{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[KTJ006]

Jamie: Right now, I run on the treadmill. My DH's schedule is crazy and I don't get a chance to sneak away from the kids for an actual run. It's better than nothing!

Fleur: I was reading what you wrote above, and to be honest, the only thing I got out of it was that you slept until 9am. I AM SO JEALOUS!! I don't know when the last time I slept until 9am. Even if I could, I don't think my body would let me. I am up at 5:30 or 6 like clockwork. Ha.

 

[tcinks]

Hey ladies, hope everyone had a relaxing weekend.

Kylie, still thinking of you and hope you and hubby both have peace about how to move forward from here.

Fleur, I can never remember to temp! If I'm not pregnant this cycle I really want to try it for the next one, but I think I'd have the same problem as you!

Katie, I'm so jealous of your devotion to exercise! I'm struggling to get back into it. But now that I'm back in classes I can workout on campus, so hopefully that will give me more motivation.

I've been so obsessed with testing, I actually took three today! Ugh. I'll probably test every day until I either get my bfp or af shows! I've been having some slight cramping still, which I typically get before af, but then I'm also having some gassy/bloated feeling which I remember having before my last BFP. So I have no idea what's going on. I will be 10dpo tomorrow, and that's when I got a positive before...So hoping it happens again. This is just such an emotional ride...

 

[Fleur828815]

Jamie and Natalie, thanks, that’s reassuring. I guess I’m still within the norm then. It’s fascinating to learn so much about our bodies’ inner workings, if only it wasn’t because we were TTC after a loss though!

Katie, I can do a 1-hour class of Zumba but 5 minutes’ run and I’m ready to collapse!
I used to be a BIG sleeper, could easily sleep 12 hours a night but since I’ve grown older/started working I can’t sleep past 9 on the weekends, that is pretty early for me. One of the perks of not having a child yet, I am not looking forward to the 5 a.m wake-ups.

Terrissa, everyone seems to find temping quite easy, I suppose it takes a bit of practice (and discipline!). DH woke up at 5.45 a.m to pee, so I checked my temp then but I’ve forbidden him from peeing again during the night
Wow, 3 tests in one day! I hate that pre-menstrual and pregnancy symptoms can be pretty much the same. I hope you’ll get your BFP again when you test tomorrow! Although 10DPO is still quite early sometimes.

Any news from the other ladies?

 

[coucou11]

Hi all!

Hope you all had nice weekends, sorry I went MIA. We were at Disneyland for my daughters birthday on Friday, and then I managed to finally succumb to the cold that has been hanging around my house for the past few weeks. UGH! And of course I don't want to take any anti-histamines because I don't want to dry up my cervical mucus. Any natural, ttc-safe recommendations for fighting a head cold would be much appreciated!

Kate - Vitex is an herb that is supposed to naturally help the body regulate progesterone and cycles. It supposedly stimulates the body's natural production of progesterone. I only took it for a few months, but of course I got my bfp after starting it. But the issue is some people recommend that you don't take it while pregnant. Then of course, others say that if you stop during hte first trimester, your progesterone could drop and you could lose the baby. So I kept taking mine until my 7 week appt, then weaned off. Now of course, I didn't have a natural miscarriage right away, so there is probably no connection, but that is right around when the baby died. So I just don't know...
But that is so cool about your procedure, I can't believe she could see your follicles and everything! How interesting. I'm so so glad that everything is going ok and I really hope that this does make you more fertile the next few months!! Maybe I should ask for one of those too.
Also I agree, I still can't handle seeing pregnant people around. But of course am rooting for all of you guys big time!!

Jamie that info on reducing carbs is huge, what a difference it seems to make! I am trying but I think I have difficulty where carbs are hidden in things (like bananas, right?). It's all those weird things that people doing the paleo diet can't eat. I can avoid bread but probably the hidden carbs with get me. Good luck with the licensing! I agree waiting for O is so annoying, almost worst than the TWW! I will lkely O around Feb 1 so we will be TWW buddies

Fleur - temping definitely takes practice. I get up at the same time every day so it makes it easier. You could set an alarm and take it then and just go back to sleep. It's ok if you get up once in the night, way before (they say if you have been down for 3 hours that should be fine). But I even take mine sometimes one hour after getting up to pee- you will learn how much that stuff affects your bbt over time. Stick with it! Also 96.9 is not low - that used to be about my coverline before the mc.

Natalie how are you doing?

Terrissa all my fingers and toes are crossed for you!! I really hope this is your bfp too, after you have been through so much!

Kylee, thinking of you and hoping you are feeling ok.

 

[kdmalk]

Y'all, I swear I am still alive. Update to come this week, I just have like the busiest week ever. Also.... *drum roll* back on the healthy train. Choo choo!

 

[jlw617]

Yay Kylee! Glad to hear from you and looking forward to the update!

 

[tcinks]

Thanks for checking in Kylee! Looking forward to the update as well.

Afm, still no idea what's going on. The weirdest thing is the bloated feeling in my pelvic area...it's like my uterus is swelling or something. I don't know how else to explain it, the only other time I felt this was when I was pregnant, but much further along than I would be now. Maybe it's just my body trying to get back to normal still. I'm still having some cramping like typical before af. I just wish there were clear pregnancy and clear af symptoms so I wouldn't keep getting my hopes up! I'm only 10dpo so I know it's still a little early, but so far just Ugh. I just wish if af was coming she'd just show up already so I could get started on the next cycle. But really I just want that ! In other news, classes are going well so far, glad to have something to work towards and to distract me so I'm not obsessing 24/7.

Oh Katie I wanted to ask you more about that procedure you had where they filled your uterus with water to look at everything. My doctor suggested it might be helpful, but I haven't done it yet. If I'm not pregnant now, I'll try to get in to have it done in the next could of weeks.

How's everyone's Monday been?

 

[KTJ006]

Ask away Terrissa! Like I said, it wasn't painful for me and I'm glad I had it done. If anything it put my mind at ease (and was so cool to see everything!). I forget, did you find a new doc or decide to stick with your current one?

Good to hear from you Kylee! And yay for getting on the health wagon!

 

[tcinks]

I think I will stick with the original one I saw post mc, unless something comes up. Did they say there was a waiting period before you should start trying again? How uncomfortable was it...was it like a vaginal ultrasound? Just wondering what to expect.

 

[Fleur828815]

Leigh, happy birthday to your daughter! How old is she? She must have had a blast at Disneyland. Natural remedies I’ve heard of : herbal teas (ginger, lemon, honey), menthol, inhaling steam. I hope you feel better soon.

Kylee, good to hear from you! Hope you’re holding up.

Terrissa, it’s hard not to obsess especially when you have pregnancy-like symptoms. Still got my fingers crossed for you. Glad you’re enjoying your classes. Will you be having exams and reports etc. to hand in?

It’s only been a few days but temping is already becoming automatic. Just have to do it at more or less the same time every day now! Took my DH’s temp this morning for a laugh, his was only slightly higher than mine so mine are not that low then. I really hope I’ll see clear patterns from temping.

Hope you're not being affected by the blizzards!

 

[tcinks]

So I was (am) having pretty good day. Class went well and I understood all the assignments. I went to the gym and got in a pretty good workout (well pretty good for a beginner like me and it counts for credit so that keeps me a little more motivated). I felt really awesome leaving, and had lots of plans for the rest of the day...until I was leaving campus and realized I didn't have my keys! Walked out to my car and there they are, still in the ignition. So the rest of my day is pretty much shot. Waiting for dh to get off work so he can go home to get my spare key and bring it to me. It's been about 3 hours...got all my math assignments finished for next week, and now don't really know what to do! Hopefully he'll be off soon. Still, I'm sure I'll be here until about 7pm. (I initially tried to leave at 2). Oh well, could always be worse.

How is everyone else doing today?! Most of you have been so quiet lately. Kylee, where is that update you promised?

 

[KTJ006]

Oh no, Terrissa! That's awful! I have locked myself out of my house and car multiple times. Be careful, because it only gets worse once you have kids. Mom brain totally exists. Was your car running the whole time (hopefully not)?

As far as the test goes, I think the pain level really depends on whether or not your uterus is used to having "things" in it. I've heard from some people the pain is unbearable, but others have said it wasn't anything big. I've had 4 pregnancies and went full term with 2 of them, so my uterus had lots of time to grow, which I think is why I had no pain at all. I was able to start DTD 24-48 hours after the procedure. If you're nervous about the pain, I would say it's SO worth it either way! It gives you peace of mind plus it "cleans" out your tubes and uterus, thus making you more fertile for a few months. Even if I knew I was going to be in pain, I would definitely do it again.

About that snow...I am VERY jealous of the north east! We have yet to see any snow down here and I'm such a snow bunny (I'm originally from CT).

Nothing new to report here...put the dog on the treadmill today and he loved it. Started him off at a mile; will increase it tomorrow I am STARVING right now, but about to go to bed so I'm not sure what to eat. I would really like some warm brownies with ice cream on top...thankfully we don't have any otherwise I would eat them all!! Hope you ladies have a great night!

 

[Fleur828815]

Oh gosh Terrissa, how long did you have to wait in the end? At least you got all your assignments done if you want to look on the bright side. Good on you for also getting a workout in.
Since you're taking maths, do you know how probabilities work by any chance? Had this discussion with DH this morning and couldn't agree. If every month you have a 15% chance of falling pregnant, in 6 months what is the probability you'll have a BFP? DH says it's 15% but I'm sure it doesn't work like that!

Katie, a dog on a treadmill, so funny! Where I lived in France there was a dog who used to skateboard, he was a star.

Work has been really busy this week, been finishing at midnight some days and haven't been able to go to the gym since Saturday. Am hoping to get back on track soon.

 

[zaycain]

Hi ladies,

Sorry I've been MIA. I'm catching up. I need to get on the healthy train/workout mode like you ladies. I can't seem to get motivated.

I have been so busy and so unbelievably stressed. Clients have been pains in the ass and I lost it on one of them. It's a long story.. but I am fed up with them and they are a mess. I'm in limbo right now because I'm waiting for them to tell me if I am fired or not. If I'm not, then I quit. Problem is.. they are one of my biggest clients and I would be financially struggling for a little bit.

That's just the tip of the iceberg. I've had some serious stress with friends and other side projects. It's times like these I wish I drank.

On top of all of that.. I'm out again for February. What happened to "It's easy to get pregnant after a miscarriage?" What a load of crap!

Sorry.. bad week.

Hope you ladies are doing better than me. WHAA!

 

[tcinks]

Sorry zaycain. That's a lot to be dealing with.

 

[Fleur828815]

zaycain, sorry to hear you've got so much on your plate at the moment. I hope you'll manage to sort it all out and are able to relax soon.
I've said it before but my body also missed the "more fertile after miscarriage" memo.. I wonder if it's actually true!
Lots of hugs to you.

 

[tcinks]

Well , 12dpo and I'm calling it. No AF yet, not even spotting (which I usually get about now) . But BFN with frer, not even a hint of a line. I can't handle any more testing and getting my hopes up...just ready for a new cycle! Hopefully we'll be able to dtd more this time. Maybe I'll try some supplements. Any of you take vitex? Or anything else that might help?

 

[KTJ006]

Oh zay....sorry it's been stressful for you Hopefully things only go up from here!! Go grab some ice cream and veg out in front of the TV for a while...that always cheers me up Hugs to you!

 

[coucou11]

So sorry Zay! What a bummer. What line of work are you in? I know you said you work for yourself. that has got to be so stressful. Clients are so demanding and most of the time think they are you only, number one priority. Ugh. And sorry about the witch, I agree about this "more fertile after miscarriage thing" being a load of cr*p!

Terrissa sorry about your long day! Yikes! But good job making the best of it. And so sorry about the BFNs Don't want to get any hopes up but with my first pregnancy I didn't get a BFP until 18DPO. So who knows! I took Vitex with my last BFP. Who knows if it helped, they say it takes several months to build up in your system. But then, I did get a BFP. But then, I also had a miscarriage and it looks like the baby passed right when I weaned off the Vitex. So.... I'm really torn about it. If I don't get a BFP this cycle and my LP is still short I might start it again / call my doc about progesterone cream.

Fleur good luck with work!!

Kate I agree I am a bit jealous of the ortheast, my parents are in Boston and it's fun to see the pictures. Makes me a little sad that my daughter will miss out on one of the most fun memories of childhood - snow days!! But oh well.

AFM, 12DPO. I am starting to maybe have some EWCM, just a little though. Temps seem more normal this month. BUT, SMEP was a total bust because we have both been sick. We are planning on starting tonight so I hope I'm in time (O is usually CD16 so I should be fine but you never know).

Have a great day!

 

[zaycain]

Thanks ladies. I'm taking tomorrow off with DH. I just need a break. We both own our own businesses. I have a marketing/design company. DH is in music. We both love what we do but it's always stressful!

AF is supposed to arrive tomorrow. I am pretty crampy. I just want to get it over with!

Cou-good luck on BDing! Sheesh.. Hoping some good news from this group!

Terrissa - I know what you mean. AF is supposed to start tomorrow and I keep getting BFNs.

Question for you ladies.. Do you drink? Have you been drinking while TTC.