DH works away? Not around for fertile time? ^Team Immaculate Conception^

[Butterfly67]

Thanks NS you are right, already veering towards coming back to the UK and have only been here a day LOL! I think it's cos I have a guy renting a room from me here and the place is a state and doesn't feel like my own home

 

[NorthStar]

Coming back to a messy place would drive me insane too I'm getting less tolerant of people as I get older LOL

The way my friend tells me, she has to "break it up" into manageable chunks because if she thought that she was away for an unbroken 4 or 5 months she would find it difficult to deal. So as soon as she comes back she is booking another trip. It's her coping mechanism.

 

[Viking15]

Well, I´m out this cycle. Not looking good for the timing for the new one. AAARGGGHHH I think I need to try a little earlier? We really want a boy, but trying earlier sways girl? At least that´s the theory.
Boo

 

[NorthStar]

Damn, it sucks when you're out and the timing out for next month too, hmm I've tried a couple of things to change my dates with fairly disastrous consequences, the only thing that really worked was taking the minipill for a few days to delay AF, it might be worth a try if that helps you out date wise.

I can't advise on the sex selection theory, we don't have a strong preference ourselves and for me the data on it wasn't that convincing.

AFM I'm not feeling this cycle at all, mentally I've already moved on to October, so just waiting on AF now.

Am really starting to hate TTC, its been such a hassle and stress every month to get the timing down, thinking of paying out pocket to get a proper doctor to give me some drugs to control my cycle like the girls doing IUI, likely this October cycle will be our last natural attempt, or maybe not since I will also be doing some travel for work.

 

[Viking15]

NS, my cycle took so long to settle down into something somewhat predictable after BCP that I'm so afraid to touch anything. After reading your experiences and others I think I'm just going to have to stick to keep trying to move my trips around. I keep managing to screw the timing up. I don't know how successful I'll be but I'm going to keep trying. Where did you find good statistics for gender swaying? I'd like to read too so maybe I won't feel so stressed about waiting until the last minute.
Butterfly, I would go completely bonkers in your shoes. You are under unbelievable stress. I admire you so.
We can do it girls. Gotta keep trying. just hard when AF shows...

 

[Viking15]

So, I'm out again. I'm sitting in Spain while ovulating and my DH is in Florida. I had a sneaky suspicion when I got AF. Things are looking much better for October. I didn't want a summer baby, but at this point I guess I'll just have to take what I can get. My sister and I were both born in July and my mother always tells stories about how miserable it was.
Honestly, I'm so annoyed with my DH right now I don't even think I could manage a BD. We are headed back to marriage counseling this week and I can't wait. I know he dreads it, but it has definitely been a massive help to our relationship. So, I'm kinda glad the timing worked out the way it did. I don't have to stress about it. Out of my hands this cycle. I never thought I'd say that, but I am. Says a lot. We've got a lot to work on in the mean time.
BF, coming back to a messy place sucks. It happens to me all the time! I don't know how he can stand the untidy house. So depressing!
NS, how are things going for you? Your timing going to work out soon? Your DH's schedule makes me bonkers!

 

[NorthStar]

Hey Viking, damn that is the worst feeling with the timing, like you said things are a bit complicated at the moment but still it's hard when you've tried to time things and Mother Nature has other ideas

I'm glad that you have decided to abandon timing for a non summer baby, all of us on this thread have enough hassles with trying to BD on schedule without ruling out several months of the year I think. I have the opposite prob here in that we have long snowy winters where services can be disrupted, but I'll take whatever I can get, likewise with influencing the sex of the baby (I've posted a link to the shettles method for you Viking)https://www.fertilityfriend.com/Faqs/Gender-Selection-The-Shettles-Method.html

AFM after last cycle being a nightmare for timing this one is looking a lot better, OH is home and I've taken 3 days annual leave this week, hoping to O within that time and then spend the second week of his leave relaxing - but hey I've been wrong before my natural cycle I'm an earlyish ovulator so that would be fine for a change this month.

A lot of the girls are doing a soy cycle this month but I'm so terrified that it might delay O (like everything else I've tried!) that I gave it a miss, as I have the added pressure of my own work travel (will be in France with work next week whilst OH is still home in UK ) and then Spain next month, I THINK the timing for that is okay.

I won't lie to you ladies, I'm about 1 more bad cycle from waving a chequebook at the nearest IVF clinic, because we're ok for timing (FX) this month and next month but then my OH's shifts are changing again.

 

[jodi_19]

Hey ladies! Looks like we are all full steam ahead for October!! OH was supposed to be away at work until the end of October but it looks like he will finish up early and likely be home around the middle of the month. Hopefully it'll work out, as of now it looks like he'll get home a couple of days before ovulation.
I have an appointment with the obgyn on November 3rd. I think they are going to have OH tested at that point and maybe put me on some meds. FX October is a lucky month for all of us and I can cancel the appointment!!!

 

[NorthStar]

Hey jodi, glad to hear you're getting a shot in October FX for you not needing that specialist appointment

 

[Butterfly67]

ladies, have my flight back to the Uk booked for this coming weekend. Hoping that I O at the same time as normal - OPKs neg at the moment so that is good so far. FX for all of us for october

 

[Viking15]

Long time no write ladies! I felt the need to resurrect this.
Timing still looks good for this month. I bought more OPKs and some Preseed. I have been unsuccessful with OPKs for a couple of cycles so i will be cross checking with different brands this month. The Preseed is a new weapon in the arsenal. I am curious to see how that goes. Any thoughts?
DH is still unemployed He is widening the search so I hope that will bring some new chances. If Starbucks won't hire him I think we are in for big trouble. So FXed for us please ladies.
Anyone else?

 

[NorthStar]

I tried Conceive Plus last month, because I was going away to Paris with work so wanted to keep the swimmers alive, I personally wouldn't recommend it for during the act (that would be waaaaay too much wetness) but I put some on a softcup, horrible bloody things.

This cycle was supposed to be our relaxed cycle because my partner is on his 4 weeks off starting tonight, but guess what work are sending me back to Paris again Monday for 2 weeks!

I come home for the weekend but it's fecked up our timing again, as I expect to Ov whilst in Paris, and I have to go back to the doctors again and beg for some mini pill to change my dates (again, again).

Hope your timing is spot on this month Viking

 

[HoldOn2Hope]

Just wanted to check in on my lovely ladies trying to conceive little miracles. Miss you all and think of you often. Hoping you're all knocked up by the new year!

 

[NorthStar]

Nothing to report from me I'm afraid

I think we're out this month due to timing issues, but we shall see, maybe not.

You're so far along now, how exciting.

 

[PineappleRock]

Forgot to update - I'm pregnant!

 

[NorthStar]

Wow congrats Pineapple Rock that is great news - was Clomid the trick for you or did you end up doing an IUI??

 

[HoldOn2Hope]

CONGRATS Pineapple! Woohoo! I also see in Viking's profile that she is too!



NS, I swear you are next! I feel it.

 

[NorthStar]

I sure hope so.

We are waiting on our FS/RE referral.

 

[PineappleRock]

It wasn't easy, 4 clomid cycles, 3.5 years of trying & waiting... I hope this is it luckily no iui as with DH's job it never could've happened

 

[Viking15]

Yep, we managed it! I am still in shock and disbelief. I don't have a scan until next week still and haven't seen a doctor at all. No one wants to see me. So, it's kind of hard to believe.
I have my fingers crossed for you NorthStar! I know you can do it! Lots and lots of