I was sixteen when my mum had my youngest sister. I remember my mum coming back from her 12 week scan, crying her eyes out because the doctors had found what they thought to be the same condition you mention during her routine appointment. My dad had not been with her at the appointment. My mum at this stage was classed an 'older mother' and so the doctors feared the worst. They offered an amnio or ending the pregnancy. My parents discussed the matter, and as they are quite religious, they decided to ignore medical recommendations and just press ahead with the pregnancy. My dad's first reaction when my mum told him the news was 'we will just deal with whatever God gives us - this child is a blessing'. My mum was relieved that he felt that way because it had been her gut instinct too. They would not even consider amnio because of the risk of miscarriage (i think the risk was 1 in 10 in those days and it was too great a risk for them to consider taking). I remember being unsure at the time whether this was the wisest move, but my parents were resolute and stuck to their instinct. They told the doctors that they did not want any further testing done. The doctors were very sceptical of my parent's choice.
My mum went in a few weeks later (i forget how long, perhaps a fortnight) for further scanning, and the mass had disappeared. The doctors were cautiously optimistic, but we all worried for the remainder of the pregnancy, preparing ourselves for the worst. In the end my little sister was born perfectly healthy. Apparently, the first words out of my mum's mouth when she delivered her was 'can you check that she is healthy'. It was something that had understandably stressed her for the entire pregnancy. Our little blessing is now a bright teenager, doing well with her GCSEs. The best thing that could ever have happened to our family. We love her to bits and she is the glue that keeps us together. I look back and feel bad that I doubted my parents resolve to press ahead without further testing, but still couldn't say for sure whether I would have made the same decision if I were in the same shoes.
Anyway, I hope this gives you a ray of hope. I wish you the best - I know how stressed you must be having witnessed my parents go through the same dilemma all those years ago. Lots of love. xx
My mum went in a few weeks later (i forget how long, perhaps a fortnight) for further scanning, and the mass had disappeared. The doctors were cautiously optimistic, but we all worried for the remainder of the pregnancy, preparing ourselves for the worst. In the end my little sister was born perfectly healthy. Apparently, the first words out of my mum's mouth when she delivered her was 'can you check that she is healthy'. It was something that had understandably stressed her for the entire pregnancy. Our little blessing is now a bright teenager, doing well with her GCSEs. The best thing that could ever have happened to our family. We love her to bits and she is the glue that keeps us together. I look back and feel bad that I doubted my parents resolve to press ahead without further testing, but still couldn't say for sure whether I would have made the same decision if I were in the same shoes.
Anyway, I hope this gives you a ray of hope. I wish you the best - I know how stressed you must be having witnessed my parents go through the same dilemma all those years ago. Lots of love. xx