Nicki- you could fly off to Gibraltar and do it again!
Thanks for the input. I'm definitely leaning towards it down, but then back at one side or both. I feel like Lynny said- I want to see feel comfortable and like 'me'.
I've ordered the shoes, a matching clutch bag, the black belt and a 'just married' bunting sign! I can't wait for stuff to start arriving! The black petticoat is currently out of stock- I've bid on one on ebay, and have set up an email alert for when they're back in stock (hopefully in the next month!). But, I could add a colour too.
I've been feeling guilty now about not telling my parents and worrying that they'll be sad about not being there. I'm going to talk to OH about how we should handle it. Right now, I'd like to tell them maybe a week or two before the wedding, and also see if we can set up a Skype link.