buddy wanted - ttc after ectopic surgery to remove a tube or more

[Amcolecchi]

Maybe-my sore boobs and cramping went away too around 8 weeks then around 10 they came back. Now I don't even notice them! So it's normal!!!

Afm-Met the midwife yesterday and loved her! They used a doppler on my belly and she said my baby was being stubborn and moving but we found the heartbeat! Also, they changed my due date to April 14th!

 

[Amcolecchi]

lj-How are you doing? Know that once your blood levels are 0 you can start trying again and many women on here including me got pregnant right away! So I know it's tough to stay strong but try and if you ever need to vent we are here for you!

 

[Mia_J86]

I as well am going through currently a tubal pregnancy along with a uterus pregnancy I was pregnant with twins one was in my uterus and the other in my tube they are trying to save my tube so they had gave me the methaltrexate shot my fiance and I have been trying for 3 years now and this is the 3rd miscarriage we have had I was 8 weeks we are hoping the methaltrexate shot helps and I don't have too go through getting my tube removed but I have been searching for people who have been through this as well since this is our first tube pregnancy and has been very devastating to our family as we were told monday the baby was fine and they thought my pains in my stomach were just cyst that I had in my ovaries the on thursday they inform me the baby had passed and the pains were from a baby in tube that was still alive it was so devastating too us too go through this I would just love to get to know each of you guys and go through this with you and have someone to talk to about this all

 

[ladyluck84]

Mia I'm so sorry to hear your story. you have to push for what u feel is right for u. I chose to not have the shot as I knew I couldn't try straight away but I did need my tube removed. I have previously lost and I'm still tying. Nothing can prepare u for frustration to know u have a baby but in the wrong place.

 

[LynnC]

I as well am going through currently a tubal pregnancy along with a uterus pregnancy I was pregnant with twins one was in my uterus and the other in my tube they are trying to save my tube so they had gave me the methaltrexate shot my fiance and I have been trying for 3 years now and this is the 3rd miscarriage we have had I was 8 weeks we are hoping the methaltrexate shot helps and I don't have too go through getting my tube removed but I have been searching for people who have been through this as well since this is our first tube pregnancy and has been very devastating to our family as we were told monday the baby was fine and they thought my pains in my stomach were just cyst that I had in my ovaries the on thursday they inform me the baby had passed and the pains were from a baby in tube that was still alive it was so devastating too us too go through this I would just love to get to know each of you guys and go through this with you and have someone to talk to about this all

So so sorry to hear this Mia. I hope you will recover physically n mentally soon!!' there are now words to describe what we are going through with ectopic preg...

I am just praying for healthy babies to come soon enough to heal the loses.
Feel free to open up and let us know if u have any concerns!

 

[Mia_J86]

Thank you guys it is so nice too hear other people that are and have gone through what I am what can people tell me to prepare for in my future of trying after this I am just worried I am going to have more tube pregnancy and if that is common at all

 

[ladyluck84]

My doctor said it is possible if your tube was either damaged before for it to get stuck in the same place or if the ectopic damages it then an egg may get stuck in the scarring in the future. But they can have a look to check. That's what they did with me and when they got in their they realised I had ruptured and had internal bleeding so I was left without a choice to make. But I have also heard of others to have an ectopic and keep their tube and go on to have no problems and it was just unlucky. Has your doctors given u any advice after looking at your scans?

 

[c.m.c]

Mia, I sent you a message in another thread. Glad to see you found this thread. Ladies like everyone here can truly empathsize with you.

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Like ladyluck84 I lost my tube and had to! But it's the ovary that's the key to not reducing future fertility. If they can save the ovary then the other tube can still sweep past the opposite ovary and pick up the egg. How many weeks were you?

Metho shot will mean you hav to wait and like ladyluck Said it could possibly happen again if they save the tube as it could be damaged, it would all depend if tube is ruptured

 

[Mia_J86]

Thank you ladies for all your kindness and information as me and my husband were left with a extremely rough weekend had so much pain saturday that I ended up back in the er couldn't even walk they did an ultra sound and said the baby in my tube was still alive and the heart beat was pretty strong they had wanted to do emergency surgery as most of you know that sometimes and ruptured tube can be deadly to the mother so I had agreed with the surgery they were going to try and just remove the baby in my tube and save the tube and remove the one in my uterus so I didn't have to worry about passing that one too well they found out when they went in that my tube had already ruptured and there was no saving the tube I was bleeding pretty bad they had said that there was a lot of scar tissue from a past surgery I had that it could have caused the issues of ttc as well so they removed all that as well now I am just on the recovery road from the surgery hoping it goes by quickly as I have been in a lot of pain from the surgery and I am so swollen I hoping it all goes down soon and that we can ttc soon Thanks everyone I really love this website and being able to communicate with other women who went through what I am helps in so many ways

 

[ljsmummy]

Hi all, sorry been quiet the hubby and I took a spontaneous trip to the coast for the weekend,needed to get away!Feeling a little better each day.Im exactly 2 weeks post op today.
Am - I haven't been asked to go back or been having any tests,so not sure when my levels would be 0.We've decided just to take a little break for a couple of cycles,we were told to wait 3 months before trying again as I had laparotomy.But then we will just have a relaxed approach,and let nature take its course.My head is in a better place,I've stopped blaming myself as there is nothing I could have done to prevent it happening,and being angry about it now won't change anything.I've always been a big believer in everything happens for a reason,so if I'm meant to have more children then,at some point,I will.
How are you all doing?Hope everyone is feeling well.
Mia - sorry you are here,but these ladies gave me the warmest welcome ever,and are so helpful to me,they will look after you. Keep your chin up lovely x x x

 

[ljsmummy]

Ooh and a quick question to everyone if I may....
How long after surgery did AF arrive? I've no idea when to expect it...thanks in advance x x

 

[c.m.c]

Thank you ladies for all your kindness and information as me and my husband were left with a extremely rough weekend had so much pain saturday that I ended up back in the er couldn't even walk they did an ultra sound and said the baby in my tube was still alive and the heart beat was pretty strong they had wanted to do emergency surgery as most of you know that sometimes and ruptured tube can be deadly to the mother so I had agreed with the surgery they were going to try and just remove the baby in my tube and save the tube and remove the one in my uterus so I didn't have to worry about passing that one too well they found out when they went in that my tube had already ruptured and there was no saving the tube I was bleeding pretty bad they had said that there was a lot of scar tissue from a past surgery I had that it could have caused the issues of ttc as well so they removed all that as well now I am just on the recovery road from the surgery hoping it goes by quickly as I have been in a lot of pain from the surgery and I am so swollen I hoping it all goes down soon and that we can ttc soon Thanks everyone I really love this website and being able to communicate with other women who went through what I am helps in so many ways

I'm sorry to hear all that you went through but thankful to hear you're alive and well.

I've done a lot of research on this and apparently as long as you have one good tube you're better losing the bad tube as the chances if a future ectopic are now as low as anyone else! As long as there's two ovaries your fertility is not reduced by much!

I truly hope and wish you a speedy recovery and BFP

 

[c.m.c]

Ooh and a quick question to everyone if I may....
How long after surgery did AF arrive? I've no idea when to expect it...thanks in advance x x

My hormone levels hit zero after about 2 weeks and I had a negative test 15 days after surgery. AF arrived exactly 22 days after surgery so pretty fast and I TTC straight away again! As I didn't have metho I tried

Everyone will be different, I guess it depends ho high the HCG was. Mine was 5000 day of surgery and it should halve every 48 hrs to get to zero. I was 7.5 weeks pregnant day of surgery

My friend had a MC, her levels at 11 weeks were over 100,000 so took her 5.5 weeks for AF to arrive

Usually with ectopics (not always) the HCG never gets as high as a normal pregnancy so should come down fast. It will always come down fast after tubal removal

 

[ljsmummy]

Thank you c.m.c!that makes a lot of sense. I was 11 weeks,but had the tube removed.so hopefully it may happen sometime soon. I didn't have the methotrexate.
Is it correct that you had a tube removed in may and are now pregnant? If so then that is absolutely amazing x x x

 

[Amcolecchi]

ljs-I took forever to get back to 0!!!! It took me about 7 weeks!! And my blood levels weren't even that high! Like just over 6,000! It just takes longer for some than others. I also had my tube removed. But then the first month trying I got prego after it took my husband and I a year to get prego the first time!! So it works in mysterious ways I guess! I got my tube removed in May also and got pregnant in July! So don't lose faith!

 

[ljsmummy]

Am - wow that is just amazing!I didnt expect that it could ever happen that quickly,especially with one tube?! I bet you were so excited but scared at the same time. It really gives me hope to know its possible,I'm expecting a long road ahead,so anything other than that would just be brilliant. Huge congratulations to you,I can't imagine how you must feel .
I dont mind whenever AF arrives,just curious as to how long it would take,but it will be nice to know I'm a step closer and that my body is getting back to normal x x

 

[ljsmummy]

Am - wow that is just amazing!I didnt expect that it could ever happen that quickly,especially with one tube?! I bet you were so excited but scared at the same time. It really gives me hope to know its possible,I'm expecting a long road ahead,so anything other than that would just be brilliant. Huge congratulations to you,I can't imagine how you must feel .
I dont mind whenever AF arrives,just curious as to how long it would take,but it will be nice to know I'm a step closer and that my body is getting back to normal x x

 

[Amcolecchi]

LJS-yes I was freaking out...my doctor made me come in at 6 weeks and get checked every 2 weeks till just now to make sure I was developing correctly and no ectopic! The first one we went to my husband thought I was going to pass out because I was so pale but then we saw the baby there and felt better! At 8 weeks we heard the heartbeat and then told everyone! lol Well close family! We told everyone else this past weekend on facebook and such! So yes, you will be there soon! I couldn't believe how quick it was either since we had been trying for almost a year!

 

[c.m.c]

Thank you c.m.c!that makes a lot of sense. I was 11 weeks,but had the tube removed.so hopefully it may happen sometime soon. I didn't have the methotrexate.
Is it correct that you had a tube removed in may and are now pregnant? If so then that is absolutely amazing x x x

Yes on 20th May I had my tube removed and my last period was 9th July,

I am proof that you only need one tube

 

[c.m.c]

I was the same as Amcol.......I freaked out every single day!! The HCG doubling every 48 hrs helped relax me to the 6 week scan