Anyone TTC #1 and 30 or older?

[Hollynesss]

Big House- The other girls took the words right out of my mouth Guys don't always get just how emotionally taxing TTC is for us. Every AF and every BFN we blame ourselves for it not happening. We feel like our bodies failed to to the most basic biological duty of a woman's body. Men don't feel that. They don't deal with that. The biggest argument that my husband and I had in regard to TTC was getting him to understand that women have an expiration date. We can't make babies until we die. We have a limited amount of time, and the more time you spend waiting, the fewer chances you have to conceive. Men just think on a different level than us, and can sometimes be insensitive without really thinking about what they're saying. I'm so glad he took the time to make things right with you It sounds like you have a really good man, and even the best of men are capable of saying hurtful things at times.

Zen- I understand all too well how you feel. I despise those months when you bd'd on all the right days, and with each passing day with no symptoms your heart just sinks. We can all relate to your pain, and we're here for you anytime you want to let it all out

Kat- good luck with the HSG!

As for me: I had a kinda darkish opk with pretty dilute urine, so hopefully I will actually be Oing soon! I sure hope so... I did give the ob/gyn a call, and the receptionist advised me to wait until after January 1st to book an appointment because our insurance is changing a lot come next year. I didn't know this, but it will actually be covering MORE for infertility come next year! Nothing near as great as Kat's coverage, but better than we have now.

 

[Hollynesss]

Update: POSITIVE OPK!!!

 

[zen108]

Update: POSITIVE OPK!!!

Go Holly Go!

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

Update: POSITIVE OPK!!!

YAY Holly! Better get DH and tonight....and tomorrow too!!

I took another OPK tonight and got another almost positive. So I'm hoping tomorrow morning

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

I tried to upload a pic of my almost positive OPK but I don't know if it will work!

 

[zen108]

Bighouse - Glad you and DH had a good chat.
MJ - Yes, this is one of my favorite thread.
Cutestuff - I agree with you. Sometimes we let this TTC take over our live and neglect other things.
Kat - Hope all goes well with the HSG
Holly - BD BD BD!!!
Fleur - Thanks. Weird to say this but hope your AF comes soon. I heard some ladies got pregnant after D & C before the first AF.

AFM - My chart is heading downhill. AF cramps are back. Feeling cold. But reading all these wise advises, make me very happy to be here.

 

[pihabella]

Yay Holly! Looks much better than any of mine MJsBabyShaw! Hope it gets there soon!

 

[bighouse]

It looks like Holly and MJ and I are all ovulating around the same time! Get busy BDing and later we can be testing buddies

The OPK I took this AM looked the most positive (darkest). I took another OPK mid-day (not quite as dark, but still darker than normal) and another tonight (not quite as dark, but still darker than normal, about the same as the mid-day one). I didn’t test last night, but I think if I had that would have been the darkest one (since the ones I did later today were lighter than the morning one). So I probably ovulated sometime today, don’t ya think?

We had some makeup BD early afternoon today so I hope it wasn’t too late. Could also still have some swimmers in there from Saturday. Let’s hope so!

 

[pihabella]

Mine was even lighter today so pretty sure I did ovulate thurs/fri last week, only time will tell I guess. This is so much harder than I thought it would be! Anyway we have dtd enough to cover all our bases and will continue for a bit longer just in case. Good luck with the BDing Holly, MJ and Bighouse over the next few days and with testing later in the month!

 

[Praying4BB]

Yay!! Happy BD'ing ladies!

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

Glad to have some testing buddies as well as some support during the dreaded TWW!

So my acupuncture appointment was not as happy as I had hoped

Doc is not thrilled that I am ovulating so late...should be cd14. So she wants me to get an antral follicle ultrasound to see how many eggs I have waiting in the wings so to speak. Ugh...I don't want to go down the route of doctors and tests and waiting for test results and then fighting to get them interpreted. It's sooooo annoying. Plus the last time I did that I got my FSH of 15.5 which sent me into a tailspin of hopelessness. My acupuncturist was my cheerleader back in late August when I started treatments...now she seems slightly discouraged and I'm starting to think that this might never happen for me

She also wants me to take progesterone after ovulation to build up my lining to help with implantation. So I'll try that this month. I already have a prescription that I was going to use after I got my BFP. Ughhhh...I guess I just wanted this to happen on it's own, and I was looking forward to not trying next year and being on of those girls that just gets pregnant from "relaxing". But if I'm on progesterone I can't relax because I have to monitor my stupid cycles. Why can't this just be easy

Ok, that's my sad story. I called my mom on my way home, then talked to DH about it. He was nice and listened to me and was his usual optimistic self.

 

[drjo718]

DrJo - welcome and I'm sorry you have been having such looooooong cycles! I am so impatient...I don't know how I would stand waiting to O However, even though I have pretty regular cycles, I guess I've been doing this TTC thing for about 9 months now so I am building up my patience waiting around to get pregnant! Have you already had your labs done? If not, you should get your TSH, T3 & T4, and your AMH and E2 along with FSH, Prolactin, LH, etc.

It's certainly frustrating having to wait months to ovulate. My TSH is normal, but I haven't had any other tests done. Sometime in the next few weeks I'm having FSH, LH, and prolactin checked. I'm not seeing a specialist yet, so hopefully my midwives can figure this out and I won't have to fork out the money for an RE.

 

[Fleur828815]

bighouse, so glad you patched things up with DH. So sweet of him to cancel his trip and come home to work things out.

zen, yeah it’s weird but since I’ve started TTC I’ve never been so impatient for AF to start!

Kat, of course you’d want to get in as many tries as you can. Never mind if the person who does the HSG is not friendly, ask all your questions even if it’s a bit intimidating, it’s their job to help you!

MJs, don’t give up yet. It is disheartening when nothing goes as you wish, especially if you were trying to take a more relaxed approach but it will all be worth it in the end. You know you can get pregnant, this is just a little push to help you along. We need to listen to our DHs more and not feel too pessimistic, we have to believe it WILL happen for us.

Yay Holly, get busy ! My DH also doesn’t understand when I say I’m worried I’ll be too old in a few years (plus he’s much younger). It’s good to know your insurance will provide more coverage and you have a backup plan just in case. I do hope this will be your lucky month and that you won’t have to resort to fertility treatment.

I know I’m not trying yet but I’m so excited for all of you and looking forward to a flurry of BFPs!

 

[KatO79]

Glad to have some testing buddies as well as some support during the dreaded TWW!

So my acupuncture appointment was not as happy as I had hoped

Doc is not thrilled that I am ovulating so late...should be cd14. So she wants me to get an antral follicle ultrasound to see how many eggs I have waiting in the wings so to speak. Ugh...I don't want to go down the route of doctors and tests and waiting for test results and then fighting to get them interpreted. It's sooooo annoying. Plus the last time I did that I got my FSH of 15.5 which sent me into a tailspin of hopelessness. My acupuncturist was my cheerleader back in late August when I started treatments...now she seems slightly discouraged and I'm starting to think that this might never happen for me

She also wants me to take progesterone after ovulation to build up my lining to help with implantation. So I'll try that this month. I already have a prescription that I was going to use after I got my BFP. Ughhhh...I guess I just wanted this to happen on it's own, and I was looking forward to not trying next year and being on of those girls that just gets pregnant from "relaxing". But if I'm on progesterone I can't relax because I have to monitor my stupid cycles. Why can't this just be easy

Ok, that's my sad story. I called my mom on my way home, then talked to DH about it. He was nice and listened to me and was his usual optimistic self.

Awwww so sorry MJs

Does your doc want you to O CD14 or just around that day because it sounds a bit strange it has to be that day? I know how much testing stinks, I've been through a few now and none of them are fun but I think it's good to get some answers, positive or negative, so you can take the steps you need to take to have your baby. I know when I do get pregnant and have my baby, it'll all have been so worth it. The testing, the monitoring, going through IUI (hopefully it'll be IUI), ect. It's what's keeping me going really. It stinks that we can't be one of those girls who relaxes and gets their BFP but unfortunately, life isn't always fair

If it helps anything I was super stressed and going insane during cycle #7 because the CBFM was being weird (not giving me any Highs even though it had done so the previous cycle) and my FertileCM pills were giving me some strange changes in CM during my fertile period (another stress factor) but I managed to get pregnant anyway, it just didn't stick

bighouse, so glad you patched things up with DH. So sweet of him to cancel his trip and come home to work things out.

zen, yeah it’s weird but since I’ve started TTC I’ve never been so impatient for AF to start!

Kat, of course you’d want to get in as many tries as you can. Never mind if the person who does the HSG is not friendly, ask all your questions even if it’s a bit intimidating, it’s their job to help you!

MJs, don’t give up yet. It is disheartening when nothing goes as you wish, especially if you were trying to take a more relaxed approach but it will all be worth it in the end. You know you can get pregnant, this is just a little push to help you along. We need to listen to our DHs more and not feel too pessimistic, we have to believe it WILL happen for us.

Yay Holly, get busy ! My DH also doesn’t understand when I say I’m worried I’ll be too old in a few years (plus he’s much younger). It’s good to know your insurance will provide more coverage and you have a backup plan just in case. I do hope this will be your lucky month and that you won’t have to resort to fertility treatment.

I know I’m not trying yet but I’m so excited for all of you and looking forward to a flurry of BFPs!

Yeah I do but we'll see how I feel after that HSG, I'm assuming I won't be able to BD CD11 but we'll see how much I'm cramping and bleeding that night. I'm hoping the person who does my HSG isn't in such a bad mood as it's always easier to ask questions if the person seems friendly and in a good mood. I'm a bit shy already so it'd be even harder for me to ask something if he/she doesn't seem friendly and acts like they just want to get me in and out as quickly as possible. Otherwise I might be able to ask my RE when I call her that day with the results as I'm assuming she knows about HSG and the results. If the results are positive and both tubes are open with no other issues, then I don't think I'll have too many questions anyway and will be just having a little party

 

[bighouse]

MJ- Hang in there, don't give up! I know it's tough.

I'm starting oral progesterone this cycle too (used it before when we were not actively TTC, just restrating now for the first time during active TTC). How much are you taking? How far into your pregnancy does your dr want you to continue it?

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

MJ- Hang in there, don't give up! I know it's tough.

I'm starting oral progesterone this cycle too (used it before when we were not actively TTC, just restrating now for the first time during active TTC). How much are you taking? How far into your pregnancy does your dr want you to continue it?

My prescription is for 200mg...seems like a lot. I think I'm supposed to take it though the end of the first trimester. What days do you take it? I have heard from other ladies that they start 3 days after ovulation (so that the ovulation is confirmed) and continue through 14DPO...at which point they will test....you have to test because the progesterone can prevent AF, and you can't just stop the P because if you are pregnant stopping P could cause a miscarriage. Is that how you understand it?

All - at work right now so will respond to everyone later during a break, but just wanted to say thank you for the support and encouragement!!

 

[bighouse]

I'm taking 100mg starting at ovulation. So I've only taken 2 doses so far. But my doc said 100mg was the starting dose- it could go all the way up to 500mg if needed. I do remember reading about needing to continue it through the 1st trimester to prevent miscarriage but thanks for the reminder. I'm a bit nervous about taking it but maybe it will help.

 

[Hollynesss]

MJ- I wondered the same thing as Kat about CD14. I know that is the average for women, but a lot of women O on later days and still have normal length cycles. I usually O on or about CD18 and have a 30-32 day cycle, which is considered normal.

I'm excited to have TWW buddies!! Lots of to us and to everyone in this thread

 

[Praying4BB]

I just got done with my saline ultrasound (actually not an hsg, apparently a newer seperate thing?) My RE said "fortunately or unfortunately, everything is all clear." I feel exactly the same way- I was preparing for the worst and I am relieved there aren't polyps, fibroids, or worse. But a little part of me wishes the spotting was something that is explainable and fixable. We are back to hormones. My RE prescribed progesterone suppositories to start 4 days after the pos. opk. to see if that works.

I am really feeling sick of all this today. It was a busy day at the clinic and everyone seemed short and in a hurry. This is a big freaking deal to us and not the easiest stuff to deal with. It makes me so sad to see all the other couples in the waiting room. All of us and our futures at the whims of these doctors and insurance companies... making so much money off our misfortunes. And for what to show in the end? Maybe nothing! Sorry for the rant. I am just very frustrated right now and mad at myself for not having more faith and just letting God work out the timing.

 

[cutestuff]

I just got done with my saline ultrasound (actually not an hsg, apparently a newer seperate thing?) My RE said "fortunately or unfortunately, everything is all clear." I feel exactly the same way- I was preparing for the worst and I am relieved there aren't polyps, fibroids, or worse. But a little part of me wishes the spotting was something that is explainable and fixable. We are back to hormones. My RE prescribed progesterone suppositories to start 4 days after the pos. opk. to see if that works.

I am really feeling sick of all this today. It was a busy day at the clinic and everyone seemed short and in a hurry. This is a big freaking deal to us and not the easiest stuff to deal with. It makes me so sad to see all the other couples in the waiting room. All of us and our futures at the whims of these doctors and insurance companies... making so much money off our misfortunes. And for what to show in the end? Maybe nothing! Sorry for the rant. I am just very frustrated right now and mad at myself for not having more faith and just letting God work out the timing.

Hi praying. I know how you feel. sometimes I get angry when I see pregnant women or when I read stories about people killing their babies or abusing them in some horrific way and I think about people on this site who would probably give anything to be a mom and they aren't. I think you have the right attitude. At least you know everything is okay with you. If still no luck in a couple months, maybe have your husband tested... My husband and I just decided if we do not have any luck in the next couple of years we will get to a doctor, but I have decided not to rush it and not to stress about it mostly because there is nothing I can do to control or change it and if by the time I am 31/32 years old nothing has happened, it will be long enough to really convince the docs and start on whatever treatment is recommended. I think you should count your blessings and keep trusting God. He knows your wants, needs, and fears and I have always found that when I trust or when I hit rock bottom, there is always something that happens to show me that I am not alone.