Anyone TTC #1 and 30 or older?

[EElse]

Fleur828815: Keep the faith, your levels are alright so maybe you're one of the lucky ones who can get through the first trimester relatively easy. to you and may you have a H&H nine months!

Kat079: Having to inject twice... Good luck to you and I hope that this is your month!! Keeping my fx for 3 good follies for you.

TexMel: Good luck to you! Keeping my fx!

Xokittycatxo: Sorry that you feel that way. to you!! Thanks for the good wishes

AFM: I'm waiting for FF to tell me that I ovulated three days ago We'll have a busy week again and next weekend we're flying down to Cape Town for my DH's cousin's wedding. After we get back, I'll stock up on some tests...

Quick question:

I know that coffee and alcohol should be avoided when TTC - well, at least moderated. What about ginger beer? And I mean the ginger beer that you make yourself at home (takes about 2 days). Should that also only be taken in moderation or is it alright to have more than one glass a day?

Good luck to everyone and to you all!

 

[KatO79]

Hi ladies, I've been mia I know. Hope everyone is well! I actually popped over into the TWW thinking I could have possibly had a chance but it turns out AF was just late I think I'm going to just stop trying. TThe let down is too much and I have this feeling that maybe motherhood will just never happen for me. I wish you ladies the very bet and pray you all get your BFP's ASAP!!!!! xo

Aww Xokittycatxo I'm sure it'll soon happen. Remember, it can take up to 1 year for perfectly fertile couples to conceive (average is 6-8 months). But it might be good for you to go NTNP if it's making you feel stressed. I hope you will still pop by and let us know how you're doing and good luck

Fleur828815: Keep the faith, your levels are alright so maybe you're one of the lucky ones who can get through the first trimester relatively easy. to you and may you have a H&H nine months!

Kat079: Having to inject twice... Good luck to you and I hope that this is your month!! Keeping my fx for 3 good follies for you.

TexMel: Good luck to you! Keeping my fx!

Xokittycatxo: Sorry that you feel that way. to you!! Thanks for the good wishes

AFM: I'm waiting for FF to tell me that I ovulated three days ago We'll have a busy week again and next weekend we're flying down to Cape Town for my DH's cousin's wedding. After we get back, I'll stock up on some tests...

Quick question:

I know that coffee and alcohol should be avoided when TTC - well, at least moderated. What about ginger beer? And I mean the ginger beer that you make yourself at home (takes about 2 days). Should that also only be taken in moderation or is it alright to have more than one glass a day?

Good luck to everyone and to you all!

Thanks EElse Yes, it was not fun, especially with DH stressing me over the broken cup when he knew perfectly well I was concentrating on doing it right, MEN

Not only coffee, anything with caffeine like cola you also need to be careful how much you drink. By the way I read somewhere that diet/light cola might be linked to risk of miscarriage so I'd avoid it all together to be on the safe side As to ginger beer, I'm not sure From what I could tell from Googling, it looks like it's ok if it's non-alcoholic. If it's high in sugar (like a soda) (or is alcoholic), you'll need to be careful of how much you drink since sugar (and alcohol) isn't very good for your fertility. So maybe drink in moderation if it falls into any of these 2 categories? Maybe you could try asking your GP if he/she knows more.

Good luck to you too EElse Hope you have a good time at the wedding

 

[EElse]

Thanks Kat!! Yes, I avoid cola - although I do sometimes have a glass of diet soda but not very often. The ginger beer does have a lot of sugar in it so I think I'll stick to one glass a day, just to be safe.

Thank you, I am sure we will enjoy the wedding

Good luck to you!

 

[Fleur828815]

Thank you TexMel! Will update after my scan. How are you feeling? Good luck for testing!

Kat, ouch about having to inject yourself twice! Is it painful or have you gotten used to it? Hoping you’ll have at least 2-3 follicles ready!

Xokittycatxo, sorry to hear you’re feeling blue. We’ve all had those hopeless feelings but I hope the break will do you good and it will happen for you when you don’t expect it I’m sure you’ve mentioned it before, but how long have you been trying?

EElse, thanks! I have no idea about ginger beer but I suppose it should be OK in moderation. Better not take any chances! I love Cape Town, enjoy your weekend there and the wedding! Keep us updated after you test.

AFM : I’ve booked an appointment with the OB/gyn for Friday when I’ll be 7 weeks but I don’t want to go, I’m so scared! DH is suggesting I postpone it till next Monday or Tuesday, I might do that.

 

[dede3124]

Saying a quick hello. Been lurking on and off.... interestingly my diagnosis and treatment for polyps and endometritis still has me very worried that a BFP won't happen for us. Sounds backwards but I can't help but worry. 4 DPO today and waiting.

 

[Fleur828815]

Saying a quick hello. Been lurking on and off.... interestingly my diagnosis and treatment for polyps and endometritis still has me very worried that a BFP won't happen for us. Sounds backwards but I can't help but worry. 4 DPO today and waiting.

Hi dede! Don't lurk, come out and chat! It's so easy to convince ourselves that things won't work out for us but I really hope that the treatment will make you get your BFP quickly!

 

[KatO79]

Thank you TexMel! Will update after my scan. How are you feeling? Good luck for testing!

Kat, ouch about having to inject yourself twice! Is it painful or have you gotten used to it? Hoping you’ll have at least 2-3 follicles ready!

Xokittycatxo, sorry to hear you’re feeling blue. We’ve all had those hopeless feelings but I hope the break will do you good and it will happen for you when you don’t expect it I’m sure you’ve mentioned it before, but how long have you been trying?

EElse, thanks! I have no idea about ginger beer but I suppose it should be OK in moderation. Better not take any chances! I love Cape Town, enjoy your weekend there and the wedding! Keep us updated after you test.

AFM : I’ve booked an appointment with the OB/gyn for Friday when I’ll be 7 weeks but I don’t want to go, I’m so scared! DH is suggesting I postpone it till next Monday or Tuesday, I might do that.

I think I've pretty much gotten used to it

I've been a bit low myself the last couple of days. I was on FB yesterday and saw my sister's update with a picture of her son (he's about 5 now) looking happy and she wrote:

Best comment of the day... "I love you soooo much Mommy" accompanied with a great big kiss and hug!

Just made me wonder if I'll ever get to experience that feeling I hope so. Guess I'm feeling a bit negative because this is our last shot before being referred to IVF although they'll put us through 3 more IUIs until we can get in at the hospital

I think it's another "issue" between me and my siblings: They can bond over having children while I'm a bit left out, being childless and all. Makes me feel stupid for some of my posts on FB e.g. my latest cute pic of my cat while they have children pics and how wonderful the children are.

I hope your scan goes well Fleur and that everything looks good Keep us posted

 

[MissDoc]

I've been lurking too, and I'm constantly sending good vibes to you ladies.

Kat, I do the same thing. On FB everyone is posting precious child pics and I'm like, here's my adorable cat! He IS pretty cute though. I'm so looking forward to the day where I can post child pics.

I too fall into the trap of thinking the worst. I have this deep-seated fear that no matter what we do we won't be able to get pg. Every single woman in my family had children young, my mother included (had me in her teens!). I am so scared that it just won't happen, but I know that's just alarmist thinking. I have not tried long enough to be that cynical quite yet, but that's my feeling about it. All of my co-workers are returning from maternity leave or going on maternity leave, and I am feeling a bit jealous.

DH and I are spending the next 3 months focusing on our health to help our chances, then we'll NTNP for awhile and see how we do with trying to avoid the stress we felt last time. Then if needed we'll ease back into actively TTC, but my secret hope is that it "just happens" during NTNP.

 

[Liz77]

Hi Missdoc,

I'm totally the same as you, such a fear it won't ever happen and surrounded by people having kids etc. Even my boyfriend has now said to me he feels jealous by people who are doing fun family things.

It is hard to keep in the right frame of mind but it certainly helps knowing we aren't alone in our thoughts and feelings.

I've been lurking too, and I'm constantly sending good vibes to you ladies.

Kat, I do the same thing. On FB everyone is posting precious child pics and I'm like, here's my adorable cat! He IS pretty cute though. I'm so looking forward to the day where I can post child pics.

I too fall into the trap of thinking the worst. I have this deep-seated fear that no matter what we do we won't be able to get pg. Every single woman in my family had children young, my mother included (had me in her teens!). I am so scared that it just won't happen, but I know that's just alarmist thinking. I have not tried long enough to be that cynical quite yet, but that's my feeling about it. All of my co-workers are returning from maternity leave or going on maternity leave, and I am feeling a bit jealous.

DH and I are spending the next 3 months focusing on our health to help our chances, then we'll NTNP for awhile and see how we do with trying to avoid the stress we felt last time. Then if needed we'll ease back into actively TTC, but my secret hope is that it "just happens" during NTNP.

 

[Fleur828815]

Aww ladies, I know how hard it is when it seems like everyone else is pregnant / has children and we’re left out. Some days I totally convince myself I’ll never know the joy of having a child, that I’ll always be “auntie”. I really hope our turn will come soon Don’t feel silly about posting pics of your pets, they’re part of the family too!

Kat, hope you won’t have to go down the IVF route.

MissDoc, good luck with the health kick and NTNP!

Liz77, welcome and good luck to you too with TTC. How long have you been trying?

 

[KatO79]

MissDoc, good to know I'm not the only one posting cat pics I just feel like all my friends, family and aquaintances with children see me as being silly in comparison, them with children pics and their children 's milestones and accomplishments while I post a pic of my cat e.g. looking cute sleeping Think it goes back to my brother telling me once that there's more to life than concerts and cd's and my hobbies ( he also told me this because my narcissistic mother had been lying about me again and telling him I wasn't doing enough for her), almost like because he has a child that my life is without meaning and silly in comparison to his. This was almost 6 years ago so before we were TTCing but it still irritates me sometimes

I think the fact that I'm unexplained makes me nervous since they don't know what's wrong and makes me wonder if it's still something significant enough that it'll make pregnancy impossible

I hope you enjoy your break and soon see that BFP

 

[Missmetal]

I am 32yrs and we have been TTC for 2 yrs. My fur babies are super important to me too! I also don't have baby pics to post on social media and instead post kitties. My fur balls make me happy and it does not matter what anyone else thinks.
It is hard when family are insensitive and I hope that you don't take it to heart although that is easier said than done. I am wishing you lots of luck.

 

[KatO79]

I am 32yrs and we have been TTC for 2 yrs. My fur babies are super important to me too! I also don't have baby pics to post on social media and instead post kitties. My fur balls make me happy and it does not matter what anyone else thinks.
It is hard when family are insensitive and I hope that you don't take it to heart although that is easier said than done. I am wishing you lots of luck.

Thank you Missmetal Nice to meet another furbaby FB poster :wave: How many do you have? Cats and/or dogs?

Unfortunately I find it sometimes hard to not take it to heart I just feel like family should be supportive or at the very least, not come with insensitive comments (especially if they've been through treatment themselves) but alas, my family (except for my cousin) doesn't seem to hold themselves back. Seems like either they say a bunch of insensitive things or if I tell them to not say things like that, they keep their distance and don't talk to me at all. But maybe I should just stop expecting them to behave appropriately and then I can only be pleasantly surprised

 

[TexMel]

I actually believe my fur babies are just as special to me and loved as real children will be. We have a dog and a cat (and one angel puppy in heaven). I was depressed a year when we lost our first fur baby. I am not and never will be ashamed to post pics of them on Fb or IG.
I do, however, get sad around the holidays or Mother's Day about being the only one without kids to share memories with. Fx we all never have to go through that anymore!

 

[KatO79]

I actually believe my fur babies are just as special to me and loved as real children will be. We have a dog and a cat (and one angel puppy in heaven). I was depressed a year when we lost our first fur baby. I am not and never will be ashamed to post pics of them on Fb or IG.
I do, however, get sad around the holidays or Mother's Day about being the only one without kids to share memories with. Fx we all never have to go through that anymore!

I'm sorry for your loss. DH and I lost our first furbaby back in October 2012, a 16 year old Somali due to liver failure (we adopted her when she was about 10-11 years old, blind during those years we had her). I mourned hard for 3 months (my MIL thought I was insane, especially having her ashes in an urn) before I got my current furbaby.

I'm not so much ashamed as I just am sure people think me nuts and that my cat pictures are silly compared to pics of their kids

I know how you feel, I get a bit emotional on Mother's Day as well Last year was extra bad as I'd had my chemical the month before Yes here's hoping it's soon over for all of us soon

 

[TexMel]

Thanks, Kat. I'm sorry for your loss, as well.

Our was our 5 year old mini-schnauzer. We got her when she was 7 weeks and she was the sweetest baby. We had rescued the 2nd dog and the cat in the meantime. But, shortly after her 5th birthday, actually on Mother's Day 2013 (oddly enough), we noticed she had lost some weight on her body. My husband took her to the vet that week and on May 14, 2013. We found out she had liver cancer that had spread aggressively to her whole body. There was nothing we could do. She went downhill overnight. She ended up passing on May 23, 2013. Those were the hardest 9 days of my life. Neither of us even left the house, unless it was to buy something that would make her happy, or make her eat, or make her comfortable, etc. I still miss her so much.

 

[KatO79]

Thanks, Kat. I'm sorry for your loss, as well.

Our was our 5 year old mini-schnauzer. We got her when she was 7 weeks and she was the sweetest baby. We had rescued the 2nd dog and the cat in the meantime. But, shortly after her 5th birthday, actually on Mother's Day 2013 (oddly enough), we noticed she had lost some weight on her body. My husband took her to the vet that week and on May 14, 2013. We found out she had liver cancer that had spread aggressively to her whole body. There was nothing we could do. She went downhill overnight. She ended up passing on May 23, 2013. Those were the hardest 9 days of my life. Neither of us even left the house, unless it was to buy something that would make her happy, or make her eat, or make her comfortable, etc. I still miss her so much.

Wow so sad Sounds like it went quickly but animals are pretty good at hiding their illnesses so sometimes you don't notice anything until it's really bad. I found that out myself:

Our cat stopped eating which made us wonder what was going on plus she just wasn't herself. So after 2-3 days I told DH we needed to call the vet so we did. I just thought she was feeling poorly and would need some antibiotics or something. But nope, the vet quickly saw that it was her liver and said he would run some tests to see how bad it was so I went home since he first could do them a bit later. He called DH a few hours later and DH called me and apparently the results were bad. He could operate on her and maybe save a very small portion of her liver which would be a bit expensive and no garantees plus her quality of life would not be so good. DH had asked him if we ignore the cost of the operation, what would the vet do if it were his cat and he said he'd let her go (he actually has a couple of cats himself) So I ended up agreeing with DH and the vet.

Problem was I was at home and the vet wanted to know if I wanted to be there. I hesitated a bit because I knew how hard it was from past experiences (the family dog and my old cat that my mother "stole" from me). But I ended up going in because I just felt I couldn't let her die alone and she'd been there for me during some of my difficult days so I should be there for her. It was so hard saying goodbye and I was so upset afterwards I almost got into a car accident because I was crying so hard on the way home DH couldn't be there as he was working and companies here don't give you a couple of hours off to put down your cat unless of course you are single and have to take the animal to the vet yourself but they expect you to come back to work afterwards. When DH told a couple of his co-workers that his cat was being euthanized that day, one of them told him that he could just get a new cat, as if an animal is just something that can be replaced Shows you how many people regard pets here

I light a candle for her birthday and her death day (which are close together September 17th and October 5th). Have a small shrine with one of the unfortunately very few pics I have of her, her urn, a wooden plaque with a poem and 2 angel cat figurines plus a candle holder.

I still miss my cat as well but my current furbaby sure has been a comfort and I'm sure she's looking down from Rainbow Bridge and approves of me adopting my girl.

 

[TexMel]

That's beautiful, Kat. I am glad you have found comfort in your new fur baby.

We also have the ashes. I think because of that experience, I over-spoil the other dog and cat. They both think they are humans. Rudy, the chihuahua mix, likes to be held like a baby at all times. So, while I'm doing household chores, I sometimes practice them one-armed and carry him around, just like people who actually have children have to do. He would absolutely love one of those baby carriers where he could just curl up against me.

God, I can't imagine how spoiled my actual children are going to be!

In another note, I'm 11dpo. Here's my test for today. I feel like I'm imagining very faint lines bc I want them to be there. What do you think?

 

[KatO79]

That's beautiful, Kat. I am glad you have found comfort in your new fur baby.

We also have the ashes. I think because of that experience, I over-spoil the other dog and cat. They both think they are humans. Rudy, the chihuahua mix, likes to be held like a baby at all times. So, while I'm doing household chores, I sometimes practice them one-armed and carry him around, just like people who actually have children have to do. He would absolutely love one of those baby carriers where he could just curl up against me.

God, I can't imagine how spoiled my actual children are going to be!

In another note, I'm 11dpo. Here's my test for today. I feel like I'm imagining very faint lines bc I want them to be there. What do you think?

If you're so good to your animals I'm sure you'll be a great mom Although spoiling children isn't very good. My DH's big brother's kids are very spoiled and they're such brats The divorce I'm sure isn't helping things as they're probably extra spoiled now.

Hmmm..... I'm horrible with HPTs unless it's a fairly obvious line If it were me, I'd test again in 2 days time. Maybe try a FRER if you can get a hold of one? Hope it's a BFP coming

AFM I go in to my 2nd U/S tomorrow morning so it'll be exciting to see how many follies there are and when I can trigger I'm debating that since DH is at home job hunting if he should come with me to this appointment or maybe if he should first come to the actual IUI so he can see what that's like since he has seen 1 U/S (though not with follies) I think both might be too much Maybe I'll just let him choose

 

[Fleur828815]

MissMetal, good luck with TTC. Have you had any tests done? Hope you won’t be waiting long for your BFP.

TexMel, I think I can barely make out a shadow of a line on the left pic. Test again in a couple of days, 11 dpo is still early!

Kat, good luck for tomorrow’s scan, fingers crossed for at least 2 beautiful follicles. Maybe DH could attend both appointments with you so he can have a better idea of what you’re going through?