child benifits UK girls....not good news

[polo_princess]

personally no i wouldnt uproute a whole family for a job you could be sacked from within 6months..the way things are going at the moment there are no jobs out there...my OH works i dont personally work ..but i want to go back to work..
but at this moment in time its not going to happen as i would not and will not leave my kids in a private nursery..with the things that go on in some nurserys these days...thats what puts people off going back to work early.

Sorry but that is one of the poorest excuses i have ever heard!!

You cant tarr all nurseries with the same brush just because of the disgusting actions of a very very select few.

Will you be sending your children to state school when they are 5? You get sicko's and perverts there too

 

[Hayley90]

I am genuinely intrigued where people get their attitude towards work from. Since when has working been a bad thing, something to shy away from? Since when has earning your own money been such a mental hurdle?

Its excuse after excuse after excuse...


Im proud of myself for working. I cannot imaging sitting at home every day, every month, every year, inventing new reasons not to work.

 

[miss_danielle]

so a couple of news reports..and my attitude im no been funny im not putting my kids in 1 ..just incase it does happen..it happened in birmingham the other week so tht doesnt put you off? the bloke was 20 and liked looking at the kids come on the only people having my kids other than me would be family

 

[AP]

but at this moment in time its not going to happen as i would not and will not leave my kids in a private nursery..with the things that go on in some nurserys these days...
thats what puts people off going back to work early.

Didn't I just mention that excuse earlier?

 

[v2007]

plus people on the dole carnt take anything that is avalible..1) to many people apply for the same job makes your chances harder
2)people with children need to get enuff to support a family network so its alot different than say a guy thats on the dole no family no kids ...yeh they should take anything its only them selfs they are looking after but to a person who needs to work and look after a family of 4 carnt take a part time job for £80 his family would not servive on that

Thats just not true.

So basically your saying as soon as anyone claims Jobseekers etc that no job is ever going to be the 'right' one...........

In reply to your 1st point, yeah hundreds of people may apply for the same but isn't is better to at least apply that and attempt to find a job???

 

[My_First]

Er actually, no it doesnt put me off. You can meet men and women who like looking at kids in ALL walks of life, and some within families. If that was the case, then you would not be going ANYwhere.

 

[Hayley90]

Ok, "just in case it does happen"

dont let them play in the park then, in case of perverts...but then your neighbour, sister, brother, uncle, aunt could be perverts. ANYONE could be. But most AREN'T.

dont let them play out in case they fall over... just in case.
dont let them eat spaghetti just in case they choke.
dont let them stroke dogs just in case they are allergic.

See how bad this excuse looks?? Its a petty argument to say "just in case" something happens, because chances are it wont!


Prime example of "work shy"

 

[polo_princess]

So you wont be sending your children to school then, "just incase"?

 

[miss_danielle]

I am genuinely intrigued where people get their attitude towards work from. Since when has working been a bad thing, something to shy away from? Since when has earning your own money been such a mental hurdle?

Its excuse after excuse after excuse...


Im proud of myself for working. I cannot imaging sitting at home every day, every month, every year, inventing new reasons not to work.

im not work shy ive worked and my Oh works for what we have ..and my issues i.e 10 months old son and pregnant stops me from working.. i have no problems going back to work i want to work..
and as for sending my sons to a state school ..yes they will be going to a school that i no all of the teachers who work their and those teachers have worked there for years and some or most are family friends so i wont have no trouble about sending them there

 

[v2007]

personally no i wouldnt uproute a whole family for a job you could be sacked from within 6months..the way things are going at the moment there are no jobs out there...my OH works i dont personally work ..but i want to go back to work..
but at this moment in time its not going to happen as i would not and will not leave my kids in a private nursery..with the things that go on in some nurserys these days...thats what puts people off going back to work early.

What a piss poor excuse.

So you have written off all nurseries??

 

[Hayley90]

Read my post above.
Holly and Jessica were killed by their school caretaker. Best not send them to school just in case.

Many kids have been abused by family or family friends.

You see issues where there are none, then you contradict yourself in every post!

If you want to work, then do it when you can - stop with the excuses, because they wont wash with the benefits people, or anyone else for that matter!

If childcare providers scare you so much, work nights or opposite shifts to your OH. Then he can look after your kids.

Or at least get your reasons straight, because you're starting to look silly!

 

[AP]

I am genuinely intrigued where people get their attitude towards work from. Since when has working been a bad thing, something to shy away from? Since when has earning your own money been such a mental hurdle?

Its excuse after excuse after excuse...


Im proud of myself for working. I cannot imaging sitting at home every day, every month, every year, inventing new reasons not to work.

im not work shy ive worked and my Oh works for what we have ..and my issues i.e 10 months old son and pregnant stops me from working.. i have no problems going back to work i want to work..
and as for sending my sons to a state school ..yes they will be going to a school that i no all of the teachers who work their and those teachers have worked there for years and some or most are family friends so i wont have no trouble about sending them there

But there just might be that one person, eh? That one person you don't know..... Or a new staff member that joins the school and passes their checks with flying colours...

 

[polo_princess]

statistically you are more likely to fall sexual prey to someone you know/a family friend/family member ..... so by sending them to a state school where all of the teachers are family friends and those youve known for years, then you are putting them at a greater risk if you apply the same principles that you believe about the nursery scenarios?

 

[My_First]

I am genuinely intrigued where people get their attitude towards work from. Since when has working been a bad thing, something to shy away from? Since when has earning your own money been such a mental hurdle?

Its excuse after excuse after excuse...


Im proud of myself for working. I cannot imaging sitting at home every day, every month, every year, inventing new reasons not to work.

yes they will be going to a school that i no all of the teachers who work their and those teachers have worked there for years and some or most are family friends so i wont have no trouble about sending them there

Thats not a reasoned argument. You cannot, by definition know every single teacher/visitor that will frequent that school. What if one leaves and another comes in? What about if ones sick and they get a supply teacher? What about new teachers, retiring? What if the school gets taken over by a new headteacher? Its just not a plausable situation.

 

[miss_danielle]

hang on a minute all you people are comenting on my opinion ..
so what if i dont want to send my son to a f*cking nursery..
do i tell you how to bring up your children? you send you children were you want to send them
my opinion i will no send them as i dont trust them

 

[v2007]

so a couple of news reports..and my attitude im no been funny im not putting my kids in 1 ..just incase it does happen..it happened in birmingham the other week so tht doesnt put you off? the bloke was 20 and liked looking at the kids come on the only people having my kids other than me would be family

I am speechless..........

 

[KaceysMummy]

Kaceys Mummy - money doesnt buy happiness but it gives you independance, the ability to provide for your family, a better quality of life, more treats, instills work ethic into your children....and they make me happy.




why is working seen as bad by so many? im stunned!

I don't see working as bad, no way! I've worked all my life and my husband provides for our family for just now until I go back to work.
Money doesn't buy you happiness. You could give your child everything in world but all they really need is love, its shouldn't matter about money or materialistic stuff...

All I meant was I wouldn't move away for a job, I'm too family orientated (still need my mummy sometimes haa)
But if it was best for my family I would have too but I'm not in the position that I'd have to move away for a job though. Only you know whats best for your child and family.

xx

 

[AP]

I can see the job centre interviews now...

Jobcentre: Why can't you work?

Mum: I can't because I don't want to put them in childcare. There might be a perv there. So I'll just take the benefits, thanks.

 

[Hayley90]

Your opinion is contradictory, your reasoning is unfounded and your attitude is awful.

have fun finding a job.

hang on a minute all you people are comenting on my opinion ..
so what if i dont want to send my son to a f*cking nursery..
do i tell you how to bring up your children? you send you children were you want to send them
my opinion i will no send them as i dont trust them

 

[Hayley90]

Kaceys Mummy - money doesnt buy happiness but it gives you independance, the ability to provide for your family, a better quality of life, more treats, instills work ethic into your children....and they make me happy.




why is working seen as bad by so many? im stunned!

I don't see working as bad, no way! I've worked all my life and my husband provides for our family for just now until I go back to work.
Money doesn't buy you happiness. You could give your child everything in world but all they really need is love, its shouldn't matter about money or materialistic stuff...

All I meant was I wouldn't move away for a job, I'm too family orientated (still need my mummy sometimes haa)
But if it was best for my family I would have too but I'm not in the position that I'd have to move away for a job though. Only you know whats best for your child and family.

xx

The last bit wasn't aimed at you in particular and i see your point, i just am willing to go the extra mile i guess. x