Well on an unrelated note, a little drama to take the mind off.
A couple of weeks ago, DH talked to his mom and they agreed to throw me a sprinkle for this baby since I'd never had a right proper shower for any of my kids. I was super thrilled and grateful. DH told me his "mom and her sisters" were throwing it, and nothing more. I know that his mom and her younger sister were very involved. Obviously I talk to his mom a lot, and it was at the younger sister's house - so they were obviously involved. I did not see the older sister's involvement, but it isn't my place to determine or know how much each one contributed, that would be rude to ask.
So I made them all a wee little gift, a monogrammed soap bottle that I posted upthread, and a bottle of inexpensive wine. I made the same thing for each of the women, because again, it would be rude to "tell" me who did what, it would be rude for me to ask, and it would be rude to thank some and not others. I put ribbon and a thank you note on each one and made them "pretty". I don't frequently see the aunts, so I gave them to my MIL and asked her to drop them by to her sister (she sees them fairly frequently). I would have just handed them out at the shower, but I literally walked out the door and forgot them on the counter!
All good right? No problems? I did the socially acceptable thing and thanked them all, they did the tactful thing and didn't brag about who did what or who didn't do what, all good, right?
Well, MIL sent out a cute picture in a group text saying here is the thank you to all the ladies and she'd be bringing them by, AFAIK there was no ill intent. Well apparently younger sister got super offended that oldest sister got a thank you gift the same as hers, because she felt her contribution was significantly more. Who cares? The idea of a hostess gift is because you are grateful, not to equal the contribution of the hostess. It is not like if I hadn't gotten one for the oldest sister the youngest sister would have gotten anything different? So why be so pissy? It's a hand soap and bottle of inexpensive wine, it's the thought that counts....
So MIL is not talking to her younger sister, she feels she is in the wrong and I agree, although "not speaking to" isn't my style, I agree she is being childish. MIL has also refused to tell me (not downright refusal, just won't bring it up) why she is upset with her, which I respect her for. I had to pry it out of DH because I suspected that was what it was.
It's unfortunate too, younger sister/aunt is about to have her second grandchild (MIL's third) she is due the 31st of July.
