Anyone TTC #1 and 30 or older?

[KatO79]

Unfortunately I think I'm already out I'm 11 dpiui and was expecting AF Saturday or at earliest on Friday. I had some very light cramping yesterday and this morning some very faint brown in my CM. My cramps got slightly worse in the afternoon and I'm spotting pink. My cramps have lessened in the last couple of hours but still spotting.

I just don't get why it's started so early

 

[TexMel]

Kat - you're not out yet! Cramping is totally normal even during successful cycles. And it could be implantation spotting if it happened after the cramping. Have you taken any tests yet? I got my first very very faint BFP on 11dpo, then a much better one (still faint) on 12 dpo.

 

[KatO79]

Kat - you're not out yet! Cramping is totally normal even during successful cycles. And it could be implantation spotting if it happened after the cramping. Have you taken any tests yet? I got my first very very faint BFP on 11dpo, then a much better one (still faint) on 12 dpo.

Nope the nurse told me to test 16 dpiui if AF was a no show. I don't like that I'm cramping and bleeding at the same time. Which is making me think AF will be here by tomorrow Just don't get it coming early which has me worried.

 

[Hollynesss]

Congratulations on your little men, Praying!!!

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

Congrats, Praying! Boys will be so much fun, and they can wrestle and play together to keep each other entertained Have you picked out any names yet?

Very excited for you!! I will come back here on Friday with my own gender reveal. I can't wait to finally know!

 

[EElse]

Congrats on the boys Praying!! I think twin boys will be easier to handle than twin girls...

MJs: Thanks, I'll keep a look out for your gender reveal!

Kat: I hope that it is implantation bleeding! Keeping my fx for you!

Good luck everyone and to those waiting to test, I hope you get your this cycle!!

 

[KatO79]

Thanks EElse

Although I'm not so hopeful right now. Ended up calling the clinic and the nurse was leaning towards this being early AF and that she should soon be full-blown. She said that even if I'm pregnant it'd be too early to take an HPT so all we can do is wait. She did agree with me that this is unusual when I told her how AF normally comes for me but said there's nothing to be done.

I just don't get that if it is AF why it's taking so long for it to be full-blown and seems to be swinging in amount and color. I did have some red bleeding today but it stopped and went more pink I'm afraid that this cycle might go to waste because if it really is AF I need to start taking my hormones CD2 or 3 and am afraid of missing this window.

So I'm so stressed and frustrated right now

 

[zen108]

Hi kat, maybe it's implantation bleeding?

 

[KatO79]

Sorry guys, it's unfortunately and most definitely AF I'm starting to have heavy red bleeding so game over

So on to IUI #4 which will probably be a waste of time

I didn't ask her about the IVF referral (since I'm not in the best of moods right now) but will ask my nurse tomorrow at my scan. But I'm assuming it's something they automatically do.

 

[Fleur828815]

Kat, so sorry that AF turned up, and early at that I was hoping this month would be your lucky month. Take care of yourself and eat lots of chocolate if it helps! You must be feeling very discouraged but you have to keep believing, it will work! It’s good to be able to have the free IUIs and IVFs tries, so don’t give up hope yet. Let us know what the nurse says. How did your DH’s interview go?

Praying, congrats on being team blue, how fun!!! Did anyone guess right?

MJs, enjoy the gender reveal party and come and update us as soon as you can!

EElse, waiting for ovulation is boring… I have no idea about the temps, are they still the same? Are you taking them at the same time every day?

TexMel, how are things with you?

 

[EElse]

Kat: Sorry to hear that AF showed up. I was really praying for your bfp. Massive to you and don't lose hope!

Fleur: My temps went down by 0.1 degree Celsius this morning so that's at least a change Yes, I take them at 03:30 when my husband wakes up (if I don't wake from his alarm, he has been tasked to wake me up ). The only thing I can think of that could have influenced my temps is that now that summer is moving into autumn, I have placed a blanket on the bed (we usually only sleep under sheets). If my temps keep going down or at least doesn't stay the same everyday, then I will chalk these three temps up to the fact that I put the blanket on... I'm just glad that the strange temps happened at the beginning of my new cycle and not in the middle...

Good luck to everyone here! Whether you are waiting for your or stressing through your first trimester, I send you massive !!

 

[KatO79]

Kat, so sorry that AF turned up, and early at that I was hoping this month would be your lucky month. Take care of yourself and eat lots of chocolate if it helps! You must be feeling very discouraged but you have to keep believing, it will work! It’s good to be able to have the free IUIs and IVFs tries, so don’t give up hope yet. Let us know what the nurse says. How did your DH’s interview go?

Kat: Sorry to hear that AF showed up. I was really praying for your bfp. Massive to you and don't lose hope!

Thanks guys Yeah, I guess 3rd time isn't the charm, at least not for me I'm starting to think my eggs stink, there must be something going on Again thinking we're doing this too late and should've been trying 5 years ago instead, maybe it'd of been easier. I was even talking about donor eggs already with DH but he thinks I'm being a bit too quick and should at least wait until we've been through all our free tries.

My oldest BIL has his birthday coming up soon so it'll be another uncomfortable dinner where my in-laws will give me looks.

I just don't get why I can't seem to catch a break, I was hoping I would at TTCing but that's down the drain months and months ago.

Maybe I should hope for 1 really good egg this time since when I do 2, I make rubbish, apparently

Sorry, will get over this by tomorrow or the day after, just need to vent at the moment

 

[Hollynesss]

Aww nuts, so sorry Kat!

 

[TexMel]

So sorry Kat. I know it can be discouraging. And feel free to vent away. But, then get ready for the next round, there is still hope. Be glad you get all of this for free. In America, you would have already shelled out a fortune for the tries you've gotten.

Fleur - thanks for asking. I am doing well so far. Exhaustion has started to set in. And my bbs are so heavy, I had to wear 2 bras to work yesterday. But, those are the worst of my complaints, so I feel very lucky. Dr apt is April 2, hoping to see my bean and hear a hb. How are you doing? Any more symptoms?

 

[KatO79]

So sorry Kat. I know it can be discouraging. And feel free to vent away. But, then get ready for the next round, there is still hope. Be glad you get all of this for free. In America, you would have already shelled out a fortune for the tries you've gotten.

Yeah I know but it's still frustrating to see AF every time. I've soon been trying for 1½ years and feel like it must be my turn by now, you'd think, right?

Appointment went fine and they're keeping my dose at 75 IU Puregon since she felt I respond well to it and saw no reason to increase it. No cysts I go in again on Friday for U/S #2 to see when I can trigger. DH came with me and got to ask a couple of questions to the nurse which is good, also because he can answer any questions his parents have and "defend" me if they start conveying worry over my lack of ability to conceive. He also managed to remember to ask her about referring us to the nearest hospital for IVF since there's a long waiting period and she said she'd get that done today So we're set for IVF if the next 3 IUIs don't work out either.

The nurse doesn't think it's my eggs though, she kept talking about how timing is everything so guess ours wasn't optimal the last 3 times

 

[KatO79]

BTW TexMel, it's not completely free, DH and I are still shelling out $150-170 a month for my hormones and we're a 1 income household. Not only that but the taxes here are insane, about 45% of DH's paycheck goes to taxes before he gets his money and about 25% of what's left goes to diverse taxes as well for living expenses such as groceries, clothes or whatever we need and any other necessary expenses such as if we need to go to the dentist or our cat needs to go to the vet. So in a way, we've been paying for this since the state uses taxes to pay for people's fertility treatment.

I'm not ungrateful, it's great that the system pays but I still have the right to be sad when my IUIs fail, just as much as anyone else, no matter if they're paying or not. Each fail always makes me wonder a bit if I'll ever succeed in getting pregnant. I have been TTCing for 1½ years and am 35, turning 36 on May 1st. It's natural to be a bit worried and sad after each fail, particularly at my age, and has nothing to do with me not appreciating the free tries or not feeling a bit bad that other people in other countries have to pay. The fact the actual procedures are free doesn't lessen the pain.

Anyway started my injections Friday night and things are going good. I'm hoping they time the trigger for a bit longer than 25 hours before the IUI as that may help things. I'm thinking it's probably not good to have Oed or be in the process of Oing when they do the IUI. I may find out on Friday what the plan is if I'm ready to trigger.

 

[TexMel]

Of course, Kat! I wasn't trying to take away from your pain or emotional journey in any way! You absolutely still have every right to feel saddened and distraught. I still have my fingers crossed for you that this will be your cycle!

 

[MissDoc]

Praying-- Oh my goodness, they are just too cute already! Congrats on those little guys!

Eelse-- I get so annoyed when my temps are doing weird things and I can't figure out why. I've heard that they can change a bit with the seasons so perhaps the climate change is the culprit?

Texmel-- Your scan is right around the corner! Looking forward to you getting to see the heart beat! As for the 2 bras thing, wow! I wonder if a sports-style bra or one of those "genie" bras would be good at this time?

Fleur-- How are things going with you? Has the nervous caution leveled out a bit as things inch along, or is it everpresent? Allowing for any moments of thrilled excitement yet?

Kat-- I'm so sorry to hear that your period arrived. I think I missed the number, but how many more IUIs do you try before shifting over to IVF? Hopefully you won't even need the IVF, but I'm happy it's an option for you. Are you feeling hopeful and ready for IVF, or are you hoping to stay with IUI for a while?

As for me, I am doing okay. I did ovulate this month (or temps seem to suggest so), so that's a plus. On the other hand, it's hard watching another ovulation go by without doing every thing possible to try to get pregnant. I need to wait a bare minimum of another month before my body will be potentially ready to actively try, so at least until May. So for April, I will continue to focus on healthy habits and monitoring my cycles. Nothing too exciting here.

 

[KatO79]

Kat-- I'm so sorry to hear that your period arrived. I think I missed the number, but how many more IUIs do you try before shifting over to IVF? Hopefully you won't even need the IVF, but I'm happy it's an option for you. Are you feeling hopeful and ready for IVF, or are you hoping to stay with IUI for a while?

Thanks MissDoc I'm currently in the process of taking 75 IU Puregon (like I did for IUI #3) for IUI #4 since they felt I responded well to that dosage and saw no need to set it up. We have been put on the waiting list for IVF at our local hospital (the clinic took care of this when we told them IUI #3 failed) but there's a waiting period of 4-5 months at the hospital (they can only handle 350 couples at a time). So we have no choice but to wait for IVF and continue with IUI in the meantime so we don't waste time like the clinic says during the wait. And as the clinic says, who knows, maybe one of IUI #4-6 will pay off and IVF will be unnecessary

 

[MissDoc]

Kat, that seems like a good plan. It's nice that you don't have to just wait for the IVF, but instead can keep up with the IUIs, because it would be so lovely to get lucky and have one of those work out! I'll keep my fingers crossed for good things for you!