Bellys to Bumps

[lovie]

hello and welcome baby f great job with the chunk of weight you have lost so far!! go you!

0.5 kg (1 pound) loss for me today, i was very surised i would have been happy to sts!

i went out for tapas tonight it was yum... i thought it would be a good diet dinner as its small dishes but that doesnt work f you eat 3-4 dishes

 

[Lisa84]

Well done on the weight loss. Just noticed your sig Lovie. Fx we will be doin ivf at the same time so i have a buddy xx

 

[lovie]

that would be great to have an ivf bubby!!

 

[Lisa84]

Well they said my wait would be around 9 months and i was referred in May so should be any time now. I'm going to ask to start in Mar/Apr time though as i want to get some more weight off first xx

 

[lovie]

thats great that the 9 months is allmost up! do you know what clinic you will be using? what were you thinking of as a goal weight? in sweden you have to have a bmi under 35 but they prefere it to be under 28... i dont think that is going to happen but im hopeing to get my bmi to 30.something

 

[Lisa84]

I'm aiming for 30 too. I'll probably have most of my treatment in halifax where i live but then the EC and transfer will be done in Leeds or Manchester but most likely Leeds xx

 

[lovie]

its good you know where your going to be treated! im still waiting for my referal its a weired system here, you need to be offered a time at the local hospital and then if it is more then 3 months away you can go to a different hospital... the waiting list in stockholm is over a year so i know we will be going to a clinic in a different town but i dont know which one yet we were referred on the 16th of jan so i know it will be 3 months or less than that day... just a case of finding out where!

 

[lovie]

double post soz x

 

[Soili]

Guys, any of you feel the pressure the loose enough weight by a certain date? I had to ask my DH to hide the scales yesterday, because I was getting obsessed with it and kinda afraid to eat anything at all. Which probably was only slowing down the progress.

I only went to one FS appointment so far and they didn't even talk about any treatments, but game me Metformin (I have PCOS) and sort of challenged me to loose 22lbs in 2 months, in time for the next app., saying how it might improve my cycles. And I took it as a requirement (although don't know for what?) while hubby said that to him it didn't sound like anything more than a recommendation.

I have lost about 10lbs so far and it's showing already. But I seriously doubt I'd be able to loose another 12 in the next month. It's just a lot of pressure and I'm also afraid of messing my cycles further more by starving my body. Kinda had to decide that I will be doing what's best for ME and loose weight as the pace that I find comfortable. But I'm dreading the thought that they would make me feel bad about not loosing enough weight. What do you think are the odds of that? I'm a bit sensitive about my weight and anyone's critic of it.

 

[Soili]

Hmmm, did I scare everyone off??

 

[lovie]

hmm msoli its a hard one!

id say keep loosing weight at your own pace, everyone is different and it sounds like alot to to loose in a short time!! do they have bmi limits in your country for different treatments?

 

[Soili]

lovie, thank you for replying!! I have no idea about the BMI limits, they didn't mention any treatment at FS yet, it was a very standard and formal first appointment, basically they were just filling out our history for the file. I was sent to do more CD3 tests and hubby for SA. I was given Metformin and told that I should loose weight as (quoting FS) "it's not only going to be beneficial for my overall health, but might also improve my cycles". It seemed like she pulled out the number randomly from her head.

I'm pretty sure there will not be any treatments that would requite certain BMI at least in the next 6 months anyway. Waitlists are pretty big here too, I waited 3 months for the first app. only. And if anything, if I have to be a certain BMI, then I don't mind at all waiting till I'm there instead of rushing in.

I'm just really confused about the whole thing. They made me go to a dietician's appointment as well and she corrected my diet a bit and gave me a menu to follow. Which is healthy and will result in weight loss, but a slow one. She didn't mention anything about deadlines. So I'm torn. I don't know who am I supposed to please there The dietician, by following her diet and workout plan. Or the FS who wants a certain number. I do know that the number is not possible with the diet I was given. To loose 12lbs in a month, I'd need to go extreme.

Yikes, I wrote all this and realized that I'm being plain stupid. It's the usual case of bureaucratic doctor's mess, where one says one thing without giving it enough thought and another is giving you advice without being aware what other party said. And in the middle is me, who's just irrationally panicking, because the situation involves two subjects (TTC and weight loss) that make my head spin out of control easily.

I'll just stick to making healthy meals and celebrate whatever weight I loose.

 

[Lisa84]

Sounds to me like the doc may have been doing it morre for motivation purposes than requirment. Best not going extreme and instead following the dieticians advise. A slow and steady weightloss will stay. If you go extreme then as soon as you go back to 'normal' you are more likely to put it all back on and like you said extreme is not good for TTC xxxx

 

[Soili]

Lisa, that is exactly what my DH said! He was there and he said he didn't understand why I was freaking out so much about having to loose the exact number, as to him it sounded they were just trying to motivate me and they'd be happy if I lost any weight at all. It might make perfect sense to any other person, but I take any comment about my weight very close to heart and I took that one very seriously as well. He actually made a joke at the appointment, saying that "and she doesn't, then she's disqualified!" and apparently the doc found it funny and laughed at it. Yeah.... well, I kinda thought that it was sort of "so true, so true" kinda of laugh. Oh God, I'm so messed up in my head when it comes to weight. I should have asked for a psychiatrist appointment instead of a dietician one

Girls, thanks so much for talking to me about it. I can't bug DH about it anymore and I really don't have anyone else who'd understand what I'm doing through here.

 

[Lisa84]

I think coz they drum it into us soooo much to lose weight you do become obsessed by it so i don't blame you for being concerned by what they said. You have done fantastically well so far hun. Keep up with this and i'm sure you will lose the weight xxx

 

[Soili]

Thank you! Initial weight loss is always relatively fast, but then it often becomes unpredictable. I was focusing too hard on meeting my weekly goals, it was making me plain miserable. It's great that it got me the results I wanted until now, but I gotta change the game plan now.

As long as I remember myself, I've been told by just about everyone that I was overweight and should loose weight. Overtime it really did a number on my head. Some years ago I got to BMI of 19 and still thought I was chubby, although people started to actually worry that I was getting too thin and looked sick. Looking at my photos from that time, I don't even recognize myself. I was starting to develop some bulimia symptoms, but once I realized what was going on, it kinda freaked me out, so I pulled myself out of it. So yeah... one clumsy doctor's phrase can have great potential to screw with my head, specially knowing what's at stake here. If before I could tell people to bugger off, because it's my body - my decision, now I can't really use that argument anymore.

 

[Baby_Fever]

Hi Soili,

You've done a great job on the weight loss so far! I know how stressful it can be - before my low thyroid started being treated I couldn't handle anybody even making a comment about my weight or what I was eating - it would just make me eat more because I'd get depressed because I already knew it didn't matter if I starved myself because I couldn't lose even a 1lb! I'm currently 244 and ultimately I'd like to get to 150 but for now I'd just like to lose 30-60lbs and get my BMI under 38 so we can do injections.

You said about how the FS seemed to pull the 22lb number out of thin air/randomly and I'm thinking she likely didn't. Every book I've ever read about fertility said that sometimes simply losing 10% of your body weight can help improve fertility. So, I don't know what your actual weight was at the FS appt but I'm guessing that's something you had to share (I did at my FS appt) and she probably was able to do a brief calculation in her head and 22lbs was probably 10% of your current weight. I was 260 at my FS appt and I've lost 16lbs (it took me 3 months mind you) but I won't have lost 10% of the 260 until I've lost another 10lbs. If you do a quick calculation - your weight at FS appt x .10= you will likely get something around 22 if I'm right. If not, then maybe she really did just want to motivate you. :/

Try not to stress - your body will react by viciously holding onto your weight - and just lose the weight at your own healthy pace...it'll stay off that way too.

 

[Soili]

Baby_Fever, you're right! It does make up to about 10%! Well, actually it's 11%, but we do kilos here, so 10kg (22lbs) probably sounded like a nice round number to her. I can see where that comes from, I've heard that before, about 10% weight loss possibly having good effect on fertility and I'm all up for it. Well, ideally, I'd like to be 70kg (154lbs), it's my most comfortable weight, so I'm all up to getting there this year, but it's the strict deadline that was messing with my head.

 

[Traskey]

It sounds like she was going for the 10% rule. I would lose it slow and steady if you have the time too. I had to lose 4 stone in 4 months (56lbs) and I did it by starving but I wouldn't advocate it unless you are desperate like I was (we had an age cut off). Besides if you then eat more than a few hundred calories it all goes back on so kind of pointless.

Hope that helps!
How are the weight losses this week? I'm not weighing in this week due to the ivf drugs bloat, if I did i'd be 3lbs up Should come off next week taking me back to neutral but don't include it in this week's weigh in.

 

[Reba]

hi all!

I forgot to WI on Friday I was down 1.6lbs
I'm 1/2 way to my first goal of 25lbs!