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{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!
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Yes, I think either way it's a win!
I'm okay. Hormones are going crazy. One moment I'm happy and carefree, the next I'm lying on the floor bawling my eyes out.
I guess it's to be expected, it's only been 5 days since I lost Selah. Dh has been home with me the whole time, but he goes back to work tomorrow. It's good, because we have to get back to life sometime...but I know it'll be hard to be here by myself. So I'm trying to find things to keep me busy....books, movies,etc. And I've been looking at places maybe to volunteer. I contacted the hospital where I had Selah and I hope to volunteer there on the bereavement team so I can encourage other women going through what I went through.
All I can think about is getting pregnant again. The doctor says I should wait 4 months, but there is no way I'm waiting that long without some medical reason. "Because you're young and have plenty of time, no need to rush" is not a valid reason in my eyes. Physically, I already feel soooo much better than after my first loss. I'm hoping and praying this recovery is quick. I'm still taking my prenatals and lots of raspberry leaf to help my body bounce back. I am looking for a new doctor this time around, I actually need to call today to get an appointment set up because it can take weeks or sometimes months to get set up with a new doctor. Hopefully I'll get in sooner though.
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And yes, Kylee and Fleur how are you doing?!
I'm okay. Hormones are going crazy. One moment I'm happy and carefree, the next I'm lying on the floor bawling my eyes out.
I guess it's to be expected, it's only been 5 days since I lost Selah. Dh has been home with me the whole time, but he goes back to work tomorrow. It's good, because we have to get back to life sometime...but I know it'll be hard to be here by myself. So I'm trying to find things to keep me busy....books, movies,etc. And I've been looking at places maybe to volunteer. I contacted the hospital where I had Selah and I hope to volunteer there on the bereavement team so I can encourage other women going through what I went through.All I can think about is getting pregnant again. The doctor says I should wait 4 months, but there is no way I'm waiting that long without some medical reason. "Because you're young and have plenty of time, no need to rush" is not a valid reason in my eyes. Physically, I already feel soooo much better than after my first loss. I'm hoping and praying this recovery is quick. I'm still taking my prenatals and lots of raspberry leaf to help my body bounce back. I am looking for a new doctor this time around, I actually need to call today to get an appointment set up because it can take weeks or sometimes months to get set up with a new doctor. Hopefully I'll get in sooner though.
Thanks for checking
And yes, Kylee and Fleur how are you doing?!
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Terrissa - Interesting you feel physically better. I know what you mean about just wanting to get pregnant again. That's all I wanted too. I just wanted to be back to normal and start.. I wanted to fill the void. Sorry girl..
Katie - Glad to hear about the surgery! It will be here before you know it. Good luck on the sneaky egg.
Afm - Ready for my appointment tomorrow. I've been lightly spotting brown. I know it's not cause for concern... right?
I'm hoping to keep working out, but my nausea is a little unpredictable right now. Going to try tonight!
Sorry girl.. Katie - Glad to hear about the surgery! It will be here before you know it. Good luck on the sneaky egg.
Afm - Ready for my appointment tomorrow. I've been lightly spotting brown. I know it's not cause for concern... right?
I'm hoping to keep working out, but my nausea is a little unpredictable right now. Going to try tonight!
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Wow T, I am amazed at your strength. I honestly think I would be locked in a room practically catatonic if I had been through what you have been through. Good for your to volunteer with the bereavement folks at the hospital, I imagine that will be really healing. I just think it's so good to be around other people, sharing or not, just to feel that even in our darkest times, we aren't alone.
You could always talk to your doctor again about the suggested wait. I would imagine you want to make sure your uterus is completely recovered before trying again, but otherwise I don't think there is much reason to wait. How will they handle another pregnancy? Will you get a stitch early on?
Natalie - congratulations!! That is so exciting, although I am sure also uncertain. I'm hoping that this one is sticky for you! Glad the move is going well, although I am sure it is exhausting. How are the girls handling it? It will be so fun to get settled in your new place!
Kate, how wonderful that they have moved up your surgery! But definitely hoping you are pregnant instead! What a relief that must be, it's so frustrating to just wait and wait with nothing happening.
Jamie, great to hear from you! Glad all is well!!
AFM, Kate you are right, I have my doctor's appointment this Friday (finally!). I don't know what we will do, but I have lots totalk to her about - all the supplements I have been taking, the tests I want her to do, whether to stay on progesterone, etc etc. I also scheduled a second opinion appointment with a fertility specialist next week. I wanted to talk to someone who really focuses on this stuff and just see if her opinion differs at all, if she has any other suggestions, etc. I just ovulated on Friday of course. I wanted to try this cycle but DH wanted to wait, which I guess is the wiser course. I almost want to go on clomid or something and try for twins this time, because at this rate I don't know if I'll be able to have any more kids after this next one. So anyway, I'll keep you guys updated on what the doc says, and then I'm really excited to try this next cycle (should be ovulating at the end of July).
You could always talk to your doctor again about the suggested wait. I would imagine you want to make sure your uterus is completely recovered before trying again, but otherwise I don't think there is much reason to wait. How will they handle another pregnancy? Will you get a stitch early on?
Natalie - congratulations!! That is so exciting, although I am sure also uncertain. I'm hoping that this one is sticky for you! Glad the move is going well, although I am sure it is exhausting. How are the girls handling it? It will be so fun to get settled in your new place!
Kate, how wonderful that they have moved up your surgery! But definitely hoping you are pregnant instead! What a relief that must be, it's so frustrating to just wait and wait with nothing happening.
Jamie, great to hear from you! Glad all is well!!
AFM, Kate you are right, I have my doctor's appointment this Friday (finally!). I don't know what we will do, but I have lots totalk to her about - all the supplements I have been taking, the tests I want her to do, whether to stay on progesterone, etc etc. I also scheduled a second opinion appointment with a fertility specialist next week. I wanted to talk to someone who really focuses on this stuff and just see if her opinion differs at all, if she has any other suggestions, etc. I just ovulated on Friday of course. I wanted to try this cycle but DH wanted to wait, which I guess is the wiser course. I almost want to go on clomid or something and try for twins this time, because at this rate I don't know if I'll be able to have any more kids after this next one. So anyway, I'll keep you guys updated on what the doc says, and then I'm really excited to try this next cycle (should be ovulating at the end of July).
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I've had brown spotting with both of my pregnancies and it was totally fine (at that point, had nothing to do with my losses) . Try not to worry . 
And yes Leigh I definitely want to ask those questions before getting pregnant again. I just set up an an appointment with a new office and will see this one on August 13. Although I'm hoping someone cancels and I get in sooner. Because honestly if I think I'm going to ovulate before then (I might not) I probably couldn't resist trying. And thus far I've had no problem conceiving, first try each time. So I'm hoping that happens again, though I know it isn't guaranteed.
The doctor who told me to wait, I actually liked him a lot besides that. He's a high risk specialist at the new hospital I'm wanting to go to. The way it works though, I have to have a normal Obgyn and she will consult with the high risk doctor. Which was how it was with this pregnancy, but I have a feeling this team will be more proactive. He said that they wouldn't do the stitch right away because there's no proof that just because it happened once it'll happen again, and a stitch isn't foolproof. He seems a lot more progressive than my other doctor. And he said he checks his high risk patients weekly, while my other one did every 3 weeks! I never thought to question her, but dh and I both want to both be a LOT more involved in my care this time and ask more questions and voice our opinions instead of just listening to the doctor.
Leigh, glad you're seeing a specialist. Looking forward to hearing about how it goes! And twins would be so amazing! I'd love twins, but with my history, twins would pose even more of a problem.
And yes Leigh I definitely want to ask those questions before getting pregnant again. I just set up an an appointment with a new office and will see this one on August 13. Although I'm hoping someone cancels and I get in sooner. Because honestly if I think I'm going to ovulate before then (I might not) I probably couldn't resist trying. And thus far I've had no problem conceiving, first try each time. So I'm hoping that happens again, though I know it isn't guaranteed.
The doctor who told me to wait, I actually liked him a lot besides that. He's a high risk specialist at the new hospital I'm wanting to go to. The way it works though, I have to have a normal Obgyn and she will consult with the high risk doctor. Which was how it was with this pregnancy, but I have a feeling this team will be more proactive. He said that they wouldn't do the stitch right away because there's no proof that just because it happened once it'll happen again, and a stitch isn't foolproof. He seems a lot more progressive than my other doctor. And he said he checks his high risk patients weekly, while my other one did every 3 weeks! I never thought to question her, but dh and I both want to both be a LOT more involved in my care this time and ask more questions and voice our opinions instead of just listening to the doctor.
Leigh, glad you're seeing a specialist. Looking forward to hearing about how it goes!
And twins would be so amazing! I'd love twins, but with my history, twins would pose even more of a problem.
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Just popping on to let you guys know everything is fine over here.
So much has happened with everyone that I don't even know where to begin. It's the middle of the night and I'm awake eating crackers because I barfed up my dinner and then my stomach started growling when I went to bed. Anyway, I'll catch up properly tomorrow or Thursday because I need to get to bed and it would be a novel if I tried to respond to everyone right now.
T, you have been in my thoughts and prayers.
So much has happened with everyone that I don't even know where to begin. It's the middle of the night and I'm awake eating crackers because I barfed up my dinner and then my stomach started growling when I went to bed. Anyway, I'll catch up properly tomorrow or Thursday because I need to get to bed and it would be a novel if I tried to respond to everyone right now.
T, you have been in my thoughts and prayers.
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So I had my appointment today, no news really. They just did blood test and I have an ultrasound scheduled for next Thursday which is good. Originally they wanted me to do it in two weeks cause that's all the had, but I want to make sure that this thing is surviving sooner rather than later!
At the moment I feel the best I have in the past few weeks. Blood tests make me queasy, but I feel like I have new life in me! Maybe it's because I got rid of some hormones? Anyone else have a similar experience?
Kylee - Oof. I hate the nausea. I haven't thrown up yet though. Ugh.
At the moment I feel the best I have in the past few weeks. Blood tests make me queasy, but I feel like I have new life in me! Maybe it's because I got rid of some hormones? Anyone else have a similar experience?
Kylee - Oof. I hate the nausea. I haven't thrown up yet though. Ugh.
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Hi guys-
Zay, good luck with your scan! Glad you are feeling good and sounds like all is well!
Kylee good to hear from you, hope you are feeling good!
T- how are you? Keeping you in my thoughts.
Kate- are you in the tww now? When will you test?
Afm, I had my doc appt yesterday, it was good although we didn't find any silver bullets. She was very reassuring, she doesn't think I need much testing because I have a child already and am able to get pregnant. She's not concerned about physiological problems with my uterus, or blood clotting disorders, which she says would rarely manifest after a healthy pregnancy. She did an ultrasound and said I have great looking follicles, but my lining is too thin for this point in my cycle, so she really thinks the progesterone is necessary. She said the one test she might recommend is the 3d ultrasound- the one with the dye. Kate, you did this right? I'm debating doing it this cycle or waiting a bit. Is it expensive, do you remember?
Anyway, so I'm not sure whether to push for more testing or not (she offered but didn't recommend the full panel they do for recurrent mc). She doesn't think an FSH test will tell us much. Also, I don't know whether to keep my second opinion appt with the fertility doc this week. I guess it's not a bad idea (outside the expense). But it's just that overall my doc didn't seem to think anything was really wrong, just a string of bad luck.
So, nothing definitive. My tentative plan is to see the fertility doc on wed (which will likely be cd 3 or 4), determine whether she also recommends the 3d ultrasound, or anything else. If so, i might try to squeeze it in this cycle, or is not, then the next cycle.
Anyway, at least we get to start trying again!
Sorry this was long, just rambling all my thoughts!
Zay, good luck with your scan! Glad you are feeling good and sounds like all is well!
Kylee good to hear from you, hope you are feeling good!
T- how are you? Keeping you in my thoughts.
Kate- are you in the tww now? When will you test?
Afm, I had my doc appt yesterday, it was good although we didn't find any silver bullets. She was very reassuring, she doesn't think I need much testing because I have a child already and am able to get pregnant. She's not concerned about physiological problems with my uterus, or blood clotting disorders, which she says would rarely manifest after a healthy pregnancy. She did an ultrasound and said I have great looking follicles, but my lining is too thin for this point in my cycle, so she really thinks the progesterone is necessary. She said the one test she might recommend is the 3d ultrasound- the one with the dye. Kate, you did this right? I'm debating doing it this cycle or waiting a bit. Is it expensive, do you remember?
Anyway, so I'm not sure whether to push for more testing or not (she offered but didn't recommend the full panel they do for recurrent mc). She doesn't think an FSH test will tell us much. Also, I don't know whether to keep my second opinion appt with the fertility doc this week. I guess it's not a bad idea (outside the expense). But it's just that overall my doc didn't seem to think anything was really wrong, just a string of bad luck.
So, nothing definitive. My tentative plan is to see the fertility doc on wed (which will likely be cd 3 or 4), determine whether she also recommends the 3d ultrasound, or anything else. If so, i might try to squeeze it in this cycle, or is not, then the next cycle.
Anyway, at least we get to start trying again!
Sorry this was long, just rambling all my thoughts!
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Yes, I guess technically I'm in the TWW but I'm not expecting anything even though our timing was great. We've been unsuccessful so far, so I'm sure this time will be the same! I'd definitely go see the specialist, Leigh! They know so much more about that stuff than a regular OBGYN. I don't think it would hurt at all. You could ask him/her about the dye test too to see what she thinks. I don't remember what all my tests cost. We have health insurance through the Air Force so we hardly pay anything (thankfully). BUT if we didn't have that, I'd definitely still do it anyways. ANnnnd I think it's awesome your doc didn't see anything alarming!! That should be a big relief
How's the unpacking Natalie and Jamie?
Kylee, what's up?
Fleur, are you still traveling? Hope you're having fun!
Terrissa, how are you honey? Think of you often. Did you get any leads on volunteering like you were hoping to? Did you end up pumping? How are you and DH feeling?
Zay, hoping for good news for you at your scan!
Nothing exciting here. DH is in Colorado this weekend so the kids and I are just hanging out. I'm pretty bored. We are going to have dinner with one of our good friends tonight before they move to Kansas City. I'm soooooo sad!!! That's 2 of our friends that have moved this summer. My oldest said "Why are all my friends moving?" Poor kiddo. I can only hope kindergarten goes awesomely and she meets some close friends that will stick around.
How's the unpacking Natalie and Jamie?
Kylee, what's up?
Fleur, are you still traveling? Hope you're having fun!
Terrissa, how are you honey? Think of you often. Did you get any leads on volunteering like you were hoping to? Did you end up pumping? How are you and DH feeling?
Zay, hoping for good news for you at your scan!
Nothing exciting here. DH is in Colorado this weekend so the kids and I are just hanging out. I'm pretty bored. We are going to have dinner with one of our good friends tonight before they move to Kansas City. I'm soooooo sad!!! That's 2 of our friends that have moved this summer. My oldest said "Why are all my friends moving?" Poor kiddo. I can only hope kindergarten goes awesomely and she meets some close friends that will stick around.
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Leigh, good news that your doc doesn't think anything major is wrong. I agree with Kate on keeping the appointment with the specialist. Maybe there will be some other thoughts from someone with experience in fertility. I can't speak on the dye test, so do what you think is best. I say it probably wouldn't hurt to try it and see if you find anything. You might also try the raspberry leaf tea since it is supposed to help with uterine lining.
Kate, I still have my fingers crossed for you this cycle.
So I am definitely still feeling sick some days. We were driving down the highway after dinner the other night and I barfed in a Walmart bag that happened to be in the car just in case. I am now convinced that this child must be a girl because I just cannot believe I am still sick. Having a really good day today, though! Hopefully it stays that way!
Remember the blanket I started knitting in like... February? I finished it today. Here is the finished product. I say not bad for my very first knitting project. I wish I had made it a bit longer, so I am going to try to measure as I knit next time. Happy to say there will be a next time. It was fun!
Hope everyone else is well!
Kate, I still have my fingers crossed for you this cycle.
So I am definitely still feeling sick some days. We were driving down the highway after dinner the other night and I barfed in a Walmart bag that happened to be in the car just in case. I am now convinced that this child must be a girl because I just cannot believe I am still sick. Having a really good day today, though! Hopefully it stays that way!
Remember the blanket I started knitting in like... February? I finished it today. Here is the finished product. I say not bad for my very first knitting project. I wish I had made it a bit longer, so I am going to try to measure as I knit next time. Happy to say there will be a next time. It was fun!
Hope everyone else is well!
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Lol Kylee it might be 
on a side note, I love your name choices! My youngest daughters name is Emilia!
Katie-I'm hoping for a bfp this cycle for you!!!
Leigh-sounds like a good appointment, were you ever on progesterone to thicken your lining?
Terissa-how are you holding up?
Zay-can't wait to hear about your scan!
on a side note, I love your name choices! My youngest daughters name is Emilia!Katie-I'm hoping for a bfp this cycle for you!!!
Leigh-sounds like a good appointment, were you ever on progesterone to thicken your lining?
Terissa-how are you holding up?
Zay-can't wait to hear about your scan!
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Terrissa - Thinking about you. Sending prayers your way and hope you are doing ok.
Kylee - Oh man.. I'm sorry your so sick. It's so debilitating. The blanket is beautiful!
Katie - Fingers crossed for you! Sometimes when you expect it the least that's the best time. I grew up as an air force brat.. so I know the feeling of losing your friends all the time. Lots of crying at the airport.
AFM - Thanks for the well wishes. Things are better on my end. I have been sleepy but feeling much better than the last pregnancy. That scares me though I realized feeling like poo didn't guarantee a successful pregnancy.. so I'll take what I can get. Also.. I woke up feeling super frisky today. Anyone else experience this before?
Trying not to think too much about Thursday. Eek!
Kylee - Oh man.. I'm sorry your so sick. It's so debilitating. The blanket is beautiful!
Katie - Fingers crossed for you! Sometimes when you expect it the least that's the best time. I grew up as an air force brat.. so I know the feeling of losing your friends all the time. Lots of crying at the airport.
AFM - Thanks for the well wishes. Things are better on my end. I have been sleepy but feeling much better than the last pregnancy. That scares me though I realized feeling like poo didn't guarantee a successful pregnancy.. so I'll take what I can get. Also.. I woke up feeling super frisky today. Anyone else experience this before?
Trying not to think too much about Thursday. Eek!
