pretty impressive. I've read before about what you've been through, you're incredible. You really deserved for the miscarriage not to happen for some reason this is part of your story and I know one day you'll find out why xx

I will be trying the acupuncture, heard too many good things. I thought about it after my past miscarriage to help my moods but never got round to it. My cycle thus time is already more messed up than last time though and I'm nut a patient person so I'll take all the help I can xx

 

[Munchkin30]

Right ladies, quick game. Name the two best things about not being pregnant!

My 2 are -

Wine

Saunas!!

 

[slg76]

Munchkin: thanks for your kind words. I'm not sure why I've had such a hard time in life lately but overall I have a great life and I just keep moving forward.

I'm not a patient person at all and I am 100% sure that acupuncture sped things along for me.

2 great things about not being pregnant:
I can stay awake all afternoon
I don't gag at every strong smell
Oh, and wine of course

 

[Foogirl]

Right ladies, quick game. Name the two best things about not being pregnant!

My 2 are -

Wine

Saunas!!

Dippy eggs

Pate on toast

 

[tommyg]

Ladies can I join you?
Been TTC for 26mths, had 2 very early losses, and almost at the end of femara round 6.

Best things about not being pregnant
Being able to pick up DS.
No being sick.

 

[slg76]

Hi Tommyg. Welcome to our group. I did 3 rounds of Femara with no success. I did get pregnant the following cycle (naturally) but miscarried. I'm trying the old-fashioned, natural way now. Been 4 cycles now since my mc and every month I'm sure it's THE month. Granted I've been wrong for 4 months now but really this IS THE month

Emily has a pair of sparkly pink shoes that she wears EVERY single day. The velcro finally gave out. So relieved that we found a pair of purple sparkly shoes that she thinks are a good substitute. She is so particular that I was a little afraid we were going to have a shoe crisis!! Crisis avoided and feet are still sparkly

 

[celine]

Two more thngs that are fab not being preggo - sushi and rare steak mmm

And btw ladies i shall remind you of thris thread at christmas when i drink my loverly wine and you are all heavily preggos

 

[Munchkin30]

Hi Tommyg :wave: welcome to the 'happy mummy's of toddlers but would quite like another if possible pretty please' club what does femara do ? I know clomid makes you ov, is femara similar?? When I was pregnant with Rowan (my 21+3 loss) I really struggled with my back, particularly lifting my dd into the car seat in our range rover. I'm only 5ft 1 and it's sooo high up! I've never really been sick but the nausea and food aversions and empty stomach but unable to eat thing is hideous! So desperate to put myself through it all again though

Sig this is TOTALLY the month if we didn't always think this was THE month we'd never be able to put ourselves through it! I'm so jealous of your daughters sparkly shoes. Do they do them in size 4s??

Celine I've got to remember to get sushi before I get my bfp again. I was so craving it with Rowan and Charlotte. Where we live theres a huge Toyota factory and there's an amazing sushi restaurant where all the Japanese staff go. Mmmm!

AFM I think I'm bagging a BFN. There's the lightest of lines in the right light on a white surface but not within the time and not one I'd consider a bfp if we were trying. I should be happy because my body is bouncing back remarkably again, and I know so many ladies wait months for a bfn after a loss, especially such a late one, but it's sad as well. I'm not pregnant or miscarrying, I'm just - nothing?!? And today is the 4 week anniversary of Rowan's birth. 4 weeks ago today I still had a kicking baby in my tummy. In some ways it seems a lifetime ago, in others it feels like 5 minutes!!

 

[Munchkin30]

 

[Munchkin30]

What's everyone up to today? OH was away overnight and he's not back til after lunch going to try and go to the gym if I can book dd into the crèche, then a swim with her and back home for lunch. Then we're going for tea with ohs sister and her family later x

 

[babyjan]

Two things I like about not being pregnant are:

Eating what I like without worrying if it will cause damage/problems
Not feeling sick or nauseous (I had really bad all day sickness when pregnant with my son)