Anyone TTC #1 and 30 or older?

[Fleur828815]

Kat, I’m such a bad wife but I admit I would have been irritated too if my DH did that on such an important day, as he if could control it. Good luck for the 2WW!

Mrs. Tigger, sorry to hear about the PCOS diagnosis, but I’m glad that you’ve got some answers now and an understanding gyno. It’s so important to feel you can trust the doctor who is going to help you have a baby. Good luck with the weight loss. You’ve done so well already, 27 kilos since September is a lot! I’ve heard that thyroid issues can cause weight problems. Hope your blood test results are good, keep us updated. It’s good that you’re able to share your worries with your DH, he’s also your partner in this journey.

 

[KatO79]

Yes my DH and I both have slight temper issues But in this case he started because he was only worried about his meeting, as if us potentially missing out on our 1st IUI wasn't very important in comparison Like me having taken all those shots and all the prodding not amounting to anything wouldn't be a big deal I got so annoyed and told him that he needs to get his priorities straight! I understand he wasn't happy about missing out on the meeting but his main concern should've been on our IUI Not only that but he was blubbering when I confronted him on not giving me much warning that he wouldn't be able to drive the sample over. I can't stand him when he's blubbering, it's so annoying Good thing I'm more level headed in a crisis, even when I'm ticked off

 

[Xokittycatxo]

Kat,

Sorry to hear about your conflict Hopefully things work themselves out ASAP! Stressing helps nothing and no one.

I started my cycle right on time 25 days exactly. I O between day 10-12. Gotta remember to get a thermometer to start charting and I def need some more OPK's. I really want this to be my month ladies. I have a good feeling so let's hope!

 

[Fleur828815]

Aww Kat, I think men's brains are just wired differently. The IUI process doesn't stop him from thinking of work etc, whereas that's the only thing you're preoccupied with. It's the same for DH and me, he doesn't understand my "obsesssion" although he assures me that having a baby is a priority for him as well. Hope you've patched things up.

Xokittycatxo, good luck for this month! I'm expecting AF on Friday or Saturday and I'll probably start temping for the first time too.

 

[KatO79]

Aww Kat, I think men's brains are just wired differently. The IUI process doesn't stop him from thinking of work etc, whereas that's the only thing you're preoccupied with. It's the same for DH and me, he doesn't understand my "obsesssion" although he assures me that having a baby is a priority for him as well. Hope you've patched things up.

Xokittycatxo, good luck for this month! I'm expecting AF on Friday or Saturday and I'll probably start temping for the first time too.

The problem was I was already annoyed that he was late in finding out that he wasn't going to be able to deliver that sample and as I was finishing up on getting ready and was doing so frantically he chose that moment to whine and moan about his meeting He's not very clever about his timing and he should know me well enough to keep his mouth shut when he knew what mood I was in

I think we've just decided to ignore the whole incident as he knows he said something dumb at a very bad moment and that I was stressed at the time.

 

[Xokittycatxo]

Aww Kat, I think men's brains are just wired differently. The IUI process doesn't stop him from thinking of work etc, whereas that's the only thing you're preoccupied with. It's the same for DH and me, he doesn't understand my "obsesssion" although he assures me that having a baby is a priority for him as well. Hope you've patched things up.

Xokittycatxo, good luck for this month! I'm expecting AF on Friday or Saturday and I'll probably start temping for the first time too.

Oh good we can be charting buddies. Hopefully I can keep up with charting! I have a hard enough time with OPK's and checking CM.

Men DO NOT understand how much stress, pressure and torment we go through. All they have to do is show up and bd. Well for the most part (I know there are some different situations but in my case....lol)

 

[KatO79]

Aww Kat, I think men's brains are just wired differently. The IUI process doesn't stop him from thinking of work etc, whereas that's the only thing you're preoccupied with. It's the same for DH and me, he doesn't understand my "obsesssion" although he assures me that having a baby is a priority for him as well. Hope you've patched things up.

Xokittycatxo, good luck for this month! I'm expecting AF on Friday or Saturday and I'll probably start temping for the first time too.

Oh good we can be charting buddies. Hopefully I can keep up with charting! I have a hard enough time with OPK's and checking CM.

Men DO NOT understand how much stress, pressure and torment we go through. All they have to do is show up and bd. Well for the most part (I know there are some different situations but in my case....lol)

Nope I don't think they really do I suppose it has something to do with that is us women that carry a baby so it's something more primal for us if that makes any sense Men are sort of removed from the whole thing if you get my meaning. Yes they make their contribution but it's different.

Yes they have to mostly just show up for BDing, poor them Or in our case he just has to make a sample in a cup while I've been giving myself injections numerous nights and having vaginal U/Ss and on IUI day get a tube stuck through my cervix into my uterus while I'm lying there in a slightly angled position to keep it from running out right away. Ok looong sentence

 

[Fleur828815]

Xokittycatxo, I found using OPKs pretty simple once I got the pee-on-the-stick ones (instead of the pee-in-a-cup, use dropper etc). CM used to be pretty easy to track for me before my miscarriage but since then I've completely dried up. I'm hoping temping won't be too complicated. When are you going to start? I'll start this weekend on the first day of AF.

Kat, I suppose the whole baby thing is still so abstract for them. As you say, it's your body that's going to be going through the pregnancy, but you can't do without his contribution, however "small" it might be

This thread has gone so quiet, I hope everyone is doing well.

 

[drjo718]

I'm just really excited bc I'm pretty sure I ovulated yesterday! Had a positive opk Tuesday night and lots of cramping and pressure around both ovaries.

 

[KatO79]

Xokittycatxo, I found using OPKs pretty simple once I got the pee-on-the-stick ones (instead of the pee-in-a-cup, use dropper etc). CM used to be pretty easy to track for me before my miscarriage but since then I've completely dried up. I'm hoping temping won't be too complicated. When are you going to start? I'll start this weekend on the first day of AF.

Kat, I suppose the whole baby thing is still so abstract for them. As you say, it's your body that's going to be going through the pregnancy, but you can't do without his contribution, however "small" it might be

This thread has gone so quiet, I hope everyone is doing well.

Exactly

Yes it really has I know some have decided to go on break and we have a few pregnant ladies that probably don't need much support anymore but still.....

That's great drjo718 FXed

 

[Fleur828815]

Woohoo drjo, I really hope this is going to be your month!

Kat, I suppose we're the only ones left still TTC or not on a break.

 

[KatO79]

Woohoo drjo, I really hope this is going to be your month!

Kat, I suppose we're the only ones left still TTC or not on a break.

Yes I guess we are

I'm going to avoid taking a break, I don't feel like I can afford to when I'm 35, going on 36 in May (DH 37 going on 38 in July) If I was in my early 30s, it'd be easier to do. I'll see how I feel if my first 3 IUIs are a bust though but doubt it. I'm pretty mentally resilient though, comes from having an insane mother

 

[MissDoc]

Kat-- Good luck with the TWW! And I hope your hubby's back gets to feeling better before it's time to make the next "sample" if this one doesn't take!

Fleur-- I'm sorry it feels like AF is coming for you. I've only recently begun temping too and I'm hoping it gives me good information. Hope it helps you too!

DrJo-- FX you ovulated! You might have already mentioned, but are you charting/temping? If so, are you noticing a spike now?

 

[KatO79]

Thanks MissDocHis back is fine now after 2 days so he should be ready to go for IUI #2

OK have to vent about the woman-child friend: She came by 2 nights ago (the night after my IUI) needing help with getting her presentation ready on a group report. She was also was upset because her group has been avoiding her for a while. Seems she talked too much about her man troubles, mostly obssessing about some narcissitic jerk that's a model/drivning teacher she went on 1 date with a couple of months ago I don't know why she vents to group members, that's just not cool They're not friends I must admit I'm tired of hearing about him anymore as well. She keeps asking us to reassure her that he was a narcissitic jerk and wouldn't be able to treat any woman right. The psychiatrist isn't helping matters as he practically said she made a mistake not going on more dates as he sounded like a catch - a catch that talked about only himself (not one question about her), how he wants to be rich and have a huge house and a hot, dark-skinned wife (because even the ugliest dark-skinned woman is more attractive than the most attractive white woman) and 2 children Sometimes I feel like smashing something over her head, hoping it'll knock something into place

 

[drjo718]

DrJo-- FX you ovulated! You might have already mentioned, but are you charting/temping? If so, are you noticing a spike now?

I just started temping this cycle. I work nights and never sleep the same time and I sleep like crap and with my mouth open, so I wasn't expecting to see much. However, my temp usually runs around 97 on average, and it was 97.4 and then 98.2 the last 2 days, so I'm taking that as confirmation. FF gave me cross hairs but did it 2 days before Im pretty certain I ovulated, and a day before my positive opk. I had a couple really low temps before I ovulated so that messed it up.

 

[deafgal01]

It's gone quiet for sure. I've been busy with my job. I work too many hours to plan my teaching lessons...

 

[Fleur828815]

MissDoc, thanks! Are you finding temping easy? How are you doing?

Kat, your friend, her ex and her psychiatrist all sound as mad as each other! I would just make up a headache and go to bed when she's around.

drjo, I'm so glad that FF seems to have confirmed ovulation for you.

deafgal, sorry if you've told us before, are you a teacher?

AF turned up today (Friday morning). I wasn't expecting it till Sunday since I got my positive OPK 2 weeks ago, so I'm a bit confused. At least my cycle was slightly shorter this time, 30 days instead of 32.

 

[KatO79]

MissDoc, thanks! Are you finding temping easy? How are you doing?

Kat, your friend, her ex and her psychiatrist all sound as mad as each other! I would just make up a headache and go to bed when she's around.

drjo, I'm so glad that FF seems to have confirmed ovulation for you.

deafgal, sorry if you've told us before, are you a teacher?

AF turned up today (Friday morning). I wasn't expecting it till Sunday since I got my positive OPK 2 weeks ago, so I'm a bit confused. At least my cycle was slightly shorter this time, 30 days instead of 32.

The worse thing is the guy she's obssessed about isn't an ex, it's a guy she went on 1 date with I don't know what's up with the psychiatrist either Some quack she got at the university as she's started taking her Bachelor's degree in Engineering. She'd be a horrible engineer with her self-esteem issues though, I can't see her in that role She got him because she was not showing up for classes and when she told them it was because of this guy, they sent her to the campus psychiatrist. But it sounds like he stinks and is telling her she made a mistake in letting this guy go So she's obssessing again and drove her group members so insane with her constant jabber, they avoided her the last many weeks because they couldn't take it anymore She talks to everyone about him and why she can't find a decent guy and when people tell her it's because she's choosing the wrong men, she goes quiet and then starts again talking about it I totally understand her group got sick of it and they're not even her friends.

I'm trying to get DH to stop caving in and letting her come here so often. We won't have the time when we have a baby and it stresses me when she sits there and whines about her life or cries about why these guys are treating her so badly and if they wouldn't be great guys if they met the right woman

Yay Fleur for a shorter cycle though

 

[Xokittycatxo]

Hey ladies....do any of you havee experience or advice with short cycles/luteal phase.

My cycle is 23/24 days usually like clockwork. Periods are 3-4 days and I "think" I ovulate around day 12. Smack in the middle of my cycle but I'm worried that it's problematic as I've been reading about luteal phase defect.

I was going to try progesterone cream. Anyone ever try it?? I just don't want to upset my cycle if it isn't necessary

 

[Fleur828815]

Yes Kat, looks like the only solution is seeing her as little as possible!

Xo, I hope someone who knows about short cycles will be along to help (mine are around 30 days at the moment). From what I've read online, anything from 22 to 36 days is considered a "normal" cycle, and ovulation occurs 12 to 14 days before AF.
Do you have any reason to believe you have a luteal phase defect? I used progesterone cream to relieve sore breasts before AF, and progesterone pills for just a month because I was having discharge for 2-4 days before AF (but they didn't help - my doctor just went along with it to humour me!).