buddy wanted - ttc after ectopic surgery to remove a tube or more

[squeak01]

Thanks x

good luck with your scan, everything will be just fine i completly get the nerves though xx

 

[maybebayb]

Hi squeak! Sorry for you loss xx I was meant to get weekly hcgs done until they got to 0 but kinda forgot whoops, pg tests all turned negative though so I figured they went to 0 lol.


Yay for scan sandy! Can't wait to hear all about it

 

[ljsmummy]

Hi I'd love to know if I may join this thread for support.had surgery a week ago for ectopic and tube removal at 11 weeks
Feeling confused and would like to know there is someone out there who understands.
How long is/has everyone waited to ttc?are you know paranoid of another ectopic? (I didn't know I was pregnant until 3 days before the surgery )
Would just love a friend to talk to while I try to make sense of it all.
Hubby is great..but a ladies view would be so appreciated.
Thank you x x x

 

[Amcolecchi]

ljsmummy-Hey girl you are in the right place! I am so sorry about your loss! I was pregnant in April and JUST told everyone on Mother's day (immediate families) I was pregnant then a couple days later had the ectopic pregnancy and surgery and I also lost my tube. It took me about 8 weeks for my hcg levels to get to 0 and have my period. But every girl is different. Have you been going to your doctor for hcg levels? As soon as I got my period that first time, we started trying again and I was very fortunate and got pregnant the first try. YES I was extremely nervous it would be ectopic again so this time we told no one until that first ultrasound when we saw the baby was in the right place! So it is ok to be nervous and sad but it's good to know that others have experienced what you have and are pregnant. Some women on here have already had their babies!!! So good luck hunny and we are always here if you need to chat!

 

[squeak01]

hey maybebayb, yep hpt was neg so i suspect hcg levels are close to 0 if not already 0. I'm just waiting for af to decide what to do next x

hey ljsmummy, I had my surgery just over 5 weeks ago and I was approx 6 weeks. I also had tube removed as well. I feel the same confusion its a really hard thing to try and wrap your head around. All the ladies on here have been through the same so as amcolecchi you are in the right place.

Im unsure when I would like to try again, I'm thinking i will take the NTNP route once I have first af as im not sure im ready to see the heartbreaking BFNs. Im am 100% terrified and paranoid of another ectopic but im completely willing to take the risk (crazy i know). I was told if i even suspect im pregnant or have had a positive test to go straight to doc or epu if preg was confirmed to be scanned no later than 6 weeks to ensure baby would be in the right place which is reassuring, have you been offered similar?

I imagine at only a week post surgery you are still quite sore and your head is all over the place, just take the time you feel you need to rest and in time hopefully you begin to feel a little more yourself again x

 

[ljsmummy]

Thank you so much to everyone,what a lovely bunch of people,I feel very welcomed.

I'm in the UK so have been offered an early scan for my (fingers crossed) next pregnancy whenever that may be.my main concern is that what if the same thing happens again,in that I dont realise until 11weeks+ and I lose my other tube too?I didnt know this time as I had seemingly normal periods until a week before i went into hospital.I guess the only way is to test every month as a backup even if I get AF.

Its so reassuring to hear that some people can get pregnant with just one tube,its quite amazing really.

I think with it only being a week after surgery my brain is in overdrive trying to figure it all out.I feel angry but more confused at how I just didn't know I was that far on in the pregnancy. I'd like us to ttc once we both feel ready,but it will just be a relaxed approach.I'm sure I got told to wait 6 months after laparotomy...but I may be wrong as the information and aftercare I got was minimal.I've had no mention of hcg levels being tested or anything like that.

Thank you so much for replying,its given me a little light at the end of a dark week.hope to make good friends with everyone on their journies x x x

 

[sandyhen85]

Ljsmummy welcome, and I am so sorry for your loss. I know how you feel not knowing you were pg. last year I miscarried at 8/9 weeks, thought I had food poisoning and then my waters broke and I passed the sac/baby shortly afterwards in hospital...this was one year after I had been told it would unlikely every happen for us without some sort of medical aid. When we started trying early this year I tested every week to begin with because I was so worried and then devastation struck again when it was confirmed as ectopic. My doctor was able to check my remaining tube during the surgery and said it looked fine which was reassuring, maybe yours was able to do the same?
The good thing is that because you lost the tube rather than having scar tissue from repairing it, you are more likely to have a healthy pregnancy next time. I was told to wait 3 months because I also had the metho shot. We started trying as soon as the third cycle was finished early June and we fell pregnant mid August with the help of metformin. I have found the ladies on this thread to be a great help, so please feel free to ask us anything...we're all in this together x x

 

[sandyhen85]

Btw ladies, my scan went really well. Didn't sleep at all last night I was too nervous, but thankfully everything looks great and I'm measuring ahead at 9weeks with a HB of 170bpm. I have my next scan 3 weeks today which should be 12 weeks and then we can tell our families and close friends. That will be 3 days after my sisters Birthday, so this will be her present ...I'm still scared, but a little more relaxed now. I hope everyone else is doing well x x

 

[Amcolecchi]

Sandy-your little bean is beautiful!!!!! Everything looks amazing!!!! I am so happy for you!!!

 

[Amcolecchi]

I had to go to the docs today because I thought I had a UTI thankfully, I did not but he still did and ultrasound which was super nice!! here is the pic! Super excited!! This was the first time I saw the baby moving!!!

https://i802.photobucket.com/albums/yy310/amcolecchi/10w3d_zps9be3cd5d.jpg

 

[sandyhen85]

Omg Am, look at that picture how amazing. You can clearly see the arms and legs now, wow! I bet you were over the moon to see it wriggling around as well. I can't wait to see that myself. Will you be finding out the sex, or are you team yellow? X

 

[ljsmummy]

Thanks for your lovely replies. Sandy - they did check my other tube during the surgery and said it looked fine,so that's some reassurance. I think.I'm just in negative mode today,I'm sure I will be fine in a few weeks,I guess my mind will take as much time as my body to heal.
All your scan pictures are lovely to see!it really gives me some hope,so much luck and good wishes to all of you. So glad to have found this little haven x x

 

[maybebayb]

Oh I LOVE those scan pics am and sandy! Still so long to wait for mine, 4 more weeks
I had a big panic yesterday as I mowed to lawns, they were so long and it took ages but anyway after I finished I were so sore and ectopicy pain with some mild cramps, I could have kicked myself for doing it but the pain has settled now, praying no damage done.

Welcome lgs, sorry you have to be here with us but you're in the right hands now hehe.
I'm sure you will be able to conceive again, I only have one ovary on my left side and a blocked and scarred tube (hsg confirmed) and somehow a little miracle decided to join us

Squeak, I got my period back 31 days after op and my cycles are 27-30 days long so that also confirmed for me that hcg had gone back to 0. We didn't try for 3 cycles after as per instructions as my tube was left in so v high risk for me for another ectopic, since they removed your tube you risk would be much less

Hope you ladies have a great day. Im watching the Americas cup. GO NEW ZEALAND!

 

[squeak01]

Hey,

scan pics are amazing i agree its really lovely to see.
Im hoping af comes soon, it will be exactly 6 weeks this thur. I have been having some af type cramps tonight like i would usually get before af but this has happened twice now and still no af. Trying my best to be patient but it just feels like something is wrong because i havent got them yet, i know it probably isnt though, its horrible how much something like this makes you over think everything. Oh and i were talking tonight and have decided to give it at least two cycles before we ttc again. I have spoken to my doc today and he said at least to wait one cycle but two is better if i feel ready.

 

[squeak01]

Thank you so much to everyone,what a lovely bunch of people,I feel very welcomed.

I'm in the UK so have been offered an early scan for my (fingers crossed) next pregnancy whenever that may be.my main concern is that what if the same thing happens again,in that I dont realise until 11weeks+ and I lose my other tube too?I didnt know this time as I had seemingly normal periods until a week before i went into hospital.I guess the only way is to test every month as a backup even if I get AF.

Its so reassuring to hear that some people can get pregnant with just one tube,its quite amazing really.

I think with it only being a week after surgery my brain is in overdrive trying to figure it all out.I feel angry but more confused at how I just didn't know I was that far on in the pregnancy. I'd like us to ttc once we both feel ready,but it will just be a relaxed approach.I'm sure I got told to wait 6 months after laparotomy...but I may be wrong as the information and aftercare I got was minimal.I've had no mention of hcg levels being tested or anything like that.

Thank you so much for replying,its given me a little light at the end of a dark week.hope to make good friends with everyone on their journies x x x

Hey,

Yes i understand your fears 11 weeks is a long time not to know, personally because of your experience as long as ur ttc i would test monthly just to be on the safe side, but thats just me, i dont think you would be wrong to do anything that settled your fears.
Im in the uk also and share your experience with regards to the minimal info given after surgery, at the hospital at least. Once i was fit enough to get to my dr's surgery i have to admit i literally bombarded him wjth questions. Im not sure about waiting 6 months. My dr was quite shocked when i asked if i had to wait 3 months as it might be dangerous, i had read i would be at higher risk of mc or ectopic during this time. He said he didnt agree as my surgery was straight forward and the consultant said my remaining right tube was very good. Everyones situation is different though x have you spoken to your own gp?

 

[LynnC]

OMG sandy and am, the little peas look great. so cute! I cant wait for me to have that one day!!!

Welcome ljs, welcome to this post and sorry that you had to go through this too. I am about 2 weeks+ post my op. I had my right tube removed at around week 11th too. I feel better after 2 weeks. I know exactly how you feel right now. But, keep your head up and try to push yourself to move on. it is hard at . however there is nothing else we can do but get back on track and try again. I was diagnosed with endometriosis and was told to ttc again as soon as I get my 1 or 2nd af (i also had 2 shots of methotrexate!). Oh and doc also did hsg test on my other tube.
Just make sure ask your doc about taking prenatal vitamin. I am taking my extra folic acid.

 

[Amcolecchi]

Thank you ladies!!! I was so happy it was the first time we saw the baby move! I can't wait for you ladies to experience that too!!

maybe-no more cutting the lawn lady!!!! haha I ma sure you are ok but if it the cramping gets worse I would just call your doc and they will do an u/s for you! But just rest I am sure you are ok!

 

[sandyhen85]

LynnC I hope you get your BFP soon too and that everything goes well for you.

Squeak01 I really hope AF arrives for you soon, It must be very frustrating for you right now, just take the time to rest so your body heals fully

Ljsmummy don't worry about being in negative mode, we have all been there and understand what you're feeling. I know it will be hard to hear right now, but it will get easier for you especially once AF arrives and you know your nearing the time when you can try again and it's great that your other tube is clear...I like to look at people like maybebayb for inspiration...One damaged tube and one ovary on opposite sides to each other and she fell pregnant again, so it can happen Hun and it will for you I'm sure

Maybebayb I will echo Amcolecchi here, but I'm sure you are ok, but do call the doctor if cramps continue...you wouldn't have to wait those 4 weeks for your next scan then

I have 3 weeks until my next one and already counting down the days....I so badly want to tell my mum, sister and best friend so I can talk to them...19days to go!! Do we think it would be silly of me to take the day off work? it's just I am in Thailand and I work 2:00pm-10:30pm and OH works 8:30pm-3am....OH's family are 1hour ahead of us in The Philippines and my family are 6hours behind us in the UK, so the best time to speak with them all is when I'm at work...our other option is for OH to tell his family during the day and then I tell mine later at night, but I kind of want to do them close together in time because I think OH's family are going to tell everyone due to their excitement and I don't want to risk my family seeing on Facebook first.....we need to tell his first because we want his daughter to be the first to know and she lives with his parents.

 

[ljsmummy]

Hi ladies
Feeling a little better today,its been a sunny day and managed a walk/limp out in the fresh air,was great to clear the mind!
Squeak - I've not been to my gp yet,but I think I shall make an appointment for next week when I'm more mobile,go and ask my growing list of questions,so thanks for that.
Maybebayb - what an absolute inspiration you are...just hearing your story has given me hope and strength.
LynnC- wow we are similar,awful situations but great to know you have been there and already feeling better,thank you for the positivity.
Sandy - thank you,its great to be able to vent and know I'm not depressing anyone,just talking to you all is a huge help already.and you should absolutely take the day off!without a doubt.its your moment,cherish it.

Thanks so much for listening,getting so many vibes of positivity and support.Helping me heal that little bit faster :-D x

 

[maybebayb]

The cramping died down that night thank god but then yesterday I woke up and my sore boobs had disappeared overnight and boy did I panic, I texted my midwife and asked wtf was going on and she said since I wasn't spotting or any major cramping all would be fine, she offered and scan but I declined (I know right) and said I would wait it out.
Well today sore boobs are back and I did an actual vomit this morning! My first proper one and I was so freaking happy! Moral of the story is don't mow the lawns lol.

Don't be too hard on yourself lj, it's an awful awful thing to go through and you will have good days and then suddenly feel like crap again and it's totally normal. Grief is a strange process but I promise you that you will pull through and come out stronger and the other side. If you ever want to chat vent or be angry then feel free to chat to us