Beach Bump Graduates!

[Doodlepants]

I forgot to say- I'm glad Ajay is getting a bit better Caz. I hope you had a nice weekend as a 3 with no in-laws. Sounds exciting about the house, I bet you can't wait 'till it's all done!

 

[SugarBeth]

SB, morning sickness sucks, i hope it improves soon for you and I too love seeing pics of all your baking, makes me hungry just reading it!

Thanks! I am dying to go bake, I tried to today. Got close to the sink and ran back out of the room! Sigh, guess it'll be another few weeks!

I hope your sickness gets better SB! I know you said it's not as bad this time so that's something but it's still not nice for you!
I have heard good things about the Boba 3G, are you excited to get it?!

We have probably had this conversation before but I can't remember- SB-I remember you saying you want a big family, is anyone else planning more children? We aren't having any more now- I'm really enjoying all of the pregnancy talk though!

Thanks! It actually is starting to resemble last time now! I woke up at 6 AM feeling so sick, it kept me awake and stuck with me. At noon, we decided to go grocery shopping, and I ended up throwing up in the parking lot. It was SO embarrassing, and even worse, my face is absolutely covered in broken blood vessels. I look so odd! I went into the store totally red faced, with these yucky purple dots and my eyes all teary, I must have looked a mess! This is to top off my body feeling like it's breaking down. Oh, the joys of pregnancy, right!

Yep, even after that whole rant, we still want a big family. Looking for at least two more after this one! You'll probably be hearing my pregnancy chat for quite a few years yet! Hope I have others joining me!

 

[melissasbump]

We are done with having babies now. 2 is perfect for us and very happy with my lot. Its hard this time knowing this is my last time and all those little things are the last, think thats why i was so distraught at L going into his cot as i know that i wont have that again. But no, no more for us, i want my body back now .lol x

 

[Hann12]

I don't know if we'll have another or not, I always thought we would have 3 but I want to give the very best to our children and if that means just having two but giving them more then so be it. Education are real priorities for us and there is a chance we'll have to pay for it so we need to bear that in mind. I would be sad to not have more but then again like Mel said it would be nice to be me again and also have some of our couple time back!

Actually having a really tough time with Annabelle at the moment, she has been sick but is in theory feeling better now and yet she's acting really badly behaved. She's having disproportionate reactions to things, if she walks past a cushion and her arm so much as touches it she screams and cries, she throws full on tantrums about the smallest thing. Today we were in sainsburys and she screamed like you wouldn't believe all because she wanted a juice and we were paying for it so she had to wait less than 2 minutes and in that time she went red blotchy tears running down her face etc! She then screamed when she got home because she wanted postman pat on the TV, then at bedtime she kicked me in my boob which was full so I obviously said ouch but didn't shout at her and she still screamed. Then she screamed because she thought Greg was going to put her to bed not me. Seriously I've not seen anything like it, I know she's unsettled because of Henry but she really seems to love him, but she's really playing up at the same time! I'm trying to give her lots of time and cuddles etc but her behaviour is very trying at times. I just hope she gets past it soon and goes back to being my happy little girl!

 

[SugarBeth]

Katie has her bad days too on occasion, where she will cry all day about the smallest things and get so grouchy. I'm hoping it's not gearing up for those terrible two's and it's just a phase, because those days are so trying and of course they're the days where she does not want to go down willingly to nap or bed.

 

[Hann12]

While I wouldn't wish it on anyone else I am also relieved to hear that it's not just Annabelle who is acting this way! It's shocking because she'll go from being really happy and playing and just being her so a screaming mess in seconds!

 

[melissasbump]

Hann, i think it comes in waves, H was really bad a few weeks ago but seems to have improved of late. Cant see it lasting though! Big hugs to you, its really hard isnt it? Im in a constant state of guilt if im paying attention to one and not the other! Think its gonna be like that for about the next 18 years!

Quiet day here, ive been stuck in waiting for a parcel, could have come at any time and chose to come at 6pm, so blooming annoying when you are waiting for it! It was Hs playhouse and i ordered 3 things from Argos, they all came today via seperate deliveries, what a waste of time that is! doh!
Ive started my studying on Anatomy and Physiology, doing cells and skin at the mo, its going ok but so many long words! lol xx

 

[mummySS]

Hello all, sorry I haven't posted, my iphone keeps crashing on me and I haven't had time to get onto the computer til now - time for an upgrade but I cannot get through to bloody o2 on the phone, it's so annoying as i'm trying to GIVE them lots of money and they wont answer their phones! Grrr, anyway...

Mel LOL at the long words but great you have started the studying already, you seem really motivated to begin. How annoying about the deliveries, that's always the way isn't it - but at least you have them now! How's the playhouse, are you happy with it?

Hann I really sympathise with Annabelle's behaviour, to be honest it sounds EXACTLY like Leo lately, the past few weeks he has been a superbrat. He cries hysterically when he doesn't get the smallest things (like if i'm watching nursery rhymes on youtube with him and I click one he doesn't want to watch, he has a massive meltdown, or he'll just scream and cry for an entire morning about the littlest things - it does my head in!! So I am really hoping it's just a phase, but yes good for you to hear that they are all doing this to an extent and it's not to do with henry coming (maybe that catalysed it but it prob would have happened anyway). I'm finding it really tough as I tend to just give in to Leo's whims because I don't have the energy to fight him! How has Annabelle been at night for the past couple of nights - has she slept any better? And how did the photoshoot go today?

Caz - how's ajay? Hope you had a nice quiet weekend.

Maria - re your question about having more - we are done now too after baby girl - I just could not handle pregnancy again! And plus I don't think we can afford more than two, and like the others have said I want my body back and I want to get on with my life, career etc without having breaks now. I think two is the perfect number for us but if circumstances were different I would love to have a bigger family - like 3 or 4 kids.

Oh and Hann thanks for the info on slings, I have a Victoria sling lady already so i'll give that another try, the only thing last time is that I always felt he was going to fall out as I didn't trust my tying/wrapping skills - maybe I could do with a ring sling.

SB, yikes that throwing up episode sounds nasty, you poor thing!

AFM well we're staying at my parents' place again until Friday as paul is in turkey, thankfully it's his last trip before the baby comes, I can't wait to have him back for a couple of months! All well other than general pregnancy knackeredness! My mum let me go back to bed this morning so I slept from 7.30am-11am. Although I had only slept about 2 hours during the night so I guess it's still not great sleep - better than nothing though I wont knock it!

Re: names - I really think after all the discussion we're going to end up back with Sophia. I do love it i'm just worried there'll be about 5 of her in her class at school! But Paul is so so keen on it that i'd feel mean now to take it away.

 

[caz_hills]

Hi girls,

Han - poor you and poor Annabelle. It must be a combination of the terrible two's coming as well as Henry's arrival changing things. If it does help - like SB said, Ajay is similar and has break downs if he cannot have juice to drink or watch Fireman Sam. I think it's normal - not that it helps as they can be so upset!

Mel - how annoying about the deliveries. Are they as you wanted them to be in the end? The studying sounds tough!

Simmy - bless your Mum she is lovely. Glad you got a bit of sleep, at least you have had some rest. And so glad Paul is home soon for a while too - yay!

So Ajay is STILL unwell. He had a temperature again this morning so he stayed off an my MIL had him until I was back a about 430. He gets so upset and clingy and grizzly, poor thing. He is missing nursery too as he has lovely friends there so I am really hoping he will be back there on Thursday. Other than that, not much else to report.

On the subject of how many kids, two max for me! Neel wanted three originally but I would prefer two and I think we realise how hard it is to have one let alone two!

Oh and a job came up today in my company in a wonderful overseas location. I'd LOVE to work abroad but Neel says no..... I'm just worried that we'll wait and then never do it

 

[Hann12]

Oh Caz maybe I'll apply, I feel like escaping now lol!!
Seriously I can see why you would be tempted now -where is it? Why does Neel say no! Because if the house?

Simmy - nice to get the lie in but when you have pregnancy insomnia you never feel like you catch up! I sympathise as I had it bad. Of course then they are born and you can sleep for England except they keep waking you up lol!
If its any help Sophia is a lovely name - at least that's something, if she is one of a couple. I doubt it would be 5 but maybe a couple in her year - but that could be the case even if you chose something more obscure. It's pot luck!

I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one with the toddler extreme reaction issues. Not that I'd wish it on anyone else but at least it's sounding normal. It's just mental how the smallest things cause melt downs.
Yes she is sleeping better - now only up 1/2 times at night but not for long thankfully!

Caz - maybe time to get antibiotics for Ajay? Surely he shouldn't still have a temperature?

Henry is sleeping badly again. Thought we had done so well but ever since I put him in a routine at bedtime he's been great from 7-10 and I've had my evenings back but he now won't go longer than 2.5 hours from 10, more like 1.5 hours each time. So now I need to decide if I want the routine and my evenings or sleep at night. Grrrr

 

[mummySS]

Maybe a little growth spurt from Henry hann? Oh dear. Yes maybe try ditching the routine for now and see what happens. I forget how hard it is when you don't know why they're crying! Glad A is sleeping a bit better now.

Caz ooh the job does sound tempting, where is it and how come neel isn't keen? (although I hazard a guess he wants to be near his family??)

So Leo's tantrum this morning was that he wanted to go to nursery in his pyjamas I was hoping for a relaxing day while he's at nursery, however my sister brought the twins round this morning as they both have fever so can't go to nursery themselves - so my mum and I are taking it in turns to look after them. They are 3 so don't need watching as much as Leo but they argue all the time and they always want playing with, bless them.

 

[caz_hills]

Poor you Simmy - you need to rest up you're nearly about to pop! I loved the photo of you and Leo on Facebook - too cute!

Han - how has annabelle been today?

Ajay still isn't well - temperature again today and grizzly. He was home with my mil and I'm off with him tomorrow. I don't know whether to take him back to the dr as its been a week of having a temperature - poor boy but we went on Wednesday and then Friday so I don't want to be an annoying mum.

Oh and we're just so busy I can't cope. Ajays unwell, work is manic, Neel had to see the dr today, the builders are pushing on and I just want it to all be over! I want to be at home, bored out of my mind, ttc for baby no 2 and have my feet up - chance would be a fine thing! I've told Neel I'm at breaking point and I'm so glad we have five days just the three of us in France next week.

Sorry for the moan x

 

[mummySS]

Ohh Caz No wonder you're feeling so stressed, you have so much going on! Ajay still being poorly doesn't help. Leo had a high temp for a week (a few months back) and it was only the antibiotics that worked at getting rid of it as it turned out he had a chest infection. I'm never one for going to the docs too much or giving antibiotics when they're not needed but tomorrow is a good day for you to go, plus there's only so much calpol you can give them right?

That's great you're off to france next week, (ohh another reason to get the antibiotics) - you will have a lovely relaxing time, sounds like just what you need. Building works at home are always super stressful and it's just horrible not being at home. But when it's all done you will be SO SO happy and your house will be beautiful, it'll all be worth it! We had a stressful time the past few weeks with our works and that was only 2.5 weeks - poor paul broke out in hives with the stress - but it's already worth it now.

xx

 

[Hann12]

Caz I agree the whole house renovation thing is stressful and hard work! The break in France will do you lots of good! Leave your blackberry at home though
I would take Ajay back to the dr personally.

Awful night for me - Henry was up for 3 hours in the middle if the night then slept another hour and was up again! He came into bed with us and we got another hours sleep beforew Annabelle woke at 5.40. Greg brought her downstairs and I got a dozy sleep with Henry while he was feeding. Now I'm with the two of them while Greg gets some sleep. Such hard work at times this baby lark!!
On the up side my brother is back from Australia today and coming straight to see us from the airport. I've not seen him in 2 years 2 months!so seeing him at 4ish today until around 8.30 tonight then tomorrow we are off to my parents until sunday to have a big family weekend. Should be nice

 

[mummySS]

That'll be lovely Hann! Hopefully you can get some rest this weekend with your parents' help, at least with annabelle, they are good with her aren't they? Ohh I remember those nights where you've barely slept, must be soooo hard having a toddler to look after too. Is Greg back at wrk now?

I've just dropped Leo off to nursery (his morning session) and I'm off to see the specialist midwife to talk about the potential c section vs vbac. Bit nervous as I think she'll be really pushy

 

[caz_hills]

That sounds lovely Han seeig your bro!

Simmy let us know how it goes today. Hopefully it will be fine

Ajay seems quite a bit better in himself but we just had to leave toddler group early as this girl kept taking his baseball cap and he got really upset. Her mum wasn't watching and he got so upset that he actually asked me to go home poor thing.

Thanks for your lovely words about the house. Rationally I know it will get better but it's just tough x

 

[melissasbump]

I wrote a long post yesterday but it isnt showing up! how annyoying!

Caz, sorry to hear you are super stressed, like the others say im sure it will all be worth it, im not good with renovation at all, hence ive bought two newbuilds in a row lol. Get Ajay to the docs you dont want him being poorly for your trip to france which sounds lovewly by the way!

Hann, Euughhh those 1st few weeks are super tough arent they. We have comee out the other side a bit now, Lucas has settled down into a decent routine which is so nice. You will all get there. And im sure Annabelle will be fine, its such a big change for her but soon she wont remember any different.
Will be lovely to see your brother, has he come specifically to see Henry?

Simmy, good luck seeing the mw today, im sure it will go well and you will be able to relax about your birth choice. Cant believe how close you are now! Brace yourself! lol

AFM, Had a horrible afternoon yesterday, We have a hard tiled floor in our kitchen and Harrision fell over on it and split his forehead. I was beside myself, i phoned Alan then took him straight up to the hospital and Alan left work early. Complete over reaction obviously and he is fine but i could literally see the bruise and swelling and cut appearing before my eyes and its better to be safe than sorry! Hes not affected at all though and still going about his business as normal.
so as i said Lucas has settled down into a nice routine now and the last few nights has been sleeping at least 10 hours straight. It makes such a difference to all of us! Hes going down about 830-9pm which gives us a bit of the evening back too.
Alan is on lates today so we got ready early this moring, i went for a run and we then went to the zoo for a couple of hours before dropping Alan off at the station, thats the good thing about him doing lates, we get to have him with us in the mornings.
Harrison is napping now so a bit of downtime before we go out with the dog later and have short playdate with a friend. Oh and Harrison loves his new playhouse, if anyone who hasnt got one yet is thinking about it, its a chad valley one from Argos, £99.99. Very please with it!

 

[Hann12]

Oh mel what a nightmare! At least he's okay but how scary! I'm sure we will all be doing many a trip to a&e over our years ahead especially with boys lol!
So good about Lucas's sleep, it gives me renewed hope!
Does Lucas have a dummy?
I never gave Annabelle one but bought one today for Henry as the nights are so bad as he can't get back to sleep without comfort sucking on me then he cries and wakes himself up when he gets a mouthful of milk. Seriously last night was awful!
I really hope it helps if I can get him to take it.
Sorry for short post - my bro will be here in 20 mins!!

 

[mummySS]

Oh Hann here's hoping for a better night with the dummy! Leo was a really sucky baby and it was soooo much better when i gave him the dummy, so i hope the same goes for you. How was it to see your brother? Wow so he's never met annabelle before either?

Mel oh my goodness how scary about harrison falling, i can completely understand you taking him to a&e... Glad he's ok. Great about Lucas's sleep too!

Well as I expected the consultant midwife woman was incredibly annoying... Deep breath get ready for a rant.......... She basically preached at me for 45 minutes about the risks of a c section, she wasn't interested in anything i had to say about my experience last time, she said she'd heard it all before, she told me that no one knew what the definition of 'choice' was on the NICE guidelines so therefore it could be interpreted as not having the choice to have an elective caesarian. She said they would let me go to 41 weeks, and even then they wouldn't call a c section, they would do a 'soft induction' which is basically to break the waters (the consultant had previously promised me they wouldn't induce at all). I'm SO annoyed at how one-sided it all was - she painted this fairytale picture of a vaginal birth, didn't bother to cover the risks/potential issues associated with that. I pointed out (in the few words i could get in edgeways) that i was convinced if i went into labour it would end up in a caesarian anyway and she just quoted stupid statistics at me about the number of women who have a successful vbac, didn't bother to go through any individual reasons with me about my personal situation. Goodness i really hated her.

So ultimately the decision rests with my consultant who i'm meeting with next Wednesday, I doubt i'll get much more reassurance from him to be honest... The MW today said that consultants have to justify caesarians with a clinical reason and in my case there wasn't one. I really dont know what to do, and this stupid midwife has annoyed me so much that she's made me want a caesarian even more! (that's my stubbornness lol!)

 

[Hann12]

Really quick one as got both of them waking up but Simmy exactly the same thing happened to my Nct friend, she had a c section (emergency) with her first as she went over by 12 days and didn't dilate properly, the second time she assumed she'd get a c section but they refused and said she had to try a vbac. She was just over a week overdue and her waters went and she went into labour almost 24 hours later. She had an epidural and then a very successful pain free vbac delivery. She was very nervous if the whole thing and really wanted a section but now it's all over she is pleased she had a vbac because recovery was so much better and the birth ended up being a good experience. Not sure if this is any help but I wanted you to hear a success story because if it does have to happen there is hope x