Anyone TTC #1 and 30 or older?

[Jezika]

Gosh, Angel5000, that sounds like a really tricky situation. I hope the threats aren't serious. What a horrible thing to have to deal with.

 

[KatO79]

Wow Angel, so sorry Can't you get a restraining order out on him? Know he's family but if he's threatning you guys, it may be prudent to do what you can legally to keep him away, most importantly away from you guys personally. Also block him maybe and don't take his calls, just ignore him and hope he slinks off.

AFM just had my transfer. It was a top grade embie so the RE says my chances of pregnancy are at their highest with this one The bad news was the last egg did fertilise but had divided really badly so they have to throw it out so no frostie(s) yet again

 

[Xokittycatxo]

kat yay! Everything is crossed for you. Stay positive.

Iread goodluck in the 2ww. Longest weeks ever right!??

Angel so glad the root canal is out of the way but sorry you are now dealing with the uncle. Be careful!

Gagrl I don't know much about pre testing so maybe one of be other ladies can help you more, but it sounds like you've got al the bases covered to me!

I'm still waiting to O ugh. If it's on time I should get my +opk tomorrow or Monday. Not much else to report.

 

[KatO79]

kat yay! Everything is crossed for you. Stay positive.

Iread goodluck in the 2ww. Longest weeks ever right!??

Angel so glad the root canal is out of the way but sorry you are now dealing with the uncle. Be careful!

Gagrl I don't know much about pre testing so maybe one of be other ladies can help you more, but it sounds like you've got al the bases covered to me!

I'm still waiting to O ugh. If it's on time I should get my +opk tomorrow or Monday. Not much else to report.

Thanks kitty

Hopefully you'll O on time. FXed this is your cycle!

 

[Xokittycatxo]

kat yay! Everything is crossed for you. Stay positive.

Iread goodluck in the 2ww. Longest weeks ever right!??

Angel so glad the root canal is out of the way but sorry you are now dealing with the uncle. Be careful!

Gagrl I don't know much about pre testing so maybe one of be other ladies can help you more, but it sounds like you've got al the bases covered to me!

I'm still waiting to O ugh. If it's on time I should get my +opk tomorrow or Monday. Not much else to report.

Thanks kitty

Hopefully you'll O on time. FXed this is your cycle!

Everything sounds very promising for you Kat!

I got my first on the cbd this morning. When I pulled it out to took it wasn't super dark though so I may have just started my surge. I usually get 2 days of darker lines so hoping tomorrow or Monday I get my strong positive.

 

[Angel5000]

Well he may be family but that doesn't mean we are remotely attached. lol. Can't really take out restraining order but we are taking care of stuff in the house to help prevent him from doing any more damage.

Kat Good luck!! Sounds like good news!!

kitty I'm right there with you.

AFM - my thermometer stopped working today. Batteries are dead. Have no other batteries right now. :/ So that sucks. My Digi (advanced) was open circle still toady but this afternoon my OPK was definitely getting close so I think that I might start to get a +OPK soon.

 

[Xokittycatxo]

Well he may be family but that doesn't mean we are remotely attached. lol. Can't really take out restraining order but we are taking care of stuff in the house to help prevent him from doing any more damage.

Kat Good luck!! Sounds like good news!!

kitty I'm right there with you.

AFM - my thermometer stopped working today. Batteries are dead. Have no other batteries right now. :/ So that sucks. My Digi (advanced) was open circle still toady but this afternoon my OPK was definitely getting close so I think that I might start to get a +OPK soon.

Oh man How frustrating! I actually have a backup since I sprang for a better one and keep the old one as spare.

So I had a temp spike today but also my cbd was a and the line was the strongest yet! Alsoy cp is still high and soft and my boobs don't hurt yet which is usually a good indication that I have just O.

I wonder if today's temp could be a fluke as I woke up feeling very hot. I usually sleep with my feet out from under the covers but this morning they were all covered up.

 

[Nicoled1285]

I feel the same way! I just turned 30; my partner has a child from a previous marriage and I am scared he doesn't feel the same concern as me bc he has one.

I have PCOS and have lost 97 lbs hoping to kick start fertility. I am scared I can't even get pregnant. The longer it takes the more scared I become! I know anxiety doesn't help either. Good luck to you. Sending you baby dust.

 

[Jezika]

Nicole, how long have you been TTC?

 

[Xokittycatxo]

Feeling very discouraged today and just need to vent!

I'm pretty sure I Od either last night or today. My OH doesn't seem to grasp the importance of timing even though he is the one that wanted to really start trying, and said what's the big deal if we miss today we can just bd tomorrow? Grrrr. The big deal is that there will be no chance of me falling pregnant tomorrow since my egg will be gone!!!

I feel like I wasted an entire month! All this stress and charting and herbs and temping and acupuncture and it's like he doesn't appreciate or even care. It's as if I'm never going to fall pregnant and ill wind up a dried up old spinster. I'm just so sad about this I really feel like it may never happen for me.

Seeing new moms with their babies everywhere is not helping either. Sometimes I just want to give up.

End rant. Sorry for the little breakdown, feel free to ignore I just needed to type it out since I can't talk to anyone about this.

 

[Angel5000]

So this morning my advanced jumped to a solid (peak). I'm like WTF! Apparently I started testing too late and it wasn't able to detect the estrogen surge. I have never had a peak before CD15 so I thought i was okay. Yesterday's IC was really dark but not quite positive, same with this mornings. Going to definitely BD tonight when we get home (we have a 3 hour drive after this, we are at my moms still working on our inherited property). I'm frustrated that I wasn't able to temp yesterday or today so I'll have a hard time telling where my shift was. ugh. so frustrated.

But today I picked up a cheapie thermometer and swapped the battery from it into my basal and its working again (that was cheaper than buying a battery for it, ) and so I can at least temp tomorrow. I was going to just use a cheapie regular thermometer this morning but the only one my mom had was also dead! Keeping FX that I don't actually O for another day or two, so I have some time to get in some good BD. We haven't BD since Wednesday because of my root canal + driving down here + spending all day yesterday working on the house. :/ Of all the months to O early!

Nicole How long have you been TTC? Are you doing temps and stuff to see if you are ovulating?

kitty feel free to vent!! We all need to! Sometimes men are just oblivious. Women too, actually. I had to explain to my DH about how it all works. Once we watched The Great Sperm Race together it gave him so much more perspective and he was much more aware of how important the timing is (and so was I). I don't think the guys get it that the egg only lasts 24 hours. Especially since they usually know that their sperm can last several days so they assume the egg does too. Sorry about the situation. I've been there too. I'm always very afraid I'm just going to end up an old spinster. At 30 it's hard to accept that it's this hard to get my first kid when ppl are falling pregnant all around me!

 

[Jezika]

Kitty - I'm sorry you're feeling that way, but I hear you. Like Angel said, I think our partners can be oblivious sometimes. In my case, DH does not particularly like hearing about all this fertility stuff, all the different measures and timings and everything. He really wants to be a parent too, but I think he's thinking (a) baby-making should be spontaneous, fun and "natural", (b) I'm just needlessly stressing and over-analyzing the science rather than talking actual facts, and (c) that I only want him for sex to make babies and not because I want and like to have sex with him(!). Admittedly these are assumptions, except for the last one, but I'm sure I'm not far off. Anyway, I just think that some partners (and people in general) can find it really hard to relate to what's going on in our heads (and down there), especially when it's not their bodies that are going through all of this. It just sucks because the more frustrated we are by this whole fertility game, the less sexy and natural BD becomes! I'm only at the start of the own journey, but I can see already that I'll probably have to reel myself in at some point and do everything that I need to do without being consumed by it all. Months can go by agonizingly, but once it happens for us, that'll be it, and we're (hopefully) not going to even be thinking about the months that it hadn't worked out.

Angel - I hope you get some BD in! I also want to check out The Great Sperm Race! Maybe it'll kick my DH into shape, or otherwise petrify me even more!

 

[KatO79]

Feeling very discouraged today and just need to vent!

I'm pretty sure I Od either last night or today. My OH doesn't seem to grasp the importance of timing even though he is the one that wanted to really start trying, and said what's the big deal if we miss today we can just bd tomorrow? Grrrr. The big deal is that there will be no chance of me falling pregnant tomorrow since my egg will be gone!!!

I feel like I wasted an entire month! All this stress and charting and herbs and temping and acupuncture and it's like he doesn't appreciate or even care. It's as if I'm never going to fall pregnant and ill wind up a dried up old spinster. I'm just so sad about this I really feel like it may never happen for me.

Seeing new moms with their babies everywhere is not helping either. Sometimes I just want to give up.

End rant. Sorry for the little breakdown, feel free to ignore I just needed to type it out since I can't talk to anyone about this.

Maybe try showing him The Great Sperm Race video? Maybe it'll help. My DH didn't know much about it either until I told him. Although stress isn't very good, maybe try taking a couple of cycles as NTNP for a break and BD every 2-3 days and see? DH and I tried that some months and it was really good for us.

Can relate on the new mom thing. The apartment complex we currently live in is almost all families so plenty of women sporting baby carriages or bumps or walking/biking around with small kids Even yesterday while I was waiting for DH (he needed to use the bathroom before we drove home from the hospital) this couple walked by with their newborn baby I try to remind myself though that some of those couples must've had issue conceiving and some of them must've gone through assisted conception - I don't know their story. It helps a bit but yeah, still not fun

FXed it happens very soon for you

 

[Jezika]

Good point, Kat; we never know how long other women with kids have tried. I'm sure many had just as difficult journeys as some of us.

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Send some prayers my way ladies.. Meeting with the genetic counselor and maternal fetal this morning to discuss preconception (MTHFR)

 

[KatO79]

FXed Gagrlinpitt

 

[Angel5000]

so, based on this mornings temp I'm pretty sure I O'd yesterday even though I don't have temps for the last two days. Got in BD yesterday and going to try for today just to be sure. So I'm not really optimistic about this month, I have O-4, O, and possibly O+1. :/ but it's still a chance!

Little concerned only because I don't usually get a +OPK with FMU so I am concerned that yesterdays peak was a remainder from a surge from the previous day and that I possibly O'd the day before. But last night I did an IC and it was close to positive (not quite but very dark, dark enough that if I hadn't done one in the AM I would have assumed that was my +) and so I think I can safely assume yesterday was O day.

I am still a little over the top shocked about the incredibly early O compared to what used to be a CD26 O!!


FX Gagrlinpitt!!

 

[Xokittycatxo]

Thank you ladies you are all be best! I feel a little pathetic for all my whining yesterday. I'm pretty sure my raging hormones are to blame. I did get some BD in last night although I'm not extremely optimistic. I believe I O yesterday morning since my opk from fmu was the darkest yet. Btw...I love the cbd opks! Anyway I also think I had O pain that day and that evening, late my bbs stared getting sore. FF will probably give me my cross hairs in cd 17 though because of my temp spike. Either way, if I get AF on day 27 that will give me a lp of 8 nearly 9 days!

Angel that's great about the earlier O, hopefully your lp get longer (or better yet, no af!). OH wouldn't ever watch a fertility movie. He has a child from a previous relationship that was an "accident" so that's what he bases making babies on. can't reason with the man.

Jezika thanks so much! Stress is horrible and being consumed by something we want so a badly and should be easy and natural for us is just so ....draining. You are right though, it will happen for us all when its the right time.

Kat I almost can't take walking through stores and seeing all the new babies and even the toddlers. You make a good point by reminding ourselves that some of these women may have struggled and we have no idea what their journey as like.
How are you feeling since your appointment? I'm very hopefully for you this cycle. Good vibes!

I had a long talk with a friend about karma and the power of positive thinking so I'm going to try to be happy for all the moms I see and picture myself pregnant.

So even though my chances aren't the BEST this cycle, I'm still technically in ther 2ww and I'm going to be optimistic.

 

[DBZ34]

Kitty- My DH was similar near the beginning of our journey TTC. He was impossible. So, don't feel bad for having a moan about him. I'm sure we've all felt similar at some point or another.


My DH wouldn't listen to a word I said about TTC or fertility. Then he had a doctor's appointment and the doctor did her dissertation on sperm and suddenly everything she said was the gospel truth, despite me having said the exact same thing to him before. I was annoyed, but I was also happy that he was finally starting to understand and make an effort. Fast forward a few years and he's an expert on my cycle and when we need to BD. lol. I hope this journey is much shorter for you though.

I hope your LP cooperates and lengthens for you this cycle!

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Thanks ladies. I had a really great appointment with the genetic and MFM doctor's. They are doing a C.F. Screening and checking my homocystine levels with the MTHFR. She wants me to start on prenatals as soon as the tests come back. Hopefully now I can be calm once my mirena comes out next week and we can go right into TTC #1!!