Anyone TTC #1 and 30 or older?

[MJsBabyShaw]

I really want to test tomorrow but I'm going to make myself hurry up and pee as soon as I wake up so that all of my FMU is in the toilet!! I have to make myself wait until Wednesday...I always want to test early because I am so hopeful for good news but then I get a stupid bfn and I get all depressed.

If I do end up taking a break it will be a complete break in order to stop obsessing....like, I am planning to stop talking about it to my mom, friends, even DH. So that's why I'm thinking I might leave the boards too...I feel like just stopping the tracking of my cycles isn't enough...I need to just totally let go. Focus on other things, and if my family asks I will just tell then that we aren't trying anymore. I feel like that is the only way to really "give up" so to speak. I miss being with DH just for fun. I miss not caring when I ovulate. It makes me wonder if I don't want this enough??

 

[deafgal01]

MJ- a break will do you a world of good. I took a nice break and during that time, I rarely came on bnb to check on the ladies. I went out and had fun with my husband and I didn't do anything to track my cycles aside from the first day of af.

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

Thanks deafgal. I hope I get my BFP this or next month, but if not, I think I will take a break....but until then, I'm TTC full force!! But now....I am just waiting

 

[deafgal01]

Best of luck to you MJ. I hope you get that bfp!

 

[Hollynesss]

Hi ladies! I hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving I had a wonderful holiday, it was the first time in 5 years I was able to go home to see my family! We ate too much, played Cards Against Humanity, went sledding (it snowed the whole time!) and did a little bit of shopping. Its a shame I have to go back to work tomorrow!

I tested when we got home today, and I'm 11dpo, and I'm going to test again in the morning, but I would have expected it to show up by now. Lame :/

Bighouse and drjo- so sorry to hear about your bfns Mj, hoping to hear some good news from you!

 

[deafgal01]

Cards against humanity is the best game, isn't it? I love playing it when I go to my friend's house for Black Friday.

 

[Hollynesss]

Omg, its the best game ever, deafgal!! I had never played it before. It was a little awkward playing with my mother, but I've never laughed so hard in my entire life!

 

[bighouse]

I am 14dpo and AF is due today. I tested yesterday FMU (BFN) so when AF didn't show this morning I tested FMU again (with a cheapie) and saw a faint line! I had never seen even a faint line on a preg test before (they have been stark white, no squinter or anything) so I started to get all excited and took a FRER to confirm, but that was a stark white BFN. I was trying to figure out why, then I realized that in my early morning half-asleep stupor, the first test I took (where I saw the faint line) was an OPK! Talk about a letdown.

The only good news is that AF still hasn't showed up. She has been irregular lately, but when she is off schedule it is almost always early (not late). So I'm going to take that as a good sign.

Every time I have gone to the bathroom this weekend I have gotten a little more excited each time I didn't see any blood! It feels strange to leave the bathroom somewhat giddy LOL.

I know some people say that when they got pregnant they got a BFN when their period was due and it didn't turn positive until days or even a week after. So I'm holding out hope as long as the witch stays away!

DH and I did have a discussion today about starting the adoption paperwork. He is on board with that and/or seeing more doctors... but I'm not sure that I can handle more doctors. I really don't think I want to go further down that rabbit trail. I think we will TTC for one more cycle, and if we don't get a BFP by the end of the year, start the adoption paperwork in January.

 

[deafgal01]

Bighouse that sucks about opk giving you false hopes. You're right, not out of the game until the af shows.

I learned a few things from the game. Last year I learned about a female thing that goes in women- the word for it I forgot but we looked it up and saw a pic of it. Then this year we were playing it and my friend showed me a pic of some kind of sex scene where two girls poop into a cup and then eat the poop out of the cup and kiss each other after. YUCK... So disgusting.

 

[bighouse]

Hollyness- the last time we played cards against humanity, it was with our Bible study group from church... LOL. It was all young-ish married couples (we are the oldest) and we had a blast. I laughed so hard I cried. My mascara was running all over my face (I didn't think I needed to wear waterproof mascara to Bible study!!) And apparently I was the most terrible person in the group because I won

 

[deafgal01]

omg you played with your church group?! That's brave!!!!!!!!

 

[bighouse]

Still no AF, still BFN (tested again this morning FMU), but I just read a bunch of posts from ladies who didn't get any BFP until 4-5 days after AF was due, so that has given me some hope!

 

[deafgal01]

Yep, ain't out til AF shows.

 

[Hollynesss]

Bighouse, that is definitely brave!!! Deaf gal, I think you're thinking of dental dam I had no clue what that was either. My mom won our game!

Another bfn for me today, so I think I'm out. AF is due tomorrow or Wednesday, but not even a squinter at 12dpo. I'm going to call the obgyn today to schedule an appt for a work up.

Also, I have done the exact same thing before, big house! I got all excited then realized it was an OPK

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

Holly - welcome back! Glad you had a nice holiday with your family. I have never played that game before, but I think I might pick it up for when my family comes to visit for Christmas. My mom, dad, sister, brother and brother's girlfriend are staying at our house for a whole week!! Whew! Sorry about the BFN...there's still time, but I would be bummed with a BFN at 12DPO.

Bighouse - that is so terrible that you used an OPK! Oh, how heartbreaking...totally something that I would have done in the early morning when still half-asleep!

My temp went down .1 today to 98.0, but I can't really read into my temps at all while taking progesterone. They will just stay pretty high until I stop taking it. This morning I wanted to test so badly...I'm 11 DPO today. But I didn't...I made myself pee right when I got up so that I didn't have a chance to test! I just want Wednesday to come so I can find out already!!

 

[KatO79]

Never heard of that game but from what I read on the net, it doesn't sound like anything my conservative in-laws would play

I'm 5 dpo and am trying not to symptom spot as it just results in disappointment when AF shows up so I'm just trying to find ways to keep myself busy until then.

Yet another annoyance: one of my friends whom I met during my Lab Tech studies started studying for her Bachelor's in chemistry/biochemistry. She hasn't been keeping up with it and dropped going to the lectures because a guy she was interested in wasn't into her (someone she met from Tindr) and she spiralled into a bit of depression (she has huge self-esteem issues). Anyway now exams are soon coming up and she asked us if we could help her study for the chemistry one (plus some of the other subjects). So we let her come by a little over 1 week ago and it seems as if she hasn't been following at all from day 1 as she's almost clueless. The problem is it's been 13-14 years since I took these classes and a bit longer for DH so a lot of this stuff is pretty much forgotten by both of us, despite the fact my DH is a Chemical Engineer, he works in oil so doesn't use a lot of the "basic" stuff like orbitals, naming of chemicals, ect in his daily work since oil is a whole new study entirely. We didn't get very far last time, partly due to her coming over 2 hours late and partly because I don't think she studies at home. Then there's her nightmare of a roommate bothering her that's distracting her. I'm sure she seriously thinks we can reach to get her on par so she'll pass but we just don't have the time as weekends will soon be being used to buy tons of Christmas presents plus we'd also like some quiet time for ourselves during the weekends

I think the problem is she lacks the drive and the discipline needed to get through this course of study She was often lazy during her Lab Tech study and sometimes got high grades she really didn't deserve e.g. for her final report she wrote something completely wrong that didn't fit in with what theoretically was going on biochemically. I used what I do remember plus some article searching and figured out what was really happening but it was too late as she'd already handed in the report. The report was also a mess to read, the structure was bad and she also repeated herself. Despite this, she get a very high grade That won't be happening at this university as I've gone there myself. Then there was our first written test where she did nothing the whole semester while I crammed on doing lots of exercises. About 20 minutes before the exam, she started studying She of course got only a passing grade while I got the highest grade possible. I just don't know what to do with her

 

[bighouse]

Well, AF has made her arrival

 

[Cutelollie]

Hi dearies, I'm 27 and have been having irregular mentruarion since I turned 13, thought I'll out-grow it but still continues, some years that passed I saw my mensis just twice in a year, now I'm on TTC, and was advices to take PregnantCare Conception, my doctor told me that it will help in correcting and producing the right hormone for conception, I don't know if anyone who has used this medication, I haven't seen testinonials of it, so please, I need advice from you all. Thanks a bunch.

 

[cutestuff]

I have never heard of that game, but I have played a game called apples to apples and I think the idea might be similar from what it sounds like. Bighouse, I am sorry for your period. that sucks....Its hard to really stay positive when you never seem to get what you want, but I am sure we will get there eventually....As for Kat... I know what you mean about studying with people who do not carry their own weight. I just completed my masters degree in health care administration through UOP- despite what you hear, if you do the work, it is a worth while education as the material is more relevant to the career than a traditional school. Anyway we had learning teams there to help us deal with working environments when people don't always view the workplace like we do.. The point is there were times when I had to carry people and because it was a shared grade, they got credit for my work. Though they did have an evaluation in the end where you could talk about your team and the individual members...

Good luck with that....
Welcome lollie...

 

[Fleur828815]

Yeah I guess she forgot or doesn't empathize much with what I'm going through since I'm struggling with TTC#1 and she got pregnant very easily at 36 with #1. Her issues were with #2 when she hit 40 and had him at 42. So maybe she just doesn't get it? Her and my SIL (had her daughter at 46 after a 5 year struggle) feel I'm so young at 35 so it'll happen soon enough, they don't get my fertility has halved already Don't think they realize that you can have issues at mid-30s (or for that sake even earlier) and think it's first when you're 40 or over that it starts getting problematic I don't feel like discussing it with them because it'd be a waste of time

Yes she's very trying to talk to. When it's over the phone, she talks most of the time about the same issues: the economy, her stocks and how there are too many foreigners or that the unemployed are lazy (gee, thanks ma). Her most recent trip is that the government should do away with unemployment checks so people pull themselves together and get jobs instead of sponging off of society DH tried to tell her that jobs aren't so easy to come by anymore like when she was young (where a degree of any kind practically garanteed you a job) and people need something to live off of while they're jobhunting if they've been so unfortunate to be fired. She wouldn't budge She's very opinionated and impossible to discuss anything with. She used to call me every day (except weekends) to talk for 1 hour each time about topics like this, very trying and I normally barely get a word in edgewise.

Not only did I have to put up with her Wednesday night but now I'll have to put up with DH's narcissistic friend almost all Saturday He got his Masters after 18 years and fully expects to get a job handed to him and can't understand why no one is interested. Don't think he send many applications as he feels it should be easy for him to get a job. He didn't learn from my experiences apparently and I only took 6½ years to finish my degree. Every time he talks about it, he asks me how my job hunting is going and I have to keep repeating each time I see him that I'm on hiatus until DH and I have our baby but he'll ask again next time I see him. Last time he also wanted me to see his resume, as if I care about his resume He doesn't want kids himself (he'd be a horrible, self-absorbed father so here's hoping) so I don't think it interests him the slightest, hence why he keeps forgetting DH and I are TTCing

This weekend is generally going to be bad as DH is going to a Christmas luncheon with his collegues tonight (wives and husbands are never invited to the business ones here), my Saturday in Sweden with DH's annoying friend and then Sunday we have to help DH's big brother move to his new house since him and his wife are divorcing and have sold their house. As a precaution I've told DH I won't be moving anything really heavy.

Sorry for the rant

Hope you're doing OK Fleur. I can just imagine how trying it'd be to have many friends announcing their pregnancies now But I guess this one isn't so bad as she had issues conceiving I would be more upset with any friend who got pregnant by accident or conceived very quickly to be honest. Here's hoping you soon get your sticky bfp

Thanks for asking Kat. I'm doing better, I'm trying not to think about baby-related stuff at all. It actually gives me hope when my friends who've struggled manage to fall pregnant. When I told DH about her, he asked if April is when we were due too... (It was May). It irritated me that he didn't even remember the date anymore when he was so excited about the due date being around his birthday.

Hod did your Saturday with DH's friend go?