Canadian Moms & Moms to be!

[Vickie]

Amanda I think that low-key is a very good idea this year especially so close to your due date

Brig sorry to hear you are so busy How are you feeling now??

Rach sorry to hear you aren't getting much of a break

 

[BrandiCanucks]

When I went to church, the pastor had three kids. His first son was born on Christmas Day, his daughter on Valentine's Day and his youngest son on New Year's Day (or Eve, can't remember).

They ALWAYS celebrated all their kids' half-birthdays.

 

[apple84]

It's hard to say now, but I honestly don't think I'll bother with half birthdays. They can have their birthday parties in January, no big deal. I'll just wait until Christmas break is over. I will probably do a combined party for all three of them until Andrew says he wants his own. It's all the same guests anyways

 

[readynwilling]

just a half birthday party thought.... mine is Aug 27 so always a few days before we go back to school... and i always had super small birthdays because of summer vacay... my sis & bro always had bigger parties cause they could invite all her school friends.

inspired by wendy's journal to head to a local craft show when J wakes up from her nap. until then i must go do laundry!!

 

[BrandiCanucks]

My friend from playgroup has a 4 year old son and two year old twins. They were all born March 10. She combined their birthdays for the first two years but her son said he hated it and didn't want to share with his sisters anymore, so she'll be doing two separate birthdays a week apart now.

 

[Vickie]

Enjoy the craft show Sara!

Any idea when the big Christmas show in TO is? I want to go back this year if I can swing it as I want another ornament plus they had some really cool stuff!

 

[impatient1]

Enjoy the craft show Sara.

I think even if B's birthday was closer to Christmas I would still just celebrate it around that time but with a bit of seperation if possible, like a week or so before or after depending on when it is.

OH has been pretty great this afternoon entertaining B while I got some dishes and laundry done which was nice. It's cute to see them playing together especially since it doesn't get to happen very much with him working so much.

 

[Melissa_M]

I guess I'll be dealing with that for this baby...she's due January 6th I'm not too worried about it though.

 

[readynwilling]

Vickie, its Nov 24 - Dec 4, I plan on going when we get back from the USA. we are coming back the Monday (the 27 I think)

Holy grouchy baby today!

 

[BrandiCanucks]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4HtMWBeGzqM

 

[BrandiCanucks]

What would you ladies do if you found your husband calling you a "screw up from day 1", and then making suicide threats to his mother (have the written proof), but she doesn't take it seriously? Especially if he's mentioned depression to you before, but said that the doctor told him to get over it or divorce me. Would you be upset, or would you be calling the doctor for him?

It's like he's completely disappeared. He's sleeping all the time during the day, even at night, or he's on his computer ALL DAY LONG, only surfacing to eat or watch hockey, but disappears right after or in between periods. He also claims he "hates kids" and "can't wait til they grow up"?

Be mad or get him some help?

 

[MommyKC]

Just a quick hi from me, I am EXHAUSTED today!

Hope you had fun Sara! I cant wait to go some craft shows!

Yeah both my girls' birthdays aren't THAT far from Christmas either (Nov 5 and 23). While they're little (with the exception of this year) I'll be combining their birthdays too, just because its easier for everyone else to have one party to come to for the two of them, rather than two parties within 3 weeks of eachother. I only seperated them this year because I figured it's Alora's first so she should have her own. Once they have their own friends, etc then I will probably seperate them again.

I don't think its a big deal though. I mean sure, it might suck sometimes having it so close to Christmas but I always make sure they get more than enough gifts for their birthday and Christmas so I don't think they'll ever feel deprived.

Brandi - Cute video of Miss A!
And I have no advice. I think your husband needs help, but I thought he was getting help before for anger management, etc? After the last big blow up?
Either way, I would definitely be reaching the end of my patience if I were you, there's only so much a person can take IMO.
I hope you figure something out!

 

[BlackBerry25]

My friend does combined parties with her 3 kids.

I am alternating parties and experiences. Helena can have a party one year, and we will do something fun the next year. Too expensive for parties, and the last few ones have mostly been spent just opening millions of gifts.

 

[BrandiCanucks]

I am at the end of my patience, Kate. I barely go near him anymore, don't like letting him touch me, and have considered sticking around long enough to go to school, and then file for divorce. If it's depression that's making him this way though, and more therapy than anger management, or even medication can help, then I don't want to jump the gun on it and take the kids out of their home, or end a marriage that could improve, you know?

 

[Tiff]

Yeah, I still spend the same amount of money regardless if I buy a bunch of little gifts for her birthday and Christmas or combining her gifts. My biggest thing is that she has a separate birthday party outside of Christmas festivities (like what Vickie was saying earlier). Its important to me that people acknowledge the day itself, not necessarily by giving her gifts.

Not sure if that made sense. I'm sick as a dog and have been drinking neo citran and it tends to make me a bit loopy.

Hope you get a good sleep tonight Kate!

:wave: Wendy


I AM SO EXCITED FOR HALLOWEEN TOMORROW!!! First time that P and I get to bring Claire out together and I can't wait!

 

[Tiff]

Sorry Brandi, forgot to add yours in there too.

Honestly? I dunno. Its a hard situation for sure. You definitely deserve better treatment for sure. I wouldn't advise staying with him just to have help with school though, that could make for some bitterness later on that would just be more problems than what its worth. Just my 2.5 cents.

 

[Vickie]

Happy Birthday Tasha

and Happy Halloween to everyone!

 

[BrandiCanucks]

So, I talked to him...

He admits to "being depressed for years", but claims he doesn't need help, that he'd rather just sit and listen to his music. He asked me why I'm "only concerned now", and I told him that I didn't recognize it before, and now that I see how little patience he has with the kids, and the things he says.

So, I asked him if he wanted to see someone, and he goes "What for?" and continued with the music thing.

So, I called the doctor and they're referring him to see a psychiatrist. I'll drag his ass there if I have to. Regardless of what has happened in the past, he has 3 kids he needs to think about. I WILL NOT allow them to see their dad wither away.

I just hope I'm doing the right thing and that he accepts the help he needs.

 

[readynwilling]

brandi. i know its hard, as my mom and dad tried to make it work for 6 or 7 years when i was a kid after it went bad, and honestly the last time my mom told me we were going back home, i made her promise me the next time we packed up and left would be the last (i was 11) and she kept her promise, we moved out for the last time when i was 12 and honestly it was best for everyone. Its your marriage, but really think long term. My family is so much more well adjusted when my parents finally split. yes it was hard in the beginning (they were married for 20 years when they finally separated) but its much better now.

Happy Halloween!!

Happy birthday Tasha

 

[ryder]

Brandi- tom is no perfect prize either.... but I do recall you telling us that your husband has hit you and said all kinds of other cruel and nasty things. It is hard to decide what to do... but physical and emotional abuse is no way to live. He should be getting his ass out to find a job.