Aussies trying to get duffered aged 20+ !!!

[Abby27]

I'm a nervous wreck about it! I've done some reading on progesterone defecinency and I have some of the symptoms.. So if its that then that could be good, apparently anxiety is a symptom! Long cycles, irregular periods! If they found something and the treatment also helped my anxiety that would be fantastic. Appointments in an hour.

Any way, I've got a chin pimple which is always my first indicator of af!

 

[MissieT]

Just remember having tests and finding out if something is wrong doesn't change whether you have it or not but it does equip you with information and the ability to fix/ manage it . Keep us posted lovely lady xxx

 

[Abby27]

All good! Just bad luck at this stage! So...I'm pleased but a bit flat.

 

[ginny83]

Have you tested today Abs? Your chart looks good

 

[Abby27]

I have gin and bfn. I'm quite down today!

 

[ginny83]

sorry to hear that If this cycle doesn't work out though, just think of it as your body needed a bit of a break and hopefully the next one will line up again

 

[Abby27]

Gin you are 100 % correct! It's probably what my body needs. But I'm seeing all these friends on fb announcing their second pregnancy and I can't even hold one. I know it's not a competition but I'm turning 36 next month...I'm just getting myself really down.

 

[ginny83]

Abs, I go through the same thing all the time...

I'm the only person that I've ever actually known that's lost a baby after they announced it. Like I know they happen, but they're never happened to someone that I know. Every time I see a pregnancy announcement I get envious thinking why do they they're safe when I wasn't and I will probably never feel safe again.

 

[Abby27]

It sucks Gin! It just sucks! I'm falling apart after my two early loses ...I don't know how you do it.
I'm so mad at dh today. He has done nothing wrong, he just wasn't in the mood the night we should've bd, and so I'm mad... Some 11 days later

 

[ginny83]

yeah, my DF only seems to want it sometimes when I don't which is annoying!

But, we've made an agreement to make sure we dtd on the peak days and we'll just see how we feel all the other times. I don't want it to become a chore, miscarriages are hard on relationships so I don't want ttc to hurt it either.

 

[Abby27]

Normally he is up for the bonanza ...maybe it was a way of telling me this month to just let it be us. But I think of every morning I held my wee for the cbfm, those sticks are expensive when u have a long cycle..I just get the shits, they have one job!!!! And it ends in an orgasm! I got my boobs out, did... All be stuff...not in the mood. Eh! So mad.

 

[MissieT]

Abby and Ginny, I've only just seen today's posts on here or I would have sent you both some hugs before now. I so wish I could 'fix' everything for you both. You both have been through awful things and it seems really unfair xx
Abby, there is time for that bfp to show yet - I have everything crossed for you xx Boys can be so hopeless. I got so pissed off with DH for those nights when I knew that it could be the night but he was 'too tired' or wanted to stay up to watch something. They just don't get it!
Ginny, I've had similar thoughts about people announcing at 12 weeks and how I'm never going to be able to do that again. My sister did it on Facebook the day after her 12 week scan (she hadn't forewarned me so that was a bit of a rough day for a few reasons). I asked DH this morning when he thought we should tell parents about this pregnancy, he said 2 days after its born if everything is going well! And I completely get where he's coming from. I guess there will be a point where I can't hide it (if everything goes ok) but until then it's just you girls and my yoga teacher! How are you feeling about this cycle? When are you planning to start testing? (Tell me to stop being nosey if you want!)

 

[Abby27]

Thanks Missie. I've started spotting this morning right on time!
It's good to know though that without vitex I still ovulate and that my lp is over 10 days. So I'm happy about that. It also means that I know for me to get pregnant it has to be the day before or the day of ov. So that's useful information.
I understand how you feel about the announcement, the loss of a little one just cuts so deep, but we aren't allowed tp publicly show our grief.
Interestingly enough I've spoken to several women at my work now (mostly they want to know what's been wrong with me lately) and all if them have had at least one m/c. It's unspoken but it's so common!
It's good I think that you have us and the rest of the top girls to tell...you can announce to us all the little milestones along the way !

 

[MissieT]

Abby - sorry about af Hun but as you say that is good news bout the vitex and pinpointing your best days
It's true about how common m/c is, out of my Playgroup mums (8 of us) there was only one that had never had one but we had never talked about it until I had mine. It's good to have some friends at work that know what's going on and it's probably been nice for them to be able to share their stories.
Thank goodness for you Top Girls - really not sure how I'd have made it through the last few months without you all xxxx

 

[Lisasmith]

Huge my beautiful girls

 

[Abby27]

I'm afraid ladies that I've just lost faith that this dream will ever be realised for me!

 

[Lisasmith]

I'm afraid ladies that I've just lost faith that this dream will ever be realised for me!

Please don't lose the faith

 

[MissieT]

Please don't give up lovely lady - you will get there xxxx

 

[ginny83]

Abs - if you're feeling like maybe then push for more testing and see a FS. This could help you feel like next time you get pregnant there aren't there isn't anything left to chance. Of course there are some miscarriages that are just never going to be able to be prevented - they're the bad luck ones in my eyes. One's with like chromosomal problems or the egg implanted in the wrong spot, or there's a knot in the cord. You can't help those ones.

But there are lots of other conditions out there which make a woman have a much higher risk of miscarriage that can be dealt with. You'd never go get tested for them after 1 first tri miscarriage because miscarriage is so common and almost everyone goes on to have a baby, so for that reason most doctors even argue that 2 miscarriages shouldn't be investigated. However, I wish I had pushed for the OK to take aspirin after my first miscarriage, maybe I wouldn't be feeling so sorry for myself today! My (very good) GP kept telling me that 1 miscarriage was normal and her tests show that I don't have a blood clotting disorder. Guess what they put me on at my first appointment at the RMC? Every doctor I see now tells me that it's imperative that I'm on baby aspirin during my next pregnancy! I do also have a minor blood clotting disorder (MTHFR) that you treat with aspirin, but this was only found by my hematologist that does extensive testing

I know you've had some testing, but GP's are specialised in fertility. They aren't up to date with the latest research and treatment methods out there.

I don't want to sound pushy and I definitely don't want to sound like I think you're going to have another miscarriage! I'm just saying this because I wish I had been more aggressive about this after my 1st one and dont want you to have the same regrets/

 

[ginny83]

I tested this morning = BFN

But Ive never had a BFP earlier than 9DPO, so I'm still hopeful