Calling all RMA Ladies (1st page updates)

[faithful96]

I am so sorry you cycle has been cancelled. This whole process is heart wrenching. I hope you will eventually come to a place where you are ready to cycle again.

I never felt pushed into IVF at RMA. We were given the option to do IUI first and there was no pressure to jump right to IVF.

Best of luck and enjoy your summer

 

[Poms Mom]

thanks ladies. believe me i am tempted. ever from the get go they keep placing the words IVF into conversations. I grew up in a conservative family and upbrining where you believe that you leave it up to God. I guess in a sense i took that upon myself by doin hormones but I can atleast hold on to that i can still have a baby naturally with some assistance. DH agrees with me.

We will see what happens. I don't have a final decision on BD but as far as waiting, for sure....atleast 1 more cycle.

 

[Kins]

well i think today will be my last post for a while. yesterday i spoke with my RE nurse and RE decided to cancel my cycle. according to my RE i have 1 strong mature follie, 3 mature follies, and afew more behind. them. So they think its too risky moving forward with the trigger and TTC. Believe me i am tempted to try to BD anyway since it seems likde there are only 4 mature follies and have read other stories of people going against RE advise. But i am really scared to do that and end up with multiples. i am ok with 2 or 3 ..but 4 or more is way scary. plus i am sure i won't hear the end of it if i do get BFP after RE advised not to BD by RMA. RE nurse stressed to avoid all intercourse and if i must to use protection.

I think i will skip next cycle. It was too stressful and time consuming this time to do it back to back. and i slowly started to dig myself into a financail hole with the meds and copays. took 35CD to get a cancelled cycle, i can't bring myself to do it back to back. I would like to enjoy my summer as i spend the first half of it on shots and going to doctors on my vacation. and cancelling plans due to $. MY RE nurse mentioned IVF but that is an absolute NO! do any of your doctors try to push you into IVF? i almost feel like thats what they want me to do.

Anyway im completely drained. trying to come back and relax the rest of the summer. hope you all have a great summer and babydust for those trying!

Hi Poms- I cant speak regarding financial aspect BUT I can say I feel for ya regarding the too many follies and the no IVF.

My husband and I have a goal of TTC via IUI not sure how we will feel after multiple IUIs. I have also considered adoption. I always had a gut feeling that I am meant to adopt.

Anyway back to you- My opinion I would say follow their recommendations they do this all the time. My first gonal cycle which was cancelled they gave me the option to trigger and baby dance and IUI but my doctor specified if I had multiples I would need to reduce. I do not believe in that therefore we cancelled the cycle.

It happened again my second gonal cycle that time they didnt even ask because they knew I would say no reduction.

This third Gonal Cycle I had two follies they were they best but they were gonna try anyway. so we did. I got a BFN. AF is currently visiting.

I cant wait to get started on the next cycle but I am turning the 30 end of August so I am going to wait a few weeks to start the next cycle.

I say for you take a few weeks for a mental health break and then restart just remember its time and patients.

As for IVF they mentioned it to me alot in the beginning I guess because its the highest % to getting prego but they have stopped because I specifically told my RE my goal is to keep trying IUI until Ive had enough. At that time my husband and I will take serious consideration of the next step. He is not opposed to adoption but I think he wants to exhaust our IUIs first.

Anyway keep your head up its hard. The only thing getting me through this current BFN is the hope for next time.


Btw everyone did you all do the test to see if your tubes were clear? I forget the test name but I havent done that and I am wondering if I should.

 

[Poms Mom]

How long have you been trying IUI? did you have long cycles too? The test to see how your tubes look i an HSG---not sure the full name but its a long one. They put dye up in you and take xrays. I still have the xrays of it, its so cool.

I too have hope that it can work. the nurse just flat out told me, do not have BD...no option. i kind of felt messed up that on vacay i had to go finding an RE and they do their monitoring any time of the day..i had them done at 11 and 1PM. seemed like i got put on a guilt trip because i went away, but i am still not convinced how i can go from nothing growing to something huge in 3 days. but i guess it happens.

DH and i talked about adoption and didnt dismiss the idea, but i would love to have a biological child..atleast 1. My family is very fertile except for me. I am the oldest of 14 grandchildren and the younger cousins got pregnant before me..believe me my family has a conspiracy that i am protecting myself. no one knows how difficult it is to feel barren! but thank god i am not (upto what i know now) I have a trip i would like to take in 3 weeks. i always have bad AF i get it every 2 months on a random day. I have no clue of my cycles before treatment. RE thinks in 2 weeks i will get it. with my luck i will plan to be home and not go away and it won't come or if i do go, it happens when im away.

When did you get monitored? I got every other day. i will try to ask if i can go every 3 days since it was such a long cycle. and later on if i need to go a lot that is fine.

 

[Kins]

How long have you been trying IUI? did you have long cycles too? The test to see how your tubes look i an HSG---not sure the full name but its a long one. They put dye up in you and take xrays. I still have the xrays of it, its so cool.

I too have hope that it can work. the nurse just flat out told me, do not have BD...no option. i kind of felt messed up that on vacay i had to go finding an RE and they do their monitoring any time of the day..i had them done at 11 and 1PM. seemed like i got put on a guilt trip because i went away, but i am still not convinced how i can go from nothing growing to something huge in 3 days. but i guess it happens.

DH and i talked about adoption and didnt dismiss the idea, but i would love to have a biological child..atleast 1. My family is very fertile except for me. I am the oldest of 14 grandchildren and the younger cousins got pregnant before me..believe me my family has a conspiracy that i am protecting myself. no one knows how difficult it is to feel barren! but thank god i am not (upto what i know now) I have a trip i would like to take in 3 weeks. i always have bad AF i get it every 2 months on a random day. I have no clue of my cycles before treatment. RE thinks in 2 weeks i will get it. with my luck i will plan to be home and not go away and it won't come or if i do go, it happens when im away.

When did you get monitored? I got every other day. i will try to ask if i can go every 3 days since it was such a long cycle. and later on if i need to go a lot that is fine.

I've been keeping an excel spread sheet. For the gonal f I have done 3 cycles first two cancelled b/c too many follies 4/11-4/27, 5/10-5/30 like you I wasnt getting results so they bumped up my dosage and then too many came. this last cycle when I was able to trigger was 6/11-7/10(trigger day) they would give me a high dose then a low dose and I would go every other day. they didnt want to give to many days in between because literally the follies change so quickly.

I am debating that test the hsg one...hmmm.

AFM-So as for me I was supposed to go in for BW today for beta but since the hpt was neg x2 I didnt. They want me to go in tomorrow for a base line to see where things stand.

I told told her I was hoping to wait two weeks but she said with the ovidrel someones once you ovulate you can rebound and ovulate on your own. So weird I never knew. But anyway if I were to start my cycle now like she thought I was going to the lenth of my cycles will make it so it falls on my bday for the iui or two week wait. I kinda wanted to have a stress free bday. Haha. I mean how can you tell all your friends sorry I am not drinking at my party because a tww. Its kinda hard.

I wonder If I should wait out this month and see if I ovulate like a "normal" person.

Hmmm decisions decisions. To start a new cycle not to start a new cycle. I have to go in tomorrow for my baseline.

so ? is the day your AF come considered your Day 1? I am so confused

 

[Poms Mom]

I am sure the first day you AF is the Day 1 if its the same as this past cycle i had. The hsg wasnt too bad. you just have to prep with antibiotics so you dont catch a UTI. they said i took it like a champ. i was scared but it was just a bit crampy afterwards. i went from 6/27-7/22 starting from 37.5 ui of gonal upto 262.5. I started responding at 225 of gonal. at 262.5 they really grew. and i did that for the last week of the cycle. so i must have went through almost 4 pens. they thought about lowering the dose while away but were afraid to risk that the follies will reverse..which surprised me they lowered your dose after you responded not to OHSS you. Thats waht i though would happen to me so i dont OHSS and hold me off until i came back. that is why i kind of felt like a guilt trip going on vacay.

believe me i had to explain to alot of ppl why i wasnt drinking on gatherings. its so annoying. and had to explain to my family on vacay y i had to find a RE while on vacay (i went with family memebers away). I was wondering if i wold ovulate normally next AF. lets see. I sent you a PM.

 

[jchic]

Hi ladies! Just checking in Hope all is well!!!! I start estrogen priming on Monday and then stimming for IVF once CD 3 hits in about a week!

xoxoxo

 

[Spoiledangel]

Hi all I have been reading on here for a while and just decided to sign-up as I go to RMA englewood, Dr. Rybak is my main Doctor there here is a little backstory as I cant do a siggy yet......

I'm Angie 32 my DH is Miguel 30... We do have 2 teenagers DD is 15 and DS is 13 we have been trying to conceive #3 for 10 years, have had 5 pregnancies since 2 natural 3 clomid all resulting in M/C. Took my Dr. 4 years to finally diagnose me with PCOS then in 2009 after switching GYNs, they found Endo during a laparoscopy and the MTHFR gene mutation. We did clomid a long time then I finally landed a job with great benefits so we started going to RMA, I chose Dr. Rybak as he specializes in PCOS.

We did our first IUI in June resulting in a BFN, and am currently in our 2WW from our 2nd IUI beta is on Friday. If negative we are moving onto IVF for the next cycle, husband has 3% morphology so since they say that's below normal range I don't want to keep pushing the IUIs if the odds aren't in our favor and would rather move on since morphology isn't a factor due to the ICSI.

 

[faithful96]

Welcome! I hope you find success with RMA. I am a huge fan. Dr. Rybak did my 3rd egg retrieval and I saw him for monitoring a few times. He is incredibly gentle and kind! Dr. Constantini also monitors in Englewood and I really like her too

Hi all I have been reading on here for a while and just decided to sign-up as I go to RMA englewood, Dr. Rybak is my main Doctor there here is a little backstory as I cant do a siggy yet......

I'm Angie 32 my DH is Miguel 30... We do have 2 teenagers DD is 15 and DS is 13 we have been trying to conceive #3 for 10 years, have had 5 pregnancies since 2 natural 3 clomid all resulting in M/C. Took my Dr. 4 years to finally diagnose me with PCOS then in 2009 after switching GYNs, they found Endo during a laparoscopy and the MTHFR gene mutation. We did clomid a long time then I finally landed a job with great benefits so we started going to RMA, I chose Dr. Rybak as he specializes in PCOS.

We did our first IUI in June resulting in a BFN, and am currently in our 2WW from our 2nd IUI beta is on Friday. If negative we are moving onto IVF for the next cycle, husband has 3% morphology so since they say that's below normal range I don't want to keep pushing the IUIs if the odds aren't in our favor and would rather move on since morphology isn't a factor due to the ICSI.

 

[jchic]

welcome Spoiled! All the docs at RMA are fabulous and very well informed. I am certain they will be able to give you your sweet little addition!

xoxo

 

[DaisyQ]

Welcome Spoiled! What all the other ladies have said. I have not met Dr. Rybak, but am very impressed overall with the care at RMA, and feel so grateful to be going to a clinic that offers cutting edge chromosomal screening, a banking program, and has such great success rates. I'm sure you'll get a new addition - just a matter of time!

 

[Spoiledangel]

Thanks ladies I'm on a different board because it's nice to talk to people who understand what your going through but when I found this board I was even happier because we share the same Doctors and nurses, as for Dr. Rybak yes I love him he is so gentle and easy to talk to plus when I make a suggestion he doesn't disregard it like some Doctors.

For any of you that have frozen embies there how does their billing work, that is the only thing my insurance doesn't cover so I'm just curious? Does the fee start at beginning of ivf cycle or when there's actually an embie to store? Also during the ivf Process is the monitoring the same every 2 days or is it longer since their trying for more eggs? TIA

 

[DaisyQ]

I'm not sure about the billing for cyro. I know it's $1000 to freeze and store embies for one year. I'm assuming this is just per cycle, so if you have more eggs to freeze if you end up doing more cycles, it's probably $1000 each time to freeze. But not totally sure.

As for monitoring, in the beginning of the cycle it was every 3 days, and then as things progressed it was every other day, then at the very end, every day. I think I went to monitoring 7 times over a 11 day period...

 

[Spoiledangel]

Well that's odd if it's per cycle, why wouldnt they just put them "together" with the previous months

 

[BlueStorm]

Thanks ladies I'm on a different board because it's nice to talk to people who understand what your going through but when I found this board I was even happier because we share the same Doctors and nurses, as for Dr. Rybak yes I love him he is so gentle and easy to talk to plus when I make a suggestion he doesn't disregard it like some Doctors.

For any of you that have frozen embies there how does their billing work, that is the only thing my insurance doesn't cover so I'm just curious? Does the fee start at beginning of ivf cycle or when there's actually an embie to store? Also during the ivf Process is the monitoring the same every 2 days or is it longer since their trying for more eggs? TIA

First off Welcome Spoiled

as for the billing for cyro they will bill you after your embryos are frozen. The bill will come with the next billing cycle. I also heard you can pay it off in 3 payments (or set up some sort of payment arrangemetn) I am paying mine in half so it's not such a big hit to the bank account.

 

[Littlee49]

Hey ladies!! I just started my 4th round of IVF (1st time with RMA). A little history about me: husband and I both 28, TTC for 2 years (1yr on own). Diag with blocked tubes @ former RE had 2 failed IUIs, 2 fresh IVF cycles, 1 FET. 1st fresh BFP w/ twins lost @10 wks, FET BFN, 2nd fresh in April m/c...all unexplained. Switched RE's, just started stims mon for antagonist cycle with ICSI, PGD, and AH...this round HAS to work...right?!?! So nervous! Best wishes to all!!!!

 

[jchic]

Hi Little and welcome! RMA is amazing. The doctors and nurses are wonderful and I certainly hope you get your BFP!!!! Who is your doc? Mine is Dr. Morris and she is great! I should be starting stims by next week.

 

[Littlee49]

Thanks jchic! My RE is Dr Hock (somerset). She's been so great so far! Sounds like well be around the same sched! So hopeful for this round!

 

[jchic]

Little - where were you before RMA?

 

[BlueStorm]

Thanks jchic! My RE is Dr Hock (somerset). She's been so great so far! Sounds like well be around the same sched! So hopeful for this round!

Welcome Littlee I go to Somerset as well. I had Dr. Bohrer but I saw Dr. Hock a lot during monitoring. I love her she is really nice. Good luck!