***December Testing thread - hoping for a Christmas Miracle***

[sallyhansen76]

I May have a bit of a POAS addication

I am on CD 8....and was looking at those wonderful tests and had to do one of my own.
OPK definately negative

No sign of O yet.

 

[MadamRose]

@ciz what vitamins are you taking some can prolonged cycle.

@Sianylw

@Deethehippy i think I see something!

2nd donation for me tonight lots of EWCM abs cervix is nice and open. Can’t work out if to test in 14th or 16th I want to say be good and hold out til 16th but not sure I’ll make it

 

[Suggerhoney]

Hi ladies sorry I've not read the whole thread to be honest I'm not even sure it im going to stick around.

I had my telephone appointment today and I didn't really get good news.

I was told my miscarriages is all down to my age.
I also had a lecture about how being pregnant at my age is a real risk.
He said there's nothing they can do to stop me having miscarriages but he is going to book me in for some more bloods and a scan to check my overion reserve.
Then I will be booked into see the maternal medicine doctors to get my results.
And he said that's all they can really do and we will just have to go from there.
But everything else he was saying about me being 41 I don't stand a chance.

I'm not in a good place at the moment and this is a major blow.
I feel completely discriminated against and to be honest I feel its little unfair considering there are womon having babies at my age and older.
Every time I speak to a doctor my age is always the problem.
I feel like all the responsibility is on me and its my fault we keep having miscarriages.

I feel like giving up and throwing all my OPKs and pregnancy tests away.

I can't even enjoy Christmas because I'm so anxious about what this scan is going to reveal and being told I can't have another baby.

Any hope i did have that doctor has now took away.

I told him about the macca root and he had never heard of it and told me to be carful with things like that but its literally the bit of hope I have.
I don't have anything else.

All I know is if I get bad news at this scan then it will be the end of the road for me.

I feel like I've waisted 9 and a half months ttc with 4 loses. And all I'm going to have is more losses.

I told him I'm due to ovulate next week and still wanted to try and he didn't really say much.

I feel devastated and so anxious about this scan.

I feel so sad

 

[MadamRose]

Hi ladies sorry I've not read the whole thread to be honest I'm not even sure it im going to stick around.

I had my telephone appointment today and I didn't really get good news.

I was told my miscarriages is all down to my age.
I also had a lecture about how being pregnant at my age is a real risk.
He said there's nothing they can do to stop me having miscarriages but he is going to book me in for some more bloods and a scan to check my overion reserve.
Then I will be booked into see the maternal medicine doctors to get my results.
And he said that's all they can really do and we will just have to go from there.
But everything else he was saying about me being 41 I don't stand a chance.

I'm not in a good place at the moment and this is a major blow.
I feel completely discriminated against and to be honest I feel its little unfair considering there are womon having babies at my age and older.
Every time I speak to a doctor my age is always the problem.
I feel like all the responsibility is on me and its my fault we keep having miscarriages.

I feel like giving up and throwing all my OPKs and pregnancy tests away.

I can't even enjoy Christmas because I'm so anxious about what this scan is going to reveal and being told I can't have another baby.

Any hope i did have that doctor has now took away.

I told him about the macca root and he had never heard of it and told me to be carful with things like that but its literally the bit of hope I have.
I don't have anything else.

All I know is if I get bad news at this scan then it will be the end of the road for me.

I feel like I've waisted 9 and a half months ttc with 4 loses. And all I'm going to have is more losses.

I told him I'm due to ovulate next week and still wanted to try and he didn't really say much.

I feel devastated and so anxious about this scan.

I feel so sad

I’m so sorry. It sounds like this doctor is in the wrong medicine field. 41 isn’t that late to be having children any more. I’d personally be ringing his department saying you aren’t happy with him and that you want a second option - you are perfectly within your rights to want this.

You age may not have anything to do with it at all and it’s like he is using it as an excuse.

 

[sallyhansen76]

@Suggerhoney
I would definately get a second opinion. The Dr most likely knows more than us, but he isn't all-knowing.
I can say from experience MY Dr (Years ago) told me I would never conceive (At 21years old) because I had scar tissue and cysts. I felt as helpless and carried the blame.
I accidently got pregnant the first time on the pill (taking it for hormonal reasons)!!! I changed Dr because I didn't understand how that was possible according to him and turns out...it was nothing that would block me (Or even cause my misscarriages).

Everyone is different and can't be put into a box.
That all being said, I totally understand. HEaring the news is hard and equally hard to digest.
Im thinking of you and sending my prayers

 

[Bevziibubble]

I'm so sorry that doctor acted like that. He sounds very negative and unprofessional. You deserve more help and support than that from a so called professional

 

[Deethehippy]

Sugger - I'm so sorry you feel so sad ..biggest hugs. Please try not to worry about the tests because the chances are they won't show anything bad. I worried so much about my scan and had myself convinced I had a fibroid as big as a house and it was nothing near as bad as I had suspected! Try and stay positive, I know it's hard but there has to still be a chance, we have to believe that xx

 

[Mum42crazy]

Hi ladies sorry I've not read the whole thread to be honest I'm not even sure it im going to stick around.

I had my telephone appointment today and I didn't really get good news.

I was told my miscarriages is all down to my age.
I also had a lecture about how being pregnant at my age is a real risk.
He said there's nothing they can do to stop me having miscarriages but he is going to book me in for some more bloods and a scan to check my overion reserve.
Then I will be booked into see the maternal medicine doctors to get my results.
And he said that's all they can really do and we will just have to go from there.
But everything else he was saying about me being 41 I don't stand a chance.

I'm not in a good place at the moment and this is a major blow.
I feel completely discriminated against and to be honest I feel its little unfair considering there are womon having babies at my age and older.
Every time I speak to a doctor my age is always the problem.
I feel like all the responsibility is on me and its my fault we keep having miscarriages.

I feel like giving up and throwing all my OPKs and pregnancy tests away.

I can't even enjoy Christmas because I'm so anxious about what this scan is going to reveal and being told I can't have another baby.

Any hope i did have that doctor has now took away.

I told him about the macca root and he had never heard of it and told me to be carful with things like that but its literally the bit of hope I have.
I don't have anything else.

All I know is if I get bad news at this scan then it will be the end of the road for me.

I feel like I've waisted 9 and a half months ttc with 4 loses. And all I'm going to have is more losses.

I told him I'm due to ovulate next week and still wanted to try and he didn't really say much.

I feel devastated and so anxious about this scan.

I feel so sad

First thing young lady, you are not old, I live in Italy and most women have babies late 30’s and early 40’s....... I am trying and I am 44, yes I had a miscarriage but I didn’t have a CP..... please do not get yourself down about this!!! I hate it when they think is over because you are over 40...... this is crap! I know it’s hard to hear and yes it might be a bit harder for us BUT we are not out, so my advice is brush it off, yes CP are hard then maybe just don’t test until AF!!! I think you are great, and I think you will have that baby in your arms!!!! Sending you a massive hug!!!!

 

[LuvallmyH]

@Suggerhoney I’m sorry, but that Dr sounds like a Big Ass. Insensitive and not correct. I had a baby at 40 & 42. I was pregnant at 44 also. Maybe my mc was age related, maybe not. I don’t think it’s so dire at 41. I’m sorry you aren’t feeling supported and I don’t blame you for feeling that way. I think you should still keep trying. I did my at home ovarian reserve test. Do you have anything like it in the UK? I’m assuming you are in the UK anyway. Mine came back <10 which is good. I don’t think drs have all the answers. You have increased risks at your age. Not instant doom & gloom. Big hugs. I know how frustrating it all is.

 

[Reiko_ctu]

Hi ladies sorry I've not read the whole thread to be honest I'm not even sure it im going to stick around.

I had my telephone appointment today and I didn't really get good news.

I was told my miscarriages is all down to my age.
I also had a lecture about how being pregnant at my age is a real risk.
He said there's nothing they can do to stop me having miscarriages but he is going to book me in for some more bloods and a scan to check my overion reserve.
Then I will be booked into see the maternal medicine doctors to get my results.
And he said that's all they can really do and we will just have to go from there.
But everything else he was saying about me being 41 I don't stand a chance.

I'm not in a good place at the moment and this is a major blow.
I feel completely discriminated against and to be honest I feel its little unfair considering there are womon having babies at my age and older.
Every time I speak to a doctor my age is always the problem.
I feel like all the responsibility is on me and its my fault we keep having miscarriages.

I feel like giving up and throwing all my OPKs and pregnancy tests away.

I can't even enjoy Christmas because I'm so anxious about what this scan is going to reveal and being told I can't have another baby.

Any hope i did have that doctor has now took away.

I told him about the macca root and he had never heard of it and told me to be carful with things like that but its literally the bit of hope I have.
I don't have anything else.

All I know is if I get bad news at this scan then it will be the end of the road for me.

I feel like I've waisted 9 and a half months ttc with 4 loses. And all I'm going to have is more losses.

I told him I'm due to ovulate next week and still wanted to try and he didn't really say much.

I feel devastated and so anxious about this scan.

I feel so sad

That Dr sounds like a huge jerk. Being honest with you is one thing but if they haven’t tried anything at all how can he be sure they can’t help you?? Maybe they can. No reason to strip away hope. Doesn’t sound like he should be dealing with women’s fertility at all.

 

[Suggerhoney]

aww ladies thank u so much for all ure reply’s,
When I have the scan and blood tests done I will have to see the consultant for the results and if it’s the consultant I’m thinking it mite be, she’s a womon. But she don’t have kids and will probably talk a lot about the risks. And my age will probably be top of the list.

I guess it all depends on the scan. I’ve never had my overion reserve checked before. But was told the scan will be internal.
I have no idea when it will be or the blood test I mean with the NHS it’s like how long is a peace of string. But I’m guessing it won’t be untill the new year.

I just feel so anxious.

When I told him I’ll be ovulating around this time next week and that I’m still going to try he really didn’t say much at all.
But I had the feeling he was thinking I shudnt be trying at all. He didn’t say that but I just had that feeling that was what he was getting at just by his tone.

The onlyt thing that was sort of positive was when I told him that I get ovulation pain, he said oh that’s good.
But there has been one or two cycles where I didn’t have any ovulation pain.

I even told him how I’m definitely ovulating every month because I’ve been temping and doing opks since February, but he didn’t say much.

He just said that they wud do a scan and bloodtest and then to go from there but he did not sound hopeful st all.


I started the cheapie opks today and was getting excited to use the clear blue digital opk in the next few days but now I just feel hopless.
I’ve not even started temping yet.

I’m so scared I’m going to be told bad news

 

[J_and_D]

@ciz yeah I too am curious as to which vitamin you are taking that you think is prolonging your cycle

@Mum42crazy hopefully the frer will give you true answers.. fx

Regarding me and my cycles. The part that freaks me out is the fact I've had several that seem out of sorts. But good news... I FINALLY got a positive on opk!! I'm on cd 19 so O will definitely be late in my cycle.

@Suggerhoney I'm freaking out this month about my age. Since my cycles have been off and ovulation all over the place for the last few months. I know women have babies into thier 40s without issue, but we're all different so it scares me. I have an appt in January and I too am afraid of what they will tell me. So I definitely feel your anxiety about it.

 

[Bevziibubble]

@Suggerhoney Good luck for your scan and results hun. I hope that the consultant is friendly and supportive, and more helpful than that doctor!

 

[MadamRose]

@J_and_D good luck - glad you finally got your positive OPK. What is it with December and crazy cycles

@Suggerhoney good luck with the scan but hopefully you’ll get your before then and won’t need it.

As for me I got a temp spike today, I’d been so concerned this wasn’t true ovulation (someone told me they didn’t think I was ovulating if my luteal phase was only 10 days). I know I need two more high days to confirm but I feel much better

 

[Mum42crazy]

Good morning so 10dpo, and I am not really any the wiser, so I took an FRER and you can have a look.......





I am really not sure my IC isn’t really giving me anything and the FRER isn’t convincing me! Thought I’d at least have a more solid answer, my CM is watery and I am bloated with some ache in my tummy, I don’t know what to think! Wish it was a real positive

 

[GemmaG]

Good morning so 10dpo, and I am not really any the wiser, so I took an FRER and you can have a look.......
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I am really not sure my IC isn’t really giving me anything and the FRER isn’t convincing me! Thought I’d at least have a more solid answer, my CM is watery and I am bloated with some ache in my tummy, I don’t know what to think! Wish it was a real positive

Can see that!! And possibly a shadow on the IC. Fingers crossed xx

 

[MadamRose]

Good morning so 10dpo, and I am not really any the wiser, so I took an FRER and you can have a look.......
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I am really not sure my IC isn’t really giving me anything and the FRER isn’t convincing me! Thought I’d at least have a more solid answer, my CM is watery and I am bloated with some ache in my tummy, I don’t know what to think! Wish it was a real positive

I think I can see not on the FRER

 

[Deethehippy]

I can see it on all those pictures. Hopefully tomorrow should be darker. 10 dpo is still early.

 

[Bevziibubble]

I see it

 

[topazicatzbet]

Good morning so 10dpo, and I am not really any the wiser, so I took an FRER and you can have a look.......
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I am really not sure my IC isn’t really giving me anything and the FRER isn’t convincing me! Thought I’d at least have a more solid answer, my CM is watery and I am bloated with some ache in my tummy, I don’t know what to think! Wish it was a real positive

I can definitely see a line on the frer. For 10dpo I think its a great line.