{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[NDH]

Looks pretty clear to me! Congrats!

 

[jlw617]

Looks like a bfp! Congrats!

Kylee- Tis the season lol! Sorry you're not feeling well but yes artlessly the worst of it should be home before Christmas and before O!

 

[jlw617]

Looks like a bfp! Congrats!

Kylee- Tis the season lol! Sorry you're not feeling well but yes artlessly the worst of it should be home before Christmas and before O!

Ok I don't even know artlessly was a word but apparently autocorrect does haha! I meant hopefully!

 

[Fleur828815]

Aww Kylee, hope you recover quickly. Yay on AF being over! Yeah the wait till ovulation seems so looooong (especially this month since I’m not ovulating lol).

Hannah, there’s definitely a line, congratulations! Wishing you a healthy pregnancy.

Natalie, did you test again?

Jamie, having the worst done with “artlessly” sounds nice Why would your autocorrect change hopefully to artlessly? Lol.

 

[tcinks]

Congrats Hannah!

okay ladies , I just was getting dressed and looking at myself in the mirror and found like 4 little hairs on my chin! actually, they aren't even that little. I don't know how I just now noticed! My hormones must be going crazy or something. Yuck yuck yuck.

otherwise, feeling pretty good today. Meeting up with a friend for coffee and maybe a little shopping. I still have bought a total of zero Christmas gifts!

 

[jlw617]

Congrats Hannah!

okay ladies , I just was getting dressed and looking at myself in the mirror and found like 4 little hairs on my chin! actually, they aren't even that little. I don't know how I just now noticed! My hormones must be going crazy or something. Yuck yuck yuck.

otherwise, feeling pretty good today. Meeting up with a friend for coffee and maybe a little shopping. I still have bought a total of zero Christmas gifts!

Haha yep-hormones are to blame, not sure how old you are but they become a regular thing the older you get! Lol-chin hair plucking has become a part of my daily regime

Fleur-I honestly have no idea, I type fast and probably hit some letters on accident and autocorrect thought I meant to say artlessly, which again, I've never heard that word in my life lol-I hate my phone sometimes especially since dh updated the software on it!

 

[hanrh]

Thank u ladies. I keep thinking maybe it's just hormones left from our loss? But that was over 6 weeks ago and I did see the hpt turn negative after?! I don't know!!
Natalie - any news on your bfp?

Terissa horomnes are so crazy! They do the weirdest things to us!! Glad u r feeling good today. How did your shopping go?

 

[NDH]

I'm worrying it might be a chemical line is fainter today than two days ago. However second one of the day was marginally darker than the first so idk. Maybe I should have gone for bloodwork. But I wouldn't want to hear their was a decrease so just as well

 

[hanrh]

Oh no Natalie. I'm so sorry to hear that. Tests can vary so much though and are dependent on so many factors it is difficult to completely trust the progression they show. I'm holding out hope for you still. Will you see your doc?

 

[KTJ006]

Hannah - congrats!!
Natalie - give it a few days then try testing again. Keeping my fingers crossed for you!

Terrissa - love the pic of you and hubby. You guys look too precious!! Hoping your day went well!

Kaylee - how are you feeling? If there's any pros to getting sick, at least it's before Christmas! Have DH make that smoothie you wanted

No news here. Still riding with AF. It has been very, very heavy. Yuck. We have also been dealing with a "bully" at my daughters preschool. Having a conference with the teacher tomorrow, but it's been going on for a while and affecting several kids. I didn't think this stuff happened until they were older

 

[coucou11]

Hannah - amazing!! So excited for you, please keep us updated

Natalie hoping that hpt gets darker and darker for you! It's so thrilling to start getting bfps here, gives me such hope for next cycle.

Kylee I'm so sorry you are sick, ugh. Definitely rest up this week and feel better for Christmas.

Kate I'm sorry about AF - how are you doing today? I'm sort of dreading my first one. I hope yours lightens up soon and then on to the next cycle. Also I can't believe that about the bully at your daughter's pre-school - what a nightmare. My daughter is in pre-school too and I already can feel the sort of clique-ish-ness and just exclusion tactics, and it's so sad. I hate thinking about what is to come, especially for our girls. Girls can be so mean

Fleur how are you feeling? I'm sorry you are down about this cycle being annovulatory - are you temping? I can't remember why you had that feeling. But I don't think it's uncommon right after a mc. You could always call your doc and check in. Hopefully AF will reset everything and get you back on track.

Jamie how are you today? When will you test again (assuming AF doesn't show)?

Terrissa - just pluck em and go! Haha. I have a few that show up on my chin from time to time, when I can feel one with my finger I obsess about it until I can get to some tweezers. I keep tweezers in my office just in case! Glad you are having a good day

Zay - where you at girl? Hope all is well!

I finished a big work project yesterday so I'm hoping to coast into the weekend. Then on Sunday we leave for Mexico! For a week! It will be with my parents, which is... what it is. But anyway they can watch our daughter and we can go out for drinks, tee hee. I'm really hoping to finally dtd with my hubby this week - I wanted to wait until I was sure I had ovulated just in case. But now I'm sort of ready to try it - a little apprehensive too, if I'm being totally honest. Otherwise, I'm waiting for AF maybe at the end of this week.

 

[kdmalk]

Sorry to be MIA today. I'll update tomorrow. Hope you are all having/had a good day.

 

[jlw617]

Sounds fun coucou! I hope you and your husband have a nice time! I'm sure Mexico will be nice too, take advantage of having your parents watch the little one!
I actually do plan on testing if AF doesn't show, probably next Monday or Tuesday if I can hold out.

 

[Fleur828815]

Terrissa, I’m pretty hairy so I’m used to facial hair unfortunately. Just pluck them if you think they’re really noticeable, otherwise let them be. I’m usually well organized but this year I haven’t started my Christmas shopping either. Did you manage to get some shopping done?

Hannah, if you got a negative HPT some time back there shouldn't be any doubt about your results

Natalie, how are you doing? Maybe you should wait a few days to test so the hCG level will be higher?

Katie, I also had a yucky, heavy AF after the D&C, hope yours will slow down soon. Your poor little girl, it starts so early. How did the conference with the teacher go?

Kaylee, are you feeling better?

Leigh, thanks for asking. I’ve never temped but I used OPKs for the first time, and they stayed negative right till when I stopped testing on CD22. This was my first “normal” AF after the D&C. My doctor did say that some women don’t ovulate straight after a miscarriage but I thought I’d ovulate after AF. Oh well, I really hope next month I will, otherwise I’ll go and see him again but he’ll just tell me to wait a few months.
Where are you going in Mexico? I was there last year, in the Yucatan. Enjoy your stay and make the most out of having your parents as babysitters!
Are you scared it will hurt when you DTD? I was terrified it would so the first time we tried after the D&C, I was freaking out and telling DH to slow down/be gentle and he replied “I’m not even doing anything to you yet”

Jamie, fingers crossed AF will stay away!

Hope everyone is doing well and getting in the festive mood.

 

[NDH]

Waiting until Sunday to test again if AF hasn't shown. Testing was doing my head in. I'm usually a one test and done girl, even if the line is still faint.

 

[kdmalk]

I had to actually get a pen and paper to write things down so I didn't forget anyone!

Fleur- Hope you ovulate next cycle! Funny story about dh!

Hannah- congrats! Any updates? Have you been able to see your doctor yet to confirm? Hoping you have a h&h 9 months!

Terrissa- The pic of you and dh is sooooo cute! Y'all are adorable! Don't worry about the chin hair... I am pretty sure that in good sunlight I have a mustache.

Jamie- happy to hear about your negative test! Also, I agree with Fleur... artlessly is the best word for that sentence. lol

Kate- I'm feeling alright! So sorry to hear about the bully. What a shame.

Leigh- Glad you are already celebrating and enjoying christmas with the family. Hope you have a great time in Mexico! DH and I are super jealous; we love it there!

Natalie- Can't wait to see your next test. Hope AF stays away!

AFM, DH brought almond milk home after work monday night, so I was able to have my beloved smoothie yesterday morning. I was running so late for our department head meeting today (which starts at 8:00 SHARP) that I had to eat at the meeting. Of course our pharmacist made these delicious lemon pecan almond cinnamon rolls that were to die for (but totally not good for you!). At least I got breakfast! I am feeling better. Honestly, I was feeling pretty sorry for myself the last few days but I will say that this is the mildest cold I have probably EVER had, so the complaining could have been less. lol. Also, you guys keep saying I am funny... but it is like the running joke in our family that I am the only one that isn't funny. Glad you guys seem to have my sense of humor!

In other news, my first student loan payment is due in January (ughhhhhh), so I had a nervous breakdown over money last night. DH regularly gets a monthly bonus, and as long as that continues we should be able to support a child... but god forbid something changes and he stops getting a bonus each month, we would probably starve and die. And our child would be naked. This has me super antsy, and in a shocking role reversal, dh says "we will make it work and everything will be fine. Let's go ahead and keep trying." I was panicking thinking we just needed to wait a few years until big stuff like cars are paid off and we have some more money each month, and here he is like, "let's go ahead and make a baby (uhh... *melt* okay.)" I am still feeling really anxious about this, and am kicking myself for not realizing the student loans were about to hit us when I got pregnant the first time... but I am sure it will be fine. Anyone else have to suddenly be on a strict budget when you had kids? We are so used to having spending money and eating out that things will be soooo different when we are paying for daycare and clothes and toys and books and baby stuff. How did you adjust when you had your first, for the girls that already have kids?

This brings me to my next rambling section, entitled: I want to open a daycare. Okay. So I worked at a daycare all through my undergraduate degree and really loved it. And I had these plans for my own daycare one day and what activities we would offer and how it would be set up, etc. I was like 20 and this was imaginary because no bank will loan me that kind of money at that age. What a mistake! so... fast forward... obviously I got involved in healthcare and went a different direction. Now that I have realized I am so passionate about public health, and I am at a point where I am having children and wanting someplace safe for them and wanting to be able to be with them.... WHY NOT?! I feel like I have the business education and foundation, and with my passion for public health, what better place to start than with children? I am hoping to research evidence-based curriculum and include ample free time and recess, feed the kids real, local, healthful foods, develop activities, and pay the teachers well enough that people who are passionate about teaching and changing lives can earn a living working there. It would end up being pretty pricey for parents, but the daycare I worked at was super high-end, and there wasn't a shortage of parents who were willing to pay for it. It was just 3 hours north of here. So I would really have to look into where I should put it and where my potential clients live (I live in a suburb of a larger city, so I need to decide if I want it here or in town, etc.) and how much I would need to charge for dh and I to still make enough to eat and live. But I want to make it as affordable as I can and still do all the things I want to do! I want all children to have the opportunity to eat well and learn... but I have to be reasonable and think about my expenses. And I could never run something like this out of my home because it is muuuuuch too small for a daycare. As far as financing my imaginary business, my grandfather hoards money (lol) and nobody knows how much he has, but it is waaaaay up there. He trusts me and is very proud of what I have done thus far in life, and I am secretly thinking that if I am able to pull together a very serious proposal with construction costs, operating costs, anticipated revenue for the first few years, etc.... I might be able to convince him to give me a loan to build it. Or convince him to build it himself and let me run it. I could work the morning shift, have weekends and holidays off, my kids would go there for free since I own the place, and I would be able to see them and be with them all day... so many benefits to this idea. But this is all resting on the imaginary belief that he would loan me the ridiculous amount of money... so if he won't, this whole idea is crap... but oh well. What do you guys think? Have I just panicked myself into a crazy idea while worrying about money? Am I thinking clearly? Is this even possible?

I am done rambling now. lol. Hope everyone has had a nice day!

 

[tcinks]

Kylee, so glad your husband is being so supportive! And the day care idea sounds so exciting. I've thought about that as well, but probably won't ever go through with it. What does DH think?

I've been feeling pretty blahhh today. Just sitting on the couch watching tv. I'm really not liking how these antibiotics make me feel...I'm tempted to stop taking them. There was no infection found, just given as a precaution. They just make me feel tired all the time! I can't remember if I said or not, we have an appointment with a specialist next week. I've just been getting so many different opinions, my midwife thought I should go see someone who deals with these problems on a more regular basis. Dh and I are excited to hopefully get some more solid answers. We really trust my midwife (my husband grew up with her daughter) and she really trusts this perinatologist so I hope it goes well!

 

[KTJ006]

I had to actually get a pen and paper to write things down so I didn't forget anyone!

Fleur- Hope you ovulate next cycle! Funny story about dh!

Hannah- congrats! Any updates? Have you been able to see your doctor yet to confirm? Hoping you have a h&h 9 months!

Terrissa- The pic of you and dh is sooooo cute! Y'all are adorable! Don't worry about the chin hair... I am pretty sure that in good sunlight I have a mustache.

Jamie- happy to hear about your negative test! Also, I agree with Fleur... artlessly is the best word for that sentence. lol

Kate- I'm feeling alright! So sorry to hear about the bully. What a shame.

Leigh- Glad you are already celebrating and enjoying christmas with the family. Hope you have a great time in Mexico! DH and I are super jealous; we love it there!

Natalie- Can't wait to see your next test. Hope AF stays away!

AFM, DH brought almond milk home after work monday night, so I was able to have my beloved smoothie yesterday morning. I was running so late for our department head meeting today (which starts at 8:00 SHARP) that I had to eat at the meeting. Of course our pharmacist made these delicious lemon pecan almond cinnamon rolls that were to die for (but totally not good for you!). At least I got breakfast! I am feeling better. Honestly, I was feeling pretty sorry for myself the last few days but I will say that this is the mildest cold I have probably EVER had, so the complaining could have been less. lol. Also, you guys keep saying I am funny... but it is like the running joke in our family that I am the only one that isn't funny. Glad you guys seem to have my sense of humor!

In other news, my first student loan payment is due in January (ughhhhhh), so I had a nervous breakdown over money last night. DH regularly gets a monthly bonus, and as long as that continues we should be able to support a child... but god forbid something changes and he stops getting a bonus each month, we would probably starve and die. And our child would be naked. This has me super antsy, and in a shocking role reversal, dh says "we will make it work and everything will be fine. Let's go ahead and keep trying." I was panicking thinking we just needed to wait a few years until big stuff like cars are paid off and we have some more money each month, and here he is like, "let's go ahead and make a baby (uhh... *melt* okay.)" I am still feeling really anxious about this, and am kicking myself for not realizing the student loans were about to hit us when I got pregnant the first time... but I am sure it will be fine. Anyone else have to suddenly be on a strict budget when you had kids? We are so used to having spending money and eating out that things will be soooo different when we are paying for daycare and clothes and toys and books and baby stuff. How did you adjust when you had your first, for the girls that already have kids?

This brings me to my next rambling section, entitled: I want to open a daycare. Okay. So I worked at a daycare all through my undergraduate degree and really loved it. And I had these plans for my own daycare one day and what activities we would offer and how it would be set up, etc. I was like 20 and this was imaginary because no bank will loan me that kind of money at that age. What a mistake! so... fast forward... obviously I got involved in healthcare and went a different direction. Now that I have realized I am so passionate about public health, and I am at a point where I am having children and wanting someplace safe for them and wanting to be able to be with them.... WHY NOT?! I feel like I have the business education and foundation, and with my passion for public health, what better place to start than with children? I am hoping to research evidence-based curriculum and include ample free time and recess, feed the kids real, local, healthful foods, develop activities, and pay the teachers well enough that people who are passionate about teaching and changing lives can earn a living working there. It would end up being pretty pricey for parents, but the daycare I worked at was super high-end, and there wasn't a shortage of parents who were willing to pay for it. It was just 3 hours north of here. So I would really have to look into where I should put it and where my potential clients live (I live in a suburb of a larger city, so I need to decide if I want it here or in town, etc.) and how much I would need to charge for dh and I to still make enough to eat and live. But I want to make it as affordable as I can and still do all the things I want to do! I want all children to have the opportunity to eat well and learn... but I have to be reasonable and think about my expenses. And I could never run something like this out of my home because it is muuuuuch too small for a daycare. As far as financing my imaginary business, my grandfather hoards money (lol) and nobody knows how much he has, but it is waaaaay up there. He trusts me and is very proud of what I have done thus far in life, and I am secretly thinking that if I am able to pull together a very serious proposal with construction costs, operating costs, anticipated revenue for the first few years, etc.... I might be able to convince him to give me a loan to build it. Or convince him to build it himself and let me run it. I could work the morning shift, have weekends and holidays off, my kids would go there for free since I own the place, and I would be able to see them and be with them all day... so many benefits to this idea. But this is all resting on the imaginary belief that he would loan me the ridiculous amount of money... so if he won't, this whole idea is crap... but oh well. What do you guys think? Have I just panicked myself into a crazy idea while worrying about money? Am I thinking clearly? Is this even possible?

I am done rambling now. lol. Hope everyone has had a nice day!

LOVE the daycare dream. You could totally make it happen. There are so many crummy daycares out there that something like you proposed would be right up my alley. That was part of the reason why I stayed home, was nothing met up to our expectations. We were lucky that we had a close friend and family watch our kids while I worked, but we knew that wouldn't be able to go on forever if I continued working.

Also about the finances - you will never be financially ready for a kid. EVER. Like seriously. There is never a "perfect" time for a kid. So just do it. I promise you guys will make it work

 

[KTJ006]

Oh, and we cut finances big time. Keep track of what you spend on everything for a few months. I broke our finances up into categories (Food, Gas, Monthly Bills, Unnecessary Spending, etc) so that I could see where the biggest chunk was coming from, and then we cut from there

 

[KTJ006]

I really need to go run right now but I haven't looked at everyone's post yet...oooooh I need motivation