you are so much like my dh . . . all these family members i have mentioned are on his side lol currently no one talks to his aunt - she randomly stopped acknowledging us after we had ds, - we dont talk to his sister but go round to visit the kids, his two sisters dont talk - his dad and sister dont talk, his mum and dad doesnt talk, no one talks to the crazy cousin including her own mother for 20 years a whole section of the family refuse to talk to one of dhs sisters after a family tree rift, his grandmother didnt speak to his dad, aunt or grandad for the last 10 years of her life .. . .
that actually isnt all of it but just goes to show i totally understand! the only person who used to talk to everyone was my dh but some of his family are so toxic, after he met my family and realised he didnt even get any sort of thanks for being so flexible with his toxic family that if they stepped out of line he would just cross them off the list . . .even then it is only a cousin who fecked up our wedding, a sister who got violent with him at his beloved nans funeral and the aunt who just started hating us (me) for having our son. . .. good for you for having the patience