Finally success after 5 years unexplained infertility

[sharnw]

Happy 10 weeks

 

[L4hope]

Happy Easter! Yay for 10weeks!! You'll be in second tri before you know it! That's great you are finding the heartbeats so easily with the doppler. My dh was so against getting one because he didn't want to deal with me freaking out if I couldn't find them. Somehow I survived...barely!

 

[wannabeprego]

happy 10 weeks!!! I hope you had a wonderful Easter holiday weekend!!

 

[momwannabe81]

Congrats ash, remember you from last year, glad you finally got ur bfp

 

[ashknowsbest]

momwannabe - thank you!

Well, I had a meeting with the genetic counselor at my MFM this morning. I'm feeling a little concerned after the meeting which I know is totally ridiculous but can't help. Even though DH and I did CCS testing we wanted to see what our options were for further testing since CCS testing isn't 100%. In a nutshell I found out that there is no point in doing any genetic testing beyond the NT scan (that's even a stretch) unless I'm going to abort both children or just to be prepared. I know that seems dramatic but bear with me. If we do the genetic screening for down syndrome and it comes back positive for one baby are we really going to terminate? I don't think so ... not if the other baby doesn't have it. It's highly unlikely that they will both have it. So ... if we're not going to terminate the pregnancy if we find something seriously wrong (which we're not, unless both twins were affected and could not survive very long outside of my womb) there is literally no point in doing it. I am scared but trying to remain optimistic. We did do CCS testing which is right (if I'm remembering correctly) 95% of the time. We looked at a statistics chart that said for women age 29 at the birth of their children, they have a 1:473 chance of down syndrome for 1 twin and the odds of both having it are 1/4,something. Since I'm a year younger than 29 at their birth I would have even better odds. She figured it to be something like 1:500 ... a .2% chance. It's all just really scary and I don't like to think that there may be something wrong with my babies. It sort of put me into a funk this morning.

I also did no sleep well last night at all! I was up at 3, 4, 5 and then 6:30 to get ready for our appointment. I wasn't nervous so I'm not sure that's what it was but it's not fun to be up every hour.

Anyways, I hope everyone is doing good!

 

[ashknowsbest]

Oh and I heard from my nurse. No more meds! I am still on baby aspirin until 12 weeks but that's it. No more pio woohoo! I can't believe I made it.

 

[sharnw]

Yay great news ash

 

[bubumaci]

Wonderful to be off the medication!
Next to the NT scan, they also take bloods (but have to keep in mind, I think the results can be a bit skewy when you have twins).
Oh - and for the statistics, it is the age you are when you get pregnant (i.e. the age of your eggs) that counts, not the age you are at birth Which gives you even better odds

I have always wondered what they would do, should we transfer our one , which is from 2013 (we did a fresh IVF/ICSI when I got pregnant, so theoretically, the embryo is older than Fabi is ) for all the maternity checks. They would have to take the age I was then, not the age I am when pregnant ...

 

[ttcbaby117]

Happy days you are well on your way......yeah just do the NT scan and move on.... I think you are ok, as the CCS testing would have eliminated most of the chance of anything being wrong. Take care hun...this is happening! woohooo!

 

[ashknowsbest]

Ttc - how are you doing?

 

[MoBaby]

I personally would believe the ccs test. If you want 100% answers then you should get an amniocentesis which carries a miscarriage risk. So I probably would skip it. I wouldn't do the 12 week bloodwork and since there are 2 the results can be skewed. I would do the 12 week NT scan because enlarged nt could mean cardiac issues but skip the additional bloodwork. I had a false positive screening which is just too stressful. Then the anatomy scan will tell you all about if anything structurally is wrong. I'm sure those babies are fine since you did testing and they implanted and look good so far on ultrasound.

 

[ashknowsbest]

To everyone who responded regarding the genetic testing:

I totally agree with everyone that I probably have nothing to worry about. I am definitely NOT doing the blood work. I don't see a point since I did some research, they are rarely ever correct because twins skews things. I will be doing the NT scan because 1) I want another scan and 2) I do want to just make sure everything "looks" good. If we get bad results we can at least prepare in case it's worst case.

Thanks for all the responses though! I've been using my doppler when I feel stressed to ease my mind and I was able to hear them this morning. I feel very connected to them now. I can find them so quickly, I know exactly where they're at in my uterus. It's amazing.

I'm feeling better about all the genetic stuff today and DH and I are actually going to a local twin parent/expecting meeting tonight to meet other parents. We are excited about it!

 

[ashknowsbest]

I've reached lime status!

I'm very happy to have gotten to this point, I'm off all medications and feeling great. Except last night after dinner I almost got sick. It was really bad but I have yet to actually vomit so I'm taking that as a win. My birthday is next weekend and so is my hubby's so we're going to have a spa weekend together which will be so nice! I'm thinking prenatal massage and facial. Oh and a really nice dinner at atelier crenn in San Francisco. It's where we went for our 1 year wedding anniversary and we're so excited to be going back.

Oh man oh man. I can't believe I'm coming up on my second trimester already. There is a lot of conflicting information about whether 12 weeks is the end of first or 13. What do you ladies think? Either way I'm almost there and very happy. We have our NT scan in less than 2 weeks and I'm really looking forward to that too. I'm excited to be able to see them and they're be looking like human babies at that point. I am a little nervous but I have a good feeling.

I am able to find them immediately with my at home doppler so that makes me really happy. I've been listening every morning just to put my mind at ease for the day. They sound great! The one has a heartbeat in the 160s and the others is still around 180-185 but they are apart by a few days so I'm not stressed.

I hope everyone is doing good!

 

[sharnw]

Sheeet sorry, I didn't read your post about the genetic testing. Would you do the bloods if the nt scan show abnormalities? I Also agree with the ladies about not having anything to worry about
My sister has to do the bloods because her OHs chromosomes are abnormal. He's fine, but the lines on his mothers side are trisomy 10.
You are young and if you and your hubbys background don't have any Down's syndrome, your chances are every better x


Happy 11 weeks
So lovely for you to find both of them on the Doppler

 

[ashknowsbest]

Happy 12 weeks to my little loves! It feels good to be this far along. I have my NT scan on Friday which I'm nervous about but really looking forward to seeing my babies. They should look more like humans by now.

Hubby and I bought their stroller (uppababy vista) and we've been picking up little things for them here and there. I went to Janie and Jack (I think that's what it's called) and they were having clearance so I bought a cute sweater vest for my son and a Christmas dress for my daughter. I also bought some premie onsies and some regular newborn onsies. I figure they'll mostly wear onsies for the first couple of weeks of their lives.

I turned 28 on Saturday and had such an emotional day. I did have a good birthday but cried for half of it. I didn't expect the emotions to just hit me out of nowhere but it did. We went to Reno (they have good food and casinos) to play a little blackjack and eat good food. I became super emotional about the fact that I was around secondhand smoke (even though I was in the non smoking section) so we left the very next day to go back home. I think it just hit me that my life is going to change so much and things that I once did are not possible right now. It made me sad. Don't get me wrong I love these babies more than anything. I also realized that I am no longer making decisions for just me. I am responsible for these little loves and I really want to do what's right by them and give them a great start to life. It's a lot of pressure.

Anyways sorry for the long post. I hope you're all doing good!

 

[MoBaby]

Happy birthday!! Can't believe you are already 12 weeks! Do you have any bump yet? I'm sure your NT scan will be great! Yes life changing having babies more than you know until they are actually here but all so worth it! Sorry the second hand smoke was there. That's one thing I don't like about public places that allow smoking. The stroller sounds nice! I'm still debating what to do- do I get a double or just stick with the single? Since there will be 2.5 yrs age difference and DS doesn't really use it I'm thinking about just keeping the single. I can't wait to see your scan pics!! They will be so different than your last one with little arms and legs and hands and feet!!

 

[ashknowsbest]

Mo - I can't tell if I have a bump or bloat but I've attached a picture so you can tell me what you think. I think at this point it's probably the start of a bump but I just don't know.

I think getting a double stroller with 2 babies even with an age difference is a good idea. I don't know your first son at all but I know that sometimes with a new baby there can be jealously and he may want to ride in the stroller again to feel like he's getting attention like the new baby. Just a thought. Also, I don't know if you're familiar with the uppa baby line of strollers but the vista is actually a one person stroller but can be converted into a two. So if your first son doesn't want to ride in it you can just take his seat off and have one seat for your new LO. Just a thought How far along are you now?!

Here are a couple of pictures:

https://i1167.photobucket.com/albums/q625/akinner/stroller_zpspaexesel.jpg

https://i1167.photobucket.com/albums/q625/akinner/12weekbump_zpssmtb25w3.jpg

 

[MoBaby]

Cute! I imagine it's some bump since 2 are in there

I actually did look at the uppababy not that long ago after going to a baby gear thing. But then I looked at the price tag and was like holy moly they are expensive! I have all bob gear now. But I do have a 25% off coupon at this baby store here and the stroller would be more affordable. My sil has a double umbrella for me to use. Only problem is baby can't use sit in it for a while.

I'll be 20 weeks in 2 days feeling baby kick in there. Not always but enough to reassure me he is still there.

 

[MoBaby]

I may get the britax b ready since it can convert to 2 if needed and it's compatible with my infant seat. The uppababy is not I just saw on their site so it's definitely out.

 

[bubumaci]

Awww, I totally get you hating the second-hand smoke (I do too, whether or not pregnant!).

That stroller looks really nice and handy - I just wanted to give you some food for thought : did you consider having a stroller where the babies are side by side? The reason I ask (and btw my 17 month old is still parent-facing and we do have a lot of eye contact and communication going on when he is in the stroller) is that the bottom baby will only be able to stare at the back of the car-seat above it, plus, you will not be able to make eye-contact with the baby on the bottom level. So while it looks really compact, might you give some thought to having the babies side-by-side? I think you'll find that while out, you'd probably feel more comfortable, being able to see them both too xoxo
I seriously can't believe you're already 12 weeks and I agree with Mo, I definitely think that is your bump beginning
Oh - and happy birthday