Anyone TTC #1 and 30 or older?

[MJsBabyShaw]

Update on me....I'm 5DPO today. Have no symptoms at all....last cycle I had really sore boobs starting on 4DPO all the way through AF. This time, nothing. And I'm on progesterone for the first time during my LP; hopefully that helps build my lining so that the egg implants.

I know I've said this a million times already, but I still don't understand how I got pregnant the first month we tried if I have supposedly bad eggs. Maybe beginners luck? I have an appointment to see a new OB on Dec 12th. Assuming this cycle doesn't work, the new OB will ultrasound my ovaries to see what's going on there. I'm reconsidering getting the AMH test. Part of me is hoping that my high FSH was a fluke and that my AMH test will be good news? But what does it matter either way if I can't even get pregnant? I'm looking forward to next Wednesday when I can test....the TWW is really hard for me.

 

[KatO79]

Thank you cutestuff, that was beautifully said and so true. It's easy to lose track of what we do have when we're all caught up in TTC.

Good luck drjo, we're all rooting for you!

MJs, what you're going through is so unfair. Adoption is not for everyone, but is there any reason why you only want to try till next year? Or do you mean stopping actively TTCing and just NTNP?

Next year I'll turn 35 and DH will be almost 41. It's mostly due to DH's age and worrying that we'll be too old and tired to be parents. I know it sounds silly, but there has to be a point when we just accept that it's not working and that we are getting too old. If DH and I were the same age I might try until I was 37, but even then I get nervous about the increased chance for birth defects, etc.

Awww MJs I'm 35 now but turn 36 in May while DH is 37 and turns 38 in July. I don't think you're starting to push things until you're in your mid-40s but that's me. My mom was 41 when she had me and my dad was 52. My dad was probably too old really but what an amazing father I had, so loving and attentative. I don't know how I would've developed if not for him with the self-absorbed mother I had. I lost him when I was 20 in 1999 to lymph cancer. Then there's my brother and his wife who were 45 and almost 47 when they had their first and only child through IVF after 5 years of struggling, a healthy daughter (she just turned 7 two days ago).

It's of course your decision but lots of women are having healthy babies into their 40s. I don't think you and your DH are getting "too old" yet

Here's hoping you soon get your sticky BFP and won't have to worry about making that decision

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

Thanks, Kat. You're so sweet! We'll see; in my heart I feel like I'll get my BFP in 2015...if I start to think about it too much then I begin to feel hopeless like it will never happen.

But, if I get to the end of the year and no then maybe I'll tell DH that I think we should give it just one more year of NTNP....at that point DH will probably think there's no risk of me actually getting a sticky pregnancy....since at that point it will have been almost 2 years since my one and only BFP.

 

[drjo718]

Hi ladies, hope everyone is having a good day!
12dpo here, still waiting to poas.

Still planning to test on Wednesday?? Do you temp? If so, how are your temps looking? Good luck!

I don't temp. I work nights and don't sleep well so I think interpreting the temps would stress me out. Plus this is CD60 so I'd probably go crazy. Thinking I'll test tomorrow if no AF overnight, just bc Thursday is DF and my anniversary so it would be fun to give him a little gift to announce a positive. Feeling crampy off an on so not expecting one.

 

[Hollynesss]

Whew, I was WAY behind on this thread!! Finally got caught up

Kat- Excellent news! Lots of to you

Cute- Thank you for your kind words I am not religious, but I do believe that biologically things will work out as they are meant to. I hope for all of us that this means blazing BFPs

MJ- Hopelessness is so easy to succumb to in this process. I've got everything crossed for you this cycle!

Drjo- I'm DYING to see your test results!!

Bighouse- any symptoms?!

Zen, Crystal, Fleur, pihabella and Tigger- Thinking about all of you guys, but don't have anything specific to say!

As for me: CD6, and have been too busy to symptom spot! I'm nearing the end of the semester and have been working like mad on everything I have due next week so I don't have to worry about it over Thanksgiving. Ill be MIA for the next 5 days as I'll be visiting family, but I'll catch up with you all on Monday! I hope you all have a fabulous Thanksgiving (those in the US), and to those outside the US, have a wonderful weekend!!

 

[zen108]

Update on me....I'm 5DPO today. Have no symptoms at all....last cycle I had really sore boobs starting on 4DPO all the way through AF. This time, nothing. And I'm on progesterone for the first time during my LP; hopefully that helps build my lining so that the egg implants.

I know I've said this a million times already, but I still don't understand how I got pregnant the first month we tried if I have supposedly bad eggs. Maybe beginners luck? I have an appointment to see a new OB on Dec 12th. Assuming this cycle doesn't work, the new OB will ultrasound my ovaries to see what's going on there. I'm reconsidering getting the AMH test. Part of me is hoping that my high FSH was a fluke and that my AMH test will be good news? But what does it matter either way if I can't even get pregnant? I'm looking forward to next Wednesday when I can test....the TWW is really hard for me.

Hi MJ. I have the same question too. Conceived immediately first time. I kept blaming myself for the crappy D & C that might have caused some scar adhesion or more endo, I don't know.

And I was so sure I can get pregnant again since I did fell pregnant the first time. And then I blamed myself for taking too long a break before trying. And now nothing for a year.

Honestly, I missed being pregnant though it was only 6 weeks.

I wanted to have a baby by 35. Now that time already passed. Will be 36 next July and DH 40. Imagine if we really have a kid, by the time he/she is 20, DH will be 60, yikes!

 

[zen108]

Thanks Holly! Enjoy your holidays!

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

Update on me....I'm 5DPO today. Have no symptoms at all....last cycle I had really sore boobs starting on 4DPO all the way through AF. This time, nothing. And I'm on progesterone for the first time during my LP; hopefully that helps build my lining so that the egg implants.

I know I've said this a million times already, but I still don't understand how I got pregnant the first month we tried if I have supposedly bad eggs. Maybe beginners luck? I have an appointment to see a new OB on Dec 12th. Assuming this cycle doesn't work, the new OB will ultrasound my ovaries to see what's going on there. I'm reconsidering getting the AMH test. Part of me is hoping that my high FSH was a fluke and that my AMH test will be good news? But what does it matter either way if I can't even get pregnant? I'm looking forward to next Wednesday when I can test....the TWW is really hard for me.

Hi MJ. I have the same question too. Conceived immediately first time. I kept blaming myself for the crappy D & C that might have caused some scar adhesion or more endo, I don't know.

And I was so sure I can get pregnant again since I did fell pregnant the first time. And then I blamed myself for taking too long a break before trying. And now nothing for a year.

Honestly, I missed being pregnant though it was only 6 weeks.

I wanted to have a baby by 35. Now that time already passed. Will be 36 next July and DH 40. Imagine if we really have a kid, by the time he/she is 20, DH will be 60, yikes!

I didn't realize that you got pregnant your first try as well! Infertility after miscarriage is so cruel...I miss being pregnant too, even though I only experienced it for 11 days. I miss being excited and thinking of names and imagining my life with DH as a family. I didn't have a D&C because it was so early. Even though we've been trying since February, we've only had 6 cycles of BFNs after the miscarriage....I spent two cycles doing acupuncture to try to get my eggs healthy, so we prevented for those two months. Hopefully this cycle (#7 trying) will be the one!

Last month, during my TWW which resulted in my 6th BFN, I had a dream that my due date was August 11th. At the time of my dream I didn't know that I was out that month. Interestingly, I ended up ovulating about 4 days later than normal this month, so if I DO get my BFP this cycle, my due date would be August 11th! It's a little weird since I had that dream way back in late October. I would be really awesome if I get pregnant this month, but I'm not getting my hopes up.

 

[zen108]

Yeah, infertility after a pregnancy sucks.

Wow, I read so many ladies dreamt about BFP and sure enough they got it. I dreamt about BFP last month during the 2WW, but ended up with AF.

Hope it's really true for you.

 

[bighouse]

zen- my DH will be 40 soon too. But, he looks 28 and will probably outlive me LOL.

Holly- just sore BB's! I actually had a lot more symptoms the past few months (which have all been BFNs) so I'm wondering if the fact that I'm feeling different from BFN months could be a good sign? I have a feeling that at least 1-2 of those months when I had more "symptoms" but ended up with AF might have been early losses. In Sept and Oct I had one day each month (during the TWW) where I felt miserably ill (mostly stomach/abdominal/GI symptoms, the abdominal pain almost sent me to the ER) but 24 hours later I was fine. One of my recent periods was also almost double the normal length (which has NEVER happened in my life), so I wonder if it was an early MC.

I have really felt the itch to test the past 2 mornings but didn't. I planned to start testing on Thurs but what the heck I'll waste some $ testing tomorrow AM FMU just to appease my POAS need Still too early but maybe I'll splurge and do FRER.

 

[Fleur828815]

MJs, only you and DH can decide till when you feel comfortable trying but you're definitely not too old. I also get panicky when I think about my age, because everything I've read mentions that the risks etc. are higher after 35, but I can't let that stop me. I'm 33 soon and many of my friends haven't started TTC yet, and I know so many women who've had healthy babies in their late 30s/early 40s. In my peer group there's hardly anyone who had a baby under the age of 30. Ideally I wanted 2 kids before I was 30, then 35, now I'm hoping for 1 before 35! Fingers crossed for a 11 August 2015 due date for you.

zen and MJs, I also fell pregnant within a few months and now I'm so scared it was just a fluke and it won't happen again, or I'll end up with another miscarriage.

Good luck bighouse! I've realised that symptoms don't really mean much, so a lack of symptoms doesn't rule out pregnancy.

Thanks for checking in Hollyness, happy holidays!

Kat, did you manage to get any action in last night?

 

[KatO79]

MJs, only you and DH can decide till when you feel comfortable trying but you're definitely not too old. I also get panicky when I think about my age, because everything I've read mentions that the risks etc. are higher after 35, but I can't let that stop me. I'm 33 soon and many of my friends haven't started TTC yet, and I know so many women who've had healthy babies in their late 30s/early 40s. In my peer group there's hardly anyone who had a baby under the age of 30. Ideally I wanted 2 kids before I was 30, then 35, now I'm hoping for 1 before 35! Fingers crossed for a 11 August 2015 due date for you.

zen and MJs, I also fell pregnant within a few months and now I'm so scared it was just a fluke and it won't happen again, or I'll end up with another miscarriage.

Good luck bighouse! I've realised that symptoms don't really mean much, so a lack of symptoms doesn't rule out pregnancy.

Thanks for checking in Hollyness, happy holidays!

Kat, did you manage to get any action in last night?

Yes, it seems DH was in the mood but it's also been a few days since last time I think the HSG may have dried me out so I used Conceive Plus last night. I haven't been drinking anything with caffeine which usually dries me out (so I avoid coffee, cola ect. in my fertile period) so don't know why else. I'll see how my CM is today though, haven't really checked it yet.

Not sure how much I have left of the Conceive Plus but otherwise have some Preseed if need be. Guess we'll have to order some more for December Think this time I'll order Conceive Plus in those applicators because using the Preseed applicators for it is a bit of a mess

We were thinking of trying again tonight as well

 

[zen108]

Bighouse - yeah, everyone says DH looks like my younger brother, LOL
Fleur - don't worry. Some ppl got pregnant quite fast after d&c. I waited too long.

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

Bighouse - what DPO are you today? Hoping you get to see two pink lines this week!! I also have a lack of symptoms this cycle. Last cycle my boobs were killing me and I had great temps, but AF was really light....my acupuncturist thinks my egg was fertilized but that implantation didn't stick because my lining wasn't thick enough so now that's why I'm taking progesterone. Sounds like you might have had a super early loss...things have to be just perfect to get pregnant, that's why there's only like a 20% chance each cycle of it working. Man, making a human is so HARD!!

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

Fleur - like zen said, don't let us scare you. Chances are really good that you will be able to get pregnant again within the normal 6-month window. And repeat miscarriages are not very common...don't google or read forums too much or you'll get a skewed perspective. Just think positively! I was pretty positive before I got my high FSH test result. Getting that test done was a mistake....I got my blood work done to make myself feel better and relax about my chances and all it did was make me miserable and take away my hope.

 

[Dmbaby]

Hey ladies

Me and my partner have been trying to conceive for around 8 months. I'm 30 and he is 37.

I've been using the ovulation tests for the last 6 months but I'm still not pregnant. Is anyone one else having the same issues?

Thanks

 

[drjo718]

BFN for me today at 14dpo. Just waiting for AF now. Trying 100 mg of clomid this next cycle.

 

[bighouse]

MJ- I wouldnt get too hung up on the FSH results. I'm not saying that they aren't important, or that I wouldn't have the same feelings, but just remember that other things (like stress etc) can affect FSH levels too. I wouldn't base all my hopes/fears/feelings on one bad test. Maybe you could have it run again to see if it has changed? And get the AMH test done too? If the FSH results have already made you lose hope and be miserable, you have nowhere to go but up, right? So maybe the results of AMH and FSH retest will have some good news that could change your outlook?

I think I'm 10 dpo today. And I messed up my plan to use FMU this morning (last night I stayed up almost all night dealing with a sick pet, so my sleep/wake/pee schedule was wacky) so I think I'll just stick with the original plan and wait until tomorrow AM to test. If I did get a BFP it would sure make it a special THANKSgiving, plus DH will be off work so I would not have to wait all day to share the news. But, I'm not getting my hopes up... I don't have a great feeling about this cycle. DH keeps getting after me for not "thinking positive"... but the past months when I did think positive turned out to be huge letdowns! My theory is that if I don't get my hopes up, it is less depressing when AF comes.

I think I might have had a similar experience to yours the past few months- egg getting fertilized and didn't stick, or implanted for a short time but didn't stay. You are right, making a human is so hard... but some women make it look too EASY (all the "accidents" and beans that stick despite being on BC!)

Drjo- sorry to hear you got a BFN today, but just remember you aren't out until the witch comes! There's still a chance

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

Hey ladies

Me and my partner have been trying to conceive for around 8 months. I'm 30 and he is 37.

I've been using the ovulation tests for the last 6 months but I'm still not pregnant. Is anyone one else having the same issues?

Thanks

I got pregnant the first month we tried (I was 33 and DH had just turned 39). I miscarried early and just completed my 6th cycle post-miscarriage with no new pregnancies.

Using OPKs doesn't 100% guarantee that you are ovulating; you can only confirm that you are ovulating by charting your temperatures and/or having an ultrasound done on your ovaries. You're still young at 30, but I would schedule an appointment with your OB in a couple months if you still aren't pregnant. Your OB will likely recommend that your partner have a sperm analysis done and your doctor might issue some blood work for you.

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

Drjo - that sucks. I hate seeing BFNs. Are you sure that you are really 14DPO? Maybe you ovulated late?? Like bighouse said, you aren't out until AF comes! If you aren't pregnant this cycle, will you get your CD3 blood work done? That should (hopefully) tell you that everything is fine and that it's just a matter of time before you get pregnant again.

bighouse - thanks so much for the encouraging words. I know I shouldn't get hung up on the FSH....and I was VERY stressed in the months leading up to getting that test done, so I'm praying that it was just stress that caused it. Unfortunately, from what I've read, even if I got a low FSH reading in another month it doesn't mean anything. Just ONE bad FSH test = doom & gloom. It's pretty stupid, actually....I mean, what if I just happened to have a GOOD reading that month and every other month would have been a bad reading?? FSH tends to bounce around, apparently. So....that leads me to agreeing with you that maybe a good AMH test result would boost my spirits. On the downside, a bad AMH test result would make me lose all hope. So I'm not quite sure which road to take!!

Good luck with testing tomorrow and I hope your pet feels better today!