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I think Danes are generally pretty nationalistic and Danes living outside Denmark are even more so
She went nuts when I criticized Denmark. Nope never managed to make friends here except for 1 girl and she's adopted from India. I'm on friendly terms with most of DH's friends but that's it. It seems as the Danes stop making new friends after college. Unfortunately I was unfortunate when I started my Bachelor's as the girls knew each other (partly because of the trip they do before the studies start but I was ill and couldn't participate) so I was deemed out and the guys were also already in their friendship groups due to the trip so access denied
When I went on to my Master's (which involved not finishing my Bachelors as the system was a bit different than the American one at the time), I started not quit from the start so the students already had their friendship groups. They actually had a program once on foreigners that moved to Denmark and talked about how hard it is to make friends here. One woman (think she was from Sri lanka) moved here in her late 20s. She told a story about how she started talking to a Danish woman at her fitness center. After a few weeks of this, she mentioned to the Danish woman that maybe they could go for a cup of coffee or lunch one day. The Danish woman basically told her "No thanks, I have enough friends"
So yeah, the Danes are very difficult to become friends with, especially after college. I may have a chance when we have our baby because other mothers with children around the same age as mine will want to become frineds as our children will be able to play together.The job thing I'm dropping as I've sent hundreds of applications (close to 1000 in all over the first 2½ years of unemployment after my Master's plus the year after my Lab Tech degree) and get constantly rejected either due to no experience (how they expect me to get experience without a job, I don't know
) or I'm over qualified when I've applied below my educational level (I have a Masters in Biotechnology). I've also heard it's almost impossible to get an academic job here without connections and that seems to be true. I'm truely at a disadvantage as I didn't grow up in this country which means my parents didn't have a network of people in place. My mother has difficulties keeping friends (no surprise) and my father was very senile when we moved here so.... I took an extra education as a Lab Tech but it seems like they hold my Masters against me and deem me over qualified. Same goes for jobs at supermarkets and anything else of course. I think my Masters is now deemed unuseable at the moment since I got it in 2007 and they'd rather hire the newly graduated then me despite the fact that the education has been bad the last few years as the system is trying to help more people graduate so I'm actually a better graduate then the ones finishing now
So my current plan is when we have our baby and he/she is a bit older, I'll be trying to get a volunteer job at an animal shelter since I love animals and be satisfied with that. If I'm lucky, maybe the shelter will like me enough to train me to be an inspector and I'll be able to earn some money. But I'm not counting on it. Until then, I'll be a housewife.Yeah you're right about my mother. I know that's why. But it just stinks
My in-laws are luckily more interested and seem very supportive so nice to know they'll be involved grandparents. They're also a better influence. I've considered the fact my mother will be jealous of the baby as it'll take attention away from her and make us less available to "parent" her. Won't be letting her babysit at all when she doesn't even want my child to exist.
This is starting to get very nerve wracking especially since the hormones don't seem to be the issue now that I'm on Clomid. Of course when you google black spotting, the most scary things pop up. Part of me wants to be so hopeful that it's just a lot of leftovers from implantation, but it just seems like way too much for way too long at this point. 
I tried applying to a few places last year before DH and I decided to start TTCing before we get much older and it seemed like it was a bit difficult. The 2 places I wrote too seemed interested enough but said they had many volunteers and to try again in 1-2 months. So I'll probably need to start applying a few months before I really want to start. I can also hope that maybe they have a slightly harder time finding people when I start applying.
I guess he's about as bad of a listener as mine
joining. 33 and still TTC#1
At this point though, not going to miss any opportunities near O, so I don't need to be in the mood just available LOL 
I also adore your avatar!!
In Denmark, infertility is considered a disease so the state pays. The only thing that'll be costing us are the hormones but there's a max amount of what the state expects us to pay every month and then the state goes in and helps pay. Our RE has already sent our application so they're prepared.
