Attachment Parenting Group

[Kitten]

btw that food shop is cool...u don't happen to know a uk site (or an american site that ships to the uk) that sells that bright yellow totoally processed natcho cheese sauce? (u can get it in the cimema) OH is addicted to it and i really wanna get him some

https://cgi.ebay.co.uk/-BOTTLE-NACH...temQQimsxq20091126?IMSfp=TL091126157002r33962

https://www.discoveryfoodsdirect.com/nacho-cheese-sauce-11-p.asp

 

[purple_socks]

oh yay! i love u kitten!!!!

 

[purple_socks]

I don't really feel Christmassy right up until the last minute usually, then on Christmas Day I am really excited and all the people who have been excited all month aren't as much. Lol!

I am far too scared about the fact I have done almost no shopping and have all my family to buy for still. That and we are totally broke! There are only so many people who can tolerate homemade fudge and bath salts, lol. Oh well.

If anyone has any ideas for different stuff I can make please tell me!

this year i'm making bandana bibs for all Kians little nct class buddies (the babies from our antinatal class) i got a really cool book with loads of ideas for sewing projects for kids. stuff like toys, rice filled bookends, simple play clothes etc

am thinking abt making my friend a wheat bag with lavender but not sure if i'll ever get round to it.

previous years i've made my friends *something jokey* survival kits...for example i made one of my friends a button phobe survival kit coz shes scared of buttons. it had fluffy trim rubber gloves (like the ones kim and aggie wear on how clean is ur house) coz she wears rubber gloves if she has to touch buttons. some massive joke glasses with little circle stickers to act as button black out areas so she didn't have to look at them. tweezers, some packets of poppers and a 'facing ur fear' book that i made which had a different button on each page so she could work her way through and do home style therapy! i always put them in a decorated shoe box with a contents list stuck on the front explaining all the stuff...they're cheap but funny!

also candles r cheap to make if u use old candles and melt them down and use things like old jam jars as holders...all u need then is wick and maybe glass paints if u wanna decorate the outside of the jars. i made some candles not long ago with dried petals in (although every now and then a petal would sizzle and burn for a second but it was ok coz it was all in a jar so no major fires!) but they did look pretty

or u could make people home made xmas jams/chutneys/pickle/ relish or cookies? and truffles r cheap to make?

...or sew little stockings and fill them with homemade ginger bread!!

ok i'm gonna stop now or i'll go on 4ever! i luuuurv making things

 

[Kitten]

Wow I wish I had time to make stuff. Hoping when Theakston's older we can do it together. Have you got the Cath Kidson book - Sew? God I want it!

 

[purple_socks]

no i've never heard of it. i've got https://www.amazon.co.uk/Lotta-Jans...=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1260286331&sr=8-2

and a couple of books on other crafty projects for babies/children.

I don't have much time to make things now Kian is around. I miss it coz i used to love making things and painting etc (altho i also love having Kian around so i s'pose thats good compensation) He doesn't nap for as long (or as often) as he used to and i wanna do things with him when he's awake so i usually only make things at the weekend if OH is around to play with kian or on tuesday...Kian spends tuesdays with nanny. She picks him up abt 9.30 and brings him back abt 4 so thats my 'making time' (it should probably b my 'cleaning the house' time but i prefer arts and crafts to house work )

i can't wait for Kian to b old enough to make things with me!! i worked at a couple of arts and crafts summer camps and i ran a arts project for the council once so i'm armed with many play dough recipes and camp craft type projects!! i can't wait til Kian is old enough to make christmas decorations...i made some pretty funky salt dough ones last year with my nephews.

Kian was nappynapperson yesterday tho...he slept for most of the day! (i think he's having a growth spurt or something) so i made chutney all day! they're presents for our neighbours and OHs grandad etc

 

[codegirl]

https://i16.photobucket.com/albums/b27/codegirl/AttachementParenting.jpg

 

[mommyof3co]

Haha cute...and true

 

[purple_socks]

lol thats quite funny...and familiar!

 

[nkbapbt]

Sooo cute and true (sadly)!

 

[purple_socks]

nkbapbt- ur aviator pic is sooooooo cute! awww! i love it!

 

[faille]

Excuse the ignorance, but what exactly "is" attachment parenting? I've read an article which basically says you go by your babies emotion and needs but I don't understand how that's any different to any other kind of parenting?? Surely, everyone puts their babies needs first?

If someone could put it in laymens terms for me, that'd be great

 

[Kitten]

Oooh toughie. It's hard to describe without offending others, for me anyway. The way I view putting his needs before mine is breastfeeding on demand even though it makes life unpredictable, is tiring etc. Not doing cry it out even though it means 'pandering to him' and 'making him clingy', wearing him instead of having him in a pram away from me... just basically letting him dictate my life instead of the other way round. Instead of following the common idea that the baby must adapt and fit into your lifestyle, I adapt to live by his rules. But I think it means different things to different people.

 

[codegirl]

Here is some great info on attachement parenting from Dr. Sears

Attachement Parenting

 

[faille]

Oooh toughie. It's hard to describe without offending others, for me anyway. The way I view putting his needs before mine is breastfeeding on demand even though it makes life unpredictable, is tiring etc. Not doing cry it out even though it means 'pandering to him' and 'making him clingy', wearing him instead of having him in a pram away from me... just basically letting him dictate my life instead of the other way round. Instead of following the common idea that the baby must adapt and fit into your lifestyle, I adapt to live by his rules. But I think it means different things to different people.

See, I totally agree with this and my mum is always going on about how babies have to fit around me and not the other way round but I've always let Violet dictate the day and her own routines. I don't believe in cio and that babies don't cry for no reason or to manipulate etc.

But I also don't agree with some of the reasoning from the link that codegirl posted.

So I guess I'm borderline AP

Thanks for explaining anyway, heard the term on here before but never knew what it actually was x

 

[codegirl]

I think the best thing about what Dr. Sears writes is

AP is a tool. Tools are things you use to complete a job. The better the tools, the easier and the better you can do the job. Notice we use the term "tools" rather than "steps." With tools you can pick and choose which of those fit your personal parent-child relationship.

and I totally agree, take was you can use and through the rest away. That's an important part of this style. Not everything works for everyone. So you don't have to agree with everything to Attachement Parent

 

[Kitten]

Yeah, well put. I think everyone takes bits and pieces from different 'styles' to create their own way anyway.

 

[purple_socks]

Hello everyone...how was everyones xmas and new year?

hope u all had a good 1 x

 

[mommyof3co]

We had a great Christmas despite everyone getting sick. Casen ended up in the ER a couple days after but everyone is getting better now so that's good

Hope you had a good one too!

 

[purple_socks]

oh dear! ER? what happened?! hope everyones recovered/ recovering well.

we had a good 1 thanks. We spent it with a groups of friends and i think Kian really loved having so many people round. It would appear that hes quite a sociable little bunny!

 

[Kitten]

Theakston got totally overwhelmed by everything but only showed it once by crying through a 45min car journey, it was torture to listen to but not much I could do! We're suffering through the 6month growth spurt and teething at the mo, I look like a zombie, heh.