Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[Dazed]

Well, it looks like you girls are getting me back. I've talked to the clinic and my employer... and my upcoming appointments apparently aren't going to be conducive to staying employed. The clinic said they didn't feel I could realistically hope to have my appointments scheduled before 9am most days, and I can't expect a place that schedules 15 min breaks a week in advance to put up with me missing work randomly for a few weeks. So, I more or less had to choose between work and a baby. I've chosen the baby. Kevin agrees.. So, that's that. At least I tried.

Sorry Megg

 

[Megg33k]

I'm glad that everyone I know seems to agree that I've made the right decision... Even my mother, who is the most responsible person I know. So, I'm very happy with it now. I even took a nap to celebrate! I slept so much better knowing that I wouldn't have to worry about the appointments and dragging myself in there every day to do something I didn't even enjoy anymore. The atmosphere was so much different than it had been the first time I was there. It just felt off. So, I'm sort of happy that this is how it happened.

 

[Allie84]

Hi everyone!

Megg, I'm so happy to have you back and I agree I think you made the right decision. Life, such as baby-making, should always come first! I have to say I'm a little jealous though as going back to work for the school year has pooped me out! But, I absolutely love my job so far and feel really lucky for that. The downside is I was hoping to make friends (as most of mine are still in Colorado) but I'm the youngest person by a longshot (except the students) and my colleagues don't seem interested in making friends.

Roonsma, good to hear from you. Looking forward to pics.

Vicky, have they confirmed the baby's a girl?

I hope everyone is doing well. to all. FX for Lucy and Yogi during the 2ww!

 

[Megg33k]

Its hard to make friends as an adult, in my opinion. Its not like it was in school when EVERYONE was looking for friends. Now, its like all the adults who have lived somewhere for a while already have all the friends they want, and being new is a HUGE detriment to the process. Its like starting 7th or 8th grade at a new school in the middle of the year... No one wants new friends!

 

[heart tree]

I totally agree Megg. The older I get, the harder it is to make friends. Everyone has their own life. When I was in grad school, I was older than most of the people and I had been living in SF for years. The other people moved to SF specifically for our program. I was the one with my own life and they all clung to each other because they didn't have any other friends. I was kind of the odd woman out. Oh well.

Allie, I hope you can find a way to make some friends. Moving is always hard. You just need to have a baby so you can join a mom's group!

 

[Megg33k]

So, its still really light, but I think today (technically 9/2) is going to be my CD1. That means, I can tell the clinic tomorrow in coordination with the SA! Hopefully I'll get my script to go get my needles. Really hoping they give me the pen kind... like this:

https://www.gettingolderandwiser.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/05/follistim.gif

Wow @ getting to start the cycle tomorrow instead of 9-10 days from now!

P.S. Only 26 days left on my FF VIP! Pregnant by then? I hope!!! *nervous*

 

[vickyd]

Good morning!

Am i having a girl? Well at my NT scan both my doc and the specialist concurred baby is a girl. They sid not to start picking out clothes yet but usually they are right. We shall see...

Megg as long as you and Kevin are happy with your decision then you are doing the right thing love! Cant wait to see your bfp!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Allie, im sure that as time goes by you will make some new friends. Although i agree that as we get older we do not make friends easily, lets not forget that we also need the excitement of meeting new people to snap us out of our routine. I love making new friends since it seems that with my existing friends we talk about the same shit all the time. Usually its all problems that we are facing so it can get to be too much.

Luce i also havent had sex since my bfp!! Hot doc is non-negotiable on the no sex till week 14 rule. I asked him once the science behind that but he never gave me a reasonable explanation...Who knows????

 

[prgirl_cesca]

Ok so i'm not sure how I can hide this from work when I am having to run to the toilet and retch for 5 mins every half hour or so. Eeek.

 

[Megg33k]

Wow, Vic! A girl! How exciting! To be honest, I don't even know how far along you are. I hate not knowing! Would you be willing to at least tell me, since you don't have a ticker? Anyway, congrats on team ! I'd have guessed girl just for fun, actually!!!

I can't wait to get this IUI shit going! Let me stab myself, grow a strong eggy or 5, get some swimmers in there, and have my damn twins! I'm ready... Just let it happen already!

 

[vickyd]

Wow, Vic! A girl! How exciting! To be honest, I don't even know how far along you are. I hate not knowing! Would you be willing to at least tell me, since you don't have a ticker? Anyway, congrats on team ! I'd have guessed girl just for fun, actually!!!

I can't wait to get this IUI shit going! Let me stab myself, grow a strong eggy or 5, get some swimmers in there, and have my damn twins! I'm ready... Just let it happen already!

only on B&B would stabbing be something to look forward to!!!!!

Megg im 13 weeks today, no ticker for me...I guess ill just keep having you all guessing!!!!

 

[Dazed]

Hi everyone!

Megg, I'm so happy to have you back and I agree I think you made the right decision. Life, such as baby-making, should always come first! I have to say I'm a little jealous though as going back to work for the school year has pooped me out! But, I absolutely love my job so far and feel really lucky for that. The downside is I was hoping to make friends (as most of mine are still in Colorado) but I'm the youngest person by a longshot (except the students) and my colleagues don't seem interested in making friends.

Roonsma, good to hear from you. Looking forward to pics.

Vicky, have they confirmed the baby's a girl?

I hope everyone is doing well. to all. FX for Lucy and Yogi during the 2ww!

Sorry your having trouble making new friends Allie. I have the same problem. When I started my job I was hoping to make new friends since the atmosphere was told be a family type. Well, I have friends at work, but they stay at work. No one really wants to hang out. Most of the ones I have now are still from high school and even then I don't really see them.

As for me... bracing for the storm. Shouldn't be a direct hit, but we should still feel the effects! BLAH!

 

[msarkozi]

Hope everyone is having a good day so far......

I'm not sure how I am going to function today. I slept for 2 hours last night, was awake for 4.5 hours, and then fell asleep for another 2 hours again. I couldn't breathe at all, and at one point I had started coughing and ended up throwing up. It was not a good night at all. I think I have a sinus infection though (I'm very prone to getting them). At least they can give me antibiotics for that, so I am going to phone the clinic once it opens up.

 

[Megg33k]

Ooh! 13 WEEKS! I'll try and remember!

So, all looks good for me to start stimming on Saturday, but OH's semen analysis isn't as good as I hoped. I'm not impressed. (Its not awful, but its not even sort of fantastic!) I had so much hope last night, then I got really scared this morning, and now I just want to curl up in a ball and die. FML

 

[msarkozi]

Meg, I am sure things will work out hun. Keep positive. My BFF went through in vitro last year, and it failed....then her husband had some kind of surgery done, and they managed to conceive right after that. I believe he had issues with his sperm....

 

[Megg33k]

I just feel really defeated right now. He swore for months that he didn't need to get the SA done, because he was fine... He was just sure it wasn't him. Now, I'm terrified that I could be him TOO!

 

[msarkozi]

Try not to stress yourself out....just think about those injections and the end result I will remind you again that the couple on the show couldn't conceive together for whatever reason, and the IUI (?) gave them QUINTS!!! Meg, you are going to get your quints, lol!

 

[Megg33k]

Try not to stress yourself out....just think about those injections and the end result I will remind you again that the couple on the show couldn't conceive together for whatever reason, and the IUI (?) gave them QUINTS!!! Meg, you are going to get your quints, lol!

Thank you! You made me cry... in a good way!

Suddenly, I would rather have quints than 0. I think I just expected him to have super sperm or something... I expected them to be at least average...

I'm trying to rationalize. Most labs want the sample to be done 2-3 days after the last ejaculation. Their lab says 2-5 days. I've read that there can be more that aren't motile after the 3rd day... And it was from Sunday morning at ~3am until Thursday morning at ~8am. That's a solid 4 days + 5 hours. Maybe they'd have been better at 2-3 days?

I just don't want to do this and get nothing from it. I can't take that!

 

[heart tree]

Megg, I want to shake a little sense into you right now....

YOU'VE GOTTEN PREGNANT TWICE! That means his sperm are good enough. They are getting the job done without any assistance. Now you are about to increase your chances. I'm quite sure they'll get the job done again sweets.

I just got two emails today. One from a very good friend who is divorced with a 5 year old. She never thought she'd get married again and she wants to have another baby. She's 38 so that makes it more stressful. She just got proposed to today!

The second email broke my heart. It was from a friend who I haven't seen for a while. She just had a D&C yesterday after finding out her bean at 8.5 weeks wasn't viable. It is her first loss. A mutual friend of ours had told her about my losses and she reached out to me. This is the first friend I've had in my life to go through this. I feel strong enough now to help support her. I'm so glad she reached out to me, but so sad she had to.

Strange how life works. Good and bad news. We all have it. We are all destined to have both. Me? I'm ready for my good news.

 

[msarkozi]

Maybe they are still able to get some info from it?? I honestly have no idea....I think those babies are coming Meg. Just don't give up on yourself and stay determined. Everything is so much easier said then done though of course.

 

[heart tree]

And it was from Sunday morning at ~3am until Thursday morning at ~8am. That's a solid 4 days + 5 hours. Maybe they'd have been better at 2-3 days?

Hell yeah they would have been better at 2-3 days! Those sperm were old men by the time they were looked at. When Tim had his done, they wanted his sperm within 30 minutes of ejaculation. 30 minutes! You are going to be fine.