Anyone TTC #1 and 30 or older?

[dede3124]

Mj - good luck on your appointment!

Fluer - I hope I don't!

Thanks ladies!

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

drjo - that's great news! Are you being monitored this cycle so that you can confirm ovulation? Grab DH and have fun BDing!! Hopefully the increased clomid does the trick!

DH and I just bought a brand new car 2 months ago (one week later DH found out he was being laid off, so that sucked). This morning when I was parking my car at work I accidentally scraped the side of a parked car! So now my car has a giant scuff on the front and I've done some paint damage to the other car. Thankfully the lady whose car I messed up was very nice and understanding. But we'll have to foot the bills, of course. Just another crappy thing to add to my list of crappy things in 2014! Sigh. Sorry for the rant.

I'm CD8 today....will probably start the every other day BDing on CD10. My whole family (mom, dad, bro, sis, and bro's girlfriend) is staying with us for a week and they come into town when I'm CD17 so hopefully I've ovulated by then, otherwise we're going to have to get busy all secret-like!!

 

[drjo718]

drjo - that's great news! Are you being monitored this cycle so that you can confirm ovulation? Grab DH and have fun BDing!! Hopefully the increased clomid does the trick!

The only monitoring I have is a CD21 blood draw for progesterone to confirm ovulation. It's scheduled for Tuesday but I'm thinking about rescheduling for Friday so that will be closer to 7dpo.

 

[Mangos]

DH and I just bought a brand new car 2 months ago (one week later DH found out he was being laid off, so that sucked). This morning when I was parking my car at work I accidentally scraped the side of a parked car! So now my car has a giant scuff on the front and I've done some paint damage to the other car. Thankfully the lady whose car I messed up was very nice and understanding. But we'll have to foot the bills, of course. Just another crappy thing to add to my list of crappy things in 2014! Sigh. Sorry for the rant.

Awww MJBabyShaw, days like that get you so frustrated! Glad the lady was understanding. Hope you didn't stress too much, easier said then done I know.

LOL @ getting busy in secret, hey maybe that will make it more exciting LOL!

I'm 33 and DH is 39. DD is 6 years old and we're TTC #2

 

[bighouse]

MJ- that's funny, because I am CD 9 today and have house guests arriving on CD 16! We're a day apart on both of those things, LOL!

Holly- when my husband had his SA done, they had preliminary results to his doctor same day! We went to the lab for the collection in the AM, and then went to the doctors office in the afternoon for the results. I think it took 2-3 days for the "official"/expanded results, but the preliminary results had everything we needed (count, motility, morphology, etc). I was thankful we didn't have to wait in suspense very long.

However this was done through a well known HUGE hospital (their ART lab) so maybe the smaller clinics are slower.

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

Drjo - if I were you I'd reschedule the appt since everything I've read said progesterone should be measured on 7DPO (like you indicated). Then at least you'll know for sure that the test was done on the right cycle day.

Mango - yes, maybe secret BDing will be kinda fun!

Bighouse - interesting that our cycles are aligned as well as our house guests! Hoping we both ovulate before the guests arrive!

Fleur - thanks for the encouragement. I am not giving up yet. We will see what the new OB says....I'm hoping he is optimistic like Holly's doc!

Lately I've been feeling like life will be just fine if I can't have children. I will always feel like I've missed out on the experience of motherhood, but I suppose there are a lot of experiences that I can have that mothers wouldn't have...just trying to look for the bright side.

 

[KatO79]

Kat, I think you just need to be blunt with your friend, you are totally entitled to a family holiday. There will be loads of other occasions to hang out with her. I’ve gone on holiday with friends and it was a nightmare because everyone wanted to do different things. At least when I’m only with DH I can just plan around what we want to do.
Did AF show up? Hugs to you, January is just around the corner now, you’ll be able to go over everything with the RE.

Yes I think I'll have to be as well. She won't get it otherwise and will start with her "I don't mind" mantra If it's not a skiing trip, then DH and I will walk around and see the sights. I can just imagine that not interesting her very much, she'd just want to walk around and shop or do something totally silly. If she'd had a boyfriend, then we could tell them to do stuff on their own but we can't do that when she's alone. Plus I don't think we could shake her anyway We'd get zero alone time other than when we go to bed

I think she feels that it'd be "cosy" to go on a vacation with us. That she can't see the silly in her vacationing with a married couple is crazy. It'd be different if we were 3 platonic friends. Then it'd be ok I guess. But we're not. Plus these vacations are nice get aways for me and DH were we can relax and get away from the stress of our normal lives and be extra romantic. She'd kill that

Not looking forward to her coming to our Christmas luncheon next Saturday. Not only is our mutual friend bringing his new girlfriend (that he's talking about having kids with in the near future), but my youngest brother-in-law is bringing his girlfriend. They'll all see how childish she is and unaware of what's going on in the world as she doesn't keep up with current events at all. I just hope she doesn't start talking about that guy again and if anyone thinks the new picture on her FB profile would change his mind and suddenly make him want her

Yes AF showed up so I'm CD3 of cycle #17 I'm not really feeling it this cycle so think I'll first be positive when we start IUI next cycle Giving Conceive Plus one last try before we stop ordering it as it hasn't worked yet and if it doesn't this time there's no need to keep shelling $22 every month

 

[cutestuff]

I am sorry Kat. Mj that is so something I would do. I too have a new car- new to me and that is the car I slid out in. Knocked over then ran over 3 snow poles.
That sucks. My normal pre menstrual spotting started so I am out.... on to a better brighterupted new year

 

[dede3124]

CD 11 here....there is a group of us together lol

MJ - when is your appointment today?

Hoping my appointment is about some action and answers instead of questions and waiting!

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

dede - my appointment is at 11:30 (so about an hour and a half from now). I'm nervous that he's going to say I have no follicles and that my high FSH means I'm infertile! I want the truth, though. I really just hope that he doesn't say "you got pregnant once and it's only been 7 cycles....just keep trying." I guess I don't know what I want out of this appointment....hope maybe?? And confirmation on whether I should/should not continue with taking progesterone during my LP.

Let us know how it goes today!

 

[drjo718]

Another flashing smiley and an almost positive opk for me today. Just wishing it would turn already! Of course I got hit hard with a cold or flu last night.

 

[ireadyermind]

Another flashing smiley and an almost positive opk for me today. Just wishing it would turn already! Of course I got hit hard with a cold or flu last night.

Aww, I hope you feel better soon! Seems like everyone's getting hit hard this year. Dumb flu bugs!

 

[dede3124]

Good luck MJ! Let us know on yours too!

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

My appointment did not provide any hope. If anything, I feel even more hopeless, if that's possible. Doc said that my previous OB's work was "sloppy" because my FSH test result of 15.5 is alarmingly poor for a 33 year old and that, if the test was accurate, my next step is to see a reproductive endocrinologist (RE/Infertility specialist) because "you're running out of time". He wasn't mean about it...just honest. He didn't check my follicles because I'm only CD9 so I will go for another appointment on Tuesday when I'm CD13.....then I've got to get CD21 (or 7 DPO) blood draw for progesterone to confirm that I'm ovulating. This means that I can't take my progesterone supplement during my very last month of acupuncture, because then my blood draw would be skewed. New OB wants me to then come in AGAIN on my CD3 next month to re-do the blood work to check FSH, plus he wants to check E2 and AMH because my idiot OB didn't order that blood work and it's critical in evaluating my egg health/reserve, etc. New OB also said that my ovulation dates jumping around and being later than CD16 is a definite problem. I told him that I won't see a specialist because I know they will tell me egg donor and IVF is my only solution.

So while I didn't learn anything new - I knew all of this based on research I did on my own - it's utterly heartbreaking to hear a doctor tell you point-blank "you're running out of time." I wish I could go back to 4 years ago when I absolutely did not want children. I was happier then. Of course, after being adamant that I never want kids from age 12 until 30....then spending a year of being married to a wonderful person....I change my mind. Then I dither and waste time, all the while my eggs are turning to shit. Then, with seemingly good luck, I conceive the first time we try...only to lose it....then afterwards I'm all but diagnosed as infertile. Way to give me one big "FU" after another, Universe.

This journey sucks and I want off the roller coaster. I'm done. I'll go back to my horribly boring life....get up, go to work, come home, make dinner, clean up, watch TV, go to bed. Repeat.

 

[deafgal01]

Oh MJ! Sorry to hear the dr screwed up (if the level is not correct). At least you'll get a work up of all the new blood work and hopefully this time will be done right so you will have the right information at the tip of your hands to make the next decision.

Why is later than CD16 a definite problem? I usually ovulate later than "average" and I haven't been told that would be an issue. I think according to a "perfect" cycle of 28 days, they want women ovulating on CD14, which doesn't happen to all of us obviously.

Try not to feel discouraged and hopeless over this appointment. Look at it this way- it's a step in the right direction, getting all the proper information to make the next move/decision, which means one step closer to a bfp and eventually a baby!

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

Oh MJ! Sorry to hear the dr screwed up (if the level is not correct). At least you'll get a work up of all the new blood work and hopefully this time will be done right so you will have the right information at the tip of your hands to make the next decision.

Why is later than CD16 a definite problem? I usually ovulate later than "average" and I haven't been told that would be an issue. I think according to a "perfect" cycle of 28 days, they want women ovulating on CD14, which doesn't happen to all of us obviously.

Try not to feel discouraged and hopeless over this appointment. Look at it this way- it's a step in the right direction, getting all the proper information to make the next move/decision, which means one step closer to a bfp and eventually a baby!

Unfortunately, the test result is correct....the interpretation that my previous OB gave was wrong. The lab result says 15.5 and I know I did the test on the right day of my cycle (CD3). The problem was that my old OB told me that my lab tests came back "normal" and he refused to admit that an FSH of 15.5 was abnormal. I saw this new OB and he reviewed my lab results and confirmed that an FSH of 15.5 is bad. The only reason my new OB wants to re-test is because he thinks it's possible that the lab got my results wrong...but I highly doubt that is the case. He also said that because I got a positive pregnancy test once, that there is hope, but that is garbage because the evidence speaks for itself. I miscarried early (likely from a poor quality egg), I have unpredictable ovulations, I have a short luteal phase, I have high FSH, and I have been unable to get another positive pregnancy test for 7 months, despite perfect timing and confirmed ovulation.

I suppose I can hope and pray that when I get the same blood test done next month, it comes back fine..but every time I begin to hope, something horrible crushes my spirit. I need to face the facts: I'm infertile.

 

[deafgal01]

How long are your cycles on average? Mine's about around 30 days-ish...

You do realize the bfp part is harder to get than we realize? I watched a documentary on sperm meeting the egg, and omg, that was an eye opener. I hope you get the next steps figured out soon in regards in trying for a baby.

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

How long are your cycles on average? Mine's about around 30 days-ish...

You do realize the bfp part is harder to get than we realize? I watched a documentary on sperm meeting the egg, and omg, that was an eye opener. I hope you get the next steps figured out soon in regards in trying for a baby.

Thanks for the encouraging words, deafgal.

Mine range between 27 and 35 days....I think that's the problem more than ovulating after CD14. It's the inconsistency.

Yes, I've seen the great sperm race and it's very entertaining. I do realize it's hard to get pregnant....but it's hard even when the sperm and egg are perfect...it's nearly impossible when you are close to menopause and the eggs are bad.

Sadly, I already know what my next steps are...egg donor and IVF. Since DH is unwilling to pursue that avenue, and I am unwilling to adopt (not going to discuss the reasons why...I just don't want to adopt), that leaves us with two options: 1) hope for a miracle BFP or 2) accept being childless.

 

[dede3124]

Mj - that sucks! I know nothing will 'make you feel better' but you had a plan to keep trying and then last ditch effort give clomid a try (if memory serves me). I hope you try that plan regardless and that it works! If it doesn't work you know you tried....but it just may work! I hope so!

 

[KatO79]

Awww MJs, so sorry about your results

But it's true it's hard to get pregnant in general. Just look at me (at 35). It took us 7 cycles, despite the fact my hormones and tubes are apparently fine plus I'm regular with 26-27 day cycles, to get pregnant but it was a chemical as well and I haven't gotten pregnant since and am on cycle #17 now (I'm CD4 today) So even women with nothing apparently wrong with them can have problems conceiving. I've even heard of very young women with issues conceiving sticky beans.

I think trying Clomid may be a good plan. Hopefully it'll help you with Oing and increase the chances of a bfp