Anyone TTC #1 and 30 or older?

[drjo718]

Fleur- it's my 1st time on provera so I'm not sure how long it wI'll take. I'm hoping just a few days.

 

[Fleur828815]

EElse, yeah, better to get it checked out to rule out any problems just in case.

Kat, it’s a good idea to keep yourself distracted with other things. Have fun planning your birthday!

cutestuff, I’ve also been avoiding taking anything although I think paracetamol is safe during pregnancy. Sorry to hear that you might not qualify for insurance. I’ve got health insurance but it hardly covers anything so I’m having to pay out of pocket for all appointments. Delivery will be covered though, thankfully! What about you?

drjo, hope AF will turn up soon!

 

[cutestuff]

Ladies, I hope you are doing well... I think about you all a lot....
Fleur, I think I would have two options if I did not qualify out of the gate. Since in the US we have medi-cal and that is the only insurance that allows for year around open enrollment, my first option would be to discuss with my case manager my income and see how I can change it and if it means working fewer hours and reporting monthly, then that is what I will have to do. However, if that does not work, I will have to pay out of pocket for the first appointment and then open enrollment starts again in November, however, if you are expecting the birth of a baby within 60 days, I think you can enroll separately which would put me at enrolling in late September early october which worst case scenario would mean insurance covering the last 2 months of appointments and delivery with a deductible of something like 5-6 thousand dollars US but I think it is about one third of what it would cost if I were to pay for everything out of pocket. I just have to figure it out cause I dont make much and I am having a hard time justifying interviewing for other positions knowing in 8 months I will be gone for at least 10 weeks if not longer.....
Kat, I am proud of you for how you deal with your family. I also am the black sheep and it gets really hurtful to feel like you do not belong in your own family. Keep strong and trust that if they are meant to be in your life, they will change for you and your child....

 

[KatO79]

Kat, I am proud of you for how you deal with your family. I also am the black sheep and it gets really hurtful to feel like you do not belong in your own family. Keep strong and trust that if they are meant to be in your life, they will change for you and your child....

Thanks cutestuff Yeah, it's totally not fun at all. My mother and brother verbally abuse me, my brother does it almost every time I write with him over FB (since he has 0 interest in calling). Both him and my mom show 0 interest in changing. Unfortunately, Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) isn't something that can be cured. So nope, they will never change. Not even if I go no contact on them. People with NPD don't have empathy for others (not even people in their own family) and feel they have the right to say and do whatever they want and that they're never wrong. I can't even kindly tell them to not be abusive because they just silent treatment me for a while or go into a rage. I'm the chosen scapegoat in thie family and all the issues in this family are my fault - despite the fact I'm the youngest sibling and younger than all my cousins (they're 20+ years older than me). I'm told all the time what a selfish, childish and horrible person I am every chance my brother and mother get. My only choice in the end will be go no contact since they're too toxic for me, never mind a child.

Here are som articles on NPD:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder

and NPD mothers/parents:

https://www.lightshouse.org/the-narcissistic-parent.html#axzz3INSsJyE4

https://www.lightshouse.org/characteristics-of-narcissistic-mothers.html#axzz3INSsJyE4

Plus one about ACoNs (Adult Child(ren) of Narcissist(s)):

https://www.lightshouse.org/acon-page.html#axzz3YFJxQpL3

 

[Fleur828815]

cutestuff, it all sounds very complicated and stressful, I hope you'll find a long-term viable solution.

Have a good weekend everyone!

 

[cutestuff]

Thanks Fleur...

Just got the word that I qualify for insurance specific for pregnancy. That means for the entire time I am pregnant including labor and delivery, I will not have to pay anything out of pocket. Once I have the baby, I will have to have regular insurance but I am pretty sure that will be reasonable.

That is the best news I could have gotten... I cant wait for the next two weeks to fly by so I can confirm at the doctor that I really am pregnant and every thing is okay with the baby... I just can't believe it...... The only real symptoms I seem to continually have is peeing every 45 minutes to an hour and at least 2-3 times at night, extra fatigue, extra thirst, sore/tender boobies, and gas like you wouldn't believe....

I hope everyone is doing well and I really hope that Mother's day brings about some more BFPs. I will update you all the Tuesday after my scan.

 

[Fleur828815]

That's great news! Pregnancy is when you'll incur the highest medical costs anyway.

Trust me, you have lots of symptoms! In fact you seem to have the most common ones apart from nausea

 

[dede3124]

Doctor called yesterday and think I have polyps, still or again, don't know. And another friend told me she is pregnant. I think every time I get scary news it's become a pattern for another pregnancy announcement. Trying to be positive.

 

[cutestuff]

Doctor called yesterday and think I have polyps, still or again, don't know. And another friend told me she is pregnant. I think every time I get scary news it's become a pattern for another pregnancy announcement. Trying to be positive.

Dede I am so sorry you are going through this. It is easy to feel that way. In fact, there were many months, even before ttc when I thought I could be pregnant and someone else was instead.

Nothing will make that easier to hear or see, but I will be praying for you and I really hope you get some good news soon////

 

[KatO79]

So it's official, am 36 and no BFP of course since I'm CD12 today. To make it worse, I have a stuffy nose and sneezing thanks to DH who couldn't wait to clean the apartment until after my birthday. I seem to get this whenever I get dust up my nose so I'm wondering if I'm a bit allergic or what It's very odd, whatever it is.

DH is in a bit of a bad mood today. He came out saying we need to do more cleaning and when I told him "Nope, did enough the last 2 days" he got pissed and went back into the bedroom. I don't know what's up with him and today of all days

 

[Fleur828815]

So sorry to hear that dede. When are you seeing the doctor to decide on the next steps?

Happy birthday Kat! Hope you make up with DH and have a lovely day, and that this year brings you the best of gifts!

 

[TexMel]

Happy birthday Kat!! Hope your day turns around!

 

[dede3124]

Fleur - waiting to hear from doctor....I want my re to look at the tests and get his opinion on the next steps.

 

[KatO79]

Thanks everyone! DH was quickly in a better mood and made up for it by making me blueberry pancakes We went out to eat at a cute little restaurant at night with great food (recommended by Michelin but don't have any stars) and took a walk at a nearby amusement park.

Now for the gifts: DH got me "The Music of Nashville" (soundtrack from the series "Nashville") season 2 both volume 1 and 2 plus season 3 volume 1. He also bought season 1 volume 1+2 soundtracks but the post office screwed up and we got the wrong package (someone's shoes) Hoping his package shows up (the post office has opened a case) but worst case scenario, he'll re-order them for me. Also got a Blu Ray "Thor: The Dark World" and a hard disk and another CD, Papa Roach : F.E.A.R. Will be getting gifts from his family on the 9th at my party.

TTC-wise, I'm CD13 (I think, haven't been keeping track very well) and have been having watery/EWCM the last couple of days so I'm guessing I'll O this cycle. We BDed this morning and will keep on BDing every 1½-2 days so we're sure to have a chance. But not having much hope.

 

[Oldermummy78]

Hi can I join please

I'm 37 and just seeing how things go

I'm confused though and wondered if anyone that moniters can help me
So I really want to know where my ov was/is I had sorry tmi next
A glob of blood yesterday then nothing and today tinged slightly red when wiped ? Is it worth me going to get some now or could I have missed? My boobs are hurting loads too?I originally got sorry tmi
clear stretchy on the 1st may and the ewcm 2nd is it worth going for the opk test or is that my signal it's happened

I'm not getting many answers anywhere so hope you don't mind me jumping in

 

[cutestuff]

Kat, Happy late birthday.... Glad to hear your DH was quick to make up. Its easy to attack each other when stressed or whatever and he may be having some of the same feelings you are regarding the TTC journey you are on.

Welcome Oldermummy.... I am not sure I understand your post. I know some women experience some spotting around ovulation, so it cant hurt to take an OPK or get some extra BD in especially if you have been taking them and you havent gotten a positive yet. Is this your first???????

AFM: 7 days and counting until my first appointment. I am really nervous. I dont look as bloated and my boobs are not as sore and after going number 2 I have started seeing flecks of blood... Sorry if TMI. So anyway, I just cannot wait to have the doctor say everything is all good...... Then I could make some real decisions based on fact rather than hope.....

 

[KatO79]

Kat, Happy late birthday.... Glad to hear your DH was quick to make up. Its easy to attack each other when stressed or whatever and he may be having some of the same feelings you are regarding the TTC journey you are on.

Thanks cutestuff I think he's also stressed because we're having a little "family only" belated birthday party for me at our place on Saturday the 9th of May (since 3-4 people couldn't come on the 2nd of May) and he wants the apartment to be clean and free from any clutter. He becomes a total neat freak when we have parties at our place and it stresses him out a bit.

I hope your appointment goes very well and everything looks completely normal

 

[Oldermummy78]

Hi oh sorry cute stuff it's not my first but first in the way of ttc others I was lucky and happened quite quickly without having to think about it and the other 2 were while on bc so complete surprises
X

 

[Fleur828815]

dede, have you heard back from your doctor?

Kat, I’m glad you had a good birthday and some nice gifts from DH. I also stress about having everything clean before people come over. Good luck for this cycle even if you’re not feeling hopeful.

oldermummy, I have no idea, sorry!

cutestuff, I know how you feel, I didn’t believe there was a baby in there till I saw it at the ultrasound… And after each ultrasound I start wondering again if everything’s going OK in there! How many weeks are you now? Don’t worry about the reduced symptoms, it happens.

TexMel, how is your pregnancy going?

drjo, hope AF has turned up!

 

[dede3124]

Fluer - I haven't. I am going to call today and see what is going on.