Daddiesgift. I so know where your coming from. Its totally normal though. I had so much pressure I was in pain to even walk at times and I spent a lot of time just crying to my OH about how much I hated it. My midwife told me it was just pressure from her and not a lot I could do about it and its totally normal. I never had anything like that with DS so I put it down to her being a girl. As for the kicking thing, Oss kicked all the time but she was selective and we could go a day without any proper kicks. So try not to worry, but its easier said than done.
Hi Jessicasmum, and welcome to the group.