*Assisted conception ladies due Jan/Feb/March 2017*

[elliecain]

We were told to abstain for 3 days after transfer. We waited for 15 days and then the early pregnancy hormones made me into a crazed sex fiend (not my usual style at all) and we dtd. I had some brown spotting the next day, which alarmed me, but it stopped when I upped the progesterone and put it in the back door. Not dtd since... I'm very scared of damaging my baby and just want to wait until the scan.

For modesty, I'll put the next bit in a spoiler...

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Probably way TMI, but I did have an orgasm 4 days after transfer. I figured it would have implanted by then, so no risk of it moving to a Fallopian tube. I'd read about loads of women having sleep orgasms in 2ww and I reckoned it was probably safe by then.

 

[nimbec]

Thanks ladies MUCH appreciated!! I have just had a call from the NHS hospital as well where I have had my treatment for ohss and they want me to go to the early pregnancy unit Monday at 11am for a scan - I wish it wasn't so early in the week as I will be panicking if I don't see a hb! The. I have my fertility clinic scan Thursday - if I'm lucky enough to see a hb Monday I will ask if I can delay my fertility clinic one to the following week so I can have another sneaky peek!

 

[Fern81]

Ellie- I guess one girl you've convinced me. Love your nails!

We weren't put on any restrictions but sadly we almost never dtd in any case... :/ I keep planning to do something about it but yeah. I don't know why we stopped but it's been like this for a year or so.

 

[Fern81]

Oh great news nimbec I hope we both have great scans on monday!!

 

[beemeck]

good luck nimbec!!

great numbers ellie and I LOVE LOVE those nails!!! I'm going to get a pedicure after work - I can't wait. And for the official vote - I vote one baby!

to contribute to the conversations happening....

DH and I have not BDed. I'm pretty terrified. I never asked doc about it one way or another but that's basically bc my RE annoyed the hell out of me and his response to EVERYthing was "it's fine". I'm terrified of the mysterious state of my cervix post cervical ectopic and stitches. The docs admittingly don't much about it or what to expect from it. there is no way of seeing what my inner cervix (where the stitches were) really looks like without dilating me which they've never done. so I've made the decision myself for no BD...at least until further along or further conversations with my OBs. Honestly, I'd like to go the whole pregnancy without it - I'm so scared of having incompetent cervix since many women with LEEP procedures (scarring in cervix) go on to have that. I'm also super over BDing since with IUI we were still going at it like bunnies every month for over a year to make sure we didn't miss it. I have zero interest. I did have a few orgasms in my sleep early on, and it worried me because it was super early and I knew my uterus was contracting, but obv didn't have any issues. just wanna stay as far away from my cervix as possible!!!

as for gut feelings/gender disappointment... I'm convinced beyond belief that I have a little girl. I'm also desperate for a girl, but I don't think that's why I think it is. My first pregnancy, I didn't have a feeling one way or the other. with this pregnancy, from the start I've been convinced. We are team yellow because I couldn't deal with the disappointed of finding out we were team blue. When they hand me my baby, I know I'll be thrilled regardless. I feel like an awful person to have gone through these struggles and still feel so strongly about it, but being completely honest, it's how I feel.

 

[froggyfrog]

Fern, a year . Might be tmi, but we are extremely "active". Just waiting those few weeks was so horrible! But the first time we did it, I was extremely scared and didn't want us to get too much into it just in case.

 

[2have4kids]

Nimbac you'll see a heartbeat, they saw both heaetbeats on my twins at 6weeks 0 days, can't wait yo hear your news!

Fern, roll on the big scan!! Very excited for you!

We haven't done snything but we did with my first pregnancy. Orgasms and all. If I didn't have sch we'd def be doing it.

I've decided I'm going back to the gym this week. I hate how my body feels and time is running out before I'll be busy with work.

I hope you're all doing well. So much excitement on here right now!
Welcome es89 & congrats!

 

[Fern81]

Beemeck- really hope you get your little girl. X

Froggy- I'm jealous!! We've been dtd this past year or so around o time of course but not really more than that... beemeck's post made me think maybe it's because of all the pressure of ttc that we've both stopped enjoying it. Maybe I should just try to seduce him this weekend .

 

[2have4kids]

Oh and I have NO clue what we're having, hoping for boy/girl but happy with whatever we're given!

Anybody else get headsches from the estrogen?

 

[beemeck]

fern - ttc totally kills sex lives!!! somehow it never got old for my DH but it totally took all the fun out of it for me

 

[nimbec]

I can relate with all you ladies we spent 3 years like rabbits trying to get pregnant and I was sick of it, but since we stopped all the forced timing sex it has been really nice. I think we are quite active too but we do have weeks that go by when we are not. I'm also frightened to do anything but not sure how long I can hold out for 😂. I will ask the clinic next week and try not to go bright red !!

Beemeck you mustn't feel awful I hear lots of ladies feel the same, I even think their is a forum for it. Like you say you will be thrilled when your bundle of joy is passed to you. Do you already have a boy?

I'm really happy either way as long as baby is healthy! I'm hoping to be able to hold my baby straight away as last time he went straight to special care and it was 2 days before I got my first cuddle - I've made up for it since lol!!

 

[beemeck]

Nope this is my first nimbec , which makes me feel even worse for it. But recently I've just been owning it because I'm not sure what else to do .

I'm glad they moved your scan up ! And I agree, I try to spread mine out as much a possible so I can get more regular check ins. I hope your scan goes great and things continue to go your way all the way until baby is handed right to you after birth !!!

 

[elliecain]

I totally agree. Timed sex for 18 months takes all the fun out of it. I think it will come back, just need to feel safer with my embie first.

 

[rebecca822]

Hey all! Just a quick update.
We had our farewell appointment today. We brought the doctors office donuts and coffee.
The babies look great

Off to my OB next week like a regular pregnant lady

 

[2have4kids]

Congrats on your graduation rebecca!

Has anyone had headaches frim the estrogen pills? Everytime I take one I seem to get a headsche 45 minutes later. I have 2 weeks left until I can wean off everything but I'm not sure how I'll deal until then. I never get headaches!

 

[Fern81]

Sorry to be no help 2have, I didn't take any estrogen after bfp. All I can do is send you good thoughts! Cold/warm compresses?

Beemeck- feel free to share anything on here and get it off your chest. If you can't say it in a support forum, where can you? We are all different culturally & with our belief systems, preferences etc but I can't imagine anyone on this thread picking on someone for voicing a personal issue or concern .

Congrats on the next step Rebecca!

I'm literally counting the seconds until my scan; can hardly think of anything else!!

 

[nimbec]

Rebecca yay how exciting!! You are now also in second tri...😀

2have sorry I can't help I did take it but was taken off when developed ohss, hope you get some answers.

Fern not long now!!

 

[Rq120]

I've been getting a pulling sensation in my belly the past 2 days. Like my abdominal muscles feel weak.

 

[Myshelsong]

Oh gosh, sex lol! We had forced, timed sex for three years then stopped once we finally got to a fertility specialist and started IUIs for two years then the IVF. Sex was such a horrible emotional chore it took a bit until sex could just be fun and exciting again. Thankfully the IUIs took a lot of the stress off of us, but by then our physical relationship had really taken a toll.
Now that we are finally pregnant hubs sex drive has come back, but I am still too nervous to have it regularly. I am hoping once we get through to the second trimester it will finally come back. But if not I know hubs will understand. We worked soooooo hard for this I am crazy nervous, feeling blessed and scared and happy and terrified at the same time is not conducive to sexy time.

RQ- I also have the pulling sensation, especially after yesterday I really overdid it. I am super sore. I think it is round ligament pain. Has yours subsided? Mine normally comes on and off for a few days really strong then magically goes away.

2have- sorry never had estrogen pills. However I am starting the second trimester headaches ... They suck full on. Trying everything to get rid of them. I can't even remember the last time I had a headache before this week....

Hope to hear some good scan details soon!

AFM we told the inlaws some friends and my aunt this weekend. It was our big backyard birthday bash for hubs and he went on a telling spree once he had a couple drinks lol. We purposely made a little card for his parents that had the ultrasound picture. His mom was so excited she started tearing up and kept saying, "I'm going to meet a grandchild!" She has been super sick recently so it was amazing she came and was able to share our news. Omg I am crying again.

Anyways going on a week vacation so will be away from the board for the week.
Hope everyone has a wonderful week bull of great scans, disappearing symptoms and little baby flutters!!

 

[froggyfrog]

My migraines have been extremely excruciating for the last week. I called in and got a prescription and it stopped working. Friday night was so bad,I couldn't move, I called the midwife on call and she was concerned so told me to go into the ER. I had a CT done with dye to check for blood clots and it came back normal as well as my blood work. Pain meds aren't helping. They lower the pain but don't take it away, so now I have to follow up with a neurologist.