Anyone TTC #1 and 30 or older?

[Fleur828815]

Kat, I’m glad DH accompanied you. He’s not supposed to ENJOY it, just support you. I don’t think it’s exactly a walk in the park for you. Sorry to hear your sister is still being a pain! I’m also hoping this baby sticks… IUI/IVF is possible here if it comes to that. I’m open to adoption but we live in a very family-oriented country, where babies are mostly raised by their extended families if their parents can’t care for them. Very few babies are actually given up for adoption (and I don’t think I’d be brave enough to adopt a child whose mother was on drugs during pregnancy), so the whole process can take years.

dede, I only temped for a month (and didn’t do it properly) so I’m afraid I can’t help on changing coverlines. I would think small variations are quite normal though.

drjo, so sorry that the doctors do the surgery only on Fridays and that it makes it all more complicated for you. Did the nurse check if they’d be willing to do it next Friday?

Molly, welcome and good luck with TTC!

Hollyness, good to see you around, hope everything is going well for you.

TexMel, wait until tomorrow if you can, you’ll only stress if your urine is too diluted and the line isn’t dark. I haven’t got round to doing a digital test yet, I’m waiting till after I’ve had a scan! Hope you’re not coming down with anything. I haven’t told anyone yet except for a couple of friends, I’m in no hurry this time.

MissDoc, even when you’re on a TTC break it’s good to know your signs etc, I find it all so fascinating! I also became crazy with OPKs and temping. Thanks for the sticky vibes! My scan is on Wednesday morning so I’ll know one way or another…

 

[shortcakes21]

I am 30 and my husband is 34 and we are ttc #1. I never thought this was going to be so difficult. I was (not officially) diagnosed with PCOS and am on several medications from my holistic dr. I test opk and i get nothing. Not one single positive since August (when we started trying).

 

[KatO79]

Kat, I’m glad DH accompanied you. He’s not supposed to ENJOY it, just support you. I don’t think it’s exactly a walk in the park for you. Sorry to hear your sister is still being a pain! I’m also hoping this baby sticks… IUI/IVF is possible here if it comes to that. I’m open to adoption but we live in a very family-oriented country, where babies are mostly raised by their extended families if their parents can’t care for them. Very few babies are actually given up for adoption (and I don’t think I’d be brave enough to adopt a child whose mother was on drugs during pregnancy), so the whole process can take years.

I just think he thought it was a bit awkward, especially when she asked him if he wanted to do the injecting.

I understand your concerns with adoption, I'd also be afraid of adopting some drug addict's baby or an older child with a bad past. My childish friend is adopted so that scares me off as well because look at what a mess she is, partly because she was abandoned at age 3 by her birth parents No thanks. I know some may think that makes me a bad person but I don't want my only chance at motherhood to be to fix someone else's psychological/emotional mess I'd only consider going for it if the mother had been healthy and it was a baby.

But I still hope you won't need to consider IUI/IVF and that this one sticks

 

[Fleur828815]

Sorry to hear TTC has been so difficult for you shortcakes. Can you go and see a doctor?

EElse, I don't know why a bit of my message disappeared! So I was saying the wedding you went to sounds lovely. It reminds me of a place I went to near Cape Town, Mojo I think? Good luck for testing tomorrow! How are you feeling?

 

[Fleur828815]

Kat, I definitely don't believe all adopted kids are messed up, but I know I'd struggle with a baby who had experience drug exposure.. I feel horrible for that but adoption is hard enough as it is, it's better to go in with eyes wide open. But then you don't always know, and even biological children can be messed up!

 

[shortcakes21]

hey... i see my obgyn (who said i have high testosterone seen on labwork but its due to my weight) and i see a holistic dr who put me on vitex, inositiol and NAC. Im on my first cycle and AF arrived CD25... with no positive OPK from CD6-25.

 

[KatO79]

Kat, I definitely don't believe all adopted kids are messed up, but I know I'd struggle with a baby who had experience drug exposure.. I feel horrible for that but adoption is hard enough as it is, it's better to go in with eyes wide open. But then you don't always know, and even biological children can be messed up!

No I don't either, I'd just be afraid of risking it because I don't think I'd deal with that sort of thing well either.

True, and at my age there is an increased risk of having a child with Down's or you always risk a baby born with some psychological disorder. But if that's what's meant to be, so be it. I just guess I wouldn't choose a child with problems if that makes sense

 

[drjo718]

Fleur- I'm trying to see if I can get fmla from work before then, and then I'll check with the clinic about having the surgery done cd17. I don't feel like it should matter, because I won't have ovulated by then anyway, so my lining should be normal pre-o thickness.

 

[EElse]

Fleur: Thanks I didn't test this morning, I actually caved last night and did the test after a 5 hour hold - it was negative. I'm not losing hope though because AF is only due on Thursday so I'll take another test if af doesn't show.

Thanks for all the support! Hope everything is going well with you? Still no symptoms?

 

[TexMel]

Ok here's my definitive proof and I guess I don't feel like a fraud going into the 1st tri discussion threads anymore.

 

[MissDoc]

Holy moly, Texmel, that is as clear as it gets! Congratulations, hon! So exciting!!

You certainly are not a fraud-- you're officially on the pregnancy train. Happy and healthy next 9 months!

 

[MollyFNP]

Texmel: congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!! Very exciting!! No doubt with lines like those

Shortcakes: sorry to hear of your troubles. Do the holistic doc and obgyn agree on the plan of action? Is there a plan for the high testosterone? Baby dust to you!

 

[shortcakes21]

Texmel: congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!! Very exciting!! No doubt with lines like those

Shortcakes: sorry to hear of your troubles. Do the holistic doc and obgyn agree on the plan of action? Is there a plan for the high testosterone? Baby dust to you!

Hey Molly... My obgyn isn't thrilled I see a holistic dr...but she just says its weight related and to join weight watchers. My holistic dr put me on vitex, inositol, and NAC. This is my first month on all three and kept getting negative opk and af came on cd25.

 

[KatO79]

Congrats TexMel

Texmel: congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!! Very exciting!! No doubt with lines like those

Shortcakes: sorry to hear of your troubles. Do the holistic doc and obgyn agree on the plan of action? Is there a plan for the high testosterone? Baby dust to you!

Hey Molly... My obgyn isn't thrilled I see a holistic dr...but she just says its weight related and to join weight watchers. My holistic dr put me on vitex, inositol, and NAC. This is my first month on all three and kept getting negative opk and af came on cd25.

Are your cycles regular? Depending on how much overweight you are, it could be affecting your ability to O (from https://www.babycenter.com/404_im-o...ct-my-chances-of-getting-pregnan_1479038.bc):

If you get your period every 28 days or so, it's likely that your weight isn't interfering with ovulation and it won't hurt your chances of getting pregnant.

But women who are overweight or obese may experience hormonal imbalances that can affect their menstrual cycles and prevent ovulation, making it harder to conceive.

For instance, being overweight is closely linked to a condition called polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS). In women with PCOS, the ovaries don't produce enough of the hormones that stimulate the egg to mature and be released.

Some women with PCOS also make too much of the hormone insulin. This hormone normally helps the body use and store sugars and starches from food, but too much of it causes the body to release an excess of male hormones called androgens. High levels of androgens can interfere with ovulation and make it difficult for you to get pregnant.

So you might be helping your chances by losing weight which will also make for a healthier pregnancy when you do conceive. The high testosterone levels are probably also what's interfering with your ability to O. So yes, your OBGYN may be right and it's the weight creating most of the problems

 

[Hollynesss]

Congrats, TexMel!!! H&H 9 months to you!!!

 

[Fleur828815]

Kat, how are you doing?

shortcakes, I hope the supplements you’re taking will help regulate your cycles. Good luck with the weight loss also. Apparently some women never get a clear positive on OPKs, or need to test twice a day.

drjo, any news about the fmla?

EElse, I hope it was just too early to test, especially since you tested at night. I still don’t really have symptoms except for sore boobs when I wake up, and maybe increased hunger.

TexMel, congrats, that is a very definite BFP! Wish you a wonderful pregnancy!

So I had my scan this morning and everything looks good for the moment so I’m very cautiously optimistic.

 

[TexMel]

Fleur, that is great news!!

 

[Praying4BB]

Yay Fleur!! That's great news!
Congrats TexMel!

 

[Hollynesss]

Praying, do you know if your twins are identical or fraternal? Do you have a pregnancy journal?

 

[Praying4BB]

Hi Holly! They are fraternal--we find out Monday if they are boys, girls, or one of each I am so excited, I don't know how I am going to have the patience to wait that long! I don't have intuition at all either way which makes me thing b/g and the Old Wives Tales are pretty split.

I don't have a pregnancy journal... I feel kind of bad about that, I know I would love to look back on it one day!