Breastfeeding is HARD (only for exclusively breastfeeding mommies)

[LegoHouse]

She was talking about herself and how she feels. She wanted to relate to people in exactly the same situation as her. Just as when some people have thrush/mastitis they try to find people who are feeling or suffering the same. For reassurance and support.

 

[Dk1234]

And honestly I have no problem with the op. i disagreed but she was very nice about it. This, however, is getting to me.

 

[LegoHouse]

If you were unclear on where you stand you could have asked without flipping out....

 

[meli1981]

thrush is just as bad as bleeding cracked nipples, vasospams, and blocked ducts! just sayin! weve all suffered at some point in bf, whether from the boob or pumping, and we are all trying to give our babies the best. lets just leave it at that

 

[pinklightbulb]

Oh, for God's sake.

I'm just trying to understand why there is this constant need for everyone to flock into this section and find offense. That's all.

 

[jenniferttc1]

Either way pumping and feeding from the breast is hard. One is not superior over the other. This is not a pissing contest of who had it the worse than the other. Breastfeeding is hard, painful, and sometimes isolating. Pumping is hard (have you felt a pump suck your nipple?!?) Time consuming, sterilizing,, making bottles. Both draining to mother, both can cause painful nipples,both mothers can get infections etc. I don't pump but you ladies that do rock! I could never do what you do. Be proud. Your not any less than us mothers that feed from the breast

 

[LegoHouse]

I do agree that combi-feeding is much harder. It certainly isn't the best of both worlds. With my daughter I struggled with doing both methods of feeding because of the work an also the emotional side where I felt like I wasn't giving my daughter the best. That was my own issue at the time though. I know now what was best for us was not scientifically the best nutritionally for my baby. There are many other factors that come into deciding what is best for your baby.

I still think this thread was made with the best intentions.

 

[pinklightbulb]

I think it was, too. A shame it was overrun like most threads in here.

 

[pinklightbulb]

And for the record, I have given my first son a bottle of EBM. I have given my first son formula as well. But I still understand this thread was meant to discuss issues relating to EBFing.... and amazing, I'm not offended even though I have given bottles before.

 

[staralfur]

I've only been posting in this forum for five months, but I really haven't seen any negative threads up until this point. I actually find this section of the forum to be one of the most supportive and understanding! So I'm not sure it's fair to say that every thread in here gets nasty.

 

[JleStar]

Wow, how about we all stop being insecure. If you feel you are doing your best for your child, then who cares what someone posts here. Be proud of the amazing jobs you are doing, allow others to rant about their battles of this crazy journey called motherhood.
This post IMO was not meant to offend anyone. Like another poster said it was meant to vent about feeding the baby directly from the breast. You have the right to vent about your specific case if you like.

 

[Jaylynne]

Either way pumping and feeding from the breast is hard. One is not superior over the other. This is not a pissing contest of who had it the worse than the other. Breastfeeding is hard, painful, and sometimes isolating. Pumping is hard (have you felt a pump suck your nipple?!?) Time consuming, sterilizing,, making bottles. Both draining to mother, both can cause painful nipples,both mothers can get infections etc. I don't pump but you ladies that do rock! I could never do what you do.

Exactly! This isn't a pissing contest. I check the box on LOs forms saying breastfeeding same as all the others who breastfeed. I clicked the thread because I thought "ooo well I'm an exclusive breastfeeder" only to see that nope, I'm warned to stay away because apparently I'm not part of the breastfeeding crowd who can offer support. So yeah, it is offensive. On purpose? Nope, don't think so.

Sigh.

Why is being a mom more analyzed than a political figure going for election. So stupid.

 

[pinklightbulb]

staralfur: I've seen a lot of them go sour since 2010. Not every thread, but most that have something that anyone could find remotely "offensive" has turned to shit, lol. So I'm finally braving an infraction by asking why outright.

 

[pinklightbulb]

Wow, how about we all stop being insecure. If you feel you are doing your best for your child, then who cares what someone posts here. Be proud of the amazing jobs you are doing, allow others to rant about their battles of this crazy journey called motherhood.
This post IMO was not meant to offend anyone. Like another poster said it was meant to vent about feeding the baby directly from the breast. You have the right to vent about your specific case if you like.

This. Put probably more eloquently than how I could after watching this sort of thing happen in here time and time again.

 

[Dk1234]

Either way pumping and feeding from the breast is hard. One is not superior over the other. This is not a pissing contest of who had it the worse than the other. Breastfeeding is hard, painful, and sometimes isolating. Pumping is hard (have you felt a pump suck your nipple?!?) Time consuming, sterilizing,, making bottles. Both draining to mother, both can cause painful nipples,both mothers can get infections etc. I don't pump but you ladies that do rock! I could never do what you do.

Exactly! This isn't a pissing contest. I check the box on LOs forms saying breastfeeding same as all the others who breastfeed. I clicked the thread because I thought "ooo well I'm an exclusive breastfeeder" only to see that nope, I'm warned to stay away because apparently I'm not part of the breastfeeding crowd who can offer support. So yeah, it is offensive. On purpose? Nope, don't think so.

Sigh.

Why is being a mom more analyzed than a political figure going for election. So stupid.

Worded perfectly

 

[pinklightbulb]

If you EBF at all, this relates to you. Or am I missing something?

 

[jenniferttc1]

Either way pumping and feeding from the breast is hard. One is not superior over the other. This is not a pissing contest of who had it the worse than the other. Breastfeeding is hard, painful, and sometimes isolating. Pumping is hard (have you felt a pump suck your nipple?!?) Time consuming, sterilizing,, making bottles. Both draining to mother, both can cause painful nipples,both mothers can get infections etc. I don't pump but you ladies that do rock! I could never do what you do.

Exactly! This isn't a pissing contest. I check the box on LOs forms saying breastfeeding same as all the others who breastfeed. I clicked the thread because I thought "ooo well I'm an exclusive breastfeeder" only to see that nope, I'm warned to stay away because apparently I'm not part of the breastfeeding crowd who can offer support. So yeah, it is offensive. On purpose? Nope, don't think so.

Sigh.

Why is being a mom more analyzed than a political figure going for election. So stupid.

You are one, and you should be proud. In this day breastfeeding is hard to come by in my area. I'm the only person I have physically know to go past 3 weeks and I'm still going so I don't think its fair to get picky how babies get breast milk. I just don't understand it.like nothing is ever good enough. It has been hard for me to make it known on here that after 6 months I have to give my son 2 bottles of formula a week while I am in class, cause its like I feel as others would think less. I love nursing my son and will be doing it for a very long time. I feel proud of mysel and nobody thought I would make it this far. I opened the thread thinking maybe they wanted some advice on it.

 

[staralfur]

Well, to everyone. I'm sure a lot of us feel like we've been to hell and back to give our babies what we feel is best for them, and I think that's why we can get defensive sometimes. I know if anyone tries to imply that I've somehow had it easy, I kinda want to punch them in the throat. It's a touchy subject.

But we're all the best mamas we can be for our babies and we should support each other regardless of if they get their milk from a bottle or straight from the source. EBF, EE, a little bit of both...who cares. They all have their own challenges.

 

[Jaylynne]

I'll support any mom who needs a hug doing what she needs to do to keep her LO happy and fed. No one likes feeling excluded or looked down on.

 

[helen_beee]

If you EBF at all, this relates to you. Or am I missing something?

After reading some of your responses I'd say what you are missing is some manners!

I will be introducing a bottle of expressed breast milk at some point and will still consider myself an exclusive bf'er. And yes I take offence to someone who tells me that doing so means I don't exclusively bf.