Breastfeeding & pregnant Mammas

[Spiffynoodles]

You know what ladies, I think I've decided that I'm not an OB. I was trying to feel where my uterus was last night, and now I think it's actually lower than I thought it was yesterday, about where yours is, Veronicaco, like halfway between my pelvis and navel. So I just need to calm down and stop trying to self-diagnose.

As for a reveal, we told family and close friends pretty early on and then I posted a picture of my 12 week scan on facebook and said "Baby #3 is looking good!" so nothing too exciting. My SIL, though, posted a really cute picture of her 2 year old DD standing in her crib looking shocked, with a paper taped to the side that said "Eviction notice: New tenant will be arriving December 2014. Please have your things moved out by that time."

 

[Mummy2Corban]

So far we have only told a few close family Nd friends. We didn't share properly with indigo till the 20 week scan because of the molar I was so scared something would go wrong. I think I'll see how I feel Friday after my scan..... Kinda wanna use a cute picture on fb..... Just change my profile picture and let people see it.

I have no idea about this bubba! Sometimes because of the throwing up I think girl then because of eating savoury I think boy.... Guess we will find out in November! Haha!

How's everyone's weekend gone?

Xxx

 

[VJean]

We told the in-laws early, but only bc they guessed. We have had 3 mc, so I hated the whole "we're pregnant, no we're not, yes we are" thing, so we kept it under wraps for a while. We finally told my Bigs a few weeks ago, when I couldn't hide it anymore. I was mainly worried that they would be mad. They kind of were, until we found out it was a boy. Now they are ok.

We told them by doing a big ice cream sundae thing after dinner. I bought all kinds of toppings, ice cream flavors, etc, and when I made mine I got the pickles out of the fridge and asked the kids if they wanted pickles on theirs as well. The boys (17, 14) were grossed out, but my DD (19) got it right away! So then I made a bowl of chocolate ice cream and put a pickle on top. DH took a pic and uploaded it to Facebook and said something funny about me trying to share with him. It was cute. I wish we would have done something more creative, but oh well!

 

[Spiffynoodles]

VJean, the ice cream thing was a cute idea! It will be weird to tell my kids about a pregnancy someday, since my kids have been too young to understand so far.

M2C, when you come up with a cute picture to announce, you'll have to show us!

 

[zephyr]

That is cute vjean!

I didnt announce it in a cool way I went out for dinner with my nana and mum when she was in the country we arranged it the week before but the day before we went she complained about how I shouldnt have more kids, how I have too much to do, how it must suck having to do so much laundry, how she doesnt want to buy more presents for more kids how it would be cruel to bring children into the world with how it is these days, overpopulation, global warming uggh
She really let rip and made me feel awful so I didnt announce at the dinner instead I burst into tears in the middle of the resturant hahaha but said it was cos I wouldnt be seeing them for another year.

so I ended up waiting till 12 weeks, the inlaws found out before my own kids did which really upset me, someone at my husbands old work asked how the pregnancy was going. Then the inlaws asked me in front of my kids and my first reaction was to lie!!! And then I had to apologise for lying.

My announcement was a complete diaster!

I ended up uploading a picture of our 12 week scan saying we are pregnant again thanks to everyone that supported our decision to have one more baby.

 

[Spiffynoodles]

Zephyr, I'm sorry your mom had to make you feel so uncomfortable about announcing. That was a good way of saying things in your facebook announcement, though, because anyone who might have said something stupid would have to keep their mouth shut.

 

[zephyr]

Yeah I thought so too! my mum congratulated me in the post but still has not mentioned the pregnancy at all through messages lol its kinda odd but its okay she will get used to it in time.
I actually thought she would be happy. Tho I guess she did just spend over a week with 5 kids in the house including toddler twins and she lives overseas with no grandkids (or any kids for that matter) around so maybe she just wasnt used to the noise. She did have a lot of headaches when she stayed haha

I've been craving curry real bad. I'm thinking about ordering one tonight when I do the shopping. My appetite has increased so much the last two days!
I put it down to a growth spurt

 

[Veronicaco]

Sorry to hear that too zephyr! Sometimes people open their mouth and nonsense just floods out, reducing a baby down to such materialistic requirements isn't fair or appropriate. I'm sure she will come around to the idea, she probably feels horrible that she said those things!!

I finally got my downs risk letter back today stating my risk was 'low' at 1/252. This sounds quite high to me as dd was in the thousands has anyone had any experience with this? I guess when I flip it around a 251/252 chance if a baby without downs is pretty good for someone of 34. I'm still a bit worried though. Oh and to add insult to injury my specialist appt can back for 3 months time. I will be 26 weeks!!! What a waste of time. I may book a private scan for 16 weeks at this rate!!!

 

[Spiffynoodles]

Zephyr, I, too, hope your mom comes around.

Veronicaco, I've never done the NT testing or any sort of genetic testing, so I don't really have any experience with it. But 1/252 comes out to be a 0.003% chance of your baby having Downs, which sounds pretty low to me. As for the specialist appointment, is that your 20 week scan? (I'm not in the UK, so I'm not sure!) If so, making you wait that extra 6 weeks is ridiculous!

 

[Mummy2Corban]

Zephyr sorry to hear about your mum. You and you oh wants this bubs so doesn't matter what others think.

Veronica to be honest I can't remember my results for my two but I'll be able to let you know once I have my test done this Friday. Should get the results a week or so after. Does sound low risk though plus I'm sure if they considered it a problem then they would call you in. Do you get a 20 week scan? Can you call and get it changed?

As for me I'm feeling worse. I started throwing up in the evenings but now it's getting earlier.... I just threw up lunch. I was the same with indigo. I thought around this time your meant to feel better not worse!!!!!! Argh!!!!!! Anyway a few days till my scan so hopefully all is ok!

Xxx

 

[Spiffynoodles]

M2C, sorry you're feeling so horrible. I'm banking on another girl for you!

 

[Mummy2Corban]

Feeling sad for myself at the mo! Boo hoo! Xxx

 

[Veronicaco]

My specialist appt is to talk to someone about my risks involved in te second pregnancy with a bicornuate uterus, like risk of cervical incompetence causing pre-term labour. 26 weeks is very late for assessing risks in pregnancy IMO. My 20 wk scan will go ahead in June as arranged but I'm thinking of an earlier scan for my own reassurance. I'm just a bit concerned that 1/252 is higher than expected for my age. I've got my midwife in two weeks so I will discuss options with her then, it may be possible to request the quad blood screen.

 

[Mummy2Corban]

I agree that 26 weeks is a little late! Specially if it could cause pre term labour? Can you call them? If your concerned and you feel you need an extra scan then do it. What do quad bloods look for?

Xxx

 

[Veronicaco]

I think I will check with my midwife in two weeks, I just can't believe that they think that people who need to see a specialist in pregnancy can afford to wait until they are 6 months gone!!

Quad screen info here: https://www.babycenter.com/0_quad-screen-second-trimester-prenatal-screening_1487.bc

 

[Spiffynoodles]

Yeah, 26 weeks does sound a little late to be meeting with a specialist! Did you have a specialist with your DD? If so, when did you start going?

My first OB was kind of negligent, but thankfully the one I have now would rather send me to get NSTs or have me come in and be checked just in case, rather than risk anything, so I feel pretty safe with my care right now.

Oh, speaking of all that, so you know how you have to leave a urine sample for the doctors to check for infections and such? Well, when I did mine at 11 weeks, they called back and said it was "contaminated" and that I had to come back in and do it again. So I dragged both my kids across town again to pee in the dang cup again (oh and by the way, I was super careful both times to follow all the rules for their "clean catch" procedure) and the just called yesterday saying that sample was contaminated, too! So now I have to go in and have a catheter placed so they can get a good sample. I would think it was something I was doing wrong, but my SIL said that they made her do the sample three times as well. I guess they are just ultra-strict, but it's going to be such a pain in the butt to take my kids back again.

 

[Mummy2Corban]

Thanks for the link. I thought it was along those lines. If your concerned there's no harm in requesting it.

Spiffy that's not good. My midwife checks my samples at my appointments. They use a dip stick and just give me another pot if there happy. My midwife with Corban would make me use the same pot!

Xxx

 

[Veronicaco]

With Dd I saw a specialist at about 18 weeks, he determined that all was ok and if I had any problems I could return. The problem is that none of the healthcare professionals I've seen so far have been able to tell me whether I am likely to have any problems or not. If I am high risk it would be better to know sooner rather than later. It just irritates me that the gp said she was referring me at 4 weeks and then the midwife said te same at 8 weeks! Hopefully it won't be an issue but I will still talk to my mw!!

Same as you m2c, the midwife dips my urine on arrival usually!

 

[Spiffynoodles]

They do a quick urine check at every appointment for me, too. Except for the first appointment, they make you do a more thorough sample that gets sent to their lab and they wait to see if it grows cultures so they can see if you have any infections. And I'm fine with that, because I had a bladder infection and a UTI when I was pregnant with DD, and another UTI when I was pregnant with DS, I just hate that they make it nearly impossible to do the sample right!

Veronicaco, hopefully if you didn't have any complications with your DD, you'll be fine this time, too.

 

[Cangaroo]

I was referred for a consultant appointment by the midwife at 7 weeks due to obstructed labour. There are no concerns pregnancy wise, and my appointment is next week when I will be 13+5/40! 26/40 seems very late when they're querying a high risk pregnancy. Can you call your midwife to discuss?

I have my first scan tomorrow. I made a massive mistake and told my OH the wrong time so he booked the afternoon off work when the scan is at 11.45 am! He has a meeting at the time of the scan so can't come. I feel so bad he's going to miss it! My friend is going to meet me there so I don't have to go alone, but I feel really bad for OH. I'm really nervous about the scan. I know chances are everything is fine, but I keep hearing sad stories...