Anyone TTC #1 and 30 or older?

[KatO79]

Thanks Praying and TexMel. I’ve had some pinkish/brown discharge after gym today, although I only walked on the treadmill and did some light weights (arms), so I'm stressing out. It’s my birthday on Sunday, hope it’s not going to be an awful day.

Kat, I'm sure DH's family doesn't look down on you, they must know how hard you've tried to find a job, and that your field is particularly hard to get into without a network. After you've had the baby you can start thinking about training again or volunteering with animals as you wanted to.

I don't think they do. I remember a few years ago shortly before I ended starting my Lab Tech education my FIL said on me not having found a job "You've just been very unlucky!" But geez, how unlucky can you be when you've sent hundreds and hundreds of applications over a period totalling 3½ years or so. I should mention that they're pretty naive and constantly believe in the good in people so they think everyone is good. My FIL mentioned at one point he assisted with job interviews at the company he was at and they regularly hired newly educated people for jobs so he think just about all companies work/think the same way So no, I don't think they get it entirely

I think my DH's big brother's soon to be ex-MIL has also been busy over the years telling them how unemployed people are lazy and/or picky which is the reason they're unemployed. This woman even attacked me during my 1st period of unemployment, at my in-laws' birthday party no less. She'd heard DH and I (we were living together at the time) were thinking about moving to another country so I could get a job easier and she was drunk, got me alone and told me that I was the most selfish human being she knew and I shouldn't "pressure" my DH into moving to another country and ruining his career plus breaking my in-laws' hearts by taking their son away from them She told me I should stop being so selfish and break up with him so I didn't destroy his life I tried to politely tell her that it was me and DH's "problem" but she kept on going. She actually made me cry because she was so evil and what did my DH do when I told him (he didn't hear or see any of this): nothing!

Anyway, I'll definitely be dropping the whole thing and finding other things to do, such as volunteer work at an animal shelter, preferably a no-kill one

I hope it sticks Fleur, maybe just take it very easy the next few days and only take relaxing walks and the like.

 

[Twinsie]

Thanks Praying and TexMel. I’ve had some pinkish/brown discharge after gym today, although I only walked on the treadmill and did some light weights (arms), so I'm stressing out. It’s my birthday on Sunday, hope it’s not going to be an awful day.

Kat, I'm sure DH's family doesn't look down on you, they must know how hard you've tried to find a job, and that your field is particularly hard to get into without a network. After you've had the baby you can start thinking about training again or volunteering with animals as you wanted to.

I don't think they do. I remember a few years ago shortly before I ended starting my Lab Tech education my FIL said on me not having found a job "You've just been very unlucky!" But geez, how unlucky can you be when you've sent hundreds and hundreds of applications over a period totalling 3½ years or so. I should mention that they're pretty naive and constantly believe in the good in people so they think everyone is good. My FIL mentioned at one point he assisted with job interviews at the company he was at and they regularly hired newly educated people for jobs so he think just about all companies work/think the same way So no, I don't think they get it entirely

I think my DH's big brother's soon to be ex-MIL has also been busy over the years telling them how unemployed people are lazy and/or picky which is the reason they're unemployed. This woman even attacked me during my 1st period of unemployment, at my in-laws' birthday party no less. She'd heard DH and I (we were living together at the time) were thinking about moving to another country so I could get a job easier and she was drunk, got me alone and told me that I was the most selfish human being she knew and I shouldn't "pressure" my DH into moving to another country and ruining his career plus breaking my in-laws' hearts by taking their son away from them She told me I should stop being so selfish and break up with him so I didn't destroy his life I tried to politely tell her that it was me and DH's "problem" but she kept on going. She actually made me cry because she was so evil and what did my DH do when I told him (he didn't hear or see any of this): nothing!

Anyway, I'll definitely be dropping the whole thing and finding other things to do, such as volunteer work at an animal shelter, preferably a no-kill one

I hope it sticks Fleur, maybe just take it very easy the next few days and only take relaxing walks and the like.

That's horrible that your DHs brothers mil said that to you!!! People can be so rude and hurtful! so sorry! That's totally uncalled for! It's your life with ur husband. My DH always says, no matter what family thinks or wants, him and I are our own family now, and we will live our life the way we see fit!

 

[Praying4BB]

Thanks Praying and TexMel. I’ve had some pinkish/brown discharge after gym today, although I only walked on the treadmill and did some light weights (arms), so I'm stressing out. It’s my birthday on Sunday, hope it’s not going to be an awful day.

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Happy happy early birthday!!! I hope it is a wonderful day and I hope the LO is still just burrowing his way into his new, comfy home and that's what's causing the bit of spotting.

 

[KatO79]

Thanks Praying and TexMel. I’ve had some pinkish/brown discharge after gym today, although I only walked on the treadmill and did some light weights (arms), so I'm stressing out. It’s my birthday on Sunday, hope it’s not going to be an awful day.

Kat, I'm sure DH's family doesn't look down on you, they must know how hard you've tried to find a job, and that your field is particularly hard to get into without a network. After you've had the baby you can start thinking about training again or volunteering with animals as you wanted to.

I don't think they do. I remember a few years ago shortly before I ended starting my Lab Tech education my FIL said on me not having found a job "You've just been very unlucky!" But geez, how unlucky can you be when you've sent hundreds and hundreds of applications over a period totalling 3½ years or so. I should mention that they're pretty naive and constantly believe in the good in people so they think everyone is good. My FIL mentioned at one point he assisted with job interviews at the company he was at and they regularly hired newly educated people for jobs so he think just about all companies work/think the same way So no, I don't think they get it entirely

I think my DH's big brother's soon to be ex-MIL has also been busy over the years telling them how unemployed people are lazy and/or picky which is the reason they're unemployed. This woman even attacked me during my 1st period of unemployment, at my in-laws' birthday party no less. She'd heard DH and I (we were living together at the time) were thinking about moving to another country so I could get a job easier and she was drunk, got me alone and told me that I was the most selfish human being she knew and I shouldn't "pressure" my DH into moving to another country and ruining his career plus breaking my in-laws' hearts by taking their son away from them She told me I should stop being so selfish and break up with him so I didn't destroy his life I tried to politely tell her that it was me and DH's "problem" but she kept on going. She actually made me cry because she was so evil and what did my DH do when I told him (he didn't hear or see any of this): nothing!

Anyway, I'll definitely be dropping the whole thing and finding other things to do, such as volunteer work at an animal shelter, preferably a no-kill one

I hope it sticks Fleur, maybe just take it very easy the next few days and only take relaxing walks and the like.

That's horrible that your DHs brothers mil said that to you!!! People can be so rude and hurtful! so sorry! That's totally uncalled for! It's your life with ur husband. My DH always says, no matter what family thinks or wants, him and I are our own family now, and we will live our life the way we see fit!

So true! I regret now I didn't tell her to go to, well you know where But I was so shocked and also felt a bit bad if I created a scene but probably should've done it anyway It would've been her fault. But that's probably why my DH didn't confront her, he didn't want to create a scene either because it was his parents' birthday party. But we should have because what she said was just that bad. She even waited until my DH left the table to go talk to his little brother so we were completely alone. Total Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde I just felt he should've backed me up you know? I've been to bat for him twice, once with my narcissitic mother and once with my brother. It was his turn

 

[Twinsie]

Thanks Praying and TexMel. I’ve had some pinkish/brown discharge after gym today, although I only walked on the treadmill and did some light weights (arms), so I'm stressing out. It’s my birthday on Sunday, hope it’s not going to be an awful day.

Kat, I'm sure DH's family doesn't look down on you, they must know how hard you've tried to find a job, and that your field is particularly hard to get into without a network. After you've had the baby you can start thinking about training again or volunteering with animals as you wanted to.

I don't think they do. I remember a few years ago shortly before I ended starting my Lab Tech education my FIL said on me not having found a job "You've just been very unlucky!" But geez, how unlucky can you be when you've sent hundreds and hundreds of applications over a period totalling 3½ years or so. I should mention that they're pretty naive and constantly believe in the good in people so they think everyone is good. My FIL mentioned at one point he assisted with job interviews at the company he was at and they regularly hired newly educated people for jobs so he think just about all companies work/think the same way So no, I don't think they get it entirely

I think my DH's big brother's soon to be ex-MIL has also been busy over the years telling them how unemployed people are lazy and/or picky which is the reason they're unemployed. This woman even attacked me during my 1st period of unemployment, at my in-laws' birthday party no less. She'd heard DH and I (we were living together at the time) were thinking about moving to another country so I could get a job easier and she was drunk, got me alone and told me that I was the most selfish human being she knew and I shouldn't "pressure" my DH into moving to another country and ruining his career plus breaking my in-laws' hearts by taking their son away from them She told me I should stop being so selfish and break up with him so I didn't destroy his life I tried to politely tell her that it was me and DH's "problem" but she kept on going. She actually made me cry because she was so evil and what did my DH do when I told him (he didn't hear or see any of this): nothing!

Anyway, I'll definitely be dropping the whole thing and finding other things to do, such as volunteer work at an animal shelter, preferably a no-kill one

I hope it sticks Fleur, maybe just take it very easy the next few days and only take relaxing walks and the like.

That's horrible that your DHs brothers mil said that to you!!! People can be so rude and hurtful! so sorry! That's totally uncalled for! It's your life with ur husband. My DH always says, no matter what family thinks or wants, him and I are our own family now, and we will live our life the way we see fit!

So true! I regret now I didn't tell her to go to, well you know where But I was so shocked and also felt a bit bad if I created a scene but probably should've done it anyway It would've been her fault. But that's probably why my DH didn't confront her, he didn't want to create a scene either because it was his parents' birthday party. But we should have because what she said was just that bad. She even waited until my DH left the table to go talk to his little brother so we were completely alone. Total Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde I just felt he should've backed me up you know? I've been to bat for him twice, once with my narcissitic mother and once with my brother. It was his turn

My DH wouldn't make a scene either bcuz he's very non confrontational. I'm sure he just didn't know how to handle it since it involved his family too, that's a tough one. But it's def important to feel supported by your DH! that's a hard situation

 

[KatO79]

I just felt like he could've at least gone up to her and told her that her behaviour was horrible and she shouldn't talk like that to his wife. This way she probably felt like what she did was ok because no one said it wasn't. And she wasn't really family: his brother's MIL? Some behaviour you need to tell people off and I felt like this was one of them. She saw his lack of reaction as him supporting her, I'm sure. Thankfully the battle ax is almost out of our lives and we'll only see her at the childrens' birthdays.

 

[Twinsie]

Yea, that would get under my skin too.. You are human and you have feelings!

Soooo I started spotting last night (13dpo) .. I'm expecting AF to show officially today any minute now. Just brown spotting as of yet. Can't say I'm all that sad bcuz I don't have high hopes after finding out about DHs low T. On to the next cycle! At least hubby started taking the fertileAID and count boost pills on Thursday so every month from now on his count can only get better!!
** Positive thinking **

 

[KatO79]

Yea, that would get under my skin too.. You are human and you have feelings!

Soooo I started spotting last night (13dpo) .. I'm expecting AF to show officially today any minute now. Just brown spotting as of yet. Can't say I'm all that sad bcuz I don't have high hopes after finding out about DHs low T. On to the next cycle! At least hubby started taking the fertileAID and count boost pills on Thursday so every month from now on his count can only get better!!
** Positive thinking **

Awww Twinsie, that stinks I think it'll take about 3 months before you can really see the effects of your DH taking those pills though. Hope you have better luck next cycle

 

[Hollynesss]

Fleur!!! Hooray!!!!

 

[Twinsie]

Yea, that would get under my skin too.. You are human and you have feelings!

Soooo I started spotting last night (13dpo) .. I'm expecting AF to show officially today any minute now. Just brown spotting as of yet. Can't say I'm all that sad bcuz I don't have high hopes after finding out about DHs low T. On to the next cycle! At least hubby started taking the fertileAID and count boost pills on Thursday so every month from now on his count can only get better!!
** Positive thinking **

Awww Twinsie, that stinks I think it'll take about 3 months before you can really see the effects of your DH taking those pills though. Hope you have better luck next cycle

Thank you Soooo the spotting since last night is still faint brown. No red. I took a test since I'm now 14dpo and still no red AF yet.. I see a very faint line......... It was my second morning urine and only a 2 hour hold of pee.
It's a wondfo cheap hcg test though. So I don't know if I can trust it. And when I took the test, after I didn't see a line after a minute I threw it away since I thought AF was on it's way anyways. An hour later I went to pee again and decided to check just to confirm, and saw the faint line.. But it's been an hour and idk how long it took for that line to show up..
I'm trying not to get my hopes up. Can you get a line even if you are not pregnant??? I did use this same test package last month when I had a bfn and remember checking it hours later and it was still negative then with no faint line. So I don't think it's a defective test. I just don't know what to think..
I didn't even tell my husband that I tested cuz he was out getting us coffee when I decided to just test and confirm I'm not pregnant. He knows I started spotting last night so I'm sure he thinks we are out this month. So did I.

 

[Twinsie]

 

[KatO79]

Yea, that would get under my skin too.. You are human and you have feelings!

Soooo I started spotting last night (13dpo) .. I'm expecting AF to show officially today any minute now. Just brown spotting as of yet. Can't say I'm all that sad bcuz I don't have high hopes after finding out about DHs low T. On to the next cycle! At least hubby started taking the fertileAID and count boost pills on Thursday so every month from now on his count can only get better!!
** Positive thinking **

Awww Twinsie, that stinks I think it'll take about 3 months before you can really see the effects of your DH taking those pills though. Hope you have better luck next cycle

Thank you Soooo the spotting since last night is still faint brown. No red. I took a test since I'm now 14dpo and still no red AF yet.. I see a very faint line......... It was my second morning urine and only a 2 hour hold of pee.
It's a wondfo cheap hcg test though. So I don't know if I can trust it. And when I took the test, after I didn't see a line after a minute I threw it away since I thought AF was on it's way anyways. An hour later I went to pee again and decided to check just to confirm, and saw the faint line.. But it's been an hour and idk how long it took for that line to show up..
I'm trying not to get my hopes up. Can you get a line even if you are not pregnant??? I did use this same test package last month when I had a bfn and remember checking it hours later and it was still negative then with no faint line. So I don't think it's a defective test. I just don't know what to think..
I didn't even tell my husband that I tested cuz he was out getting us coffee when I decided to just test and confirm I'm not pregnant. He knows I started spotting last night so I'm sure he thinks we are out this month. So did I.

Since you saw it after the time allowed, I wouldn't trust it Maybe try again in 2 days time and use FMU. I do see something but yeah, never trust it if it's after the 3-5 minutes most HPTs allow. I don't remember what Wondfos allow though but go by their instructions Maybe you could try a FRER instead?

I hope you see a dark line soon

 

[Hollynesss]

I definitely see it, too, but I've had evaps on Wondfo hpts before. I agree with Kat, try again in a couple of days, preferably with an FRER. Hopefully the stays away!!

 

[Twinsie]

Thanks ladies. I took another test and made sure to watch it the whole 5 minutes this time so I could know for sure if a line showed up within the time limit, and I definitely saw the start of the faint line at 4 minutes. It took the whole 5 minutes to really see the line better but it was definitely within the allotted 5 mins that the wondfo says to read it at. But it's still ridiculously faint that I'm not gonna tell DH yet.. Keeping this to myself will be the death of me lol. But I don't want to get both our hopes up if it turns out to be a stupid bfn! I'll probably wait until Monday to test again bcuz it's so faint right now at 14dpo.

 

[drjo718]

Positive opk for me tonight! Which means I should be ovulating tomorrow, on CD17, the earliest ever. Yay!

 

[Twinsie]

Ladies! I think I might be pregnant!!!!! Tested the LH theory too! Positive for both!!!! showed up after 30 seconds!

 

[TexMel]

Congrats Twinsie!!! Tell me more about the LH theory. Do you have increased LH when pregnant? Have you told your husband yet?!

 

[Twinsie]

Congrats Twinsie!!! Tell me more about the LH theory. Do you have increased LH when pregnant? Have you told your husband yet?!

Thank you! Well I've read that LH is a similar hormone structure to HCG so a lot of women have reported getting a positive Ovulation test before they even knew they were pregnant. They must just randomly test thinking they are ovulating again due to more cm or something idk but it's true! You can get a positive LH test when ur prego! Weird right?!

 

[KatO79]

Congrats Twinsie

Why do I have a feeling I'll be the last woman standing when it comes to getting a BFP, at least among us actively TTCing

AFM my annoying friend is coming by today (the one who's 33 but acts like she's 16) I just hope she doesn't start talking about that model she was out with once that was a total narcissitic, shallow jerk... for the 100th time

By the way, does anyone know if it's bad to be out in pretty cold weather (like around 2-3 degrees Celsius) for longer than 1 hour if you might be pregnant (I'm 5 dpiui today)? I was standing out in DH's grandmother's garden for a little over an hour helping with some very minor garden stuff.

 

[Hollynesss]

Congrats, Twinsie!!!