Bellys to Bumps

[Tarkwa]

Hey april, long time no see! I'm sorry the wicked got you. Good luck with WI tonight. Good plan with flyng - I've heard it's not ideal to fly during first tri (though it didn't do my SIL/niece any harm). I'm thinking the same thing about my appt in a couple of weeks - I really wish I can cancel it because I'm PG!!! This 2WW is definitely the hardest so far. I just feel so much more in tune with my body now I think I understand what it's doing and I'm symptom spotting like crazy!!

Strawberry, here's a quick run down on me (though my ticker probably gives lots away!).
I'm 31, DH 34. Met Nov 1999, married Nov 2007. TTC since June 2009 (we talked about it earlier in the year but I lost my job so timing was bad). I currently weigh 14st 10.5lbs and need to lose just over 1st to get a BMI under 30 in case I need treatment (i.e. IVF/IUI). I quit my last job back in May 2009 as I hated it, and when I left my weight was 16st 3lbs (I was comfort eating big time!). My heaviest weight was 17st 7lbs . I now have a new job (working part time from either home or the office - really flexible with great guys!) so am finding losing weight a bit better (but never easy!). I'm not following any plan, just trying to eat small amounts of yummy food (I cannot stomach slimming food - I just don't get it, sorry girls!) and trying to do more exercise (gym/swim). My clothes are fitting much better now (size 18 getting a bit loose, but 16's quite tight, unless they are really stretchy!). Ooh, and I'm just under 5'8" to put it into perspective, so I'm never EVER going to be a skinny size 8 as I have quite a large frame (and heavy bones too! I tell you they really are!).

Emmy, you are such an eager beaver ! I think if you did a test now it would only disappoint because it is way too soon after O'ing. Let us know when you do, and post piccies if you need our eyes.

Am off to finish off dinner - the bolognese is in the fridge after being slow cooked for most of yesterday! I think I might make a lasagne.
Might be on later...
xxx

 

[Lisa84]

Ooft my weigh in was tonight ladies and it really wasnt pretty. I wasnt suprised my a gain as i have been bad pretty much all week.

Not goin to tell u just how bad the gain was just that it was BAD!!!

Tomorrow is a new week tho and i am determind i am goin to have a big number next week xxx

 

[lovie]

Hi all

Love2bamummy I lol very much at your CM story! i agree its good to know you have a nice amount! You are really brave letting a trainee doctor watch, was it a man? I would be so she showing my lady bits to a guy, so silly I know and I really really need to get over when I get pregnant. I dont like it when they comment whilst doing the smear, the nurse who did mine said oh you are very tight!! I was like well im 25 and i havnt had any kids so I should bloody well hope so!! the nurse told a friend of mine that she was very wet, my friend is quite blunt and said to the nurs "I can asure you I am NOT enjoing this!!!" well done for the super gym workout, I am with you red face! I have really pale skin and just walking up the stairs makes me look like a tomato!

I hope you have a nice holiday april, I didnt know that you couldnt fly in the 1st tri!! I will have to get the boat back to the uk if I get a BFP!!

trasky what cute dogs!!

emmy how many HPT's have you got? do you do them with chris? in a way id prefere to do it with håkan (my boyfriend) but also I know this is going to sound increadably selfish but id want those few hours to let it sink in for me, then I could fully apreciate his reaction, also Id want to find a cute way of telling him hehe

this is me so far strawberry, im 26 and I am english but im living in sweden with my boyfriend. we started TTC last may alltho due to me working in australia we have only been together and trying for 5 months (on my 6th cycle) i have dieting half heartedly since november (with a month and half break at christmas) so not alot of dieting at all!! I got back on the dieting waggon last monday, and im loving it! i weighed 227 pounds and now i weigh 221, so only 6 pounds in but I am determined this time!! I am a big worrier and i worry that I dont ovulate on time, i worry that my cycles are iregular 27-32 days, I worry that my weight means I wont conceive, so I am determind to do what I can to try and get my BFP, im trying to count caloris and excercise, mostly walking, but some iceskating... sorry about the legnth of my post!!

hugs to all !!

 

[lovie]

awww lisa try to forget it. fx for a nice big number next week hun hugs x

 

[Tarkwa]

Hey Lisa (love it!!! Must watch DD again soon), don't worry about this week, just put it behind you so you can concentrate on the next week and hitting those big numbers!

Everyone on here has such gorgeous pets: Emmy and Traskey with their collies, Lisa with her inquisitive pup, Foxy with her chilled out and super relaxed puss (I so want to rub his/her belly! Can't do that to my cat without hand being shredded!), 4maggies and her pup. They all have such beautiful faces which say so much. Traskey, were those photos taken professionally in a studio?

I found my prescription for my orlistat - I think I might give in and get it , just to get me down that last stone (if I need to do it after my FS appt - 2wks today). My mum is coming over tomorrow so I'll run it by her to get her feedback (my dad had these pills a few years ago).

Lovie, I understand what you said about wanting to take it in before saying anything to BF, but I have to do it when DH is there (not necessarily waiting outside the loo, but at least in the house!). He's away again for uni (hence my mummy coming to stay for a couple of days) so he won't be back until Sat night. I've got lots planned with my mum, mainly sorting through all my clothes (I have far too many, but I'm such a hoarder I struggle to get rid of stuff). Anything I'm not keeping I'll see if family want, then take anything that remains to the charity shop. I do worry about throwing out clothes that are too big for me now in case my weight goes up again (my weight does tend to yo-yo) but FX'd that doesn't happen! Unless of course it is from a HUGE belly !

xxx

 

[Traskey]

Well, i've been doing housework for 3 hours so that sure should have burnt off a few calories. Probably a good thing as I had a big lunch today. I was fed up of being starving by 4pm and it seemed to work. Let's just hope it doesn't make me gain or sts, it certainly stopped me snacking.

Sorry about the gain Lisa, i'm sure you will have a better week this week

 

[lovie]

I have pet envy as well as dinner envy!!!

I bet you miss you hubby when he is away tarkwa I hope his studies finish soon? lovely for you to have your mum to stay! that wil keep your mind of everything im sure have fun sorting through your chloths, I hope you find some forgotten gems! xx

 

[twinkle1975]

Ok - sorry traskey this is copied & pasted from 35+ too tired to write again -
Ok so I'm shattered - will come back & read everyone else's posts tomorrow - sorry I've been caught up in myself today.
So, went to the FS - I'd googled him earlier today & found this on his private patients site - Dr Nardo takes great pride in offering the highest standard of individualised sympathetic patient care - so I was hopeful that he wouldn't be horrible and rude and luckily he wasn't. He's arranged for me to have a load of blood tests - some I've had & others are new, DH is having another SA, he's said his swimmers would be fine for ISCI but I've got to lose a lot of weight before they can do that & time is not on our side. I knew all that so it wasn't a big surprise.
The only thing I disagreed with was that he hinted that it might not be a good idea if we carried on ttc naturally as being overweight increases the risk of miscarriage - that seems crazy to me as I know othe women my size who have carried babies to term & whatever happens we'd have to face at the time.
Sorry this is very muddled - I'm trying to get it down before I fall asleep. Love to you all xx

 

[lovie]

good morning ladies !

Twinkle is sounds like a draining day at the FS im glad that he seemed like a nice man. try to let his coments about TTC naturally wash over you, you know your own body, you know how strong you are. You are so right that many many many women much bigger than any of us on here give birth ever day to perfect babies. I have been peeking at this thread in the 2nd tri section https://www.babyandbump.com/pregnancy-groups/165711-plus-size-bump-pictures-34.html I think the women all look so beutifull with their pluss size bumps, and more importantly the babie that are now their avatar picturs all look perfect, healthy and happy! hugs to you hun

 

[Traskey]

Morning ladies,

Twinkle, I know that you were really worried about your FS appointment, so I was very glad to read that you weren't treated awfully! There really is no excuse for rudeness so I am happy you didn't get a nasty one.

I have never heard of the fact that overweight/obese ladies shouldn't try to conceive naturally because of a higher risk of miscarriage. I read continuously that it affects conception but not that. I have to confess, as time is definitly not on my side for IVF I know we won't get help on the nhs so we are still trying for a baby naturally whilst there is still the smallest chance.

Good luck with whatever you decide

 

[EmmyReece]

I tested this morning, thought I could see something so posted a few pics in the gallery section

https://www.babyandbump.com/pregnancy-tests/533324-7-dpo-too-early-pls-look-lol.html

And now I've got someone telling me it doesn't look like I've ovd, that it looks like its just happened yesterday / today No, "oh I can't see anything" or "good luck" just "Lookin at the few temps on ur chart i wouldnt say u were 7dpo.more like just ov"

If that's the case then I've missed ov this cycle as we haven't bd for a while

 

[lovie]

hia emmy you tested how exciting!! are they wondfo tests? I cant see anything on my screan hun but that could well be because I have a laptop with a rubish screan and also because my eyes arn't so good at seeing things like that (I can't even read an opk never mind a hpt lol) dont listen to the lady about your OV you didnt ask her that so it isnt really any of her business, a lady told me on a post I made that I should TTC before my BMI was below 30... I didnt ask for her opinion on my weight but some people are just too "helpfull"

I personally think it is worthwhile to get a few extra BDing sessions in after OV "just in case" also so my boyfriend doenst think im using him as a sperm bank hehe (poor boy ) maybe give chris an early valentines treat tonight to cover all bases.

id say hold of for another couple of days with the hpt and hopefully your BFP is just around the corner

xxxxx

 

[StrawberryTTC]

Sorry, I feel a rant coming... I really hate it when drs are so down on us bigger ladies, regarding ttc or anything! One gyn really told me off about my weight, and I was only there for a pap smear and to get my bcp prescription renewed... It's one thing to explain the risks or difficulties we might have ttc/being pregnant because of the weight, it's totally another to be dismissive, lecture us, or in general treat us like we're a bit dumb! (Thinking of that one gyn of mine... still makes me fume!)

lovie - you're next door then, I'm in Finland! If you want to practise your Swedish, you can do it with me - though I have to say my Swedish isn't terribly good these days.

Emmy Your temp this morning was kinda low for a post-ovulation temp when combined with yesterday's dip, plus you haven't charted that long (to get a good idea of your pre-o and post-o temps), and you haven't marked your cm on many days, which is probably why that person thought you might not have ovulated when FF says. It's not always so clear cut, even when charting! As you yourself said, 7dpo is way early, so fx for a good strong second line a bit later on! =)

Do any of you plan for a higher calorie-day once in a while, just to sort of "confuse" your body into thinking there's more food coming and burn it off faster? lol I did that yesterday, and sometimes in the past I've had good results doing that. I don't mean eating heaps, I just mean not leaving a deficit for that day. Plus I did zumba (55 mins) and did 40 mins on my cross trainer later in the evening, feeling very proud of myself. Let's just hope it shows on the scale.

Cycle-wise I'm 9dpo and I have to say that boy do I hate this part of my cycle! I always, always get slightly hopeful, and then come crashing down a few days later. No matter how hard I try to tell myself it's been 14 months with bfn, why would this month be any different, I still get secretly hopeful... Especially during cycles like this one when my temps are nice and high - right before they start going down again, that is!

Sorry, looks like I'm being extra chatty today, hope you ladies don't mind!

 

[EmmyReece]

they're just 10 miu tests from ebay lol ... everyone else on there has been so lovely and a lady offered me lots of advice ...

I'm gonna test once more this afternoon, see if I can hold it in longer and then wait a couple of days before testing again

roll on the end of this 2ww

 

[Traskey]

I can't see anything on the tests Emmy, but it is still really early. Don't get downhearted, there is lots of time yet. I'm afraid I don't chart yet, so not really sure what I would be looking at regarding temperatures.

 

[Tarkwa]

Emmy hun - you gave in!!!! I'm afraid I can't see anything on these tests chick, so maybe leave it a few more days before trying again (try Sunday - I plan to test fmu). I know how hard it is with extremely long cycles like this, but we will get there.

I'm feeling like the might arrive any day now (and not my mother!). I really don't feel any different at all so think she might get me. I know some people don't get any symptoms, but I would have thought I would have something that made me think "Ooh, I might be PG!". The urologist that my DH saw said that girls 'just know', and I don't know . As I said above I'll wait for DH to get home and test on Sunday morning. I should be 12dpo by then.

Must go and do some work and household chores before my mummy gets here. I will try and log on again before then, but I may be out of action until Sat pm (unless I sneakily log on when I go to bed!). I'm not keeping this a secret from her, she just wouldn't understand why I need to talk to people online when I've got her! But she hasn't experienced the heartache we all have so that's why I need you ladies.
xxx

 

[Traskey]

Ok confession and follows on from Strawberry's comment. I had a bad day yesterday until DH came home By then it was too late to cook dinner so we were super bad and had a curry. I lost half a kilo Maybe there is something to using the extra points on WW and I haven't been eating enough.

Tarkwa, have a lovely time with your mum over the next few days. Try and sneak on as we will miss you!

 

[lovie]

trasky well done on half a kilo lost and yay for curry... mmm I miss curry sooooo much it isnt the same in Sweden!

Tarkwa have a lovely time with your mum! we will miss you! I have heared that women just know they are pregnant but I think the problem for me is that I know im pregnant every month and then mis witchy comes everything I have read says that PMS symptoms and v-early preg symptoms feel the same I cant wait to find out if it is true!

emmy best of luck for this afternoon I will be thinking of you hun

wow im so excited that you are in finland strawberry!!! are you finish? I visited finland just before christmas with my little sister (she is 7) and cousin and OH we went to ylläs... (bad spelling sorry) and stayed in the ice hotel there and we also got to mean the "real" fatrher christmas,and go on a reindeer ride and husky ride it was amazingly magical. which bit of finland are you based in?

xxxxx

 

[EmmyReece]

thank you so much everyone for looking ... I dont mind so much that its not showing properly, and I know its very early ... I just felt a bit stupid after certain comments

Tarkwa I really hope the doesn't arrive before 12 dpo, and keeping everything crossed that you get a bfp on sunday hope you have a nice time with your mummy, hope you get to sneak on, we'll miss you

Traskey well done on your weight loss hun half a kg is still really good, my nurse says slow and steady wins the race as we're less likely to put it back on

 

[StrawberryTTC]

Traskey good on you for the half a kilo!

Tarkwa I think the urologist's comment was plain stupid, not everyone feels anything at all in early pregnancy! Most symptoms would be due to progesterone anyway, at first, and we all get that after ovulation! I had real bad "pregnancy" symptoms when I was on progsterone after ovulation, including nausea, VERY sore boobs (still get that without the progesterone, some cycles at least) etc.

lovie - you spelled Ylläs just right. Funny you should ask, I live quite close to where you visited, in Northern Finland. And yeah, I'm finnish. =) It's cool that you came to Finland, and especially to Lapland where I live! Funny we should "meet" on a ttc board.