Hi Baby Soldier and welcome
So sorry to hear your news
This site has been a god-send to me and to be able to chat with other people going through exactly the same is so helpful - ok, it's fairly possible that you could happen to know or meet someone face to face who has had IVF, but to meet someone face to face dealing with azoospermia is very unlikely. Unfortunately, people who haven't been through it are likely to make the usual "oh there's always IVF" comments but I guess it's a pretty uncommon thing so we can't expect them to understand.
I really hope your hubby's second SA gives you some positive news but if further investigations are needed, then we can, between us, give you a list of things to make sure get checked. Are you using NHS? One thing I was told was to check if they centrifuge the SA as this can sometimes identify the odd sperm that may otherwise have gone unnoticed.
As Ginger said, take some time to read through this thread if you get a chance. I know how confusing it all seems right now, and you should shout, cry, scream - do whatever you need to at the moment, because it sucks! but you will pick yourself up before long and you will find the motivation to do what it takes to fulfill your dream of having a baby together and in the meantime, we're all here to support you.
As for a men's forum, I'm not aware of one, but will post a message to the admin team and see if they could set one up - I think it would be great if our men could share some stories and give each other some support
Deb xx