{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[coucou11]

Kylee I'm so so sorry. Thinking of you and hoping you can relax this weekend. You will get through this, and we will all go on to have beautiful babies.

Kate - I totally understand, take all the time you need. I hope the doctor has some good results for you and you get things sorted out. Please do let us know how things are going from time to time.

Zay - I hope you got your BD in!

Jamie - hope you are not out yet! Good luck!

AFM - witch got me this mooring. I really thought this might have been our month. Sigh. On to the next one I guess.

 

[NDH]

Oh Kylee big I have no words but to say it isn't fair

Leigh I'm sorry or the witch. Jamie I hop AF doesn't show and its just too early for you. Katie good luck with the hsg.

 

[jlw617]

Natalie-thanks but I think AF has started I got some pink cm today when i wiped and that is usually how AF starts for me so I'm sure she will be here tomorrow in all her glory lol

Kylee-I'm sorry for all you're going through and I certainly don't want to give you any false hope but I did want to share with you what happened to my good friend when she had her first child, she went to a dr appointment where they basically told Her she was definitely going to miscarry, she went home slathered in the progesterone put her feet up (kept her hips elevated at all times) for seriously 2-3 days other then when she absolutely had to get up like to go to the bathroom and such... Needless to say it worked and her daughter is now a mother herself!

 

[Fleur828815]

Kylee, I’m so so sorry you’re going through this, my heart broke for you reading your post. What a nightmare, life is so unfair… I really pray your baby will hold on and be a miracle survivor, but whatever happens, please don’t blame yourself. It isn’t anything you could have done or not. I know you said DH is working all weekend but I hope you’re taking good care of yourself. If it’s not too intrusive, may I ask how you’re taking the progesterone pills? I took them for a bit last time and my pharmacist friend told me they are more efficient if inserted vaginally.

Leigh, thanks for the info about cervix checking. Sorry the witch got you.

Katie, I understand the need for a break, I hope it does you good and that you’ll keep in touch. Good luck for your HSG.

zaycain, no idea about the rash, could it be linked to the yeast infection you had? Did you still manage to BD?

Jamie, any updates? A gender reveal party when you’re with family in Idaho sounds lovely.

AFM : I'm feeling exactly the same as last month so definitely no BFP this month. I was so hoping to be pregnant before my birthday (next month), now I'm hoping I'll be pregnant before my due date (in 4 months). My body doesn't seem to have got the memo about being more fertile after a miscarriage.

Lots of hugs to you ladies, I hope we’ll all be getting good news soon.

 

[tcinks]

I think Katie Haas the right idea, I may need a break, too. But then again, I know I wouldn't be able to stay away from you ladies too long. I'm just so sure this two week wait is going to drive me crazy! I'm 2dpo and already wanting to test! Haha. I *really* an trying to wait until February 1st to test, but I don't know if I'll make it that long. I have about 15 cheapie tests her, so I would not feel bad about compulsively testing. But hopefully with class starting this week I'll be kept distracted. And hopefully I hear back about a job...I've applied to so many places!

Kylee, I will continue to pray for you.

Sorry Leigh and Katie about AF . :/

Fleur you may still get it! You never know

Hope you all have a great start to your week!

 

[zaycain]

Kylee - HUG HUG HUG!! I am so sorry. So unfair.

Fleur - I know EXACTLY what you mean. I thought it'd be easy to get pregnant again.. I'm starting to lose a little hope on that front.

My rash - It's better, but it was super annoying. DH didn't care haha.. he'll take what he can get.

So I am officially in the TWW. I'm so confused about OPKs.

I think I had a few positive ones for a few days. We Bd'd those nights except for the last one, because of my rash. Then I took another OPK and the line was complete gone. We ended up BDing that night just for insurance.

From what I understand.. the positive OPK meats you're in the process of ovulating? Does a negative one mean that the egg could be floating around in there somewhere? Haha.. I have no idea.

I can feel a lot of stuff going on in my uterus area.. but I have no idea what it is. I felt it last time too. Clearly doesn't mean that there will be a BFP.

Hugs to all of you!!

 

[Fleur828815]

Terrissa, I also feel like taking a break sometimes but these boards have been such a help, I hope I can be as supportive for you ladies. Besides, who else will listen to me moaning about TTC? I HATE the 2WW! Totally get you on the urge to test but 2dpo is rather early, wait at least a week if you can! Hopefully school will keep you too busy. This month I got 10 pregnancy tests free with my BBT thermometer order, and I’m so tempted to test (although I can feel my usual PMS symptoms, so I won’t waste the tests).

zaycain, good luck for the 2WW, you BD on the right dates so I hope you caught the egg! I used OPKs for the first time this month but if I’ve understood correctly, a positive OPK means you’re gearing up to ovulate in the next 12-36 hours. You can catch the LH surge on the way up and down (hence the positives on several days). You’re supposed to stop testing once you get a positive OPK but I suppose you would get a negative OPK even though you’re in the process of ovulating? I’m sure someone more knowledgeable will be along to clear things up. My DH wouldn’t care about a rash either as long as he didn’t hurt me while BDing! I’m also starting to lose hope although I know it hasn’t been that long, but having a baby is all that I can think of. The first time I was really lucky to get a BFP in the 2nd month of TTC. When I miscarried, reading success stories of women falling pregnant straight after their miscarriage gave me faith, but tomorrow will be 3 months since my D&C and I didn’t even ovulate for at least 1 month after that.

Kylee, how are you feeling? Are you working this week?

 

[coucou11]

Hello everyone - hope everyone's weekend is going well! It's a long one for us so although I'll have to do some work today, we are also just doing some more relaxing at home which is nice.

Kylee I hope you are doing ok!!

Jamie did the witch arrive? I'm sorry if so

Terrissa, Fleur and Zay - I know the TWW is torture! Every day seems like an eternity. Good luck!! Zay I agree with Fleur on the opk stuff - it is supposed to mean you are about to ovulate (but mine always goes positive the day FF pin ovulation, so that's weird).

I am definitely starting to read adjust expectations after the MC. I really did think it would be easy to get pregnant again and now I'm not so sure. So now my goal is just to really try to be pregnant before my due date (early June). I think that is more realistic. I'm hoping if we can just focus on it for the next 5 or so month then we can make it happen. It's just so hard to know what is happening with my body - everything feels normal, but what is happening inside?? Ugh. So anyway, I share all your frustrations.

Despite that and despite AF it has been a nice weekend. I'm really trying to look at the positives - my periods have been heavy / regular, so I probably don't have Asherman's syndrome (yay!). In two weeks we will have another shot at conceiving (yay!). I get to have some wine this weekend (yay!). So that has actually been helpful for my outlook.

Hugs to all and baby dust to those in the TWW!

 

[jlw617]

Well AF is definitely here after 2 days of pre AF stuff, yuck- I hate that AF is like that for me now(as in the last couple years) oh well, I was bummed but not as much as I thought, I really feel like I most likely had an annovulatory cycle (since I never got a positive OPK which has never happened to me) though with all that said, it actually makes me feel a little better because I think things will probably be normal this cycle and we just tested dh swimmers snd they look great which for us is huge since he is so close to the year mark from his vasectomy reversal when scarring is most likely to take place (if it's going to happen) so we wil see, if everything Gos as planned, I should be able to start testing around Valentines day!

Zay-fleur is correct, once you get a positive, it means you're getting ready to O!

Fleur-sorry you're ferling like AF is probably coming I think even though I was hoping to get a bfp, I pretty much knew AF was coming, I will tell you that I think getting a bfp right away is still something that I'd consider quite common but I really think there are certain factors that increase those odds... I got pregnant within my first cycle after mc with my 1st daughter but that was almost 10 years ago, I think age and certain predispositions have a lot to do with it, I know 32/33 is not "old" but fertility wise it's on the latter end...

Couucou-I like you're positive attitude! I have surprised myself by my ability to remain positive for the majority of all this but I owe that to my faith in God. I too am hoping to atleast be pregnabt by my original estimate due date which was early July, but I'm really praying feb will be my month.

 

[kdmalk]

Ugh.

Uuuuuggghhhhhhh.

Started bleeding lightly this morning and the cramps have come full force this afternoon. And I am at work. I am basically just laying on my desk. I don't know exactly what to do. I have a super busy week and tons of meetings tomorrow, so I need to be here. And I don't just want to take off right now with no explanation. But I also don't feel like explaining. All I know is that it hurts.

I am ready to roll over and die. I don't want to do this again. Sigh.

 

[KTJ006]

Came on to see how you were doing Kylee. Was thinking of you all weekend. Work is just work. Someone once told me that if I died today, the company would still go on; they would figure it out. It just made me think more that I needed to take care of myself. You need to do the same. There's only one you. If you need a day to get through things, take it. Don't worry about meetings, or work you have to do or what someone might think. Take care of yourself! I am soooo sorry you're going through this. I'm still crossing my fingers for you. This whole thing just isn't fair and just sucks. Sucks, sucks, sucks.

 

[KTJ006]

Hope everyone else is doing ok...

 

[NDH]

Kylee. I am so very sorry you are going though this again

 

[jlw617]

I'm so sorry Kylee I'm praying for you.

 

[coucou11]

Oh Kylee I'm so so sorry - thinking of you in this difficult time.

 

[Fleur828815]

Kylee, I am so very sorry that you are having to go through this again. Work should not be your priority at the moment, you need to focus on yourself at the moment. How are you today? I hope you will heal quickly and get a sticky BFP with your take-home baby very soon

Leigh, I’m also praying that I’ll be pregnant by my due date now, although that leaves only 3 cycles of trying, ugh. I’m glad you’re trying to stay positive, I should really do the same.

Jamie, I’ve read that most women have 1 or 2 anovulatory cycles per year without realizing it, so hopefully you’re done with that now and can crack on with TTC. You’re right about age lowering our odds. Although I don’t feel old, I’m regretting not starting at least 1 year earlier (I’ll be 33 next month, still trying for my first baby).

 

[zaycain]

Kylee.. I hope you're doing ok.. thinking about you! xoxo

 

[zaycain]

I had a dream that I was going to get a sperm donor to get pregnant, but I was going to tell DH after I was inseminated. Before I went to the 'sperm store' I took a HPT and got a BFP that my dad brought to me. I tested positive for pregnancy, twins and all sorts of other things. (It looked like an NYC subway map). Then I was relieved and I could go tell DH that I didn't have to go to a sperm donor now.

I mean. Really.

I'm in the 2ww and I am not hopeful about this one. Boobs are tender.. but who knows what the hell my body is doing!

Sending love everyone's way.

 

[jlw617]

Kylee, I am so very sorry that you are having to go through this again. Work should not be your priority at the moment, you need to focus on yourself at the moment. How are you today? I hope you will heal quickly and get a sticky BFP with your take-home baby very soon

Leigh, I’m also praying that I’ll be pregnant by my due date now, although that leaves only 3 cycles of trying, ugh. I’m glad you’re trying to stay positive, I should really do the same.

Jamie, I’ve read that most women have 1 or 2 anovulatory cycles per year without realizing it, so hopefully you’re done with that now and can crack on with TTC. You’re right about age lowering our odds. Although I don’t feel old, I’m regretting not starting at least 1 year earlier (I’ll be 33 next month, still trying for my first baby).

I sure hope I'm done with it but I guess we will see and I feel the same way you do about age I will also be 33 this year and don't feel old but I know that doctors look at anyone over 30 as a little "older" for having a baby and even I looked at women in their 30s having children as "older" when I was in my 20s LOL it's funny how our perception of age changes

 

[coucou11]

Fleur I try to stay positive - some days it works better than other! Time tends to drag at work so that makes it harder. I live for the weekends.

Zay what DPO are you? I'm so hopeful for you!!

Jamie - I feel the same way. I just turned 34!! I know it wasn't the right time for me earlier in life but sometimes I do wish I didn't wait so long. It seems like it's now or never. But then again, my doctor just laughed and told me she has too many 40 year olds having babies in her practice to count, so that made me feel better.

Kate, glad to see you, even if it's just briefly. Sending good vibes your way.

Kylee, thinking of you, I hope you are able to rest and not work too much this week. Big hugs.

Nothing new here, CD4 and AF is tapering off. O not expected until next weekend so I'll just be twiddling my thumbs until about mid week next week. Might try SMEP this cycle. The problem with me is that my OPK always seems to go positive on the day I ovulate, so by then I better have already been getting busy or else I could have missed my window.