Dealing with azoospermia?

[BumpHopes]

Bumphopes. Sorry to hear nothing could be done. I'm sure you've had an emotional time over the last while. It sure is a tough reality to get used to.
However I found once you have a plan in place it eases the pain and you start to focus on the positives.
We are initially doing iui with donor as I have no known fertility issues. This generally is normal practice if no you have no issues, iui then onto ivf. They say after 3 goes at IUI if it hasn't worked it is best to move onto ivf. (as it should within 3)

Have you had to pick your donor as of yet?

Thanks, it has been tough but i do feel better that there is a plan and i know what's going to happen and in a way feel a little back in control of things.

I got PCOS myself, the urologist just said IVF and did not mention IUI at all, maybe cause of PCOS do you think? I really don't know.

No we not that far along. We have just decided to go for IVF and have just been referred by the urologist. I've been looking on-line for the hospital and the initial appt can take up to 26 weeks so its going to be a long process.

This might be a really stupid/ personal question, but when picking, did you opt for as close to DH as possible or best donor on offer? Whats your next step in the IUI, what stage are you at now?

 

[WANBMUM]

Bump hopes I cant see pcos being too much of a problem. I have some of the symptoms for it so they put me on a low dose of metformin, I think this has really evened out my ovulation, I used to ov cd16,17,18, whereas now its cd11,12.
I guess you have to wait until your app to see what plan they have for you.

Choosing donor, is again a personal choice. We wanted similar to hubby, eye colour hair colour, for me a baby photo was important whereas my hubby wasn't bothered, he was interested in intellect so we narrowed it down to a few we really liked and our clinic made the final choice on numbers etc.

 

[Stinas]

BumpHopes - Im sorry you didnt get the results you wanted to. Lots of luck with IVF!

 

[CanadianMaple]

Hi ladies, hope all is well with you. i havent posted on here at all for the past few weeks, needed a break from all things TTC. Which has done me the world of good.

Update on us, no blockage, is Azoo and we are going forward for IVF with donor sperm. So i know its not what we hoped but there is still a light at the end of this tunnel.

Question - For ladies who have done IVF with donor, did the Dr try IUI first or straight to IVF. We have been referrred in the last few days and know an appt can take up to 26 weeks, BEFORE they actually put us on the list. Any Cardiff people done IVF here? x

We are doing IUI first, no mention of IVF at all. I have been warned I may have to move to injectables if my LH doesn't stay down, but I'll cross that road when I get there.

It took me a long time to choose a donor. I tried to find one that looks like DH. We really liked this guy's personality too. I find the whole donor thing to be a huge kettle of fish on its own. A few of us have been there, if you have any questions.

 

[BumpHopes]

Hi ladies, hope all is well with you. i havent posted on here at all for the past few weeks, needed a break from all things TTC. Which has done me the world of good.

Update on us, no blockage, is Azoo and we are going forward for IVF with donor sperm. So i know its not what we hoped but there is still a light at the end of this tunnel.

Question - For ladies who have done IVF with donor, did the Dr try IUI first or straight to IVF. We have been referrred in the last few days and know an appt can take up to 26 weeks, BEFORE they actually put us on the list. Any Cardiff people done IVF here? x

We are doing IUI first, no mention of IVF at all. I have been warned I may have to move to injectables if my LH doesn't stay down, but I'll cross that road when I get there.

It took me a long time to choose a donor. I tried to find one that looks like DH. We really liked this guy's personality too. I find the whole donor thing to be a huge kettle of fish on its own. A few of us have been there, if you have any questions.

Thanks! I was looking on your thread yesterday about DIUI, feel a bit in limbo as dont know whats next if IVF or IUI so dont know any more for a while, but happy something is going to be happening.

Do you do IUI then IVF if it doesnt work out do you know?

 

[CanadianMaple]

From what they understand, they recommend least invasive first, then adjust meds, then IVF is the last resort with donor sperm. I figured it was a bit of a payoff, only clomid and a trigger shot, then the IUI. She warned me I may need injectables, but they really are optimistic we will just need IUI.

 

[SunUp]

Hi everyone! Hope all is going well. I am sorry I have not been on much lately, but I have not forgotten about my wonderful azoo ladies! Baby dust to all! I will be lurking, if you have any questions.

 

[momwannabe81]

idk if this has been asked before or i'm just being dillusional, but dh has unexplained azoospermia, he produces them but they don't come out. We even did dye test to see of any blockage but nothing found. I was wondering if any of u has the same issue and known of something that could help him. I guess i'm hoping for a miracle and believe that his premature ejac has something to do with that but i am never able to get a straight answer (u know how drs shut u down when asking questions) i just feel that they just said no without even looking into it possibly being related or explaining how it can't be related. We've been trying with donor but still wish could do old fashion way iykwim

 

[Deb111]

Welcome momwannabe81

Can I ask - if your dh is producing them, can they not surgically retrieve them and then use them for IUI?

 

[snd80]

Hi girls! Sorry I have been AWOL, but I have been through the ringer here lately... I'm still cheering from the sidelines for everyone making progress though! At least someone is dammit!!!!

These past 3 weeks have been hard for me. IDK how to deal with all this, and according to my husband, I am making it hard for everyone around me, especially him. He says he is tired of me moaping around looking all sad and thinking/talking of nothing but babies. Like I told him, until I can figure out how to deal with this, I don't know what else to do! He told me last night that it had to stop; he was sick of it ...so we might be splitting up before all this is over. You know what, that just showed that it wasn't as important to him as it was me, and either way I will continue my plan - with or without him. It's like I always have to be in control of every little thing, and this I can't, and it is killing me!!!

I just wanted to stop in and tell you all I have been thinking of you and best wishes to everyone... Hopefully this "hurricane" of mine will blow over soon. I'm not giving up YET!!!

!!!

 

[raelynn]

snd - I am so very sorry for the storm you are going through right now. I can't imagine trying to get through all this infertility mess without DH on board. I completely understand where you're coming from on the control thing too! I always like to have a plan and to know what is next and that is the absolute WORST with where we are now. Sending you lots of love and hoping this storm blows over soon!

 

[Deb111]

So sorry things are so tough right now snd

It must really tricky when dh is acting like that - afterall, we cant blame them for what we're having to go through, but we are going through it because of an issue they have and he really should be supporting you

I really hope things improve soon xx

 

[momwannabe81]

Welcome momwannabe81

Can I ask - if your dh is producing them, can they not surgically retrieve them and then use them for IUI?

They can for IVF but it's not a financial option for us.

 

[Stinas]

snd - Im sorry you are going through an even tougher time after all of this! Do what you feel is best for you and your future...thats all that matters...you need to put yourself first.

As for me....ER was yesterday....we got 12 eggs, 10 mature and as of today 3 fertilized with the possibility of a couple more with late fertilization. They managed to not use all our frozen sperm, so we still have some left. ET is set for sat or sunday. We are still unsure how many we will transfer...but leaning more towards 2. Its a lot to think about.

Hope everyone is doing well!!

 

[Deb111]

Welcome momwannabe81

Can I ask - if your dh is producing them, can they not surgically retrieve them and then use them for IUI?

They can for IVF but it's not a financial option for us.

It's so frustrating when this all comes down to money

 

[Deb111]

Great news Stinas - keeping everything crossed for those late developers too - our LO was a late developer in that it didn't go to blastocyst until day 6 instead of day 5

 

[Stinas]

Deb - thanks for giving me hope! Im just hoping my age and good uterus helps! You can update me in the front page if you like.

 

[momwannabe81]

Welcome momwannabe81

Can I ask - if your dh is producing them, can they not surgically retrieve them and then use them for IUI?

They can for IVF but it's not a financial option for us.

It's so frustrating when this all comes down to money

I know right!!!! They are looking into paying for abortion but won't pay for infertility. Read that they tried at the congress to pass a law where all insurances have to pay for infertility but were shut down several times.

 

[deafgal01]

Welcome momwannabe81

Can I ask - if your dh is producing them, can they not surgically retrieve them and then use them for IUI?

They can for IVF but it's not a financial option for us.

I can def relate. This is where I am at right now, deciding which path to take and that one is tempting but money wise we cannot afford that either.

 

[tigerlily1975]

SND: I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time at the mo' Unfortunately, the stress that comes along with infertility means we tend to take it out of those closest to us. I hope that given a little time, you will both get to a place where you can find the strength to move on to the next stage. Hell, it's not easy, but if you can get through this, you can get through anything! You are still young, darling, so time is very much on your side. You could take a break and save-up for another few rounds and you'd still be on the right side of 35. The lovely Deb and MJ have shown that we can do it - I'm very much looking at them for inspiration at present! Good luck, hun and please stay in touch... we're always here for you!!

Stinas: That's fantastic news, hun! Sending you tonnes of GOOD LUCK for the transfer!

momwannabe: Argh, I'm so sorry that once again it comes down to money. This whole situation is very hard to deal with, but I hope the donor IVF brings you your baby!

Rae: How are you holding up, darling? I hope you're taking it easy

SunUp: I noticed in your sig that you're on IUI #3, keeping everything crossed for you!

CanadianMaple: You're due to start soon, aren't you? GOOD LUCK, hun!

BumpHopes: I hope you've had some news about an appointment. The waiting is a killer!

WanBMum: Good luck with IUI #2, really, really hoping this is the one!

Debs: Thanks for the ..... they were very much appreciated! I hope you're getting plenty of rest.

Big and to everyone else... I hope you're all hanging in there!

AFM: The hospital wanted to scan me again before starting the Gonal F (that was Monday) and again... my left ovary! Another new Dr, but at least this one explained the issue. My left ovary is high (husband keeps giggling about this as when they say "high ovary" he's imaging it sitting there, all chilled out smoking a spliff! Hell, you gotta laugh or you'd go mad, right?!) and my bladder is actually in the way. He's hoping that when they enlarge from the Gonal F (starting that tomorrow) it'll drop down a bit and they might be able to 'force it' further down when I'm under (Eeeeek!), but he's obviously worried about catching the bladder

There's always something, isn't there? Wish we could catch a ruddy break, but I know wishing isn't going to change anything and all you can do is keep going, right?

Ooh, one quick question; has anyone else had terrible headaches from Buserelin? I'm incredibly tearful at the mo', too, but that could also be from sorting out my parent's house.. my dad loved writing notes and each one I find sets me off no end! Bloody hormones!

Right, I'm off to raid the fridge... chocolate... chocolate... chocolate!

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C xx