Hi Crazy Ladies! I posted a very long detailed account of the whole work situation, but also wanted to post the conclusion to it all here in our crazy thread:
Tuesday night, I did not sleep AT ALL! And I mean I literally never fell asleep and lay awake until OH's alarm went off. That's how stressed I was about the whole work situation. I broke down crying that I hadn't slept and I had terrible stomach cramping (which was probably just stress stomach and not the baby) and OH actually stuck around and drove me to work through traffic so I didn't have to commute on the subway.
I went to the office and immediately spoke to my HR friend who is also pregnant and also had fertility issues. She was really upset about the whole thing, and I told her I couldn't help but feel the timing of a sudden work probation BEFORE I could tell my boss about my pregnancy was incredibly suspicious. Also there is the fact that HR knew about it and my sneaky co-worker knew about it AND knew the day I planned on telling our boss.
So I said while I was hurt and angry, I have no plans of suing the company but that I had not slept the night before and was experiencing cramps and this is just too much stress on the baby. I told her I didn't want to bend over backwards to exceed myself when I was already doing my best and putting 100% into my role. It wouldn't be worth it if it somehow negatively impacted my pregnancy, especially if it was clear they are going to terminate me in 30 days as it seems their minds are made up.
So I asked to be terminated on the spot. I did not want to wait until late morning to speak to my boss after she got out of a meeting. I also didn't want to just quit, because then I wouldn't be eligible for unemployment insurance. My HR friend was very accommodating, got approval and she actually broke down crying over how shitty the whole thing is.
But, while I think the personal attack on my performance and my writing style was very cruel, I do think this is a blessing in disguise. For a few weeks now, I've worried about the long commute to work during our tough winter months. I worried about the general stress of the job, which always creates a lot of pressure and often late nights at the office. Also my pregnancy made me stop caring about working for a hokey magazine. It's not like I'm saving lives! After such a long battle with infertility, I feel really inspired to make a career out of helping other women going through fertility struggles. I don't know how I would do that, but going through so many failed months of TTC, several failed IUIs and IVF really changed me as a person.
Now at least I can have a stress-free pregnancy without the pressure of work, and maybe this is what the Universe wants for me. I'm also excited to get a head start on getting the house ready, which is going to be a HUGE job and I'm thankful to have the time to do it.
I'm going to my office today after 5 p.m. They have asked me to sign some papers to confirm that I will not sue the company. (So obviously they KNOW they were in the wrong!) I'm also going to clean off my desk.
Now here is where I need some advice, ladies. I got a message from HR saying that my boss wants my notes from an interview I did for a story that I am now obviously NOT going to write. The thing is, the interview is in my personal recorder and I have not transcribed it. It would take me at least a couple hours to go through the whole thing and type the interview out word for word for someone else to write the story.
I actually don't want to do this, but at the same time I don't want to be a pill and be like No! I don't have any way of transferring the recording to a computer, so the only solution would be to offer to type it out for them. But now that I have had a good sleep and can reflect on the situation with a clear mind, some really awful things were said to me. I was also blamed for things that weren't my fault. Like the whole magazine going to print late... they said it was my fault because I'm so crappy, when really it went late because my boss was in Chicago for a week while we were on deadline. She didn't come back until the 11th hour and had to approve everything. So I don't feel I should do them any favors, yet my dad has urged me not to burn any bridges. What would you ladies do in my situation?