Dealing with azoospermia?

[tulip11]

hi everyone

our first appointment with Urologist ill be on 19th April...but today we got another appointment which states as review appointment which ill be on 23rd april and different place...I wanna to know about review appointment is this different from the first one as it states review plus anyone who got review appointment so kindly please share with me what does it really is ? thanks

 

[AuCa]

Hi Tulip,

the review appointment is for you guys to meet the doc to review the test results. So, on your first appointment your doc will likely order some tests. And then they book a 2nd appointment, usually 2 weeks later (which is the 23rd), so your doc can explain the test results and discuss with you.

 

[tulip11]

Thanks Auca. So it means that we are lucky in sense that for second appointment we wont wait for 2 weeks but afer few days we ill have our 2nd one thanks a lot.

 

[AuCa]

And every day something new.....

I am getting more confused every day, while results are coming in. And I wonder if any of you have any insight
DH had an ultrasound of his testis yesterday, and turns out that they saw "bilateral heterogeneity pf his testis". His GP called and said that they're suspecting infection in the past, in other words mumps??? DH has no idea if he had it or not...

He also re-did his hormones, and they came back totally different this time around (again!). Before, his prolactin, FSH and LH were normal, testosterone slightly low. This time around his prolactin is too high, so is his LH, but FSH and testosterone are normal GP said to re-test prolactin in 6 weeks. I don't get it.

 

[MrsG30]

Hi ladies
Wow how much have I missed. My Dh has asked me if we can not talk about it until out next app as its making him ill.
We had a heart to heart and he said "you should just leave me" "im useless, my bosy is useless" "would you have married me if you had known this" " i thinnk about it every hour of every day" "ive let you down"
My heart was breaking for him. All i can do is constantly reassure him, i love you, im not going anywhere, were in this together etc.
Ive decided to respect his wishes and not talk about it unless soething cmes up as weve talked and talked and we know what routes we are both willing to take.
when ive sat and thought abut it myself, it must be awful for him, its like questioning there manhood/purpose, And im going to do everything in my power not to let him think like that.

Hope this helps some of you xxx

 

[Verity Belle]

I got that question from my hubby too, would i still married him if we had known this before, all you can do is support them and reassure them that they are exactly the same person you fell in love with. Hope your ok xx

 

[Hopeful Cat]

hi ladies, i got that question from my husband and just recently he said he doesnt want to have sex because he feels inadequate and small. i wish he had somebody to talk to but none of our friends have been there for us. we have a meeting with the specialist on next monday and im hoping we can get referred to a phsych to talk to. this infertility can. really take its toll.
i really wish infeertility wasnt such a silent and taboo subject

 

[MrsG30]

Ive had that too- i hate thinking he is thinking like that- if that makes sence!

our FS asked us if we wanted to see someone to talk and he replied" i have my wife, i can talk to her"
Sometimes i wish he would speak to someone other than me

 

[AuCa]

Yeah, it's really sad. Mine just told me on the weekend that he's thinking about opening up about it to his brother or one of his friends. He's having a really tough time deciding who he can trust 100% though. Just talking to us as wives/partners can't just be enough. I've also brought up the idea of counseling, but I don't think he's ready for it (yet).

Do you guys maybe have an infertility support group around your area? We have one here who meets once/month, and I'm now on their e-mail list. DH seemed quite interested in maybe going to one of their meetings. Just thinking it might be something for you ladies too....

 

[MrsG30]

im not sure to be honest love.
and im not sure he wants to talk about it at all- if i need/want to say anything i start by "i need to say this" and then he listens because if i jut bring it up i see the look of horror on his face.
we have actually told a few ppl. both sets of parents know, his brother and wife ( as he is going to be our donor if need be) and my 2 best friends.
hes tends to speak about it with my mum but other than that is clams up

 

[raelynn]

Ladies, just wanted to let you know that having someone to talk to about this really helped my hubby. He randomly mentioned something about it to a couple in our neighborhood who had gone through fertility treatments and it turns out they were in the exact same situation as us and have a baby by donor sperm. Just finding out that he wasn't alone in this made all the difference for hubby.

 

[BumpHopes]

Hi everyone!

Trying to catch up on the thread n I've missed so much!

Update for me I'm on the ivf waiting list and will be going ahead with donor sperm for I've in jan@/Feb next year. We had our counselling session today which went really well. We are going to be bringing our wedding forward to November this year cause I don't want to wait any longer.

How is everyone?

 

[Stinas]

Hi everyone!

Huge update for me.....
IVF #2(feels like #3 if you include the Frozen I had)....was a success! I will find out next week if its twins....doc thinks there is a good possibility because my beta was pretty high(651).
We used DH's frozen sperm from his TESE in July.

 

[awifey]

Hi everyone!

Huge update for me.....
IVF #2(feels like #3 if you include the Frozen I had)....was a success! I will find out next week if its twins....doc thinks there is a good possibility because my beta was pretty high(651).
We used DH's frozen sperm from his TESE in July.

Congrats!!!

 

[Hopeful Cat]

congratulations Stinas!!

 

[raelynn]

Congrats Stinas!!

 

[tigerlily1975]

Huuuge congrats, Stinas!



C xx

 

[Verity Belle]

Congratulations,
Have my next appointment on monday to discuss hubby sa and blood test results, nervous and excited now, need to make a list of questions any ideas? X

 

[dippycat]

Hi.
I am wondering if any of you lovely ladies have any experience of what myself and DH are going through at the moment.
We had been TTC for around 18 months before visiting clinic to look at IVF or IUI in November last year. Decided to do IUI, but on my way to the clinic they called to say there was no sperm at all in DHs sample. The doctor told me briefly about blood tests and TESE but said adoption would be easier!
We decided to go for the blood tests option and got the results back this week that he has very low testosterone. FSH was high, but LH was normal. They have put him on hcg shots twice a week plus DHEA, CoQ10 and l'argenine and he has to go and visit a specialist doctor on Saturday to discuss TESE I think.
Has anyone had any positive effects using hcg to raise testosterone? I am really not keen on him undergoing TESE as it sounds horrific. What chance is there of me falling pregnant naturally??!
I am 42 and he is 44 in a couple of months so I am not sure how successful ICSI would be under normal circumstances and whether it would be worth the huge cost for both the procedures.

 

[Hopeful Cat]

Verity Belle: good luck with the appointment! I always regretted not asking what I could be doing in the meantime - if there were any vitamins or anything worth looking into. Our male fertility specialist did a physical exam and then scheduled a fine needle aspiration in order to get more info and see if any sperm could be found. There are soo many different possibilities and I felt i wouldn't be able to prepare until I got more info. In my next appointment i'm going to try and get an idea of timeframes and costs. Fingers crossed for you that it's good news!

DippyCat: Sorry to hear about your diagnosis I don't have any experience with any male fertility drugs but we are looking towards mTESE instead of TESE to reduce risks and increase potential of finding sperm. Decision to go through with these invasive procedures and IVF is completely personal and it has to be right for you and your situation. Maybe after talking with the specialists you'll have a better feeling one way or the other?