**December SnowFlakes Testing Group**(praying for Christmas BFPs)

[S_Dowd]

@Suggerhoney Oh honey I'm so sorry. Please take all the time you need. TTC is so stressful and consuming. I hope you have a lovely and relaxing Christmas and a nice break from all of this

 

[S_Dowd]

So my new tests came in this afternoon. BFNs on both unfortunately, but I'll post the pictures for y'all anyways.

 

[jellybeanxx]

@S_Dowd sorry for the BFNs, was that the FMU you had saved? (I’m hoping that was you anyway or it’s a very weird question, doubting myself now lol)

I did a FRER this evening and didn’t really see anything on it. Trying to remind myself it’s still early but honestly I’m gutted. Just hope my temp is back up tomorrow!

 

[S_Dowd]

@S_Dowd sorry for the BFNs, was that the FMU you had saved? (I’m hoping that was you anyway or it’s a very weird question, doubting myself now lol)

I did a FRER this evening and didn’t really see anything on it. Trying to remind myself it’s still early but honestly I’m gutted. Just hope my temp is back up tomorrow!

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Yes that was me! Good memory. I've been googling stories of other women getting BFNs at 10dpo that still ended up pregnant to try to make myself feel better, but I'm feeling the same way you are. One of my tests was a 10 miu. I just feel like it should have picked up something if I was. So sorry about your BFN too. I feel like BFNs always hit harder in December.

 

[jellybeanxx]

@S_Dowd they really do hit harder in December! Christmas just amplifies everything!
I am one of those women who had a BFN at 10DPO and then got a BFP, it’s happened twice actually! I got my BFP with my eldest at 11DPO and he was a clomid baby so I’m confident about when I ovulated. I also got my BFP at what I think was 13DPO with my middle child after a two day temp dip. I was charting then too and the dates match up with my temps and positive OPK even though it seems late! So you can add that to your list of hope! Obviously I’m not good at being optimistic myself though

 

[NDH]

Sorry for all the BFNs. There's still hope for all of you, even Suggerhoney. FX AF stays away and you all get late BFPs

AFM, I'm over here on CD16 still waiting to ovulate. I've never gone past CD14 beforehand it's usually CD12 so I'm feeling like my D&C messed me up pretty badly.

 

[josephine3]

Aw sorry about the bfns @jellybeanxx and @S_Dowd.. Good to hear from you @Suggerhoney but sorry its not a more positive update, have a lovely birthday and Xmas xxx
I'm seriously going to question my sanity if I'm not pregnant this cycle!! Something is going on lol especially with my boobs and I just fell asleep at like 7.30 pm I could feel myself falling asleep and gad to set an alarm to wake me up to get the kids to bed lol xx

 

[S_Dowd]

@josephine3 Ooooo that sounds so promising!!!!! I mean sorry you're so tired and your boobs hurt, but hopefully it's for a very good reason!

 

[Suggerhoney]

Thanks ladies
I do love all the support on here. Ttc is just so so hard. Especially when you have been trying for a long time.
It’s just so so disheartening getting BFNs over and over and over.
It definitely does hit harder in December.
I fell with my 2 youngest in January and I’m holding out hope that I will fall in January again this time. But I know if I end with BFNs then as well I’m gonna be so so sad.
Even tho ovulation should be around Christmas I’m gonna have a few drinks on Christmas Day. These nearly 11 cycles of trying I haven’t had one drink and I don’t smoke. So Christmas day I’m gonna let my hair down a bit and have a few drinks. Won’t go nuts but just a few to get a bit merry.
Will be back on when AF shows and I’m sure when ovulation comes around again I will be a bit more uplifted, as I’ve said b4 the worst part is the knowing your out and then having to wait for AF and then all the waiting for ovulation again. It completely sucks arse.
I was so so hoping to be pregnant b4 I turn 43 but now that’s not happened and ttc at 43 I just know my chances will be so so slim and the miscarriage rate so so high.
It just feels like considering I haven’t fallen at all in 7 months then it’s just never going to happen.
Yes it took 11 cycles to get my youngest but I kept having chemicals when we was ttc him so I new I was still fertile.I have never ever gone any longer than 3 months without getting pregnant so it makes me wonder am I still even fertile anymore?

it’s just crazy how when we started trying I fell on the 2nd month, Then Again on the 4th month, but now 7 months and nothing.
I wonder if maybe I haven’t fallen because of all the stuff that’s happened. The miscarriage was June, then July I had covid, end of September early October I had flu and end of October the bowel thing. Or is it age related?
I worry it is down to age and it’s just never going to happen.
I know there’s a few on here that are now pregnant and been trying for over a year or more but I don’t have years. My time is running out, or has it already ran out?
Just don’t see many women on here 43 and pregnant. Only ones that have been went on to lose. And then never went on to fall again, or they did but they ended up losing again.
It’s so hard to stay positive.

 

[Suggerhoney]

@S_Dowd
So sorry for the BFN love. They suck arse.
I hope your one of those that get a later BFP.
I’m always 10dpo if I am so I always know it BFN at 10dpo then I’m out.
But some women do get later BFPs.
Your symptoms sound great.


@josephine3
The symptoms we can get very early on are down to progesterone that rises after ovulation. I can sometimes get sore boobs after ovulation but they usually fizzle out around 6dpo/7dpo.
But I really hope yours don’t fizzle out and these symptoms lead to your BFP.
Good luck

 

[josephine3]

Sorry you're so down @Suggerhoney. 7 months isn't that long and although you had losses I think that shows it still can happen for you! Try and stay positive I know it's hard. My youngest is 8 now it feels like a lifetime ago since I was pregnant. 12 months ttc here and ntnp a bit before that!! Definitely relax over Xmas..
I know you can get symptoms due to ov but I usually feel completely normal for at least a week after xx

 

[tdog]

@jellybeanxx you are 8dpo right? If that's right still plenty of time I have everything crossed for you xx

@josephine3 I normally get sore boobs and stiff after o but like you I normally feeling normal for a while before af but I had heartburn at 2dpo which for me I never get unless I have caught, promising signs xx

 

[AlwaysTheAunt]

@Suggerhoney I'm sorry you're feeling so crappy about ttc. You deserve to relax and just enjoy your birthday and Christmas. We all understand taking time out when you need to for your mental health. These boards are both fantastic and painful when ttc. I am hoping you get your rainbow still honey xx

 

[S_Dowd]

@jellybeanxx Thank you for sharing your experiences with me. That does help. I feel like I just see everyone on here getting lines at 8-10 dpo, so I think it's easy to start thinking if you don't see lines by that point then that's it. It helps to hear that it's possible to not get a BFP until later.

@NDH Oh no! I feel like I missed something. Did your temp go down today?!?! I was so hoping that you ovulated a few days ago when you got that higher temp. I'm always a late ovulator (Cd19-22 on average) so that's normal for me, but I know it has to be annoying when you aren't used to it. I hope you ovulate soon.

@Suggerhoney Oh my hesrt just feels so heavy for you. I'm sorry you are so down and feeling so sad. I truly hope and pray that you will get your rainbow soon. My husband's mom had 3 kids in her 40's. I think her last was born when she was 45. So it is possible, but I understand you feeling pressed for time and that must be so hard. The what ifs can really play games with our heads sometimes. I truly hope that all these pesky health issues and recovering from your losses are the reason you haven't caught for the last 7 months. Hopefully, you can take some time this month to relax and enjoy Christmas and your birthday. You are in my prayers, dear, and I truly hope it happens for you soon

 

[Suggerhoney]

Sorry you're so down @Suggerhoney. 7 months isn't that long and although you had losses I think that shows it still can happen for you! Try and stay positive I know it's hard. My youngest is 8 now it feels like a lifetime ago since I was pregnant. 12 months ttc here and ntnp a bit before that!! Definitely relax over Xmas..
I know you can get symptoms due to ov but I usually feel completely normal for at least a week after xx

We been trying for nearly 11 months love now. Just been 7 months since I fell pregnant last. But almost 11 months actively trying.

Oh love I have everything crossed that this cycle is the one. Fx for you so so much. Thank you for asking after me a day or so ago too love. Thank you for thinking of me

@Suggerhoney I'm sorry you're feeling so crappy about ttc. You deserve to relax and just enjoy your birthday and Christmas. We all understand taking time out when you need to for your mental health. These boards are both fantastic and painful when ttc. I am hoping you get your rainbow still honey xx

yes that’s a fantastic way of putting it love. These threads can be so so great but also so painful all at the same time.
Don’t think I’ll be enjoying my birthday all that much turning 43 just feels crappy. Even more so with ttc. I want my wee rainbow so so much but the whole turning 43 thing just really makes me feel it’s never going to happen. My due date would of been February 22nd but would of had baby at the beginning of feb so I pray so so hard I will be pregnant with my rainbow by end of jan. I really really don’t want to pass that due date and still no baby. I take my hat off to you lovely trying as long as you did, it’s a absolute head Fu##.

@jellybeanxx Thank you for sharing your experiences with me. That does help. I feel like I just see everyone on here getting lines at 8-10 dpo, so I think it's easy to start thinking if you don't see lines by that point then that's it. It helps to hear that it's possible to not get a BFP until later.

@NDH Oh no! I feel like I missed something. Did your temp go down today?!?! I was so hoping that you ovulated a few days ago when you got that higher temp. I'm always a late ovulator (Cd19-22 on average) so that's normal for me, but I know it has to be annoying when you aren't used to it. I hope you ovulate soon.

@Suggerhoney Oh my hesrt just feels so heavy for you. I'm sorry you are so down and feeling so sad. I truly hope and pray that you will get your rainbow soon. My husband's mom had 3 kids in her 40's. I think her last was born when she was 45. So it is possible, but I understand you feeling pressed for time and that must be so hard. The what ifs can really play games with our heads sometimes. I truly hope that all these pesky health issues and recovering from your losses are the reason you haven't caught for the last 7 months. Hopefully, you can take some time this month to relax and enjoy Christmas and your birthday. You are in my prayers, dear, and I truly hope it happens for you soon

Thank you so much love. You praying for or anyone praying for me to get my rainbow means so so much,

i was so so happy when I got my peak and ovulated and told myself even if I don’t fall this cycle then that’s ok. Hopefully I will soon after. And when I was In the early part of the 2ww I felt really good.
Then when 8dpo came around and zero symptoms I started to feel disheartened because I should of had something going on symptom wise.
But the BFN at 10dpo my heart just sank.
It’s the knowing your Out and waiting for AF and then the waiting for ovulation again it just stinks.
I think the not ovulating last cycle has just made all the waiting seem so much longer.
I’m so happy I did ovulate this cycle but now I know I’m out again the silly negative ninny in me is like , what if I don’t ovulate again,
Why does my brain have to work in that negative manner.

My nanna says she has a real gut feeling I’m going to fall pregnant around Christmas time,
And ovulation should be around Christmas time. Hard to say for as I can ovulate as early as cd11 or as late as cd20.
I really hope my nannas gut instinct is right and I do fall next cycle.
But I’m not going to hold my breath.


Hope u get lines when you next test love, I willl be looking out for you and crossing my fingers and toes and anything else that can be crossed lol,

god bless you love

 

[AlwaysTheAunt]

@Suggerhoney it really is a head f*&% i was ready to give up and had made peace knowing we only had until december. We went away the weekend i ovulated and i honestly let loose to the max (drank over a bottle of red) lol. But i still remember all the BFN for the 23 cycles before it was hell. I think about every here ttc and the women who've recently had losses alot. I dont pray as such but i sort of do? I hope and hope for everyone.

 

[jellybeanxx]

@josephine3 that all sounds promising, fx for you!

@S_Dowd I’m keeping everything crossed that today is the day you get that second line!

@tdog thanks lovely, yeah I’m 9DPO now but like @S_Dowd said it’s so hard to keep a sensible perspective at times on these threads

So 9DPO today and my temp went back up this morning
I did a clearblue pink dye this morning and I swear I see a second line in person but so hard to get a good photo. I’ve tried tweaking but it’s not great! Here’s tweaked and untweaked anyway. I need to buy more tests today!
I’ve attached a photo of my chart too because I’m just so pleased with it

 

[tdog]

@jellybeanxx pretty sure I'm seeing something that test xx

 

[jellybeanxx]

Slightly better tweak here! OMG! I’m going to buy every test in Boots now

 

[josephine3]

I think I can see something @jellybeanxx fxd for your next test! X