Sparkly - so glad you got everything sorted and the d&c went well - thats great news. I hope your oh is prepared for the twins then, espec with clomid - eyes firmly crossed for you - i know he needs to be ready, but he will be when it happens, he's half of it but its you we're rooting for on this one <biasedface>. Im throughly miserable with not drinking / smoking / doing the trapeze etc, but my new 6 glass doors onto the garden means i can sit and watch the 3 baby squirrels in my garden without leaving the sofa.
Allie, we all have glitches in our systems so it might be temporary, but if carries on you should speak to the dr, have you had hormone tests already? And have you done a hpt today? the opks might be hcg (optimisticheadon) - if you oving this late, something else that hearty tried was soya, but that shit is scary and really affects your cycle, i would talk to your dr and read up good and proper on it if you wanted to try it to shorten your cycle and strengthen ov. On the weight thing, body fat does effect oestrogen, but if you arent overweight and just the bmi is off, bmi isnt an infallible system and can show your weight being unhealthy when it isnt - you know your body better than a smart arse dr in a tight pencil skirt. Not sure why im picturing her in a pencil skirt but i am. Prob cos she sounds smug. Edt: o youre talking about soy now. 5 pages after i typed the above
megg, every af feels like a damned loss to me, so wallow i say. Not often we are allowed to wallow, and a good old wallow and accepting you feel like total crap is sometimes needed
Megg, my sister is a nurse and she often gives me advice on how to tackle the drs. What she says is that you have to be pragmatic, because if you show to much emotion, they can feel that you're perspective is being skewed by your emotion which can undermine yoru credibility in requesting extra treatment. That said, when you are dealing with women as an FS, you gotta expect emotions. It does relate more to getting referrals and GPs who arent used to this field, however, i think my sister has a point. When i went to my gp this month, i saw my medical notes on her screen and it said 'very tearful' and i know i was judged because of it. any drs makes me cry. Im screwed, i even cried at the drs when i was diagnosed with an ear infection. How embarrassing. Does sound like the FS reacted well, but its worth bearing in mind that you have to demonstrate you know what you need for yourself.
Fabbo news on the ivf!!
"She had "twins" with different fathers!!!" ...I studied this during my masters, i did animal behaviour and sperm competition, its actually a lot more common than the medical profession would admit to. Espec as women (biologically) are more likely to have 'double mating' (ugh) during their fertile period.
"it took me 3 times as long to walk the same distance walk every day" - visions of old biddy and zimmer frame. Forgive me.
Exciting scans coming up!!
"At one point he told me that if i didnt trust him then why was i still seeing him. I do trust him its just that after what ive been through its hard for me to just accept that things are going ok, he should be more in tuned with this i think. " - think this is more of an example as to what my sister was talking about than meggs. I do think they have to be a bit robotic sometimes, which is the nature of how they can deal with their jobs, and totally at odds with the nature of their jobs
"Maybe its the fear talking and not instinct" - thats the problem, instinct and fear are interchangeable without any indication of which is in charge at any one time. Fear is our frame of reference. Youre coming up to what you see as your danger time too, which is going to prickle your fear right up.
Fergie, you look a bit like Ferne Cotton i think. I read your name as ferne instead of fergie now.
Ach Amy - i'd say whatever puts the least amount of pressure on you, and your relationship should be the best option, but of course that doesnt account for career hopes and dreams. I hope you find the right answer
"I know that's jealous and selfish and everything" - not half as selfish as her actions. I dont like to judge people for their actions, but for your sake, you need to be around people who make you feel comfortable when youre under so much pressure. My faithful, pregnant friends have given me a bit of space at the moment so if shes not reading this situation, its demonstrative of her selfishness, rather than yours
oo whats all this 'whats next' stuff - what a good idea
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